DH Vent

Shannon G

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Here's the story: DH and I are headed down to NYC for the weekend. I had my mom drop me off at work, in Hartford, so that I wouldn't have my vehicle here, and DH could pick me up late this afternoon, and we would head down to catch the train from New Haven into the city.

Last night I said to DH, okay, we need to get everything ready tonight, since we are leaving straight from my work. DD is spending the weekend with my parents, which meant I had to get all of her stuff ready to gice to my Mom this morning. DH's reaction last night was like "Why, what do I have to do tonight?" I said we needed to get stuff packed. He said he didn't have a lot scheduled today (he's self-employed), so he would have plenty of time to do it today. Besides, he had to do a load of wash before he could pack. Fine, then while I get my stuff & DD's stuff packed, you can get the dished & stuff in the kitchen cleaned up so it doesn't sit there until Sunday. Nope - I'll have time to do it all tomorrow.

Well, as you've probably guessed by now, his day did not go as planned. He had some problems at the first of the two "easy jobs" he had lined up, and never even had time to get to the second - he had to reschedule it for another day. I called him at 3:00, figuring he'd be gteeing ready to head out to pick me up shortly. He was "running around like a chicken with its head cut off" (his words). He had to finish up a couple of errands, and then still had to go home & pack and finish the dishes. He just called, and he JUST LEFT to come get me, and it's 5:00!!! And we live about 30 - 35 miles away from where I work, plus it's rush hour, so he'll probably be here around 6:00!

I'm trying to let it go - I don't want to start off our weekend getaway with both of us in a lousy mood, but what I really want to do when he gets here is say "I TOLD YOU SO! I said we needed to get things ready last night, didn't I?!?!"

Okay, I feel better now. Thanks.
 
Or you could greet him with an enthusiastic hug, say it's such a pity things went wrong for him timewise, you've lost a bit of your precious time together. Show him a REALLY good time when you get to where you're going, you know what I mean?!
Next time he'll be early ;)
 
Let it go, don't start the weekend off on a bad note, it's not worth it.

Have a great trip!
 

So - you vented to us instead. That's what we're here for!

You've probably already signed off - but I hope you have a great weekend!
 
My husband is the same way. Always makes promises to lighten my load then comes in a day late and a dollar short. And the worse part is, I DON'T EVEN ASK him to do the chores. He offers, I reluctantly accept, then he lets me down. Time and time again. Then when I insist on doing things myself, I become the ungrateful bad guy. Ugh!

Here's the worst part: gifts for his mother. I do all all all all ALL the Christmas, birthday, and special occassion gift shopping for our families (45 people with 3 more on the way). The only help I want from him is for him to get his wonderful, saintly, martyr mother her gifts for Christmas, birthday and Mothers Day. (He doesn't even have to buy me a gift...the kids take care of that.)

Of course you can guess what happens. He gets her nothing, which means I'm running out at the last minute to save his sorry ____. Case in point - nothing for MIL has materialized yet, and it's Friday night.

Oh, please give me strength.

I feel much better now.

Other than this perrenial defect, my DH is one of the best, btw. :love: This small compliant is actually nothing compared to what some of my friends have to deal with.

Kelley
 
I'm married to your DH's twin. pirate: When will they learn???!!! Anyway, hope your weekend is fantastic!
 
As a guy, I believe SandraM has made a good suggestion of positive reinforcement.:teeth:
 














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