Did you purchase things for your unborn child years before she/he was born?

[icebrat001]

Dear SO and I have planned to start a family in 5 years and now it seems all we talk about is our unborn child.

Dear SO literally got into an argument with me because she was talking about strollers and said that she wanted to buy a double stroller from the start and I told her that we have to get a single stroller, what if we only decide on one, and if we have two, they will be 3 years or so apart, we really don't need a double stroller. She disagrees.

She watched something on TV and saw this little plate for toddlers where you put the plate in the freezer and if you put hot food on it, it will cool the food down for the baby really quickly, she was seriously about to order it.

Now she's bidding on e-bay for beauty and the beast and The lion king and other disney dvd's locked in the vault because, Dear unborn baby has to have these DVD's. Two years ago when some of these dvd's were released and I tried to talk her into buying them she looked at me like I was crazy, but now dear little baby HAS to have these DVD's.

Is dear SO losing her mind? There is no way we are having children sooner than 5 years, she knows this, I know this and we are fine with this, but is it normal to start shopping so soon?

I feel like I'm losing my mind now too. I teach pre-school and we have all these great books that are 10-15 years old and here I am trying to find the darn book so I can order it for "The Kid"

 

[CarolG]

We didn't start buying things until a few months before our baby was due. And then we replaced several things 3 years later when his little brother came along.

I wouldn't have a problem with buying things like DVDs and books now, but I'd hold off on anything else. They're always coming out with new products for babies, and there will probably be all sorts of newer, better strollers, baby dishes, etc. in five years.

 

[MAKmom]

My last baby was 9 years ago & the new things they have now are so much cooler. That the problem I see, it will be out of date.

Disney DVD: Get the release dates of everthing so you do not over pay, they may come out before your baby is here or ready to watch them.

She may want a baby before 5 years the way she is acting. LOL Do you guys have a niece or nephew you can spend time with? That may help her get it out of her system. Along weeked with a baby!

 

[goofygirl]

You don't "have" an unborn child yet. Your don't "have" an unborn child until your pregnant, IMHO.

In some families there's a tradition that its bad luck to buy things for the baby until its born alive and well. My family always had baby showers after the birth for that reason. So I think its kind of "unlucky" to buy stuff so early.

What you spend your money on is your business, but what is you find out later you can't have children and you're stuck with all this kid stuff?

 

[luvmydogs]

You don't "have" an unborn child yet. Your don't "have" an unborn child until your pregnant, IMHO.

In some families there's a tradition that its bad luck to buy things for the baby until its born alive and well. My family always had baby showers after the birth for that reason. So I think its kind of "unlucky" to buy stuff so early.

What you spend your money on is your business, but what is you find out later you can't have children and you're stuck with all this kid stuff?

Not to speak for the OP, but I believe in the case of her and her SO, they'd be talking about adoption or AI?

I have only one ds10, and I agree with the poster who said some of the bigger things thay have now--strollers, car seats, etc...are much cooler and have more modern features--I'd wait on those. I think it's neat to be collecting books--good books ("I Love You Forever") never grow old.

Best wishes.

 

[pajamommy]

I kmow a couple that started buying diapers years before they actually had a child.....they ended up having 3 kids!

 

[icebrat001]

My last baby was 9 years ago & the new things they have now are so much cooler. That the problem I see, it will be out of date.

Disney DVD: Get the release dates of everthing so you do not over pay, they may come out before your baby is here or ready to watch them.

She may want a baby before 5 years the way she is acting. LOL Do you guys have a niece or nephew you can spend time with? That may help her get it out of her system. Along weeked with a baby!

Is there a website where we can find out the release dates?

She has 11 nieces and nephews, they live in IL, she rarely sees them. She is currently working with 12-16 year olds and I work with 3-5 year olds. She has contact with plenty of children (to get it out of her system)

What you spend your money on is your business, but what is you find out later you can't have children and you're stuck with all this kid stuff?

Keep the DVD's and donate the books. I wouldn't really let her order things like dishes and strollers and whatnot, I'd want the coolest, safest thing available for "baby".

 

[icebrat001]

Not to speak for the OP, but I believe in the case of her and her SO, they'd be talking about adoption or AI?

I have only one ds10, and I agree with the poster who said some of the bigger things thay have now--strollers, car seats, etc...are much cooler and have more modern features--I'd wait on those. I think it's neat to be collecting books--good books ("I Love You Forever") never grow old.

Best wishes.

Yes, AI or adoption.

I love books, I've never heard of "I love you forever", I'll have to look it up.

 

[luvmydogs]

Yes, AI or adoption.

I love books, I've never heard of "I love you forever", I'll have to look it up.

I'm not very emotional or sentimental, but "I Love You Forever" makes me cry. It's a beautiful analogy of parent/child relationships. A must-have.

 

[Blondie]

I didn't start picking up a few things until I was pregnant and through my first trimester.

 

[mommaU4]

Yes, AI or adoption.

I love books, I've never heard of "I love you forever", I'll have to look it up.

My son has this book. I got it for him when he was little and we still have it. So cute!
The mom says "I'll love you forever, I'll like you for always. As long as I'm living my baby you'll be."

ETA: The author is Robert Munsch

 

[kristen821]

Yes, AI or adoption.

I love books, I've never heard of "I love you forever", I'll have to look it up.

