DDA Chapter 22

[bear74]

You DO NOT have an obligation to the parents or the kids. It is a JOB. Those kids will move on to new teachers and you will feel the same way about the next class. You need to realize that it it just a job, they will replace you and the kids will bond with the next teacher. We all feel like we have that obligation be it to patrons, coworkers...etc. The bottom line is that it is a job and you need to make an income just like everyone else. I would first secure a new job, then give a short notice, they didn't give you notice as to your pay cut afterall. That's my 2 cents. You are not a doormat and you will be just as valuable or more valuable to your next employer.

Deb said this so well that all I can say is Ditto.

 

[Tammi67]

Denise - If you are headed north next summer and are interested in history, you need to stop here! We have both Revolutionary and Civil War history as well as the lives of most of the people who were involved in that stuff. We will be lots of help once you get through SC and NC. I am also sorry to hear the economy is also affecting you all.

And don't forget Williamsburg and Jamestown too.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Beth - Dear Abby says "No one can take advantage of you without your permission." I would stop granting them permission. You have fallen into a mentality that is VERY common in nannies. They will justify all sorts of crappy treatment from their employers because they are convinced the kids will die if they leave. NO child has EVER died because the nanny quit. Really. And your resignation will not result in anyone's death, either. I promise. It is time to quit.

 

[Tammi67]

Here's the deal, Beth. You either keep your job and make adjustments, or you quit. If you decide to stay you need to have a heart to heart with J. Now that you are making equal pay, you need to explain to her that she needs to do equal work. That being said, if she doesn't, you need to just sit back. When she doesn't have a craft or lesson prepared, you need to just be able to sit there and stare at her. I would also let the powers that be know that you know how they flimflammed you and that you will be watching, and that things will definitely be different now. Good luck with whatever you decide.

 

[ReAnSt]

Would that make you & your cousins a party of 3? How old are the boys?

Would that make you & your cousins a party of 3? How old are the boys?

They are 12 and 15 but, Bobby's school trip to Florida is not until the 12th. So it wouldn't really work. I do want to take both of them to WDW so they have a proper trip. I am sure this trip will be hardly any time at WDW and he will be with friends from school, so it will be whatever and unplanned. Their 1st Disney experience was not planned and they did not enjoy it much.

IMO they have never had a Disney trip. The whole time I was in FL for 4 years, I kept telling there parents to bring them down for a trip to Disney or I would fly them down so they could visit. There were periods of time where my parents or brother came down so they could have came down and had someone to fly back with if their parents did not want to come. They never took me up on the offer.

The one summer while I was down there they called me and told me they were coming down in less then a month's time as Laura had a conference at Sea World. Well I already was going to be in PA during the time, they were going to FL. Turns out she knew about the conference for a year, never mentioned they were coming to FL. As if I would have known ahead of time I could have rearranged my schedule so I would have been in FL during that time.

Since they said they only wanted to go to Sea World since it was a short trip, I helped them plan their time there. Got them fun passes at SW so they could keep going to the park as much as they wanted. Helped them pick up what to do and plan out their time at the parks, so they could get the most of the time there.

I did mention to the about doing WDW, but they told me they did not want to go there. So I left that at that.

When they got back they talked about the wonderful time they had at SW. They were prepared for it, had several days at the same place, plus they could walk there from there hotel.

But they said they had a horrible time at Disney, everything closed early and just was not for them. They decided they were in FL, so they went and bought tickets and then went. Well duh you were not prepared for it. They chose to go to AK. I think they only got there around noon of course it closed early. I think they also may have went to EPCOT and only got there around noon. They thought because some of Future world closed early the whole park did. Just had no clue and did not have a positive experience.

Hence the reason I want them to have a good Disney trip at some point.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

Here's the deal, Beth. You either keep your job and make adjustments, or you quit. If you decide to stay you need to have a heart to heart with J. Now that you are making equal pay, you need to explain to her that she needs to do equal work. That being said, if she doesn't, you need to just sit back. When she doesn't have a craft or lesson prepared, you need to just be able to sit there and stare at her. I would also let the powers that be know that you know how they flimflammed you and that you will be watching, and that things will definitely be different now. Good luck with whatever you decide.

i agree with this--beth, im sorry things have gotten to this point for you!

 

[babytrees]

You DO NOT have an obligation to the parents or the kids. It is a JOB. Those kids will move on to new teachers and you will feel the same way about the next class. You need to realize that it it just a job, they will replace you and the kids will bond with the next teacher. We all feel like we have that obligation be it to patrons, coworkers...etc. The bottom line is that it is a job and you need to make an income just like everyone else. I would first secure a new job, then give a short notice, they didn't give you notice as to your pay cut afterall. That's my 2 cents. You are not a doormat and you will be just as valuable or more valuable to your next employer.

