We LOVE the Hoop Dee Do because it has good food, the whole family loves the food, and the show is very fun and interactive. We like it because they offer Chicken and Ribs. The luau is awesome too with the show, but we don't like the food as good. It's still awesome food, but what does it for us is the cornbread at Hoop Dee Do and then of course the strawberry shortcake!!! I think both shows are great. You can't go wrong there.
We've never done the BBQ because it's an outdoor event and subject to cancelation if it rains. We don't want that chance of disappointment for DD, so we do one of the inside shows. The luau is also an outside show...