"I Love You Forever" is a great book. It makes me cry every time I read it to my kids!
As for buying things now I would wait it out as other posters said bigger and better things come out all the time. My dd is 3 years old and everything already seems to be better then when she was an infant.
I wouldn't recommend a double stroller until you need one. They are a lot harder to push around and get through small asles etc. They are also a whole lot heavier. If you are going to get a double stroller I would make sure you also have a single stroller that will be easier to use.

 

[minkydog]

I'm not very emotional or sentimental, but "I Love You Forever" makes me cry. It's a beautiful analogy of parent/child relationships. A must-have.

I've been a mother for almost 20 years and this book still makes me cry I especially like to read it when my young adult is ebing ornery or my 10yo baby has flushed a ball down the toilet.

Icebrat, it sounds like someone's bio clock is ticking. I would not suggest actually buying a lot of stuff just yet as it will only encourage her. You can buy books & DVDs, they won't go out of style. If she seriously is wanting to start a family you might want to consider foster care or weekend respite care for families with handicapped children. That might give her a better idea of what it's like to actually raise a child--teaching isn't the same. And having a baby is a lot different that being with teens all day!

If nothing else, get a puppy.

 

[twinkletoesmom]

I started buying right when we found out we were preg. But if you guys are this excited and buying stuff now there is a good chance things may happen sooner than you orginally planned. I swear w/ each of our kids if we just thought about planning for a baby we were preg. right away!! Good luck, just remember whenever it comes it is a wonderfull gift. But I agree don't buy yet things are always getting better!!! Also you need a single stroller the ones that the carseat/carrier attach to. Double stroller are good when you have 2 but are alittle harder to manuaver.

 

[mommaU4]

Dear SO literally got into an argument with me because she was talking about strollers and said that she wanted to buy a double stroller from the start and I told her that we have to get a single stroller, what if we only decide on one, and if we have two, they will be 3 years or so apart, we really don't need a double stroller. She disagrees.


Is dear SO losing her mind? There is no way we are having children sooner than 5 years, she knows this, I know this and we are fine with this, but is it normal to start shopping so soon?

Here's my two cents like it or not.

Do NOT get a double stroller sooner than you have too. Take it from someone who has always had to deal with double strollers.

My second was born when my first was barely 23 months so we had to get a double stroller for them. Then with my last pregnancy we had twins so another double stroller for us! I must have had at least 4 or 5 double strollers of both variations (front/back and side/side).

Even the nicest newest one is a pain because they are so big and bulky to deal with when compared to a single. And the aisles in most stores are NOT double stroller friendly. Trust me on that!! Wait until you need one. We got one for both baby showers, you might too.

As far as wanting to buy stuff now, I totally understand. I wanted to start buying stuff when I was in high school? Please who can resist those cute baby clothes and fun items? Not me. After all shopping for baby is the fun part. And then once you have the baby you realize you didn't need half the stuff you bought. Oh well, live and learn.

BTW, how are things going with the condo in FL? Did I miss an update on that? And since you are going to be there will you be joining us on the first ever ladies only DIS meet?
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1045053
Hope so!!

 

[Sandcass]

I bought a little sign at a craft fair once, it said "Jessica's room" and I hung it on our spare bedroom. This was way before actual conception, but I always knew I'd have a daughter named Jessica. DH made me take the sign down until she was born. I wonder what happened to it? I don't have it anymore.

About the book, "I love you forever", am I the only one that finds that book seriously creepy and disturbing?

To the OP, I would say go ahead and pick up good books & dvds, if it makes your SO happy. There's no harm, you can never have too many of those things. But I agree about the strollers, carseats, highchairs, etc. Wait and get the latest & greatest when it's time.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

The only thing I wil say about buying bay items 5 years ahead of time is, they will be far outdated. 5 years does not seem like a long time, but my youngest just turned 6, and my sisters had babies last year. The stuff they have for babies now is just too cool, they did not have these things 6 years ago.

Also, the safety standards will have changed with some items 5 years from now.

When you are talking baby, 5 years is a lifetime.

 

[icebrat001]

If nothing else, get a puppy.

We already have one of those, we got her at 6 weeks (she wasn't in a good home) we had to endure the sleepless nights, taking shifts on who was going to wake up when.

Sophie (our dog) is her baby. She has dresses, shoes, pj's, raincoats, umbrella's, hoodies, sweaters, hats, sunglasses....

 

[luvmydogs]

..About the book, "I love you forever", am I the only one that finds that book seriously creepy and disturbing?

I think that the book could be seen as kind of creepy if taken literally (maybe it's the illustration of the grown man carrying his mother around?); but if you look at it metaphorically, it's really beautiful. I see it in a different light now, as I'm the one having to look after my 71 year old parents--everything's come full-circle, so to speak.

 

[twinkletoesmom]

I bought a little sign at a craft fair once, it said "Jessica's room" and I hung it on our spare bedroom. This was way before actual conception, but I always knew I'd have a daughter named Jessica. DH made me take the sign down until she was born. I wonder what happened to it? I don't have it anymore.

About the book, "I love you forever", am I the only one that finds that book seriously creepy and disturbing?

To the OP, I would say go ahead and pick up good books & dvds, if it makes your SO happy. There's no harm, you can never have too many of those things. But I agree about the strollers, carseats, highchairs, etc. Wait and get the latest & greatest when it's time.

I was not warned about that book before I read it and starting sobbing while reading it to my dd. Then I made my mom and sis read it w/out warning them . But yeah a little disturbing to say the least.