Desperate for some Disney magic!! Would YOU endure a trip alone with your MIL??

[IvyandLace]

Okay...it's come to this: I'm a Disney fanatic. The more I go, the more I want to go!! This past October my DH and I (who upgraded our APs to PAPs) "sponsored" a family trip for his side of the family...and my MIL LOVED it!! Looking back, I'm glad we did it to say we did, but...NEVER AGAIN!! My FIL didn't want to walk anywhere (and he's in GOOD shape!), my MILwho sweats perfusiously in 60 degree weather was dripping the whole time (AND decided to bring a bag of pillows around the parks with her each day!!!), and my BIL must have visited every bathroom in every park. I had very clearly spent time before the trip with weekly emails explaining each day and each park and each restaurant that we would be visiting. I also typed up daily maps and itineraries for them to have. They were STILL clueless!! My MIL would phone us up the morning and ask, "What are we doing today?" They would sleep in when EMH was planned and though my DH and I continued with our plans, we often had to backtrack so that the slowpokes could meet up with us and ride some rides!!

Needless to say, I'm glad it's done.

Now, here's the dilemma...I'm havin' a total Disney breakdown. I NEED to go back, but since I'm having back pain and am not able to work, my finances say otherwise. My MIL has now been interjecting comments recently that she wants to go back for the Flower and Garden Festival and wants to take me along (ie: pay my way)!! She calls this the "Scooter" Tour since we would both need ECVs for the trip. What I'm wonderin' is this...what would YOU put up with to enjoy some Disney magic??

Should I persue...or not?

Thanks! I can always count on my DISers for some sound "Mickey" advice!
IVY

 

[anne60]

If it is just you and MIL, it probably won't be as bad, plus I am sure the last time you were thinking "I paid all this money and they are wasting my time."

This trip, just sit back and have the attitude that ANY day at Disney is better than being home, especially if it's free!!!

I would go, what do you have to lose?

 

[kaylajr]

i would go
the whole trip will probably be different with just the two of you

besides it's DISNEY and i for one would never turn down a free trip ( or any trip for that matter)

I say Go and have a good time

 

[Buzzfanmom]

You must be a very brave woman! I think I'd rather have my eyes gouged out that have to endure quality time with my mother in law. But if she wants to pay maybe she's not all that bad. I suppose any free trip is a good trip but uggh, your mother in law? Thats a tough one. Good luck with your decision!

 

[WDWLVR]

Personally no I wouldn't. We did Disney with the in-laws in 2002 and I think that will be the last time. I'm blessed with a DH who loves Disney as much as I do so Disney is our time!

Would I go on a short day trip with my MIL like to a casino or something - sure! We get along great and I enjoy her company most of the time. Do I ever want to go on another long vacation with them - no way!

You know in your heart what is best for you - here's to hoping you make a decision that makes you happy.

 

[Scratch42]

You obviously have your doubts.

You know her better than we do so good luck in your decision!

But to me it sounds like it ain't gonna work!

Scratch

 

[FatCow]

I personally would not go. It's my personality that if I can't pay my way, I won't go because I strongly believe in the old adage, "Beggars can't be choosers". I don't want the trip to one day come back to me and gite me in the you-know-where.

But then again, I don't know your MIL.

 

[jacksonsmom]

If it were my MIL....


NO WAY!!!!!!! You know what would have to freeze over before that happened!!!!!!!
The thought of spending any time at WDW with her is scary!!!!
We see her on average TWO TIMES A YEAR and believe me that in itself is too much!

But I don't know your MIL.
Since we are having doubts I would really think about it. It doesn't sound like the last trip went very good.

Good Luck!

 

[picantel]

Hell would freeze over before I went with my MIL

 

[Micca]

I would go with my DMIL. I guess it depends on how badly you're "jonesing" to go to WDW.

 

[FatCow]

Oh, and to add, I'd rather go with my MIL than my mom.

 

[tinkerbell6]

Um........no! Mind you, MIL wouldn't ask--she doesn't "get" Disney.

 

[DeDixie]

I would go, but I would not have unrealistic expectations about what the trip would be like. You wont have to deal with FIL or BIL, but you will be with MIL 24/7. The scooters will be a new challenge as well. See if you can feel her out as to whether you will each have some time alone. I would set up some PS and make your basic plan, and hope for the best. Good Luck.

We took Husband parents with us on a cruise to Alaska last summer. (each pd our own way) THey got on my nerves, but not as much as my husbands. I was prepared for how they are (needy and wanting to be with us 24/7) but DH was not expecting all of this. We had planned to take them with us to Disney in a few years, using our DVC, but now DH says NO! He will eventually forget and we will still all go. LOL It was a trip of a lifetime for MIL/FIL and I'm still glad they went with us.

 

[OhMickey]

NO! NO! NO!

This would be my worst nightmare come true!

 

[juliesue]

I would go. Now, I am blessed with a MIL that I get along with very well.

This might be a chance for both of you to get to know each other in a whole new light. Without the pressure of the rest of the family, you might find she is very different. There is something fun to do each day so you won't have to just sit around unless you choose to.

I also think there is nothing wrong with asking if there will be some time to just relax by yourself. Explain that you would love to go, but that you will also need time to just shop or whatever to relax by yourself.

It sounds like the last time you went, you all had different expectations of how vacation should go. You and your DH wanted to do it one way, and the rest of the family wanted something else. Manage the expectations up front this time and you will probably find the trip will go much smoother.

 

[kilee]

NO WAY!!! My mom-- anyday!!!

My MIL and I don't agree on anything!!! She likes to pick me apart for EVERY LITTLE THING!!! I keep my mouth shut and shoot daggers at DH for not sticking up for me. I am very respectful to her because that was how I was raised, but there is definetly no warm fuzzy feelings there.

Anyhow-- to boot-- we are leaving in less than 48 hrs for Disney-- guess who's joining us-- MIL!!! Anyhow, her DH will spend their days together and me and DS (11) will spend our together. For us, it's a mother/son trip. I am actually looking forward to it. I also think it will be good for my son. So, since my time w/ her will be minimal--- I think I'm gonna be just fine.

So, unless you are really close, and it sounds like she bugged you last time, I wouldn't dare attempt it.