I agree with Deb also. I had to quit my teaching preschool teaching job with 2 weeks notice and the kiddos were sad but they loved their new teacher (and there was a huge turnover everywhere in that month...I was the only who didn't resign over the new dictatorship). It always saddens me when the church people seem to be the most underhanded.

 

[Glynis]

Beth - I think you've gotten some good advice here! Good luck with whatever you decide to do, but remember that you have to put your family first, and not the families of the students you teach. You have my prayers and support.

 

[lovesdumbo]

Thanks for all the comments on Emma's dress! She's still pretty shy in new situations so I was hoping it might serve as a bit of an ice breaker for her-even if other kids just said to her about it. She did say tonight that a few kids talked to her about it but she also said 2 boys asked her if she was a boy or a girl. At least she thinks they are just funny and isn't bothered by that.

Heidi - I just saw that the Osbourne lights start November 10th this year, that means we'll get to see them our November trips.

That is great for all of you with trips planned. One coworker went to WDW last Nov between Veteran's Day & Thanksgiving and said the crowds were really low. I wonder if Disney thought attendance was down due to no Osbourne Lights.

I've managed to work out the last 2 days after work This is a huge achievement for me as I HATE to workout. I know that it is for my own good and since the kids are at school and I'm already at the gym I decided it was time. Hopefully I can keep it up.

There was a big to do in our little village this morning. I haven't been able to find anything online, but the place was crawling with cops when I went to work at 4:45. Someone saw cops with a guy being held to the ground at 5:08 and Chris said there were still cops when he went to work at 8. He said there was a car laying on its roof in the ditch which I didn't see, but hey, it was dark. Maybe something will be on the news later

WTG!!!

YIKES about what was going on!!!

With the fires in California comes a haze in Colorado that seems to be semi-permanent...which makes it harder to breathe for Abi and I and in turn has contributed to a migraine I think. Man I've been a whiny puss lately.

My sister BIL and nephews are coming to town this weekend.

Hope you both find relief soon! Sounds like a fun weekend!

Yippie Skippie!!!!! Can't wait to see everyone

I had Dixie make the girls Easter dresses about 4 years ago....Abi is so picky and perfectionist about everything....nothing is going to please her but she is going to have to get a dress.

Sounds like Abi needs to learn how to sew!

this looks to be the front runner for the yearbook pic:

what do you all think??

That is a great photo!

And for Mama Melrose!!! Thanks for making the ADR. I can't wait to see you again, as well as Stephanie and Terry. Debbie and Richie will be old friends by then since we will meet next month teeth and I finally get to meet Elizabeth and her family. How much fun will we have?!?

Bernadette - Your ADRs look good! I would keep trying to move that Coral Reef one, unless you prefer to do CP on your departure day.

Now I'm thinking that CP doesn't look too good either-we would be really rushed to get back to Pop in time for our town car pick up. This morning we could have "purchased" 3 flights to MCO with reward tickets. Now we can't get any and that flight is up to $159 one way. We might have to fly down the day before. I'm thinking I should book either breakfast or lunch on our Cali Grill day as we only want to do a light OOP dinner there.

thanks for making the ADR

I have Aubrey today, I took her to my job and showed her off, it's been a long time since I took an infant anywhere, my hat's off to those of you who do it all the time. I'm really enjoying our day together though, she's getting around really well now and even though I laid out a blanket with all kinds of things for her to play with, she would head right off of it and find other things that intersted her, , she's nappinn now, it makes her tired doing the "Army crawl".

What a fun day with Aubrey!!! When do you get to take her to WDW????

What kind of car did you get? New cars are wonderful. I got a 2010 Honda Pilot a month ago (my 1st new car I've ever had). No more minivan! It has the satellite radio too, but I haven't subscribed yet. Guess I'm going to have too as the kids love Radio Disney!

I got a Toyota Venza. I just realized I get 3 months of XM Radio so that is nice. A coworker said her cousin declined renewal when they first offered it and then they called back and offered it to her cheaper.

I booked my one way towncar transportation for the December whirlwind weekend. I will share the car on the way back to the airport, but needed my own way on the way to AKL! Seems even more real now!

I can't wait to book airfare & towncar so my trip feels real! I just can't add a ticker til I have airfare.

I feel an obligation to the parents and kids.

You do NOT have an obligation to the parents & kids to be mistreated! The administration has an obligation to treat their staff in a Christian way!!!!!

