DH is not a fan....

[goofyintoronto]

"Do you like Disney" is a vetting question I use on all first dates. I see what their reaction is. If it's a flat out dismissal of all things Disney, then they are dismissed from the date. If they think its for kids but still somewhat fun, I can probably mold them.

I love this. Especially the second part. It really made me laugh!

 

[rwdavis2]

Reading the responses makes me wonder why people married the people they did.

 

[DisneyPrince1982]

Reading the responses makes me wonder why people married the people they did.

I agree with you but you're gonna take a lot of flack for that comment. People are going to pile in and say there is more to life than Disney and Vacations.

 

[GreatLakes]

I never understood the desire to force your significant other to vacation somewhere they don't want. If my wife didn't want to go to a specific place I wouldn't try and force her. I may ask her to give it a try but if she didn't want to, or did and didn't like it, I wouldn't press the issue. I would either go myself (both of us travel with just our friends a few times a year in addition to with each other) or find a place we both agree on.

 

[loves to dive]

Reading the responses makes me wonder why people married the people they did.

We kind of enjoy the fact that we like different things, we are the proof that opposites attract and after 22 years together it seems to work for us. We found out early on in our relationship that it wasn't necessary to be with each other every minute and there is something to be said about time apart.

 

[anniemae]

I would plan out the trip on paper and tailor it to him a bit. If he likes golf, plan a golf day for him and you and dd go to the parks. If he likes upscale restaurants, throw in a couple nice dinners etc. If he still does not seem interested, I would not push it. You either love Disney or you don't. Those that don't will never "get it" and IMO you can't really force it. Its almost like you want to recreate and make your first trip better. the thing is, you could get rain and tons of crowds this trip too, which would not please your DH. FL weather is unpredictable, we were there last month when a hurricane was bearing down on FL. Plus Disney is more crowded than ever, so you can't control those things and those seemed to be his biggest issues.

I just know that I would not want to be in Disney with a person who clearly did not want to be there, and I also would not want to be on a vacation at a place that I knew I did not like.

 

[eliza61]

I agree with you but you're gonna take a lot of flack for that comment. People are going to pile in and say there is more to life than Disney and Vacations.

no not really. I mean every one uses parameters to pick a partner. I have no issues with anyone who wants to use a fake place that the bottom line is about money to make that choice I have absolutely no problem with it. LOL, me?? I'd be worried they'd sell the house for magic beans because the kids would have a "magical" time up a beanstalk.

 

[rwdavis2]

I agree with you but you're gonna take a lot of flack for that comment. People are going to pile in and say there is more to life than Disney and Vacations.

That's true. But it's more than just WDW and vacations. It's the choice not to participate in their child's lives even if they are not crazy about going to Disney. You don't know how many horse shows and soccer games I sat through because I wanted to support the kids. I loved the look on their faces when they were competing which made it all worth while.

Why marry someone that's does not have some similar interests? Vacations are one of the biggies to us.

 

[Angel Ariel]

So does anyone else have to deal with their significant other not liking Disney? We as a family (myself, DH and daughter) along with my parents went to Disney last September. My daughter was 6 at the time and I'm really wanting to plan another trip for end of Oct 2016 but to stay on grounds this time (we stayed in a Condo last year) and I want to re-do MNSSHP (we missed the parade because of the rain.) our overall experience last year was great, but we went when it was abnormally rainy there so we were rained out a lot. My husband is less then thrilled about wanting to plan another trip. Our daughter will be 8 and I feel to take her while she's young and excited about it. Does anyone else deal with this? I want to plan this trip, but don't want him to be a sour puss about it all the time.

He's not a fan of crowds, he'd rather do other vacations (which OK I can see, however our daughter is still a little young to appreciate other things then rides and swimming and stuff. lol) Plus, I don't plan on this trip being Disney Disney Disney. Yes I want to stay on grounds this time, however I want to plan a day and drive over to Clearwater to see the ocean and spend the day at the beach, have more resort days, etc. Our last trip was very hectic. flew in, that evening we went to MNSSHP, and every day after we were on the go. we really had no down time and I think that may be where he was just overwhelmed with it. so I guess we will see. Like I said I want to plan these trips while our daughter is young and still wants to go. It's honestly ALL she talks about since we went last year.

