Disaster..........

[allisonswonderland]

Well....I was all happy today because I had so many things accomplished! Well I went w/ mom to get her dress altered - she got her dress in STL and when it came in she would not wait for me to go with her. She brought it home and was too tired to try it on, as the summer passed I asked her 3-5 times to try it on she always had some reason why not to. Well tonight she tried it on the dress part fits just fine - the jacket is WAY too small it is like 4-5 inches from fitting - she said the lady at Robyn's told her that it should fit tightly (I mean I can get it closed) but it is so tight that it wads up in the back up over her butt- I am furious 1. with her that she did not try it on and 2 they would tell her it should fit like that.

I am calling up there tomorrow, not that they can do anything about it as the wedding is too close- Our seam stress is going to put a slit in the seam on the side hopefully giving it a little more room...this is such a nightmare-
Ladies make everyone try on their gowns asap and in your presence. I worked in a bridal shop and I wanted to go with her but she did not want to wait until I could go and if she had done what I said we would not be in this position now. I am just to the point that I do not even want to have a wedding anymore, this week has been so horrible - so many bad things happened surounding the wedding this weekend and I kept trying to be positive and look past them and thought if I just keep chugging along and keep working...look at all I the things I have accomplished!!! I am just sad - hopefully things will work out -

 

[happylalagirl]

Awwww... Allison, I'm sorry about your mother's dress. Sometimes parents are worse than children. I know, I have a 10 year old and sometimes she behaves better than my mother... But seriously, at least your seamstress is going to try something. It is partially your mom's fault for not trying it on... I have a feeling I'm going to run into similar problems with my mother. She ordered her dress in June after she lost 20 lbs. and then she had knee replacement surgery a month ago. The dress has been in since August and she didn't even bother to go try it on. MEanwhile, she's been sitting around, except for therapy and doing some things around the house, for the past month and for the coming 2 months... but she's still eating the same... hmmmmmm... do you think she'll gain weight... but she won't listen. So, I feel your pain.

Things might be tough right now, but you'll make it through. And you're wedding will be worth it. When it comes to that day you won't even remember any of the bad stuff (or at least not the horrible stuff). Some of it you'll remember and make fun of... at least, that's what I usually do. Whatever the case, nobody ever said wedding planning was easy, but it's worth it on that day when you are your sweetheart pledge yourselves to each other forever. Vent all you need. That;s part of the reason these boards are here... heaven knows I've done it enough.

Sending hugs your way...

 

[Laurafoster]

Aww Alison im so sorry your having these problems! I know it seems awful now but your wedding will still be wonderful and magical!

 

[allisonswonderland]

Thanks guys - but I do not know what she is going to do I mean she can not wear the jacket like that - it is embarrassing we have both cried all night . I really think the jacket is either mis sized or was made wrong because it does not make sense that the gown would fit around her and the jacket would not....

 

[KT27]

My sister did not try her dress after she had it altered until the day of the wedding. Smart huh? Well imagine my suprise when the day of the wedding she comes down & says "uhh we have a lil problem, my dress won't fit". At that point there wasn't much I could do, we got her a shaper (sucker in- i call it) and hoped for the best. It wasn't the most flattering look but it worked & got us through the wedding. I see it in the pics though....

~Katie

 

[Maggimus]

How close is your wedding Allison? Sometimes if you find the right person to alterate it- they can work wonders. I have heard of people having disasters the night before and taking it to someone and them working all night to fix it (put fabric in- take fabric out). Was the jacket altered at any given point? If so they may have some of the extra fabric tucked where no one can see it (i know alterations departments often do that so that they can let more fabric back into it just in case). I would call around to anywhere and everywhere you can think of (especially if this bothers you). If you have a week or so left- I think its workable! If not- is there another jacket available to purchase? Or possibly someone with quick hands could get the pattern and make a new one? If you offer up a good tip (Cash is always good if you are sweet talking someone- that way they dont have to pay tax's--- X shame on me X) im sure someone would put effort into making another one. And if it doesnt work out- you are no worse than you were before!! Good luck! I wish you the best!

 

[allisonswonderland]

I called the store this morning....after working at a bridal shop for 7 years I knew not to start screaming even though I wanted to, so I was very calm and then I cried and told them we had cried all night long (I mean we did and I am really pathetic here and I do need help) I just layed it on a little thick - we are going to St. Louis for my 2nd fitting this weekend and they want us to bring in the gown so their seanstress can look at it...we will see what happens.

