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[disneystacy]

It really isn't a matter of control. I am a stay home mom, hubby works his tush off to make a good life for us. It is supposed to be a family vaca... I sometimes just wish he would relax... The bottle of wine sounds like a good idea.... I should buy Indaba... That is what they have at AK!!

I'm sorry, but you probably work your tush off just as hard being a SAHM. You are intitled to a vacation just as much as he does.
If money issues is the reason he doesn't want to go I can respect that. But if its just because he is bugged by the mistake, the only one he is punishing is you and your kids. I assure you Disney will go on without your family this year.
I will tell you if it was my hubby and he made me cancel this trip because "he just wasn't feeling it", it wouldn't be a very happy time for him going foward. If he was unhappy before, he would now be given a reason to be uhappy.
Who died and made him sole decision maker?

 

[wdwfan16]

ugh!!! So I thought this was done..... But hubby calls this morning and tells me to call the airline and see what happens if I cancel our tickets!!! We are flying Southwest, so they will just give a a credit that has to be used within a year.... BUT still..... He is nad because he emailed a letter YESTERDAY and they haven't replied yet!! Give them a chance!!! It hasn't even been 24 hours. I am thinking I should just cancel and be done with it. No matter what they do it won't be good enough for him.

It's not even really DisneyWorld's fault, it is the online reservation company.... they are two different companies. I am sure they are noting our account and we are looking like major league complainers... no pixie dust for us!! UGH!!!!!

Your DH sounds like a bully, child and overly entitled at the same time.

So he will only accept CL because of a mistake!!!!

There are much bigger problems here then just $600.

 

[wdwfan16]

opps typo..... I meant to say "its NOT like they are trying to cheat us" ....


I think you are also right that DH is just using this as his "excuse" not to go. Although it really was his idea in the first place.... I didn't actually get excited until I started planning. I ordered super cute little dresses from Etsy, the kiddos have there little Disney Dollar Incentive charts up on the wall to earn spending money.... we are 36 days away!!

But I refuse to go and be miserable the whole week because of this silly mistake!!!

Wish I could find a way to make him happy....

What is this? Sounds like fun!

 

[labdogs42]

With all due respect, concerning your second point, she is the one that said they are not the type of people to have an extra $600 in an account to cover a mistake like this. She said it, not anyone else. She put it out there, twice in her first post.

If I didn't have an extra $600 to cover an error like this, I would most certainly cancel this trip and bank that $3,000. Then, when something like this happened again, I WOULD have some savings as a cushion and the error would be a non issue.

At some point common sense needs to prevail. Maybe her husband has come to that point.

OP later said that she would have to transfer the $600, it just wasn't in the right account. That question has been answered.

I think the "D"H just wants to be a pain in the neck. Hopefully he will get over himself soon. I already suggested leaving hime home! Although, no one noticed my other suggestion --buy him some "guy time" down there -- a Segway tour or a round of golf or something to help him relax on his well-deserved vacation.

 

[rysmomma242]

What is this? Sounds like fun!

DH printed out little Mickey Dollars and charts for each kiddo. They earn them for picking up toys, eating dinner, DD gets one if she uses the potty. It us fun... But they can lose them for poor behaviors too, biting is the big one right now for DD.

 

[apnep]

DH printed out little Mickey Dollars and charts for each kiddo. They earn them for picking up toys, eating dinner, DD gets one if she uses the potty. It us fun... But they can lose them for poor behaviors too, biting is the big one right now for DD.

Well it sounds like he's not all bad! Sit down and chat with him a while and tell him how you feel. Maybe you'll get lucky and find out what he's thinking.

Ang

 

[rysmomma242]

He really is an amazing guy, just overworked and stressed out. He does deserve some down time, hoping for a babysitter night so that we can go out just the two of us while at Disney.

 

[wdwfan16]

DH printed out little Mickey Dollars and charts for each kiddo. They earn them for picking up toys, eating dinner, DD gets one if she uses the potty. It us fun... But they can lose them for poor behaviors too, biting is the big one right now for DD.

Thanks

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

He really is an amazing guy, just overworked and stressed out. He does deserve some down time, hoping for a babysitter night so that we can go out just the two of us while at Disney.

Is there any chance you can get a sitter soon? It sounds like some r and r is a necessity. Especially if he doesn't usually act like this.

 

[maxiesmom]

He needs to understand that HE is not the only one looking forward to or going on this trip! It just sounds like someone needs to put his big boy undies on and deal with it...sorry...JMO.

I do hope it all works out for you.

AGREE!!! Tell your hubby to suck it up. His life isn't ruined. Sometimes businesses make mistakes, and Disney is a business above all. They fixed the mistake. Tell hubby to stop whining, put his big boy pants on, and get ready to go to Disney World.

 

[secretpantssam]

I would try to distract him for a few days and get his mind off of it and he'll probably forget about it and just have a good time on the vacation. Tell him you worked everything out and not to worry. Occasionally we all reach our breaking points over silly things and we can't see the forest for the trees. If he keeps worrying about it, he'll just keep getting mad...but if he steps back for a moment and calms down, he might realize later how silly he was to get all worked up.

Sometimes if I have a stressful week at work, something silly like this would get me unnecessarily worked up. He may just need some chill time, but I think you'll end up having a great vacation!

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

With all due respect, concerning your second point, she is the one that said they are not the type of people to have an extra $600 in an account to cover a mistake like this. She said it, not anyone else. She put it out there, twice in her first post.

