I read your post and wanted to send some encouragement. I too hoped that I would be the exception to the rule and not lose my hair. I won't lie it was hard and just as hard were the people that didnt understand how hard it was. On one hand I was prepared to do ANYTHING to save my life, BUT that didnt take away from the fact that is truly was hard to lose my hair.
For me, I did better once it was gone. The falling out process was really hard (and gross, my hair was everywhere)
I purchased two wigs and never stepped out the door without them. They were very real looking and people that didnt know that I was going through chemo never even realized that I was wearing a wig. Last Spring, I went through the entire high school baseball season with most people not even knowing that I was bald. During the summer baseball season when I had a little hair, I ditched the wig and just wore a baseball cap. Most people were shocked, haivng not realized what I had been through and had been wearing a wig!!
Anyway, I wish there was something that I could say, except that I truly understand how hard it is both to have hair falling our everywhere and to not have hair. I would also say to try a wig. Mine were pretty expensive, but my insurance covered most of the cost. My wig made me feel more "normal" because I didnt look like a cancer patient.
Sending good thoughts your way