DH doesn't want to return as soon as I do!!

[zigfam4]

Myself, DH and two DD's (6 and 4) just returned from our first WDW trip and we had an absolute blast! My dilemma...I want to return as soon as next Feb or Oct and DH says he absolutely doesn't want to go back for at least 5 years...AAAHHH! I'm SO upset and so are my two DD's. DH says he doesn't mind if I take the two DD's by myself but I'm thinking it would be a lot to handle with a 7 and 5 1/2 year old by myself (tantrums, etc.). I would appreciate any advice - do you think I should just go on my own without him or try to pressure him to go sooner?! He even said I could go with my MIL or parents but I would rather have him go. To me, he would be missing out on a lot - he's being selfish, if you ask me!

 

[Tinker_]

haha, DBF says the same thing every year, then changes his mind in a few months Just give him a while before you bring it up again- he might change his mind. I think he feels like he JUST spent 5K, and would like a break, lol.... I always hit him up at bonus time

 

[zigfam4]

I'm "secretly" setting aside money in a different checking account so when I hit the $3K mark, I can tell him the trip is pretty much paid for. I'm hoping they'll come out with some awesome packages so then he'll feel like we're getting a great deal that we just HAVE to take advantage of!

 

[Tinker_]

Now that is smart! haha! He can't complain if it is paid for!!

 

[turkeymama]

I sometimes wish my DH would let me take the kids on my own. Mine are 8 and 5. I think I could handle them on my own if we went during a slow time. My husband loves The World as much as I do, so he would be jealous if I ever went without him, especially if I took the kids with me. He isn't a morning person (like me), so he holds me back when we visit.

I like your idea about setting money aside. That may help your cause, and if it doesn't, take someone else with you.

 

[2poohbears]

dh told me he wanted to wait another 2 years to go back. (everyone got sick on our last trip - he had it worst of all - so i kinda understand where he's coming from). when i told him he should think it over because if he wasn't coming i was going to find a friend to come with me and the boys, he decided he would go back in the fall with us. i know he'll love the trip - he's just having bad memories right now of being sick. he's usually ready to go back after about 3 weeks of the last trip...although he always tries to claim that going every year is MY idea.

try waiting a little bit, and bring it up again. he might be more open to it later. then, maybe pull out the pictures from this trip, and look through it with the family, and talk about the fun things you did, your favorite attractions, etc... i like the idea of putting money aside for a trip, too.

 

[susykt4]

It sounds like you're suffering from Post Disney Depression. Right now the only thing you can think about is planning another trip and you would go back TODAY if that was possible. Your husband may be suffering from THAT was a VACATION? Syndrome where he is recovering from Disney Exhaustion while experiencing the stress of returning to work. Give him a month to recover while you save and plan and spend all your free time here on the boards. He will "probably" change his evil ways and you'll be heading back in February (an excellent time to go, BTW.)

Seriously, after our first family vacation to WDW I was in physical pain for at least a month because I wanted to go back so much. My husband thought I was an idiot.

 

[RMulieri]

Good luck... My DH said it and meant it. It took 8 yrs for him to go on another trip...I went without him.

 

[dancin'girl]

We just returned this past weekend and there was a bounceback offer in our room. I soooo wanted to book another trip for later in 2009, but DH wants to wait about a year and a half, which isn't so bad considering we went three years between our last trips. When I think about it seriously, a vacation is very costly and there are other things we have coming up that will be expensive (including a new car - mine is on it's last leg and we have been putting it off for a year or two now). I know I'm suffering from Disney Let Down, and I know my DD is, too. She actually cried and cried on our last night in MK. She didn't want to go home! Some day we may be able to afford Disney more often, but right now I can agree with DH that we should wait.

 

[boettj]

I'd go multiple times a year if we could swing it. However, there does come a point when you have done everything. As of right now, we go every other year. Which keeps things somewhat fresh. As the Dks get olders, we might change up our spacing again. Maybe just my DW and I go every year, and we take the DKs every third year.


I would be willing to bet you DH thinks that it will be the same thing next year. What he does not realize is that Disney does a pretty good job of changing things up. Also, we have noticed that we take it slower when we go back to back.


I.e. We went in 2005 with family, then again in 2006 by ourselves. In 2006 we were not rushed at all. First time at Disney where we found it relaxing. Also we caught a ton of road shows we had never seen before.


Here are some questions I would ask:

• Did he not find it relaxing?
• Does he think he's seen it all?
• Is he like me, and hates excessive heat?
• Does he hate crowds?
  • Change the time of year to times like November/Jan
• Does he golf?
  • If so, then make sure he has time to golf. Bribery goes a long way with me.
• Is he a Nascar fan?
  • If so, get him a ride along at the track.
• If you are thinking October, talk up MNSSHP.

