Dealing with depression

[Shugardrawers]

When you feel really down, like having a good cry, do you? I know there are plenty of things in my life to be bringing me down right now, and I take my meds and talk to the therapist my oncologist sends me to but sometimes I just want to break down ya know? Why is it some people think the best thing to do is ignore it, distract yourself. Is it really giving in if you just go on a good crying jag?

 

[beckmrk04]

I understand how you feel. I have been dealing with depression, and you know what- I think a good crying/bawling/sobbing fest is cathartic!! I feel better when I let it out, rather than holding it in. It's a release. Letting go of the sadness and negative emotions makes room for happier ones!

 

[Tracey1974]

If I had a doggie as cute as Petey- I don't think I'd ever be sad!

I cry every now and again, usually on Sunday nights when I know I have to go back to work after spending 3 days with DS. It usually happens right after we put him to bed. If I didn't cry, I don't know what I would do. It just seems therapeutic for me.

 

[MeanLaureen]

Shugardrawers. I know how you feel. I cry almost daily on my commute to or from work. Can't do it at home because it upsets Reilly too much.

 

[Froggyswife]

nothing wrong with a good cry.

 

[MouseWorshipin]

There CAN'T be a right and wrong about crying!

If you feel like it, let the tears go! If you don't, polish the coffee table.



How'd it go with the "Food Nazi?"

 

[MouseWorshipin]

I cry almost daily on my commute to or from work. Can't do it at home because it upsets Reilly too much.

I wish there were things to say that would help. There aren't. Have a (cyber) hug.

 

[Shugardrawers]

Shugardrawers. I know how you feel. I cry almost daily on my commute to or from work. Can't do it at home because it upsets Reilly too much.

Petey always seems to know when I'm upset. Sometimes I don't want his undying devotion, I just want him to leave me alone. He's a dog, what can you do? It's Bruce I worry about more. He was raised a typical man. Won't talk, won't show emotion. Thinks it's best to just sweep it under the rug. He gets upset to see me cry. I've been so down the past few days, it's been a long weekend at my house trying to hide it.

Somehow, Lauri, I knew you'd understand. I thought about pming you but didn't want to bug you.

 

[HERSEY]

It's ok to cry. I think we all do it sometimes. Men are fixer just like some Women they are uncomfortable when there is something they can't fix. They need to know it's ok not to fix everything and that you just need to cry just for crying sake. I chose the shower it just seems appropriate, it's cleansing.

 

[Shugardrawers]

How'd it go with the "Food Nazi?"

Not well and I'm afraid that may be part of the problem. I paid her $80 to rag me out for an hour and a half. She made some good suggestions I hadn't thought of but was really condescending. With her and both my doctors on red alert about all this it scared me straight. But I'm not enjoying my food anymore. I worry all day about not getting enough calcium or protein. Just to get down the 70gms of protein and 1500mg of calcium I've been ordered I'm stuffed all day and I find I'm sick of eating. There's no room for anything yummy either. No cake or banana bread for me. I'm too busy choking down cottage cheese and peanut butter. It's like losing a good friend when you can't comfort yourself with your favorite treats.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I am so sorry...I cannot believe you went paid money to see someone so insensitive.
{{{HUGS}}}

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

Dear Ms. Shugardrawers,

From what I've read in your posts, you have a lot in your life going on right now. If it helps you to cry, then go ahead (out of hearing by your husband). Crying is part of the grief process and you are dealing with the loss of your good health.

Something helped me when I went through depression a few years ago. I was advised to take an assertiveness course, of all things! But for mental health sake, you can't keep your thoughts and opinions locked up inside you, simmering away. If you can be honest, without hurting another feelings or causing a fight (which may be good in the long run), you will feel much better.
I found I had to say things knowing they would stir the pot and ready to face the consequences.

Also, did you know that 80% of people with depression are also suffering from anxiety? It might help you to look into anxiety with your therapist. I bought a cognitive-type anxiety treatment program (tapes) and got a lot out of them.

 

[hiwaygal]

When you feel really down, like having a good cry, do you? I know there are plenty of things in my life to be bringing me down right now, and I take my meds and talk to the therapist my oncologist sends me to but sometimes I just want to break down ya know? Why is it some people think the best thing to do is ignore it, distract yourself. Is it really giving in if you just go on a good crying jag?