My wedding is Nov 10 , I leave Nov 3, she leave Nov 7, but from STL so she could pick it up later and actually we have to go back up next weekend to go get my gown -

The lady who is doing the alterations is totally capable and is actually more of a designer her daughter was Miss IL Teen USA 1996 and was 1st ru at Teen USA and she does a lot of pageant stuff she actually auditioned for project runway and got through to round 2 but she only found out about it 2 days in advance and they said her clothes were great but not edgy enough - not like runway stuff - she did not go to design school so she would not have that kind of stuff - heck she did not even havea portfolio....

 

[kimnkel]

Since the dress fits, and it is only the jacket that doesn't fit, why not have another jacket made? There is still time. Have you considered your mom just not wearing the jacket, or purchasing another jacket/bolero/pashmina shawl for her to wear?

It sounds to me like they sent the wrong size jacket. Perhaps the jacket was mislabeled? I am glad ot hear the shop is working with you, and you have a good alterations person. I really think you will find that it will work out just fine. <handing allison a kleenex> Stop crying, girlfriend; it makes our eyes all puffy.

 

[dznystar]

How does the dress look without the jacket? Does your mom need one? Why not get a wrap or shawl for her? I'm so sorry that the past few weeks have been stressful. But, everything will be wonderful and you will so glad when everything is all over.

 

[allisonswonderland]

the dress has tohave the jacket it is just a plain dress with spaghetti straps and she is a size 20 and would no way be comfortable in that- The jacket was what really made the gown and it is a very unusual color they call it coral but I would say it is a deep pink kind of a rosey coral and it is silk shantung so finding fabric that would work will be next to impossible unless the compnay will sell and overnight it - she is leaving Nov 7 - we are going to go up on Friday - my aunt is so mad - she is going to go with us and just kept saying they WILL do something about this - I just keep telling myself it has to be ok, because I will lose my mind if it is not-

Because over the weekend my fiances mom decided that she is only paying for her guests at the at home reception and now anyone that he invited - he has to pay for. Which I am paying for the Mad Hatter tea at Disney we are paying for Randy Chapman, our rooms, honeymoon, For the at home he paid the deposit, the cake and dj, I paid for all of the invitations and postage for all of the events- I am so mad about this - I mean my mom is paying for half of the at home, but my dad is picking up the whole tab for the Disney wedding and reception, granted they are paying for the rehearsal dinner, but the tea party is more than that - this is just an additional expense that we were not expecting... not to mention his mom invited too many ppl and none of them have sent in rsvps rude jerks! I just can not cry anymore

 

[Laurafoster]

Allison i am so sorry things are not going your way at the moment (or ever in your fiance's families case!!). Things really will get better, im sure that something will be able to be done with the jacket.

I know exactly how you feel about your future MIL, mine is exactly the same - i got so annoyed with her at the weekend, we have just got our first house together and my family have been wonderful helping us to do it up a little before we move in, his family came round once to be nosey more than to help and she even told me i was painting the room wrong - how many ways are there to paint anyway? pathetic really!!

Anyway my point is do not let this woman (on anyone else from his family) ruin your big day! No matter what little bumps you have along the way Disney will make your wedding magical and nothing his family do will change that!

 

[allisonswonderland]

Thanks - just an update: my mom went to pick up the dres b/c we were going to take it to the store to have them look at it since they told her it fit - but our alterations person looked at it and the skirt is actually 2 layers of silk shantung- and there are actually 2 layers of it so in the back she can just steal the fabric from there and replace it with liner - so that is what we will do-

 

[dznystar]

I'm glad they found a solution. I know everything will work out and she will look great.

 

[Tinkerbellz]

Allison,
It looks as though the dress issue is falling into place. That's great Now this MIL thing is just blowing my mind. My MIL is crazy but yours wins the prize! How rude. I'm thinking, what kind of mother must she be?

I am praying for you and your DF that things are absolutely what you want and you get all the magic possible at your Disney wedding.

 

[JonetteA]

Woo Hoo on the dress fix! That is great!!! As for the at home and all of the other drama, I know what you mean, we went through ALOT!!! Allison, my advice at this point it just to make it like your dream. Everyone knows I am not a big proponent of the "debt not regret" saying. However, at this point. I would just say find a way to make it work that is all you can do. We went through alot of this with my hubbie's step mother until the point where I was during the last week making backup plans for everything that she was involved in. Do what you need to do to have the wedding that you want!!!

 

[allisonswonderland]

Thanks to all of you --- I am posting a funny story! check it out on the Botox thread

 

[ItGirl753]

Hey Allison -- that was lucky with the skirt being lined with the silk! Glad that worked out.