DDA Chapter 27

[bethbuchall]

Laura's best friend (and the only one that she ever does anything with outside of school) stopped completely stopped talking to her, because Laura told her on Monday that she doesn't want to go to the prom. I know that I need to just stand back and stay out of it, but it breaks my heart. Laura is dead set on not going to prom, since she went last year and didn't really enjoy it. (Her boyfriend doesn't care either way.) Also, it is expensive to go to prom these days ($100/couple for tickets, $100+ for a dress, $40 to get hair done, $50+ for dinner, etc.), and she just feels that it's a waste of money. She said that there are other girls going that would be happy to have the friend in their group, so she's not completely leaving her out in the cold. She tried to talk to her yesterday, but the girl wouldn't speak to her. Laura texted last night that she was very sorry that she upset her and would be happy to do other things like help her pick out her dress but didn't get a response. This girl doesn't seem like the type to just stop talking and give up on the friendship over this, so I don't know if there is more to the story that I'm not getting. I don't know what else to say to Laura about it. It just makes me so sad. They should be enjoying the end of their senior year, and this has put such a damper on it. How long does it usually take for something like this to blow over? Or is it the end?

 

[Tammi67]

I don't know, Beth. We haven't hit that stage yet. to you and Laura. Hopefully they'll work it out.

 

[bethbuchall]

Thanks, Tammi! I just want to cry. Laura doesn't have a lot of friends that she goes out and does stuff with. She hangs around other people at school, but she had only two close friends. The other was a boy that also stopped talking to her when she found a boyfriend. He still won't talk to her a year later. That I almost understand. This just seems so trivial. She's tried to talk to her about it, but her friend is completely shutting her out. I hope that they can get past this. Someone else tried to mediate today, but the friend wouldn't admit that she was mad or that there was a problem. But she also wouldn't talk to Laura.

At least there is a fresh beginning in college.

 

[Glynis]

Oh, Beth! I'm so sorry this is happening to Laura. On a smaller scale, a similar thing happened to Katie and one of her best friends at the beginning of this school year. The friend's mother and I both tried to mediate, and it didn't do any good, at all. It's only now, with 5 weeks of school left, that they are back to talking at all. They're still not best friends, and I don't see that relationship ever getting back there, but they can talk and be civil. It's been a long road, and lots of tears have been shed, but there was nothing I could do to make it better.

Good luck to Laura!

 

[Glynis]

Beth - Is there any way that a compromise could be reached? Maybe Laura and her boyfriend could at least go out to dinner with the friend and her date. That way, they'd be together for part of the evening, anyway. Just a thought.

 

[MinnieMouseMom]

Laura's best friend (and the only one that she ever does anything with outside of school) stopped completely stopped talking to her, because Laura told her on Monday that she doesn't want to go to the prom. I know that I need to just stand back and stay out of it, but it breaks my heart. Laura is dead set on not going to prom, since she went last year and didn't really enjoy it. (Her boyfriend doesn't care either way.) Also, it is expensive to go to prom these days ($100/couple for tickets, $100+ for a dress, $40 to get hair done, $50+ for dinner, etc.), and she just feels that it's a waste of money. She said that there are other girls going that would be happy to have the friend in their group, so she's not completely leaving her out in the cold. She tried to talk to her yesterday, but the girl wouldn't speak to her. Laura texted last night that she was very sorry that she upset her and would be happy to do other things like help her pick out her dress but didn't get a response. This girl doesn't seem like the type to just stop talking and give up on the friendship over this, so I don't know if there is more to the story that I'm not getting. I don't know what else to say to Laura about it. It just makes me so sad. They should be enjoying the end of their senior year, and this has put such a damper on it. How long does it usually take for something like this to blow over? Or is it the end?

Beth, I'm so sorry. I hate girly drama! Kaelyn is the same way. She only really has (had) 2 close friends. Now they're not talking. The one girls' boyfriend called K a fat cow and of course, she takes offense to that so K's boyfriend called that girl a b****h and that got back to her so now she won't talk to K and says that her boyfriend had a right to call K a cow. The 2nd girl won't stand up to girl #1 so she follows along.

 

[bethbuchall]

Oh, Beth! I'm so sorry this is happening to Laura. On a smaller scale, a similar thing happened to Katie and one of her best friends at the beginning of this school year. The friend's mother and I both tried to mediate, and it didn't do any good, at all. It's only now, with 5 weeks of school left, that they are back to talking at all. They're still not best friends, and I don't see that relationship ever getting back there, but they can talk and be civil. It's been a long road, and lots of tears have been shed, but there was nothing I could do to make it better.

Good luck to Laura!

Beth - Is there any way that a compromise could be reached? Maybe Laura and her boyfriend could at least go out to dinner with the friend and her date. That way, they'd be together for part of the evening, anyway. Just a thought.

Beth, I'm so sorry. I hate girly drama! Kaelyn is the same way. She only really has (had) 2 close friends. Now they're not talking. The one girls' boyfriend called K a fat cow and of course, she takes offense to that so K's boyfriend called that girl a b****h and that got back to her so now she won't talk to K and says that her boyfriend had a right to call K a cow. The 2nd girl won't stand up to girl #1 so she follows along.

I'm so sorry that your girls are going through this, too. Laura has always stayed away from drama (probably because she didn't have a lot of friends), so this is somewhat new for us. She was in a really close group of 4 girls all through elementary school. They abruptly dropped her in middle school (and we still don't know why).

Glynis, that is one of the compromises that she wanted to propose to the girl (along with going out to help her look for a dress), but she won't listen or talk right now. Maybe once she sorts through her feelings a little more...I don't know.

Thanks! It does make me feel better, though I wish that your girls weren't going through this, too.

