Dear MIL...

[goofinoff]

Lighten up people!!!

 

[goofinoff]

Dear MIL,

A bikini trimmer, shampoo, and hairbrush are not gifts that make me feel warm and fuzzy. Keep your money and spend it on your son- he would appreciate something other than deodorant.

* And yes, these were all true gifts*

Oh my!!!!!

 

[Owlpost23]

Dear MIL,
Please quit buying the kids tons of little things that will never be played with because that's "what they picked when you took them shopping". They also showed you a couple of nicer things, but you said no to them because they were too expensive or you didn't like them. Yet you spent far more than those items cost on the little things.

And stop asking for lists to buy for the kids only to then insist that you can't find anything on the list & that you need to take the kids with you to find the items. Only to then complain that it's too hard to take the kids out shopping.

But, don't worry, I will sit in my corner of the festivities as always with a smile plastered on & not say anything that will rock the boat.

With a glass of wine in each hand,I hope!!!

 

[Heidict]

Dear MIL,

A bikini trimmer, shampoo, and hairbrush are not gifts that make me feel warm and fuzzy. Keep your money and spend it on your son- he would appreciate something other than deodorant.

* And yes, these were all true gifts*

Here's to hoping the bikini trimmer wasn't used!!

 

[jt'smom]

Dear MIL, please stop sending your grandchildren framed pictures with brag sheets, of your other favored grandkids! While you may love and adore the favored ones, your other grandkids don't care so much about having framed pics of their cousins playing instruments on stage during church services, lol.

 

[VandVsmama]

Dear ___,
Please stop sending us gift subscriptions to weird magazines we don't read and don't like. Also, books like Moby Dick and Huckleberry Finn are not age-appropriate books for kids in 1st grade. If you need some gift giving ideas, just ask!

Dear MIL,
Don't ask to be chauffeured around and then criticize my driving. Not when I am giving up a few hours of my time to drive you around town so you can go Christmas shopping. And when you say that you want my input/advice on what to get my kids for Christmas, don't get irritated with me when I tell you that child 1 or child 2 will absolutely not like clothing item X that you have selected. If you don't want my input, then don't ask. And when I take you to the Disney outlet at the outlet mall and point out a bunch of great options for toys for child 1 or child 2 (since you said that you want to get the kids 1 toy each), stop complaining. I purposely picked out affordable items that were within your budget, so stop complaining that it's "too expensive." And at the end of our shopping excursion, don't complain to me that I have to go out shopping with you a second time to find 1 toy per kid because I'm pretty much done with Driving Miss Daisy all around creation searching for the blessed Godforsaken 'affordable' toy that you like which doesn't exist. You are impossible to please sometimes.

Also, thank you for the fact that you no longer make the Cranberry Sauce From Hell. You've slaved over that dish for years and you are the only one who ever ate it. I mean, cranberry sauce is not meant to contain grapes, raisins, celery, walnuts, & cucumber in it. Please consider updating your cookbooks away from the 1962 era of aspic dishes.

 

[VandVsmama]

FWIW, my MIL's cooking is along the lines of this stuff.

http://www.riverfronttimes.com/food...y-recipes-dishes-so-awful-we-had-to-make-them



Plus, she often leaves stuff overnight on the kitchen counter to "cool off" and gives herself food poisoning the next day. I have no idea why she doesn't use modern refrigeration. And she gets offended when my DH tells her that there's no way he's going to eat anything she's prepared if it's been "resting" for >2 hours at room temperature.

 

[DisAuntie]

If a gift is that important to you, by all means vent away. And no guilt trip was intended, is it not ok for me to post what I have actually said to my mil? Or is it only negative stuff that is allowed? If you feel guilty, that's on you not me.

And yes people die every day, but you have no idea what my mil went through. I don't think its so wrong to remind some people what is and isn't important. People are, gifts are not.

A million times this.

 

[Diane♥Disney]

Dear MIL

If you are going to buy Christmas presents for your grandchildren, it would be nice to include ALL of them, but if you must only buy for your favorites, please DO NOT hand them out in front of the grandchildren you didn't buy for.

