DH does NOT want to go on our Nov 30th cruise

[tksbaskets]

Not wanting to sound like Dr. Laura but...

I'd worry more about a DH and father who doesn't want to spend a vacation with his wife and son no matter where they were going.

I'll keep you all in my prayers.

 

[digitalmom]

Go on the cruise and enjoy yourselves, you and your son. My kids and I have gone on 2 cruises now without my husband/their father and it has worked out great. The first one my mother-in-law came with us, the seccond one my older son knew some kids from band who were on the same cruise. We are going on the Magic this coming May and I really tried hard to talk DH into going with us but he will not. He says that his idea of a cruise is a Barefoot Cruise, the ships with the sails, not exactly my idea but maybe I can talk him into Windstar at some tiime and not Barefoot. We do keep in touch thru email while the kids and I are on the cruise. This may be strange but the kids and I have gone on other vacations without him and he and the kids have gone on trips without me. I took the kids to Washington D.C. and he took the kids on a canoe trip on the Peace River in Florida and to the Okeefoenokee Swamp, definitely not my idea of a vacation. One of my kids may not be able to go on the May cruise due to a conflict with a trip to Europe thru school. I will try my best to talk DH into going with the other child and I but more than likely the other child will bring along a friend as DH said I was not cancelling the trip which I did consider doing. Like I said go and have fun, you will , email works great for staying in touch, especially if your husband is fine with letting you and your son go on the cruise without him.

 

[digitalmom]

My previous post made it sound like we don't take vacations together at all. We do, New York City, Toronto, Orlando and this fall we are all going to Hawaii at Thanksgiving week as the high school marching band that my older child is in was invited to march in a parade in Honolulu that week. It can be fun and enjoyable doing separate vacations at times.

 

[nedleycan]

Do the Windstar Cruise! You will love it. Our problem is that the only cruise we have ever done is Windstar, and it was so elegant and well done, that we are nervous that Disney won't meet our "new" standards. It looks to me like the rooms are great, the food is great, the service is great, but one thing that we loved about Windstar is that there is nothing (and nobody) tacky about it. There are no announcements, no set dinner company or set table that you must sit at. You don't have to dress up (in fact it is discouraged) and everyone who was there was nice, upper-middle class, well behaved people. Not having a dress code didn't result in one single person wearing shorts to dinner... everyone just knew how to behave. We are afraid that adding children and some loud people (sorry, but I am imagining that "Disney People" are more energetic, which could result it loud and tacky) will make the cruise less "our kind of cruise".
I hope I am not sounding like a snob, we just enjoy the finer things in life and expect people to behave and have class... okay, I sound like a snob... don't hate me!

 

[Renee']

Just an opinion here.....I can't imagine being put into the position you're faced with. I truly believe I'd be looking at different vacationing options. If he's that dead set against the cruise then I'd spend "our" family points on something everyone would enjoy.

If you cancel the cruise those points will become reservation points and you could use them at any of the WDW or DL hotels (any place other than a DVC resort). Possibly would he be more apt to enjoy that? Cruising on points is anything but "inexpensive". Using all those points for a vacation which excludes him (although of his free will) may have greater repercussions. I couldn't take our kids and enjoy myself without him. (Even if it were the Magic)

One thing comes to mind though.....if he's not wanting to vacation with you is there more than what meets the eye?

It's because you wanted him to wear pants at dinner, isn't it?

You typed just what I was thinking.

Good luck with your dilemma.

Reneé

 

[aprilgail2]

I would certainly go without him! If he agreed in the first place and then backed out I would leave him sitting home and go. I am sure you 10 year old is looking forward to the trip and why should they be disappointed because of a stubborn husband! Heck you may find you have more fun without him....I have plenty of friends who vacation seperately from their spouses every year.

 

[KLDESQ]

No bashing attorneys , both my wife KADESQ and me, KLDESQ are Disney Cruise loving attorneys with two 'attorney work product kids..'

In all seriousness, I've been going to WDW since 1972 (age 7) we stayed at the "Royal Inn." I've been to WDW at least 100 times (or more) and really didn't think that the cruise would be so amazing. I thought that it would be filled with "old people" playing shuffle board. Boy was I wrong. The Disney Cruise is by FAR the BEST vacation we've ever been on and we've been to London, Paris, Rome, Hawaii (although Club Level at the Ritz Carlton in Maui is not a poke in the eye)

It is the best trip with kids--period.

Can't wait for Nov's West cruise--11/9!