I think you get the idea.


Hope this helps. We are headed back in November?

 

[crisi]

Myself, DH and two DD's (6 and 4) just returned from our first WDW trip and we had an absolute blast! My dilemma...I want to return as soon as next Feb or Oct and DH says he absolutely doesn't want to go back for at least 5 years...AAAHHH! I'm SO upset and so are my two DD's. DH says he doesn't mind if I take the two DD's by myself but I'm thinking it would be a lot to handle with a 7 and 5 1/2 year old by myself (tantrums, etc.). I would appreciate any advice - do you think I should just go on my own without him or try to pressure him to go sooner?! He even said I could go with my MIL or parents but I would rather have him go. To me, he would be missing out on a lot - he's being selfish, if you ask me!

Unless your kids have behavioral issues, 7 and 5 will be different than 6 and 4. And 8 and 6 different yet, if you can postpone a year.

My advice would be to find a different vacation you can all enjoy - I sort of think family vacations should involve the family, and I think pressuring someone to take a vacation they don't want to take isn't a good idea. Maybe see if your husband would be interested in a Disney cruise?

 

[Darcy03231]

My DH hates WDW. He did the first trip and has never been back. I've gone multiple times with the children without him, and we have four. The first time I took them all by myself they were 4, 6, 9 and 13. The real key here is planning. I made sure we had plenty of down/pool time and a couple of nights the two youngest ones went to the camp (can't remember the name of it now) and I took the oldest two to ride the bigger rides without the little ones. While we had a couple of meltdowns, and then we'd just stop and regroup or go back to the hotel, overall it worked out just fine. Kids are now 15 (almost 16), 17 (almost 18), 21 and 25. We have great memories of those vacations. You can do it!!!

 

[twinsmommy06]

I didn't read everyone elses responses but I am a single mom of 3 yr old twins and 5 yr old dd. We just got back 5 weeks ago Friday and are going back for dd's 6th bday in July. I've taken them by myself every yr for 3 yrs. I cannot imagine having help. I get to plan my trip my way, plan which parks we see, what we do and when. It's MUCH easier then fighting and arguing with someone but thats just my opinion. Personally I say go by yourself. It'll be special for just you and your dd's.

 

[clc053103]

I go without DH! I had a nice trip with my Mom, sister, her sons, and my DS3. And will be back next year! If he's not a disney person, do you really want him going anyway? LOL!

 

[CyndiLooWho]

Our first trip since our honeymoon (20 yrs ago!) is coming up in 5 wks. Dh still isn't really ready to go back, but concedes the boys and I will have a blast and he can put up with it.

If we have the money, I think I'll go back with the boys and my Mom the next time he can't schedule a summer vacation. My parents own at Bonnett Creek, so we can do it for a fairlly decent price - just tix, food and gas (she's volunteered, but I don't think she remembers much about 14 hr drives with kids... LOL).

Otherwise, we'll do something dh wants to do next summer and then decide if we can do Disney again.

 

[savannahcat]

If it were the only way i could go, I wouldn't hesitate taking my DDs (5 & 3) by myself!

 

[srwarden1928]

My question is Does your DH have another location for a family vacation that he wants to do? If he does, why not let everyone go there? I love WDW personally. DW enjoys it, but not quite as much as me. If she has someplace else she wants to go, we will go there. If she has no place else, we will go to WDW because its where I want to go. OTOH if she wants a girls trip somewhere like several on the DIS take, I will be in WDW while she is gone.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

LOL

We go to WDW every year. The kids are now 10 and 5. I wanted to go someplace different this year like the Carribean. I got voted down by DH and the kids. They want to return to WDW.

I'd go without your husband. You'll be fine with the kids, just go at a slow time.

 

[LWatson]

Ok so we both were like this the first day we returned in Feb. Then a few days later I was ready to book another one, and DH wasnt. He wanted to wait at least 2-3years. We are going back in Dec because DS1 begged (and I could get a good deal). He might give in you never know.

 

[Worfiedoodles]

If you force your dh to go and he really doesn't want to, no one is going to have a good time (trust me, I know ) . Do you take other trips as a family? If this is your only vacation, find out what he would like to do instead, and try that. He deserves an equal say, and you've already had your dream trip. You can alternate destinations to keep everyone happy -- or if he really, really doesn't want to go, another family trip to Disney just might not be in the cards.

If this is one of many trips, then I don't see why you couldn't do it by yourself. You have to approach it that the girls are your partners in this special Ladies' Only trip, and have ground rules before you go. Then, here's the hard part, you have to stick to the ground rules. The first time they have to give up something fun because of bad behavior will be the last.

Whatever you decide, I hope you and dh agree together. It's no fun to have one partner trying to manipulate the other -- and it's not good for anyone in the family.