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[alanapapa]

So DW just returned from dropping DD8 (a second grader) off at an overnight birthday party for a "new girl" in DD school. She walked in and found out that the girl is a fourth grader and most of the kids there were in 4th or 5th grade and the single mom in charge seemed overwhelmed already. DW made a VERY quick decision that DD would only be staying until 10:30. Fortunately DD didn't throw a tantrum so DW said it came off as though they had planned it before they got there.

She is feeling a bit guilty and second guessing that call. I'm giving her huge credit and .

What do you guys think? Would you have let your 2nd grader stay at an overnight of kids all 2-3 years older than her when she didn't really know any of them very well? Are we overreacting?

I don't think you and your DW are overreacting. I think something is fishy here. My DW thinks you might be overreacting slightly but agrees that something sounds weird having a 2nd grader with 4ht and 5th graders at an overnight party.

 

[DisDadDoc]

So DW just returned from dropping DD8 (a second grader) off at an overnight birthday party for a "new girl" in DD school. She walked in and found out that the girl is a fourth grader and most of the kids there were in 4th or 5th grade and the single mom in charge seemed overwhelmed already. DW made a VERY quick decision that DD would only be staying until 10:30. Fortunately DD didn't throw a tantrum so DW said it came off as though they had planned it before they got there.

She is feeling a bit guilty and second guessing that call. I'm giving her huge credit and .

What do you guys think? Would you have let your 2nd grader stay at an overnight of kids all 2-3 years older than her when she didn't really know any of them very well? Are we overreacting?

No way. Your wife made the right call, Ben!

 

[theduck619]

So DW just returned from dropping DD8 (a second grader) off at an overnight birthday party for a "new girl" in DD school. She walked in and found out that the girl is a fourth grader and most of the kids there were in 4th or 5th grade and the single mom in charge seemed overwhelmed already. DW made a VERY quick decision that DD would only be staying until 10:30. Fortunately DD didn't throw a tantrum so DW said it came off as though they had planned it before they got there.

She is feeling a bit guilty and second guessing that call. I'm giving her huge credit and .

What do you guys think? Would you have let your 2nd grader stay at an overnight of kids all 2-3 years older than her when she didn't really know any of them very well? Are we overreacting?

Not at all. They only have their innocence for a short time it seems. You never know what she would be exposed to by the older girls. We had some friends come over during the early fall and their 6 year old was showing my girls that she learned to tongue kiss on the playground. Absolutely heartbreaking to see this behavior from kids that young

 

[theduck619]

Just got done watching Green Lantern, kind of disappointed.

 

[twokids0204]

So DW just returned from dropping DD8 (a second grader) off at an overnight birthday party for a "new girl" in DD school. She walked in and found out that the girl is a fourth grader and most of the kids there were in 4th or 5th grade and the single mom in charge seemed overwhelmed already. DW made a VERY quick decision that DD would only be staying until 10:30. Fortunately DD didn't throw a tantrum so DW said it came off as though they had planned it before they got there.

She is feeling a bit guilty and second guessing that call. I'm giving her huge credit and .

What do you guys think? Would you have let your 2nd grader stay at an overnight of kids all 2-3 years older than her when she didn't really know any of them very well? Are we overreacting?

HUGE difference in maturity from 2nd grade to 4th/5th grade.

100% the right decision.

Two thumbs up for DW >> <<

 

[twokids0204]

Just got done watching Green Lantern, kind of disappointed.

I thought it was ok...

I just rented:

Hangover II
Larry Crowne
Cowboys and Aliens.

Wife is out at her work Holiday party. We've got a week to watch 'em...

 

[RodBelding]

What do you guys think? Would you have let your 2nd grader stay at an overnight of kids all 2-3 years older than her when she didn't really know any of them very well? Are we overreacting?

I think your wife made the right call, def.

 

[GoHerd1028]

Just got done watching Green Lantern, kind of disappointed.

I have debated on whether or not to put that in the netflix que or not....Last week we watched Captain America and this evening we watched Thor...I think I liked Thor better but they are both good movies....would love to see Disney do something with the Marvel heros as far as a land of their own or something.

 

[twokids0204]

I have debated on whether or not to put that in the netflix que or not....Last week we watched Captain America and this evening we watched Thor...I think I liked Thor better but they are both good movies....would love to see Disney do something with the Marvel heros as far as a land of their own or something.