If I didn't have an extra $600 to cover an error like this, I would most certainly cancel this trip and bank that $3,000. Then, when something like this happened again, I WOULD have some savings as a cushion and the error would be a non issue.

At some point common sense needs to prevail. Maybe her husband has come to that point.

How does her claiming she doesn't have an EXTRA $600 in her low interest savings/checking account to cover the check lead to an invitation to scrutinize her financial situation? She may not keep that much in that bank account, she may have a paid off mortgage, $50,000 in a money market, but I shouldn't speculate because it is NOMB! She didn't ask for financial advice about affording WDW, she asked how to fix a WDW/bank error, and was venting because she received no apology for it.

Now I see the marital advice is starting.

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

You go, hrh!

 

[DVCBELLE]

How does her claiming she doesn't have an EXTRA $600 in her low interest savings/checking account to cover the check lead to an invitation to scrutinize her financial situation? She may not keep that much in that bank account, she may have a paid off mortgage, $50,000 in a money market, but I shouldn't speculate because it is NOMB! She didn't ask for financial advice about affording WDW, she asked how to fix a WDW/bank error, and was venting because she received no apology for it.

Now I see the marital advice is starting.

I agree

My DH gets mad over stupid things sometimes....

You never know what mught set someone off on an issue - hardly worth declaring her DH as controlling, their marriage in trouble and on the verge of financial ruin!

 

[jagruti6]

DH printed out little Mickey Dollars and charts for each kiddo. They earn them for picking up toys, eating dinner, DD gets one if she uses the potty. It us fun... But they can lose them for poor behaviors too, biting is the big one right now for DD.

Sounds like he wanted to go at some point. Maybe he is worried or stressed about something he hasn't yet shared with you? I think the bottle of wine is probably a good idea. Maybe after you get to the bottom of whats really bothering him just don't mention the vacation for a week or so. Give him some space maybe he'll come around.Hope it works out for you!

 

[C.Ann]

How does her claiming she doesn't have an EXTRA $600 in her low interest savings/checking account to cover the check lead to an invitation to scrutinize her financial situation? She may not keep that much in that bank account, she may have a paid off mortgage, $50,000 in a money market, but I shouldn't speculate because it is NOMB! She didn't ask for financial advice about affording WDW, she asked how to fix a WDW/bank error, and was venting because she received no apology for it.

Now I see the marital advice is starting.

 

[Vacation Lover]

Everyone keeps saying that DH is a bully, but I totally see his side. They had a bad experience last time and he's probably has some qualms all along about the same thing happening again this time. Then the bank thing happened without even an apology from Disney and what would normally be a minor issue is magnified in his mind because of the previous experience.

OP, I would try calling one more time. Make sure you get a supervisor in customer relations. Say something like this:

We vacationed with you last year and have reservations this May. Last year we didn't have a great experience because (problem A) and (problem B--just give the 2 major problems, and don't overload them with details). I was able to talk my husband into giving Disney a try one more time for our daughter's birthday in May. Unfortunately we have already had a little problem come up: (explain overcharge issue). I realize you're doing everything you can to rectify the situation, but to my husband, that's simply not enough. He feels that this small error is an example of what is to come in our upcoming trip, and that, combined with the problems of the last trip, has caused him to want to cancel our trip. I'm doing everything I can to change his mind, and I'm asking you if there's anything you can do right now--not when/if we check in--to help me convince him to go. It doesn't have to be anything big; I'm just looking for something to show him that, yes, Disney does want our business.

You probably won't get the upgrade he's looking for, but maybe they'll send you something that says "sorry for your troubles." Good luck!

 

[arihillfarm]

I'm sorry, but you probably work your tush off just as hard being a SAHM. You are intitled to a vacation just as much as he does.
If money issues is the reason he doesn't want to go I can respect that. But if its just because he is bugged by the mistake, the only one he is punishing is you and your kids. I assure you Disney will go on without your family this year.
I will tell you if it was my hubby and he made me cancel this trip because "he just wasn't feeling it", it wouldn't be a very happy time for him going foward. If he was unhappy before, he would now be given a reason to be uhappy.
Who died and made him sole decision maker?

Edited my post as it seems it came off as attacking the OP's DH instead of my intention which was to share what I would do in this situation (which works for my DH and I, a snap back to reality of sorts) and also feeling frustration for the OP. Sorry....

-Astrid

 

[RMOTHERHUBBARD]

A few years ago Disney Cruise line did a similar thing and charged us double what they should have. I went to my bank branch office explained what happenned and they handled everything. I gave the bank the disney information. It took about a week or so for the funds to show up in my checking account. However, the bank noted it in my bank file and I had no issues with overdraft fees or checks bouncing.

 

[Vacation Lover]

deleting post.... people are too nasty to my hubby.... not interested in their opinions anymore

If it's any consolation, I totally get where your DH is coming from (as I mentioned in my post above.) I see you're new to the DIS. People on these boards can be very opinionated. In some ways, that's good--you get a bunch of people giving you advice and looking at things in a way that you never would. Unfortunately you're also going to get some people who don't express themselves very diplomatically. Any time I post something here, I think to myself, these people do not know me; they can't hurt my feelings if I don't let them.

Good luck to you; I hope you can work things out and have a wonderful vacation. Please keep those of us who have actually tried to help (and not judge) you updated.