 

[Buckaroo's Dad]

Nedley, Dear Chap,

I am a trifle confused. First you say -

You don't have to dress up (in fact it is discouraged)

Then you continue with-

QUOTE]Not having a dress code didn't result in one single person wearing shorts to dinner... everyone just knew how to behave. [/QUOTE]

So you don't have to dress up but being upper-middle class, AND well-behaved, you automatically wear the appropriate attire? Sorry, but i just want to understand the "more refined" point of view. Unfortunately, mine is a below-bourgeois mentality and I often require assistance in understanding "the cream of the crop." As a matter of fact, there was a somewhat fameous routine by the almost now-forgotten Charley McCarthy and Knucklehead Smith. They are in an "upper class" setting, surrounded by men in tuxedo's and women in designer gowns all sipping champagne and partaking of caviar.

Knucklehead says, "Hey, Charley, what are WE doing here?"

Charley McCarthy answers, "We are here, Knucklehead, with the Cream of the Crop."

Knucklehead, "What do you mean by the cream of the crop?"

Charley, "That is an expression used to describe the upper social class. 'Cream of the crop.' You know, Knucklehead, the best of the best. Cream floats on top!"

Knucklehead, "Yeah, but so does scum."


Anyway.

We are afraid that adding children and some loud people (sorry, but I am imagining that "Disney People" are more energetic, which could result it loud and tacky) will make the cruise less "our kind of cruise".

Nedley, this might well not be "your kind of cruise" unless you plan to dine strictly at Palo's. Children may be at your table and, given the genetic irresponsibility inherent in too many lower-class marriages, they could display some very tacky behaviourisms. Some people you run into onboard might not even belong to their local country club.

I find your post most offensive and hope we never find ourselves on the same cruise.

 

[Tinkerbellfan]

nedleycan, one question - why ARE you doing DCL?

I agree with Buckeroo's Dad on this one. Perhaps another Windstar Cruise would be better suited to your taste.

 

[edith76]

Nedleycan, Which Windstar did you do? My husband and I were looking at the transatlantic...nervously...big ocean, small ship.

We were nervous about our first Disney Cruise but there are so many people of all ages - everyone seems to find their own niche.

 

[pal2pluto]

imgoingtodisney...........I didn't mean to be snide in my comments earlier, I hope I didn't offend you or your husband.

That said, my dh is a "been there, done that, don't need to do again" kind of vacationer. We've never been to the same place twice. We took a cruise on our honeymoon....actually, it was the "big red boat" with a few days in DW. And after that, he said he didn't need to cruise again Well, that was 18 years ago. This past january, we did the magic and he truely loved the experience. He thought he'd be bored, but it was such a relaxing cruise for him.........he loved the freedom he felt to just wander around and do what he wanted, take part in stuff, or bag it and sit on the deck. He's talking about our next cruise (3day) and actually planning an alaskan cruise in a few years !

I'm sorry, but I didn't see in the thread what his concerns/objections are.......could you enlighten us?

 

[nedleycan]

I knew that people would take it the wrong way, and if I could have had a picture of me laughing while I wrote the post, that would have been better.

In answer to your question about people not needing to be told how to dress at dinner: I find it interesting that when there isn't a dress code (Windstar) everyone dressed appropriately (nice pants and shirts for men, sundresses for women) but, I have read over and over again on this site that Disney says there is a dress code, yet people still wear shorts to dinner. Do these people not understand what "looking appropriately" means? In my opinion, in doesn't mean that men have to wear a suit. If they have clean, ironed, pants and a shirt tucked in, they will look respectable. Why does Disney have two different kind of passengers (those who are dying to dress up and those who think shorts are appropriate). So, this got me thinking.... are there going to be a lot of these people who have no class (ie. not understanding what it means to look respectful). Who are these people?

We have children, and love children. I am afraid that the people I was speaking about previously would also have children who don't understand how to behave in a formal atmosphere. Yes, we will go to Palo one night, and we will really enjoy our "adult time".

The reason I even started this line of conversation was that my DH (who is not a snob - I wanted to say this before you did) is concerned that "the people that I was talking about" will be loud, obnoxious people, with loud, obnoxious kids.

I guess edith76 said it the best. With so many people from so many backgrounds, we are bound to run in to all types, including my type (again, I wanted to say it before you did). With a Windstar Cruise you are talking about only 200 people on the boat, who are all looking for the same thing (5 star dining, no kids, casual yet classy setting, very little night life).

Edith76: We were on the Carribean (St. Thomas) on the Windspirit. I am glad to hear that you enjoyed your Disney Cruise and I am glad that you understand what I was really asking. BTW: I heard that the transatlantic is completely different, because it is only 1/2 full, and it is very quiet. People read most days and just relax. It becomes one big happy family. You get to know everyone by the end of your cruise.

Sorry to offend you Buckaroo's Dad. You obviously did not understand me. I am not a snob, I just don't know what to expect. I have friends of every income level and every race and every shape and size. But, they all have the class that would be required to know how to behave and how to dress (and it doesn't mean being forced to wear a suit - they could figure it out themselves). I guess I find all the rules as Disney's way of saying "we know that some of you don't understand how to behave, so we will have to demand it." THAT is what makes me nervous.

By the way.... I am not a Chap!