Could you maybe meet him in the middle a bit and make it a FL vacation, not just a Disney one? Maybe take a day and head to Cape Canaveral and see the Space Center? My nephew is 9, and we've taken him to the Smithsonian Air and Space Museum in D.C. - he *loved* it. He was fascinated by the space shuttle. Or maybe take a day and do some of the other attractions on I-Drive? The Trip podcast did a great review of the Orlando Eye/Madame Tussaud's Wax Museum and the Aquarium over at Orlando 360.

What are some things your husband likes? Is there any way to include some of that? If lack of downtime was an issue, plan more in!

Also, though, just be willing to accept that he may not ever be thrilled about going to DIsney. Not everyone is. Hopefully you can both talk about it and reach a compromise that works for both of you!

 

[DisneyPrince1982]

Why marry someone that's does not have some similar interests? Vacations are one of the biggies to us.

Agreed. Differences are important but not about vacations, IMO. And I know some people have an arrangement where one person picks a trip one year, and the other the next. But that wouldn't work for me, I'm too selfish for that, lol. I would want us both to be excited about every single trip we take.

 

[eliza61]

That's true. But it's more than just WDW and vacations. It's the choice not to participate in their child's lives even if they are not crazy about going to Disney. You don't know how many horse shows and soccer games I sat through because I wanted to support the kids. I loved the look on their faces when they were competing which made it all worth while.

Why marry someone that's does not have some similar interests? Vacations are one of the biggies to us.

usually that's not the issue though rwdavis. Have you ever notice that these post come from people who have been to wdw two, three times already. So obviously the guy has been in his kids life.

Now vacations are a different animal than sporting events. I too have frozen by backside off watching a pee wee game in the freezing snow and rain.

Vacations are supposed to be the one time during the year where EVERYONE in the family gets to enjoy themselves and their time together. Op has stated that they got back from a disney trip.

So IMO what you're saying is if we don't do what I one person wants all the time, you claim they are not participating in their childs life? really? how is that a correlation?
If they go to yellowstone instead, that's not being involved with the kids?

there is a reason why it takes two people to make kids. two people get input. Once again remember op has just left Disney not 11 months ago. Why isn't dh's wishes just as important.

Why marry someone who has to have their way all the time?? that personally would be the more important question

 

[Angel Ariel]

Reading the responses makes me wonder why people married the people they did.

DH wasn't a "Disney person" when we met, were dating..not even when we married. He'd gone once as a kid, but that was it..didn't hate it, but didn't love it either. He knew my dream honeymoon since I was a child had included staying in the Grand Floridian (I stayed at the Contemporary once as a kid, and fell in love with the GF just looking in the entrance from the monorail..always wanted to get married there ), and he made it happen...we even had a MK view room. It was just a couple of days, and they were magical. Disney has been "our place" ever since. He didn't understand it before our honeymoon stay there. Now he does, and he loves our Disney vacations just like I do.

Is that going to be true for everyone? No, definitely not. But you just never know. I never would have thought when we were dating that he would ever enjoy "talking Disney" with me over dinner, or listen to Disney podcasts with me, or that he'd love participating in RunDisney events, or be as excited as I am to take a trip there. But it worked out. Sometimes you just don't know how things will turn out before you get married, and that's not always a bad thing

 

[nobellybutton]

My husband isn't a Disney aficionado either. We went before we married 14.5yrs ago wasn't super ecstatic but did it for me. I took our DS 2x's with my DM after that and when my DD was turning 5 I said it's time to go as a family. He obliged and also met up with my DDad and my Stepmom. During the trip he said this is my one and only trip to Disney. He went out to all the parks everyday like a trooper during HOT August crowded days and spent afternoons back at the condo with my DisDad who couldn't keep up with us. And I'm more than happy planning our Halloween trip with just myself, DD, DS and DM and my stepmom and aunt will joining for a weekend. Husband will be happy at home relaxing. Win, win for us too.

