Dear Teenaged Daughter:

[PrincessKsMom]

When will you learn not to lie to me? When will you learn that you s**k at it? And for heaven's sake if you're going to lie, make it about something that can't be so easily found out -- YOU DIDN'T WALK THE DOG.

I know this is petty in the grand scheme of things, but you'd think she would have learned after the last time she lied ABOUT THE SAME THING and had to spend her extended weekend in the house with ME! Should I take her lying as a compliment -- that she enjoys spending time with me and can't wait to do it again?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

No, she has to improve her lying skills. How old is she? They do get better.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

She'll be 15 in a few days. She lies like her father -- he's horrible at it too and he too lies about stupid stuff. I guess I should be grateful she's doesn't have anything else to lie about but little stuff. I know it's normal and a part of separating and showing independence, blah, blah, blah, but it hurts. What really hurts is how she can look me right in my face and lie without flinching. It's only through circumstances that she gets caught. Last time she told me she came home after school to work the dog before going to her friend's house. My MIL called to ask where she was and why she never came home from school. I said, sure she did, she walked the dog. My MIL said, no the dog and I have been waiting on the porch since before she was dismissed from school.

Yes, this too shall pass. I just feel like I deserve better, you know?

 

[C.Ann]

Uh oh.........................................................

Someone's in trouble..

 

[PrincessKsMom]

I now have 2 cell phones.

 

[shortbun]

I was a great liar. My son sucks at it too. I just say 'I smell somebody's pants burning.' Lol! Good luck and enjoy the time with your daughter.

 

[PatsGirl]

Is lying normal and a part of separating? I wish I knew this back when DS was 15 because he majored in it. He also got caught most of the time Personally I chalk it up to "teenagers are stupid creatures". Love that you think she just misses you

 

[Buckalew11]

Three things I can't tolerate: a liar, a cheat, and a sneak.

If I were you, I'd make her time home on the weekend with you quite miserable. How much housework have you got?

 

[PrincessKsMom]

I was a great liar. My son sucks at it too. I just say 'I smell somebody's pants burning.' Lol! Good luck and enjoy the time with your daughter.

I was a good liar too. Don't parents always want better for their kids?

Thanks for letting me blow off a little steam and give myself a chance to get a little perspective. I have many friends who are having MAJOR issues with their kids. I'd feel badly complaining to them, so I come to the DIS and vent. I'm not trying to make light of her lying, but she really is a good kid. Sometimes she just needs a little one-on-one time with mom to get her back on the straight and narrow.

 

[MushyMushy]

No, she has to improve her lying skills. How old is she? They do get better.

My 19 year old hasn't gotten much better! I forget what he was lying to me about just yesterday, but I pointed at him and yelled, "OMG! You have your lying face on! You have the same lying face you had when you were 3!"


I've been pointing this out to him his whole life and he still hasn't figured it out.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

In addition to a second cell phone, she will be spending the weekend with me cleaning the house and decorating for Christmas (outside and inside), after doing her community service work on Saturday (working a local soup kitchen from 2:30-5:30). So why is it I feel like I'm being punished? I'm going to have to spend my weekend looking at the mopey, pleading face and listening to the loud exhales. Next weekend is still up in the air. Depending how this weekend goes, she may be in next weekend too. And no computer unless it's for homework. Told her if I see her name pop up once on Facebook tomorrow while I'm in work, she's definitely in next weekend.

Anyone else have any other ideas?

 

[JoiseyMom]

I now have 2 cell phones.

I have the same issue! But I also now have 2 Ipods! I caught my DD14 in a lie about missing school work (again, lies they know they are going to get caught in ). I took away her phone, Ipod, cd's, computer, recreational reading, movies (the new HP movie in IMAX) and tv. She can do HW and chores.

She actually asked her math teacher for extra HW today!

 

[Agri]

See if you can get her a chance to volunteer at a local animal shelter since she's lying about walking the dog. Let her see what happens to neglected animals.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

See if you can get her a chance to volunteer at a local animal shelter since she's lying about walking the dog. Let her see what happens to neglected animals.

Good idea!

 

[brenalexacamp]

and then comes the lying with the car! i would have never known if she didn't get the speeding ticket- or the smashed car! She still cannot understand why I cannot trust her? Plus just last night I found a note in my car- To whom it may concern, please excuse A for being absent. When I asked her if she ditched school, she said no, she was thinking about it- So you write a note while you are thinking about taking the day off? crazy!

 

[Buckalew11]

Or, lock her out of all the bathrooms and watch her wiggle when she needs to "go" then she can see how the doggie felt.
I'm joking, of course.

I think it'll be a Saturday to remember. To cover up the deep sighs, crank up the Christmas music and sing along as you decorate.

 

[momof1princess]

OP, i know how you feel. my 13 yo DD is a HORRIBLE liar, but that doesn't stop her. she almost always gets caught, and she KNOWS she gets in worse trouble for lying than for whatever she did or didn't do, but she lies to me anyway! it's SO frustrating! her main thing is lying about grades and schoolwork. she knows she gets in trouble for bad grades, so she'll lie about them, but i have to sign her progress report (sent every half-nine weeks) and report card (every 9 weeks), so i'm going to know what she made! overall, she's a really good kid, and always brings up any bad grade before the end of the 9 weeks, but GEEEEEEZ! my mama said i'd pay for my raising, and she was right!