How ya feeling Steve?

Pain subsiding?

 

[GoHerd1028]

How ya feeling Steve?

Pain subsiding?

I think I am doing pretty good...for the most part....still have some buringing and occasional bladder spasm but I think that is to be expected for a few days...glad that I traded my call this weekend for next weekend...when I am on my feet walking much it seems to make the spams more. I am not complaining though..this is much easier than having the stone!!!

 

[DisDadDoc]

Just got done watching Green Lantern, kind of disappointed.

I agree. Disappointing

 

[DisneyFed]

Does anyone really get any work done on Friday afternoon?

Yes...I did paperwork for last night....then took a nap

 

[jbschafer]

No I think your wife made the right call. There is a big difference in maturity level in that age difference. I would have done the same thing...unless I knew the other kids and their families VERY well

For me, I am overprotective dad so I probably would not. And, my DW probably would not either. 4th grade is one thing, but 5th grade is a whole other issue, as well as finding a single mom overwhelmed. On the flip side, my 4th grader is as mature as my 2nd grader. My 2nd grader (age 7) also wears size 6 women's shoes and is almost the same height and weight as my 4th grader.

I don't think you and your DW are overreacting. I think something is fishy here. My DW thinks you might be overreacting slightly but agrees that something sounds weird having a 2nd grader with 4ht and 5th graders at an overnight party.

No way. Your wife made the right call, Ben!

Not at all. They only have their innocence for a short time it seems. You never know what she would be exposed to by the older girls. We had some friends come over during the early fall and their 6 year old was showing my girls that she learned to tongue kiss on the playground. Absolutely heartbreaking to see this behavior from kids that young

HUGE difference in maturity from 2nd grade to 4th/5th grade.

100% the right decision.

Two thumbs up for DW >> <<

I think your wife made the right call, def.

Thanks Gentlemen. In the end it MIGHT have been overreacting, but it was the right decision. DD came home about 10:00 having had a BLAST but also ready to come home. She said the others treated her very well but she did feel a little bit like the cute little sister rather than the equal peer. When DW went to pick her up several other girls had gone home and the remaining three were getting ready to head to bed. (of course we all know that going to bed and going to sleep are two different things).

In the end, DD was happy and remains just a bit more innocent than if she had spent the night (six year olds tongue kissing Duck??) and will be in a lot better mood tomorrow than if she had spent four or five more hours giggling in the dark.

Thanks again for the words of encouragement. Makes DW and myself both feel a bit better.

 

[baseballmickey]

checking in... missed out on the lazy friday I guess. I wasn't "working", but I was kept busy all day.

I can't speak for your wife, but mine would have hit me with the frying pan. And not the cute little non-stick aluminum one. She saves the big cast iron one for occasions like this.

Frying pans. Who knew? Right?

DW is starting a new job tomorrow (Sat). I'm excited for her. She'll be working at a jewelry store, which is her thing (she used to own a jewelry store when we first met, but due to the rising cost of gold, she closed it). Plus, it'll get her our to the house, which she really needs.

It's weird, she'll be working from 12-10 everyday (I believe she gets two Sundays off a month), but it's considered part time (she'll even be making less than me....when I was at my old job).

But hopefully, it won't be a long term gig.

Good luck to DW!

No. Some employers really should just start looking at a 4 day work week

Then no one would do anything Thursday afternoon...

I think we should just turn the clocks back one hour each night, sunday-thursday, giving us an extra hour of sleep for each of those 5 days... and then on Friday at noon, we "spring ahead" 5 hours to catch back up.

So DW just returned from dropping DD8 (a second grader) off at an overnight birthday party for a "new girl" in DD school. She walked in and found out that the girl is a fourth grader and most of the kids there were in 4th or 5th grade and the single mom in charge seemed overwhelmed already. DW made a VERY quick decision that DD would only be staying until 10:30. Fortunately DD didn't throw a tantrum so DW said it came off as though they had planned it before they got there.

She is feeling a bit guilty and second guessing that call. I'm giving her huge credit and .

What do you guys think? Would you have let your 2nd grader stay at an overnight of kids all 2-3 years older than her when she didn't really know any of them very well? Are we overreacting?

I add my as well. I think you made the right call.

 

[theduck619]

I have debated on whether or not to put that in the netflix que or not....Last week we watched Captain America and this evening we watched Thor...I think I liked Thor better but they are both good movies....would love to see Disney do something with the Marvel heros as far as a land of their own or something.

