mickeysaver
<font color=blue>WINNER of the world's worst limer
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For those following along in regards to the drama with Gabby's family that has been unfolding for about a year now, here comes a heck of an update.
When Gabby is in FL working and taking care of her mom, she has also been keeping her grand niece, baby M, most days while baby M's mom, F, is supposed to be working toward getting herself ready for the GED test, so that she can enroll in a new massage program that she wanted to and needs to take. She was also supposed to be working on taking care of her health. Did I mention that F's cervical cancer spread to her uterus and ovaries and she needs a full hysterectomy and is not even 21 yet?
She is going to need chemo and possibly some radiation therapy too. F filed paperwork last week to try to get Child Support from baby daddy. I have no idea what the status of that is. F also asked what she would need to do if she messed up again or died to give baby M to us. I am thinking that if baby daddy wanted to make a stink that this could get really ugly, but being that he is a young alcoholic who has a history of being somewhat irresponsible with Baby M, that we could get him to see that if he backed off he wouldn't have to ever pay child support. IDK
When we were at the hospital on the way home from WDW, F spoke of needing gas for the car because of all of the 90 meetings in 90 days that are all over the place around them, but not always convenient, but usually within 60 miles of home. Gabby gave her $20 for gas and on the way home, I asked Gabby if we should tell F's mom, B, that we had given F gas money. Gabby agreed that it had sounded a bit fishy, so she told B, who just said thanks and let it go. Not surprising being that B is not exactly the best role model.
Gabby called me on my way home from work this evening to confirm our suspicions that F is lying to family, again. She is claiming to be places that she isn't...GPS tracking on cell phones are a great tool to use to bust a liar. Today, F, went through my MIL's housekeeper's purse today and I think she took something. Also, F still hasn't sought treatment for the cancer. She is on such a self destructive path. God how I wish that we could do something to keep baby M from getting a really raw deal out of life. Baby M really loves Gabby. You should see her smile when Gabby walks into a room. The only person she loves more is her mom, which is so freakin bittersweet right now.
So I am waiting on pins and needles to hear how the confrontation with F goes tonight. Gabby is going to offer to bring baby M home to GA while F gets her head on straight and/or goes off to jail. F knows that if we take the baby due to her having to go back to jail that it's for keeps, which she actually prefers over the baby going to her mother. I can't say that I fully understand what is going on inside of F's head right now. I am just focused on what's best for Baby M.
So, there is a distinct possibility that we may be having a baby come into our home much sooner than expected.
When Gabby is in FL working and taking care of her mom, she has also been keeping her grand niece, baby M, most days while baby M's mom, F, is supposed to be working toward getting herself ready for the GED test, so that she can enroll in a new massage program that she wanted to and needs to take. She was also supposed to be working on taking care of her health. Did I mention that F's cervical cancer spread to her uterus and ovaries and she needs a full hysterectomy and is not even 21 yet?
She is going to need chemo and possibly some radiation therapy too. F filed paperwork last week to try to get Child Support from baby daddy. I have no idea what the status of that is. F also asked what she would need to do if she messed up again or died to give baby M to us. I am thinking that if baby daddy wanted to make a stink that this could get really ugly, but being that he is a young alcoholic who has a history of being somewhat irresponsible with Baby M, that we could get him to see that if he backed off he wouldn't have to ever pay child support. IDKWhen we were at the hospital on the way home from WDW, F spoke of needing gas for the car because of all of the 90 meetings in 90 days that are all over the place around them, but not always convenient, but usually within 60 miles of home. Gabby gave her $20 for gas and on the way home, I asked Gabby if we should tell F's mom, B, that we had given F gas money. Gabby agreed that it had sounded a bit fishy, so she told B, who just said thanks and let it go. Not surprising being that B is not exactly the best role model.
Gabby called me on my way home from work this evening to confirm our suspicions that F is lying to family, again. She is claiming to be places that she isn't...GPS tracking on cell phones are a great tool to use to bust a liar. Today, F, went through my MIL's housekeeper's purse today and I think she took something. Also, F still hasn't sought treatment for the cancer. She is on such a self destructive path. God how I wish that we could do something to keep baby M from getting a really raw deal out of life. Baby M really loves Gabby. You should see her smile when Gabby walks into a room. The only person she loves more is her mom, which is so freakin bittersweet right now.
So I am waiting on pins and needles to hear how the confrontation with F goes tonight. Gabby is going to offer to bring baby M home to GA while F gets her head on straight and/or goes off to jail. F knows that if we take the baby due to her having to go back to jail that it's for keeps, which she actually prefers over the baby going to her mother. I can't say that I fully understand what is going on inside of F's head right now. I am just focused on what's best for Baby M.
So, there is a distinct possibility that we may be having a baby come into our home much sooner than expected.
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F is scared to tell B that she doesn't want her to raise baby M if she were unable to care for her, so this has got many layers of messy built into it.
, Since she has expressed that she does not want her mom to raise the baby then she needs to get the in writing and notarized too! She should also make sure that she list the reasoning behind not wanting her daughter to be put in the predicament of living with her g-ma. I think that she should do some guardianship paper work for the both of you guys before things get worst. I know here in SC, the parent who has physical custody of the child, even if the father is out of the picture has the rights to grant guardianship to another individual. There is usually a hearing when filed by the court, but that it short and consist of the reasons for you being granted guardianship. I hope that you guys get to be there for her, she is so precious.