 

[bethbuchall]

Thanks, all! You have all said what my best friend has been repeating since she found out. You are right. I'm allowing myself to be taken advantage of. The parents and kids will definitely survive without me. Sometimes I just feel like I am being petty and making it all about the money. Also, the parents will never know why I left, and I don't know what they will think of me. I guess I also feel like I gave them consent by not noticing it or questioning last year.

 

[my3princes]

I just booked a private tour for our Roatan, Honduras port day. We will be picked up at the dock, so a zip line tour, meet some monkeys and parrots, do a glass bottom boat/snorkel trip, lunch, shopping and beach. It looks like a spectacular day. We can't wait. The pricing seems really good and all the tripadvisor reviews are outstanding for the tour provider One port day down, 2 more to figure out.

 

[bethbuchall]

I just booked a private tour for our Roatan, Honduras port day. We will be picked up at the dock, so a zip line tour, meet some monkeys and parrots, do a glass bottom boat/snorkel trip, lunch, shopping and beach. It looks like a spectacular day. We can't wait. The pricing seems really good and all the tripadvisor reviews are outstanding for the tour provider One port day down, 2 more to figure out.

That does sound like a spectacular day!

 

[bear74]

I just booked a private tour for our Roatan, Honduras port day. We will be picked up at the dock, so a zip line tour, meet some monkeys and parrots, do a glass bottom boat/snorkel trip, lunch, shopping and beach. It looks like a spectacular day. We can't wait. The pricing seems really good and all the tripadvisor reviews are outstanding for the tour provider One port day down, 2 more to figure out.

sounds fun!

 

[tinker1bell]

Beth, I agree with what has been said here. Yes it would be sad to leave, but kids move up a class every year and change teachers every year. You have to do what is best for you.

Here at the rec our preschoolers have the same teachers for the two or three years they are in our preschool. When the one teacher left, the kids adjusted to the change quite well. Kids are more resilient than we give them credit for.

 

[tinker1bell]

Deb, the zip line tour sounds like fun. That is definately on my bucket list.

 

[MrsHeg]

Beth - Sorry you're having to go through this.

I could use a little spare Pixie Dust this way, DH is so fed up with his job right now I'm afraid he may give up his position. With the exception of our three night trip to Disney in August he's had two days off since July 5th, and he's worn out with no real end in sight. I know we should be grateful that he has a job, and we are, but if he steps down it will mean a substantial pay cut and I'm not sure how we'll manage with our current budget. I just pray that things calm down so the stress level will drop.

Bernadette - our plans right now are to bring Aubrey to Disney when she's three, there will be eight of us and we are considering renting a house with at least four bedrooms, a private pool, hot tub and grill. We would all go to a park in the morning and stay until lunch time, DH and I would bring Aubrey back to the house for a nap and then probably stay there and let her play in the pool and have dinner there. Brandon will have his choice to stay with us or go with the others. Of course this is in the early planning stage, we'll have to see what the future brings.

 

[tinker1bell]

Beth - Sorry you're having to go through this.

I could use a little spare Pixie Dust this way, DH is so fed up with his job right now I'm afraid he may give up his position. With the exception of our three night trip to Disney in August he's had two days off since July 5th, and he's worn out with no real end in sight. I know we should be grateful that he has a job, and we are, but if he steps down it will mean a substantial pay cut and I'm not sure how we'll manage with our current budget. I just pray that things calm down so the stress level will drop.

Bernadette - our plans right now are to bring Aubrey to Disney when she's three, there will be eight of us and we are considering renting a house with at least four bedrooms, a private pool, hot tub and grill. We would all go to a park in the morning and stay until lunch time, DH and I would bring Aubrey back to the house for a nap and then probably stay there and let her play in the pool and have dinner there. Brandon will have his choice to stay with us or go with the others. Of course this is in the early planning stage, we'll have to see what the future brings.

Debbie,,,here is hoping things will calm down for you and your family.

That trip sounds like fun.

 

[PNO4TE]

Thanks,Elin. I think the kids would love it. Are you talking about Williamsburg or something else? I know we also want to go to Monticello. Probably will be gone around 10 days.

Williamsburg and Charlottesville are both wonderful. Fredericksburg is a hidden gem! We have homes that belonged to George Washington and his family, Civil War battlefields aplenty, plantations, trolley tours of all this too. Check us out on the internet!

It will be a great trip no matter where you all decide to stop!

 

[PNO4TE]

Beth - you know what you have to do. You have gotten good advice. I hope you find something that will allow you to leave the wretched position you are in now.

I never thought I would feel this way, but I love having my XM radio in my car. I forked out the $$ for the next 3 years and never even thought about it. I love that choices!

 

[PNO4TE]

Debbie -