Dh Says No Way...

[MOMOFMNM]

He outruled me and we are only going to the Poly for 5 nights vs 6, he says "who wants to be on vacation for that long anyway???" GEEESH...please do not flame him, he is just a workaholic, non Disney lovin', non fanatical, obsessive compulsive, I love WDW kinda guy poor thing....he is gonna wish he shelled out the extra 300 for another night in paradise. Oh well, that will give me an excuse to plan a 2006 trip...before dd turns 10 after the two girls are 10, they are on their own since they are considered adults can you guys believe I am fighting heart and soul for this vacation?? He had a VERY BAD WDW experience in his past (even though he has never been there himself) and I think he is jaded...I hope to prove him wrong with all the fun and magic everyone send some pixie dust my way...any one else have a hard time w/ the significant other's op of WDW??PLEASE share...

what it comes down to though is I am happy to have even 5 nights at the POLY!!! We originally were going to go offsite at the Comfort Suites and rent a car and get only three day tickets...so I am thankful for the significant progress he has made in the name of my happiness

 

[Minerva]

We're leaving Grumpy at home. I waited years for him to get ready to go and he never did and I quit waiting. If I'd insisted that he go he would have been miserable and made the kids and I miserable. I hope yours catches some of the magic this year and helps you plan the next trip!

 

[MOMOFMNM]

We're leaving Grumpy at home. I waited years for him to get ready to go and he never did and I quit waiting. If I'd insisted that he go he would have been miserable and made the kids and I miserable. I hope yours catches some of the magic this year and helps you plan the next trip!

I THOUGHT About this and told him I could just take the girls but really I don't want to travel alone so my mom offered to go and I told him and he made up some thing like "oh I SUPPOSE" we should do a family thing type thing...and so my truthful opinion is he wants to go but hates the price tag and wants to seem like it is like getting a route canal... he is silly, I have been before and I know we will all want to go back next yr!!

 

[Beachangel]

On our last family trip in May, my sister chose to leave her Grumpy at home too! I'm a DVC member so I invited two of my sisters, their families and my mom to Disney and stay at BWV for a week. In the planning stages, my sister's Grumpy would complain about going to Disney......again. I was surprised my sister left him at home - said he's a drag @ Disney. The week before the trip, he was stunned he wasn't going! LOL! Maybe next year he'll think twice before complaining!

 

[minniedisney1]

My DH is the same way! Has fun on the actual trip, but them complains about the $$$ spent (wasted-his word for it). He surprised me last week though.... out of the blue he said we should go back again this year!!! I just made all my arrangements this morning!!!! We are going 12/05 for 7 days at CBR and then onto Universal/HRH for 3 nights. Figured I better be quick before the body snatchers bring my real DH back!

 

[Disney Fans]

Hey MOMOFMNM,
Its me-Disney Fans.
I know that one more day would be great. But maybe thats your husbands way of feeling like he is getting his way alittle also.
Why not book the extra night for now and think it over and when the final payment is due then you can both make up your minds about taking away the extra night. Because this way you can always cancel the extra day you are wanting before final payment but if you change your mind and want to add it later that day may not be there.
Hope all ends up Magical for your all!

 

[MOMOFMNM]

Hey MOMOFMNM,
Its me-Disney Fans.
I know that one more day would be great. But maybe thats your husbands way of feeling like he is getting his way alittle also.
Why not book the extra night for now and think it over and when the final payment is due then you can both make up your minds about taking away the extra night. Because this way you can always cancel the extra day you are wanting before final payment but if you change your mind and want to add it later that day may not be there.
Hope all ends up Magical for your all!

HI!! Thanks for your help but I decided to just do the 5 nights for dh sake and the fact that the kids will be missing school and I hope to be starting a new job and don't want to ask for a lot of days off etc...I think for our first trip we are doing great to be 5 nights at the Poly and I won't push it with him

 

[vfb2girls]

My husband was the same way when he we had a pretty miserable disney trip in August of 1990 so it took almost 14 years for him to even consider going back to Florida. Well we spent a week at disney in March 2004 and both of us had such a good time we decided we must go back, unfortunetly we couldn't go back in 2005 because we felt we couldn't leave our daughter alone with her husband fighting over in Iraq, well he made it safely home and the first thing my husband said to me start planning a trip for 2006, so here we come disney..March 2006, can't wait!

