Delimma and I'm not bothering with an alias UPDATE -page 4

[Green Tea]

I completely agree with this. I would say, "I'm sorry if you misunderstood. This is a business trip and I will be working each day. It's probably best if I just go on my own. But let me know if you would be interested in doing a Girls' Weekend some time!"

That sounds like a great way to handle it and just go alone. I might change the "probablybest " to "I am going on my own this time" to avoid any negotiation.

 

[ckay87]

Will you come back and tell us how it works out?

 

[HM]

That sounds like a great way to handle it and just go alone. I might change the "probablybest " to "I am going on my own this time" to avoid any negotiation.

I agree.
Let us know how you end up handling it! Good luck!

 

[61292cna]

Unless one is Johnny Depp the other Orlando Bloom and the third me!

What are YOU doing in MY FANTASY???

 

[Handbag Lady]

Unless one is Johnny Depp the other Orlando Bloom and the third me!

Amen, sister.

 

[Rebelmom67]

UPDATE:

I bit the bullet and was honest with my co-workers. I told them that I had originally invited co-worker #1 to go so I would have some company and not be alone (this was perfectly fine with my boss, he usually encourages me to take the family and make it a vacation/business trip). I then explained how it just wasn't feasible to have 3 people in a King room and I didn't feel comfortable with them staying up partying at night and then bothering me when they slink back into the room.

I could have probably gone to my boss and had him sort it out, but I feel like I'm a big girl and got myself into this mess, I have to see my way out of it.

The co-workers were really pissy but said they understood. Oh well, lesson learned, no more inviting co-workers on my business trips. It will probably be a little uncomfortable at work for the next few weeks, but I'm sure it will blow over.

Thanks for everyone's advice, I appreciate it.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

Sounds like you did the right thing. And I believe your professional attitude is why your boss does all of this for you. You were smart handling it and not asking him to sort it out. Great job!!

 

[keenercam]

Kudos to you for having the courage and maturity to deal with it yourself. I am sorry you had to be put in that awkward position.

 

[DebbieB]

I think you handled it great! Best to be honest and upfront!

 

[Disney Doll]

"Gee, I'm so sorry. X must have misunderstood when I invited her. This is a business trip for me and I won't be able to party and will be getting up early for class. I guess I'll have to just go by myself this time. Maybe we can do a just for fun trip sometime. (Not!) Sorry it didn't work out."

Remember, you are not apologizing about not taking them, you are only saying you are sorry they can't go on this business oriented trip with you. You are STUCK going by yourself because they've made it clear they don't want a business oriented trip. Make it clear by your behavior that YOU are the injured party because they don't want to accompany you on a business trip.

There is no way they can turn this one around on YOU. You have the room, you need a good night's sleep for your classes. THEY are the ones not willing to go under those circumstances. If they try to turn it around on you, act confused and turn it right back around on them. "I am so hurt that you are treating me like a way to get a cheap party weekend when you know I have business classes. "

I like this idea.

 

[Missy1961]

UPDATE:

I bit the bullet and was honest with my co-workers. I told them that I had originally invited co-worker #1 to go so I would have some company and not be alone (this was perfectly fine with my boss, he usually encourages me to take the family and make it a vacation/business trip). I then explained how it just wasn't feasible to have 3 people in a King room and I didn't feel comfortable with them staying up partying at night and then bothering me when they slink back into the room.

I could have probably gone to my boss and had him sort it out, but I feel like I'm a big girl and got myself into this mess, I have to see my way out of it.

The co-workers were really pissy but said they understood. Oh well, lesson learned, no more inviting co-workers on my business trips. It will probably be a little uncomfortable at work for the next few weeks, but I'm sure it will blow over.

Thanks for everyone's advice, I appreciate it.

I think you handled it the best way. And I bet if the boss ever hears about this, he'll be glad you handled it yourself--which can only be a good thing for you.

And every time it's a bit uncomfortable, just remember you handled it like an adult, and they did not.

 

[bunny]

Glad it all worked out.

I have to go home from work now. I can't concentrate anymore. I just keeping thinking about me, Johnny Depp and Orlando Bloom in bed together. Mind behave!

 

[Keli]

Don't worry about their attitude, they lost their free trip. But the 1st co-worker wasn't fair at all to you in inviting someone without you're consent and they'll just have to deal. You weren't in the wrong here and you did what needed to be done.

 

[Stacerita]

You handled it great. Sorry they were pissy. Oh well, not their trip.

 

[Buckalew11]

good job!!! I do not think you'll be sorry. I hope they don't give you too much trouble at work. But otherwise, you're not losing much are you.

 

[Jillpie]

so wait a minute, we need details girl, what do you mean "pissy", like what did they say to you? Did they get mad? And are you still going on the trip, but alone now? Come back, we need more and would love every single detail please.