 

[DisneyPrince1982]

Why marry someone who has to have their way all the time?? that personally would be the more important question

Which is why, if a certain issue or vacation spot is important to someone, like Disney seems to be to the OP, it should have been at least discussed when they were dating.

 

[DisneyPrince1982]

Sometimes you just don't know how things will turn out before you get married, and that's not always a bad thing

But it could go the other way. One person's dream could be another's nightmare.

 

[Angel Ariel]

Vacations are supposed to be the one time during the year where EVERYONE in the family gets to enjoy themselves and their time together. Op has stated that they got back from a disney trip.

While I do agree to an extent, life - and marriage - is also about compromise.

For ex...I know my DH really wants to do some vacations that include things like Mammoth Caves, etc. That's not particularly something I'm very interested in. However, I know how much my DH wants to go, *and* I know how much he wants to share that with me. So we will go at some point. Whenever we do, I am also very sure that there will be something about that trip that I want to do, and we'll do that also, but I couldn't just tell DH that he has to either experience Mammoth Caves alone or not at all when I know how much he wants to go and share it with me. We will all get a chance to enjoy ourselves and our time together..whether we all 100% love the destination or not

 

[DisneyWishes14]

I don't know where you live, but have you considered just taking your DD yourself even if it's just for a long weekend? My DS7 and I have gone alone multiple times and we have an absolute blast. IMHO, there is nothing wrong with having special alone time with my DS. My DH is not a fan, but will go with us every once in a while. When he comes with us, I ask him what things he would like to do and what he would not like to do and I schedule accordingly. It usually means we do some things together and some things apart, but we all get what we want out of the vacation and no one is miserable. I would ask your DH what he enjoyed about the last trip and what he would like to do in FL if you were to go again and then go from there. If he doesn't want to do things like MNSSHP, just take DD.

 

[Angel Ariel]

But it could go the other way. One person's dream could be another's nightmare.

It could, you're right. There's no way to know. I just know I'm sure very glad I didn't write off DH because he didn't love Disney. I would have missed out on something great...not to mention an amazing daughter

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Let me ask you, how would you feel if someone planned a vacation knowing you'd rather go some where else?

Do some thing he'd enjoy and do Disney some time later. Your daughter will have fun because she is with her family. Disney is not the only place on the planet where families can make memories

We took our daughters to WDW when our youngest was 6, obsessed with princesses, & we did it "right". Every park, water parks, princess lunch. Vacation of a lifetime as far as she was concerned. The following year, we took a road trip to South Dakota as our family vacation. When we got home, she declared THAT trip her favorite vacation ever.

 

[Angel Ariel]

I should add, too, that we've had teh reverse happen as well - that DH really wanted to go somewhere (in this case a wintertime snowmobiling trip into Yellowstone), and I was not very excited about it - much like DH felt about Disney before our honeymoon trip. I'd already been to Yellowstone (in the summer), I was *really* not interested in the negative 20 degree weather, I was scared about driving a snowmobile by myself, etc.

It is, by far, one of the best trips I have ever had in my life. Anywhere. To the point that I seriously tell people who want to go to Yellowstone to go in the winter and do the snowmobiling. It was *amazing*. They only allow a certain # of snowmobiles into the parks each day, so we felt like we were pretty much alone in the park. The snow, the wildlife...snowmobiling 5 ft away from bison. Words do not do justice to how amazing that day was. And driving the snowmobile was fun! And I was sweating in all the layers I had on, even though it was negative 20 degrees!

I am so happy that DH was so determined to go on that trip even though I didn't want to. Now I can't wait for DD to be old enough to go snowmobiling with us so we can do it again