 

[grimley1968]

He had a VERY BAD WDW experience in his past (even though he has never been there himself) and I think he is jaded...

So can you share what this experience was? I'm curious to know why he's dead set against it if he has not been there.

Thanks.

 

[pepe of ohio]

Life is too short and your time with your children is priceless and very short. Been there done that but our whole family has loved Disney since we discovered ot in 1977. Our son, was first, has grown up and his wife is not a Disney enjoyer,, so they do not go by themselves or with us. But they did go once, I paid for both rooms and I think she enjoyed it. Our daughter, on the other hand, is the utmost fanatic. Last year of college she did the Intern College Program for 6 months, met a boy then working in Security at Disney, we went down 3 times that year. She came home, he relocated to Columbus also and she graduated from OSU and they deciced to return to Florida, give living there a shot and she worked for Disney at Celebration for one year, we visited 3 times that year to WDW again. Disney does not advance or pay well so after a year they returned to the Ohio area. Now she loves Disney and still goes or meets us in WDW and the following year we all met at the Poly and boyfriend proposed to my daughter where he first met her at the MK and we got to see and film the whole episode. Their wedding is this October and we're meeting them at the Poly after their honeymoon cruise. What I'm getting at is, those times are gone but future memories and past are a part of my life, and Disney has been a large part of our childrens early beginnig and adult life. You can't go back in time and create fixes for misdeeds, go, enjoy, watch your childrens eyes light up at seeing the MK, relish the time you have with them, 18-20 years and they are gone. Whats work, a place to what, make money, for what? You die, have no memories or friends and are worm food. Take what you can afford or save, go on a WDW vacation and see the magic through a childs eyes, time does not stand still or go backwards!

 

[wdwfanva]

Heres some pixie dust !!!!! My DW and I love WDW , so it's hard to understand when someones spouse/significant other doesn't !!!! So,
we'll be sending some more pixie dust your way and hope when your husband gets there he will become a Disney nut like me !!!! Hope you have a fantastic trip !!!!

 

[MOMOFMNM]

So can you share what this experience was? I'm curious to know why he's dead set against it if he has not been there.

Thanks.

well, he was going through a really tough time in his previous marriage, he had been in a terrible car accident that left his left arm paralzed and it practically looks like a skeleton arm with stretched skin over it, anyway his wife was doing not so good things behind his back and told him she needed a "break" and she was taking their daughter to WDW...and she then had her WDW balance after the trip transfered to his credit card (proclaiming lower interest rates) and then divorced him and left him for someone else who also went on the trip w her unbenounced to him.... long story...so anyway my point was he felt BURNED by financing a trip once before...and getting socked with the bills!! I probably should not devulge of his personal story but it helps to realize why he feels this way I guess and I really don't have anyone else to talk to about it...I feel terrible for him for everything he has been through and I told him this wa our trip as a family and I would pay for the majority of the trip. (which I am sure he was told once before) That said I also have to say he was left handed until this accident...so he was virtually paralyzed, without his wife who was leaving and going to WDW, then divorcing, then broke!! So I feel for him.

 

[rlduvall]

Alas, my husband is not into Disney, either. It really bites sometimes. I could go every year. My DH; once every 5 years is too much. When the free disney dining plan came out I tried everything to talk him into it; no luck. I am seriously considering leaving Grumpy home and taking our not quite 6 year old DS. I'm just not sure how hard it would be with little one by myself, though. He's not horrible or anything, but he's a very, shall I saw, active little guy and kids can be so unpredictable sometimes. If I lost him at WDW, I don't think I would ever be forgiven. My husband and I share equally in taking care of him, so I'm not sure how relaxing of a time it would be without my DH to relieve me occasionally. Am I selfish, or what?

