DDA Chapter 11

[Tammi67]

Elizabeth glad to hear the Black Pearl was not damaged. Hope your day improves

Me too!

 

[KristineN]

Remind me to never volunteer to be in charge of a fish extender exchange again....I am ready to go crazy(er)

 

[Tammi67]

Remind me to never volunteer to be in charge of a fish extender exchange again....I am ready to go crazy(er)

I am very afraid to ask.............



























What is a fish extender??????

 

[tinknme]

Remind me to never volunteer to be in charge of a fish extender exchange again....I am ready to go crazy(er)

Just the name of the exchange would have kept me away

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Remind me to never volunteer to be in charge of a fish extender exchange again....I am ready to go crazy(er)

Tammi - It's those things people hang on the outside of the doors on cruises. I only know that because Becky has posted about them before. You need to know this because you are going on a cruise, yes?

Kristine, I can NOT imagine what possessed you to become ensnared in such a project in the first place. IF you had asked my opinion (which you did not) I would have told you that was a stupid thing to volunteer for because it will cause all sorts of drama. So, now you know! I hope you get it all sorted out!

 

[yellowfish78]

Remind me to never volunteer to be in charge of a fish extender exchange again....I am ready to go crazy(er)

Tammi - It's those things people hang on the outside of the doors on cruises. I only know that because Becky has posted about them before. You need to know this because you are going on a cruise, yes?

Kristine, I can NOT imagine what possessed you to become ensnared in such a project in the first place. IF you had asked my opinion (which you did not) I would have told you that was a stupid thing to volunteer for because it will cause all sorts of drama. So, now you know! I hope you get it all sorted out!

I told her the exact same thing... I think she's hoping to get some mud from the Rasul to bring home.

 

[tinknme]

Carrots, Eggs & Coffee

A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee...You will never look at a cup of
coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things
were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and
wanted to give up, She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as
one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and
placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she
placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed
ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots
out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a
bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her
daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.'

'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and
noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg
and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter
smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 'What does it
mean, mother?'

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same
adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in
strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling
water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer
shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the
boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were
unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the
water.

'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your
door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain
and adversity do I wilt and be come soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat?
Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial
hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my
shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff
spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the
very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases
the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their
worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is
the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another
level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee
bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you
strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they
just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest
future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in
life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.

Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone
around you is crying.

You might want to send this message to those people who mean something to
you (I JUST DID); to those who have touched your life in one way or another;
to those who make you smile when you really need it; to those who make you
see the brighter side of things when you are really down; to those whose
friendship you appreciate; to those who are so meaningful in your life.

If you don't send it, you will just miss out on the opportunity to brighten
someone's day with this message!

May we all be COFFEE!!!!!!!

 

[KristineN]

here's ours

I am very afraid to ask.............

What is a fish extender??????

Just the name of the exchange would have kept me away

MEANIE MEANIE MEANIE

Tammi - It's those things people hang on the outside of the doors on cruises. I only know that because Becky has posted about them before. You need to know this because you are going on a cruise, yes?

Kristine, I can NOT imagine what possessed you to become ensnared in such a project in the first place. IF you had asked my opinion (which you did not) I would have told you that was a stupid thing to volunteer for because it will cause all sorts of drama. So, now you know! I hope you get it all sorted out!

No ME tags for you sister...RIP....yep, that was the sound of me tearing them up!

I told her the exact same thing... I think she's hoping to get some mud from the Rasul to bring home.

 

[marcij]

Marci - I did talk to Mom yesterday. She was feeling better and thought she would probably go to work today.
She was talking about driving down here with Diva for Thanksgiving. I think that's a HORRIBLE idea, but she likes to do things I am opposed to.
You may remember she drove down last year and spent the night in the Tom Thumb parking lot because she didn't want to "disturb" Ms. Selfish in the middle of the night. And she brought the guinea pig because there wasn't anyone in KS to watch it. Insane. But she HAS to come down so she can watch the babies on Black Friday while Ms. Selfish goes out shopping! Right. Good plan! Ms. Undetectable White Cells is going to drive down on Tuesday night after working all day, watch 2 germy toddlers all day on Friday, drive 9 hours back home on Sunday and work on Monday. Smack in the middle of her 12 Taxol infusions. Diva can help with the driving but Mom is going to be so fatigued she won't be able to function for days afterwards! The girls on the breast cancer thread said Taxol is bad for causing bone pain and neuropathy, which means Mom is going to have a hard time working if the side effects are severe. She should stay home and REST during the time she has off for Thanksgiving!

Now you are sorry you asked, aren't you?

