Decipher this from my psycho Father

[Beth76]

First of all, at least he sent you a card. My DH didn't get a card from either of his parents yesterday. His mom did call though. Back to your card, since he hand-wrote the message I'm inclined to think the way you do. I don't really know why I think that. If it had been the greeting card that said that, I might side with the others in that it was meant to be cute (even though you wouldn't take it that way). But, for some reason since he actually wrote that, to me that just seems like he's taking a jab at you. And I also think the $33 check is rather insulting. I think I would rather receive nothing (just the card) than that. So, I'm not even sure I would send a thank-you for that.

Here's to many happy birthday wishes!!!

 

[Cindyluwho]

He sent me money too. Would you take it or return it if there were bad feelings? It was 33 dollars, my age as of tomorrow. I sit here thinking, man I will be hurting him financially when I turn 70!

I have a suggestion - donate the money to your favorite charity. It will make you feel so much better, I guarantee it! When my DD was 2 my mother sent her a Christmas gift, I was beside myself angry, that woman has no part in my life and I would kill her before I would let her or her pervert husband near my daughter. My dearest friend since 2nd grade suggested that I send the toys to charity. You know what? I felt so much better. Some other child had a wonderful Christmas toy. It was just kind of a "cleansing" moment. Deep breaths, yoga breathing, in....out....

 

[Serena]

All you can do is speculate until you ask him what he meant.


Happy birthday

 

[2BigKIdz]

Maybe I just like to look on the sunny side of things, but I don't see it as being mean. He's smiling because you're his daughter means he's happy you're his daughter, and he knows you're upset with him and thus "stuck with him" as your father so that's where the "there's nothing you can do about it" comes in.

Edited to add: Happy Birthday!

This is my take as well.

And-

 

[aprilgail2]

I got my mom a plaque like that that said I'm smiling because your my mother, I'm laughing because there's nothing you can do about it" she has it hanging up in the living room LOL....

 

[kilee]

I think the saying is funny- if you have a good relationship. My dh has a similar relationship w/ his father. He too would of been hurt by a card like that. Now if it were his mom- he'd think it was hysterical. So, I think you were okay to feel that way. I know he's your dad, but sometimes it's best just to let go- phase them out.

 

[Keli]

I think that your relationship with your dad has gotten to the point that you can't see up from down and there's no way you can tell what he meant by that saying although usually it's not meant in a bad way.

I think you need to step back and take a mental break from him. If you possibly can, try to not think about him, analize anything he says or does, give him next to no thought. Sometimes if we can step back and take a break from a situation then we can see it clearly and make wise decisions on how we should shape the future in regards to it.