 

[Paradise18]

Dear MIL,

Let me guess - you bought 50 towels at a "going out of business" sale?? At the current rate of gift giving, I will own all 50 in about 4 years .

 

[Hikergirl]

Dear MIL

If you are going to buy Christmas presents for your grandchildren, it would be nice to include ALL of them, but if you must only buy for your favorites, please DO NOT hand them out in front of the grandchildren you didn't buy for.

That is really horrible

 

[Pixiedustaway]

That is really horrible

Dear MIL

If you are going to buy Christmas presents for your grandchildren, it would be nice to include ALL of them, but if you must only buy for your favorites, please DO NOT hand them out in front of the grandchildren you didn't buy for.

What really?? Why on earth would she do that????

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Dear MIL

If you are going to buy Christmas presents for your grandchildren, it would be nice to include ALL of them, but if you must only buy for your favorites, please DO NOT hand them out in front of the grandchildren you didn't buy for.

Yeah I'm with others I don't get it. Can she not understand how that might be hurtful for the kids who visibly see others getting gifts but not them? It's not really the gifts perse but that their own grandmother willingly gifts her other grandkids something but then other grandkids nothing. Maybe it's time the gift-giving from her happens when you guys aren't there if possible.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

Dear MIL: If this Turkey of yours is as good as it looks, we're in for a real treat.

JUST a wee bit dry.

 

[mom2rtk]

Dear MIL

If you are going to buy Christmas presents for your grandchildren, it would be nice to include ALL of them, but if you must only buy for your favorites, please DO NOT hand them out in front of the grandchildren you didn't buy for.

Honestly, with that going on, I would probably start staying home on Christmas.

 

[goofyernmost]

I had a great MIL. She liked me and I liked her. Unfortunately, she passed away about 10 months after we got married. Now my FIL, we'll I hope he burns in hell forever. He was judgmental and caused my wife nothing but pain. She was already on the edge due to mental illness, but, he pushed her over more then once. When we got engaged I was walking around outside their house when he came up and said to me... "you realize that you marrying my daughter is like cutting off my arms and legs". Hmm! let's do that and see which one is worse. He never really bothered me, which upset him no end, but, how he reacted to me did upset my wife. He had three kids and when he died, not a single tear was shed, and all anyone did was almost celebrate his departure. What a piece of work that guy was.

 

[goofyernmost]

FWIW, my MIL's cooking is along the lines of this stuff.

http://www.riverfronttimes.com/food...y-recipes-dishes-so-awful-we-had-to-make-them



Plus, she often leaves stuff overnight on the kitchen counter to "cool off" and gives herself food poisoning the next day. I have no idea why she doesn't use modern refrigeration. And she gets offended when my DH tells her that there's no way he's going to eat anything she's prepared if it's been "resting" for >2 hours at room temperature.

OK, what goes bad after two hours on the kitchen counter. Is the counter used to store horse manure? Germaphobics are beyond saving, so just go without. Bacteria, doesn't do much after the food has been cooked, it's before, but, then after it is cooked the bacteria is pretty much gone anyway. Overnight may be a different story, depending on what it is, but, which one is it two hours or overnight? Big difference there.

 

[mom2rtk]

OK, what goes bad after two hours on the kitchen counter. Is the counter used to store horse manure? Germaphobics are beyond saving, so just go without. Bacteria, doesn't do much after the food has been cooked, it's before, but, then after it is cooked the bacteria is pretty much gone anyway. Overnight may be a different story, depending on what it is, but, which one is it two hours or overnight? Big difference there.

I'd hesitate at 2 hours as well. And I'm nowhere near a germophobe.

 

[ols386]

Dear MIL, I wish you were here so I could know you.

 

[tarheelmjfan]

Dear MIL

If you are going to buy Christmas presents for your grandchildren, it would be nice to include ALL of them, but if you must only buy for your favorites, please DO NOT hand them out in front of the grandchildren you didn't buy for.

This is a real MIL gripe. I sympathize with you. Some people don't know how good they have it. My MIL bought her twin grandsons cars for their high school graduation. When it was DS's turn two years later, she said she didn't have the money to buy him one. She didn't give us a dollar toward his.