 

[MOMOFMNM]

My husband was the same way when he we had a pretty miserable disney trip in August of 1990 so it took almost 14 years for him to even consider going back to Florida. Well we spent a week at disney in March 2004 and both of us had such a good time we decided we must go back, unfortunetly we couldn't go back in 2005 because we felt we couldn't leave our daughter alone with her husband fighting over in Iraq, well he made it safely home and the first thing my husband said to me start planning a trip for 2006, so here we come disney..March 2006, can't wait!

my children's father, my ex husband, leaves for Iraq in a few days...I hope this trip will cheer them up...they had a hard time with it at first but time heals things and I pray for him and a speedy safe return.

 

[grimley1968]

Much pixie dust to DH. I'm so sorry all that happened. But I think that just makes it all the MORE necessary that he go and experience the good things WDW offers for himself. I'd hate for him to live out his life and have only horrible things associated with WDW, and not the magic.

Best yet, send the bill to his ex!

 

[MAGICinMYHEART]

MOMOFMNM

After reading your DH experience I can understand how he would have bad vibes when it comes to a trip to WDW. Is there any way you can pay the trip off before you go so you can tell him "The trip is a gift to our family Paid-In-Full."

 

[MOMOFMNM]

MOMOFMNM

After reading your DH experience I can understand how he would have bad vibes when it comes to a trip to WDW. Is there any way you can pay the trip off before you go so you can tell him "The trip is a gift to our family Paid-In-Full."

I had planned on it until the free dining ad going a good 3 months earlier. I am trying as best as I can however I am a SAHM and babysit for Disney money so my budget is already set...

 

[Laurajean1014]

Negotiate - Tell him to bring his laptop and stay the 6 nights.

My BIL gets antzie if he's anywhere more than 4 days. That's his make-up.

Could he go for 4-5 days and you and your daughters stay longer?

Would that be an option?

 

[sunni]

Would you be able to afford to pay for it all yourself if you changed to a Moderate resort? If having it all paid for in advance will make him feel better about the trip, then I believe it would be worth downgrading from Deluxe. You'll still experience the magic, but this way with a DH who is going with more peace of mind.

 

[lovesdumbo]

My DH is also not the fanatic that I am or creating in my children (yet ). We went in Jan 04 to celebrate my DS's 3rd birthday to get him in while free (sort of like you bringing your "kids"-I'll have to remember that one 3 times ). We had an OK trip but it was so cold (30's one night). I had already told him I wanted to go again before the baby turns 3 also in January. We had decided we would go in the fall because Jan just didn't work for us. Then I really don't know how I convinced him that we should purchase AP's for Oct 2004 and still go Ocotober 2005 with the same AP's before that baby turns 3. I told him we had to go in 2004 because the oldest still believed that the characters are real and she wouldn't believe in 1st grade. (She's still a believer....don't know what she'll learn the first few weeks of 1st grade but I may get 1 more trip in with her believing...).

My DH kept saying "been there (in 1993 for 3 days)". After I convinced him to go in Oct 2004 I decided to do everything I could to "convert" him. I booked our 2nd family trip to the same hotel and concierge which he loves. That really helped him feel like he was going home. I also got a limo instead of a rental car which he found stressful. Then I let the limo provide car seats for the older ones so we only to hassle with 1 car seat instead of 3. I mailed a package to the hotel so we only had 2 checked bags for the 5 of us. I wanted to make it easy and relaxing for him.

And this is what I think had the biggest impact: I signed him up for the garden tour at Epcot. He's a horticulturalist and it really made it all click for him. It really gave him a great appreciation for all the wonderful details at Disney. When we were sitting in front of the Poly waiting for the limo to pick us up to go home he actually said "this is kinda sad...". So he didn't take the tour til our last full day. On our next trip he'll be taking a tour early on.

You know I too thought about leaving him home but I really want him to experience this with the kids and I want the kids to experience a family vacation with him. If I'm not totally successful in converting him I will leave him at home-I did that 5 times without kids and once I took just my oldest but I think I really am working that Disney magic on him. Oh one more thing-DH doesn't like to talk about Disney so I just hang out here on the DIS.