 

[Disney Yooper]

Laura's best friend (and the only one that she ever does anything with outside of school) stopped completely stopped talking to her, because Laura told her on Monday that she doesn't want to go to the prom. I know that I need to just stand back and stay out of it, but it breaks my heart. Laura is dead set on not going to prom, since she went last year and didn't really enjoy it. (Her boyfriend doesn't care either way.) Also, it is expensive to go to prom these days ($100/couple for tickets, $100+ for a dress, $40 to get hair done, $50+ for dinner, etc.), and she just feels that it's a waste of money. She said that there are other girls going that would be happy to have the friend in their group, so she's not completely leaving her out in the cold. She tried to talk to her yesterday, but the girl wouldn't speak to her. Laura texted last night that she was very sorry that she upset her and would be happy to do other things like help her pick out her dress but didn't get a response. This girl doesn't seem like the type to just stop talking and give up on the friendship over this, so I don't know if there is more to the story that I'm not getting. I don't know what else to say to Laura about it. It just makes me so sad. They should be enjoying the end of their senior year, and this has put such a damper on it. How long does it usually take for something like this to blow over? Or is it the end?

It could go either way. I've had friends whose daughters had similar issues where it ended almost as quickly as it started and others that didn't end so well. Unfortunately, I got the worst possible scenario. Katrina and her best friend had a similar fall out in their senior year. The rift was never mended. I don't think I ever got the "whole story". Katrina is almost 26 (she was 17 when she graduated). They were inseparable - either at our house or her house. We ran into this friend just this Saturday at the grocery store. Even after all these years, we had to "avoid" being in the same area of the store as her. I'll keep Laura in my prayers that it ends better for her.

 

[babytrees]

Laura's best friend (and the only one that she ever does anything with outside of school) stopped completely stopped talking to her, because Laura told her on Monday that she doesn't want to go to the prom. I know that I need to just stand back and stay out of it, but it breaks my heart. Laura is dead set on not going to prom, since she went last year and didn't really enjoy it. (Her boyfriend doesn't care either way.) Also, it is expensive to go to prom these days ($100/couple for tickets, $100+ for a dress, $40 to get hair done, $50+ for dinner, etc.), and she just feels that it's a waste of money. She said that there are other girls going that would be happy to have the friend in their group, so she's not completely leaving her out in the cold. She tried to talk to her yesterday, but the girl wouldn't speak to her. Laura texted last night that she was very sorry that she upset her and would be happy to do other things like help her pick out her dress but didn't get a response. This girl doesn't seem like the type to just stop talking and give up on the friendship over this, so I don't know if there is more to the story that I'm not getting. I don't know what else to say to Laura about it. It just makes me so sad. They should be enjoying the end of their senior year, and this has put such a damper on it. How long does it usually take for something like this to blow over? Or is it the end?

I am so sorry this is happening to Laura. Something similar happened to Cassidy last year with two of her supposed "best" friends. It did put a damper on the end of the year activities. But guess what? She ended up reconnecting with a friend and getting closer to another friend. Both of these young ladies have been better friends than the other 2 have ever been. But I learned to keep my mouth shut, just like you would for a boyfriend, because they need to figure it out themselves.

 

[bethbuchall]

Thanks, Vicki and Theresa! We are still avoiding the boy over a year later, but he actually avoids us even more. I will try to keep my mouth shut now that I have offered the only input that I have. It helps to be able to "talk" about it.

 

[PNO4TE]

Good morning.

Elin, what is that in your signature???

It is a silly thing from an AKL thread that went on for 362 pages instead of being closed down at 250. No trips in our future (well... Kristin and Ashley leave next week for their Davey Jones Flower Power trip).

 

[mommykds]

Beth,
I am sorry Laura has to deal with this. She has made her feeling known to her friend & tried to make the effort..at this point there is nothing she can do. The other girl will either "come around" or she won't. Laura has done all she can do by saying she'd go dress shopping & trying to talk to her friend.
Girls are rough & can be catty & unforgiving at that age.

We have gone through this drama here too.

 

[tinknme]

Good morning

The sun is finally out again!

ETA: The sun was nice while it lasted

 

[Tammi67]

Good morning.

Wow, this is some crazy weather we're having!

 

[bethbuchall]

Good morning, DDA! No school here today due to flooded roads that are impassable to the buses. Fortunately, we're fine where we are.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

Good afternoon

We had a wonderful time at my brothers & I enjoyed my 2 days with my friend. Now it is back to house cleaning, laundry, ect.

Glad you had a nice time away!

Everything here is okay..our school budget passed which was awesome. I took a half sick day today and just laying around til my doctors appointment...
I may be going on a cruise this summer so im excited about that possibility!
hope everyone is having a good day

 

[PNO4TE]

Good morning, DDA!

 

[Tammi67]

Hello!

I was up watching the wedding before work today. Such a real life fairytale! Did anyone see Fergie's daughters and think that they looked just like Anastasia and Drizella, being upstaged by Cinderella??? And I think I need my Disney fix when I see a hidden mickey in her, uh, "hat?".

 

[bethbuchall]

Hello!

I was up watching the wedding before work today. Such a real life fairytale! Did anyone see Fergie's daughters and think that looked just like Anastasia and Drizella, being upstaged by Cinderella??? And I think I need my Disney fix when I see a hidden mickey in her, uh, "hat?".

I was just talking to someone about those outfits. Whoever designed them should be put out to pasture. The blue one on Princess Eugenie wouldn't be too bad without the bows and if the hemline were normal. Princess Beatrice needs to lose that horrid hat/fascinator that is completely obscuring her face. The coat is kind of cute.

 

[tinknme]

Good morning

I do not have a big sense of fashion, but if those hats are fashion than I am glad I don't