I once read a quote that said something like "tears are soap for the soul"...

I love that quote!

Tears are very healing and when I feel like I need a good crying jag, I put on a Disney movie (very few don't make me cry) and just let the tears flow!

It's not giving in...it's shedding all the stress and worries and everything else so you can see everything more clearly.

Hope you feel better...

 

[dcentity2000]

Medication aside, there are some natural ways to put a dent in your feelings of depression. Try eating some sweet foodstuff - apparently, the foods that tickle your fancy the most possess an anti-depressant quality, helping to soothe and relax. If your depression is causing difficulty in sleeping, try eating a salad with or as your dinner - certain common constituents possess a hypnotic effect and will help you drift off to sleep.

And of course, if you feel you need to, cry. Let it all out. It won't fade away with the sobs, but at least it may help. Bottling things up is not the way to go because if you stop yourself from crying on the outside, you'll only cry on the inside.

Keep well



Rich::

 

[MeanLaureen]

Somehow, Lauri, I knew you'd understand. I thought about pming you but didn't want to bug you.

Sweetie.. you'd never bug me. PM me anytime. You have my phone number too, right?

And don't forget - you, me, Petey, Reilly and the Three Dog Bakery soon!

 

[Christine]

I think crying is a wonderful thing! If you can do it, go for it. I think it helps.

I struggle a LOT with anxiety, which causes depression. I also have some health issues (previous thyroid cancer, breast scares, and much fatigue). There are days that I am so focused on my health or anxiety or both of them that I wouldn't mind getting hit by a truck! I tell myself "I'm just going to go home, crawl in bed, and have a good cry." But you know what? I can't. Try as I might, I cannot cry. And I think it would do me good. It's almost like I need the release. The fact that I can't cry (most times) tells me that something else is probably wrong, and then the whole worrying cycle starts...

But, if you can manage it, I think you should go for it.

 

[MouseWorshipin]

Not well and I'm afraid that may be part of the problem. I paid her $80 to rag me out for an hour and a half. She made some good suggestions I hadn't thought of but was really condescending. With her and both my doctors on red alert about all this it scared me straight. But I'm not enjoying my food anymore. I worry all day about not getting enough calcium or protein. Just to get down the 70gms of protein and 1500mg of calcium I've been ordered I'm stuffed all day and I find I'm sick of eating. There's no room for anything yummy either. No cake or banana bread for me. I'm too busy choking down cottage cheese and peanut butter. It's like losing a good friend when you can't comfort yourself with your favorite treats.

I don't know why so many nutritionists are conedescending. I'm sorry about that.

I hope this is a temporary thing for you and that you can have a little cake soon.

 

[PeterPanette]

Shugardrawers. I know how you feel. I cry almost daily on my commute to or from work. Can't do it at home because it upsets Reilly too much.

And MeanLaureen, I know how YOU feel! Back when I was in the corporate world, I cried as I was driving into work, and cried as I was driving home. I used to joke with people about how that group "Drivin' 'N Cryin" was named after me!

Hugs to you, Shugardrawers. There's not a THING wrong with crying. It is a much needed release, as a previous poster said. Your friends and family or co-workers might try to shush you or tell you to "smile", or "be strong". They may mean well, but what a load of crap! When we try to comfort someone we love by saying, "awww, don't cry", what we're really saying is, "You're making me feel uncomfortable and helpless by crying....so stop it!"

Go ahead girl! Let it out! It's part of the healing process.

 

[Laurajean1014]

Let the nutritionist know that she is aggrevating you or making you upset. If she knows that you are getting upset, she will modify her tune, because she will be responsible for your emotional eating.

Is your nutritionist part of a group? Or does she/he have their own practice?

Reading this thread, I realized that I rarely cry. Although, I did last night when I watched a biography of Mickey Mantle and watching him go through all the pain of injury, mental anxiety/fear of Hotchkins Disease, etc.

Whenever I feel down, I think of all the good in my life. It's not a remedy for everyone, but it does work for me. Best to you.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

Crying can be a very good thing. In the last 10 months, I've cried tons. I cry almost everyday. If not every day, then at least 3-4 times a week. Unfortunately (or fortunately) I spend a lot of time alone, so I don't have to worry about someone seeing me. Which is a part of my own personal problem.

So if you feel like crying, go right ahead. I've often cried in the shower too.