I agree. It would be cool to have some kind of interaction or themed events as well.

Happy Saturday guys

A high of 23 today for Indy! Man, I miss WDW.

 

[tutter99]

I think I am doing pretty good...for the most part....still have some buringing and occasional bladder spasm but I think that is to be expected for a few days...glad that I traded my call this weekend for next weekend...when I am on my feet walking much it seems to make the spams more. I am not complaining though..this is much easier than having the stone!!!

Glad to hear you're on the mend Steve.

Well, after taking DS to Lowes to build the second part of his Christmas train this morning it's time to start tackling the outdoor lights. I know, I'm way behind the curve but because of my genius plan to put hardwood in the front room instead of just putting up the tree, I'm about a week behind schedule. The good news is DW is speaking to me again (if she doesn't want me making spur of the moment renovations, she shouldn't take naps).

So what is everyone else up to?

 

[AirGoofy]

I think we should just turn the clocks back one hour each night, sunday-thursday, giving us an extra hour of sleep for each of those 5 days... and then on Friday at noon, we "spring ahead" 5 hours to catch back up..

I like it. Finally making DST make sense. Let's spring ahead Thursday at noon for more weekend time.

Just got done watching Green Lantern, kind of disappointed.

Haven't seen it yet. May be longer now.

 

[Goofy + 3]

So DW just returned from dropping DD8 (a second grader) off at an overnight birthday party for a "new girl" in DD school. She walked in and found out that the girl is a fourth grader and most of the kids there were in 4th or 5th grade and the single mom in charge seemed overwhelmed already. DW made a VERY quick decision that DD would only be staying until 10:30. Fortunately DD didn't throw a tantrum so DW said it came off as though they had planned it before they got there.

She is feeling a bit guilty and second guessing that call. I'm giving her huge credit and .

What do you guys think? Would you have let your 2nd grader stay at an overnight of kids all 2-3 years older than her when she didn't really know any of them very well? Are we overreacting?

I agree with her decision. My daughter wouldn't have wanted to stay anyway if she didn't know that many kids.

 

[SAHDad]

I have debated on whether or not to put that in the netflix que or not....Last week we watched Captain America and this evening we watched Thor...I think I liked Thor better but they are both good movies....would love to see Disney do something with the Marvel heros as far as a land of their own or something.

I thought Captain America was better than Thor, but they were both pretty good. I did not have high hopes for GL - and while I was not disappointed, I can't say that the movie really wowed me either. I keep hoping that DC can manage to make a decent superhero movie besides something in the Batman franchise,

THis morning was yet another day that the kids kicked me out of bed. DW has been working long hours lately (happens every year about now - company tries to use up the remaining budget for her department, so lots of extra work), and the kids miss her, since many nights she does not come home until they are in bed. So, in the wee hours of the morning, sometime around o-dark-thirty, they come into our room. The first one usually just manages to push me to the edge of the bed, but when the second comes in, I get kicked out and wind up on the couch. I've tried taking them back to their own rooms, but I get even less sleep, since it's move one, then the other, and then find out that the first has already come back into our room, and I pass the second in the hall as I am putting the first back in their own bed again, etc.

 

[DisDadDoc]

THis morning was yet another day that the kids kicked me out of bed. DW has been working long hours lately (happens every year about now - company tries to use up the remaining budget for her department, so lots of extra work), and the kids miss her, since many nights she does not come home until they are in bed. So, in the wee hours of the morning, sometime around o-dark-thirty, they come into our room. The first one usually just manages to push me to the edge of the bed, but when the second comes in, I get kicked out and wind up on the couch. I've tried taking them back to their own rooms, but I get even less sleep, since it's move one, then the other, and then find out that the first has already come back into our room, and I pass the second in the hall as I am putting the first back in their own bed again, etc.

That's rough. We managed to hold the line against kids in our bed citing "mom & dad need their time together". It's a hard line to hold but I think worth it in the long run. Takes a lot of commitment & a very united front from both mom & dad. Good luck!

Unexpected bonus to DD being sick today- she gets to miss her girl scout activity & frees up more family time! B-ball games this am, eating lunch at the new Chipotle in town, then buy & decorate tree. After that, family movie night (Elf, I think) & dinner/s'mores around the fire. DW birthday tomorrow & this is what she wants this weekend. Have a great day, gents!