No, not sorry. I hope writing it out made you feel a little better. If it made you feel worse, don't hold it against me for long...

Aren't you on her HIPPA? If the doc feels the same way, maybe he/she can tell her no extended car trips, no babysitting young children etc., or will she not listen to the advice? I know you can't enlist Ms. Selfish to help, so that's not an option. Maybe it will work itself out, where she doesn't feel bad, but is too tired to make the trip.

 

[my3princes]

Ok parents, I have a question.

I sent my cousin's an email about what to get the kids for Christmas. Kristy got back to me that the girls would love make-up, kiddie stuff for the youngest and stuff meant for tween/teens for the oldest. (they are 8 and 4)

Now I was never one to think make-up for young girls was a good thing to buy. However she does let them play with it, but they don't wear it out.

Your thoughts, please?

I think it is fine. I'm sure the Mom will monitor when it is appropriate to use it. I think experimenting with makeup is just as important as playing with a baby doll or choosing your clothing, it will contribute to learning life skills that they can use in their future. It doesn't mean they should load up and head out the door, but they will learn what each product can do and they will be able to look pretty like Mommy. Heck, Colby used to like to put mine on when I was getting ready in the morning Cause he wanted to look pretty like Mommy Of course we washed it off before he left the house.

Marci - I did talk to Mom yesterday. She was feeling better and thought she would probably go to work today.
She was talking about driving down here with Diva for Thanksgiving. I think that's a HORRIBLE idea, but she likes to do things I am opposed to.
You may remember she drove down last year and spent the night in the Tom Thumb parking lot because she didn't want to "disturb" Ms. Selfish in the middle of the night. And she brought the guinea pig because there wasn't anyone in KS to watch it. Insane. But she HAS to come down so she can watch the babies on Black Friday while Ms. Selfish goes out shopping! Right. Good plan! Ms. Undetectable White Cells is going to drive down on Tuesday night after working all day, watch 2 germy toddlers all day on Friday, drive 9 hours back home on Sunday and work on Monday. Smack in the middle of her 12 Taxol infusions. Diva can help with the driving but Mom is going to be so fatigued she won't be able to function for days afterwards! The girls on the breast cancer thread said Taxol is bad for causing bone pain and neuropathy, which means Mom is going to have a hard time working if the side effects are severe. She should stay home and REST during the time she has off for Thanksgiving!

Now you are sorry you asked, aren't you?

Playing Devils Advocate here. Being a Mom and knowing how much I like to spend time with my Children I'm sure that your Mom has a need to spend time with all of her children and grandchildren too. I know that my parents would move heaven and earth to see their grandkids. What you are thinking will make her weak may actually provide her with added strength. It may be just what the doctor ordered. Fighting cancer is done to keep living, not to make someone have to stay home every waking minute. I know that you are only trying to protect her, but she may really be looking forward to it. Perhaps you could assist her in taking care of your sister's kids (against you better judgement of course) as it would give you extra time with your Mom without flying to Kansas and it would give her the opportunity to spend extra time with DS

here's ours

MEANIE MEANIE MEANIE



No ME tags for you sister...RIP....yep, that was the sound of me tearing them up!

That is adorable. When and if we ever can afford to cruise I will need to get one of those. I love it

 

[Pooh67_68]

Elizabeth

 

[yellowfish78]

No ME tags for you sister...RIP....yep, that was the sound of me tearing them up!

You're the best! Well, you definately can't fit a robe in that thing!

 

[KristineN]

don't tease me...I am still tempted by the robes

You're the best! Well, you definately can't fit a robe in that thing!

 

[Pooh67_68]

Thanks Deb.

 

[tink2020]

Yay for losing a tooth!
There is no way DS would EVER offer to give money back to me for ANYTHING. Leighanna is very sweet!

I am not having a very good day.
I started to pack DS's lunch, but he wasn't out of his room yet and I wanted to ask him what kind of sandwich he wanted. I got busy doing other things and never went back to his lunch. He noticed and finished packing it himself, but he gave me grief about it.

In the carpool line the idiot woman in front of me decided to back into my car. I honked at her to let her know she was getting too close, and that was when she decided to close the gap and hit me. There doesn't appear to be any damage, which is good, because the woman didn't speak English. After I looked at my car I just told her to go on. Not worth trying to get her insurance or whatever because she was barely moving at impact.

I went to the Dr. and she had moved to another office, on another floor. Could they not TELL me that on the phone, or send a note, or something? I found the office, but it irritated me because that's the kind of mood I am in! BUT I am never going back to that doctor. So there!

I got a pumpkin spice latte at Starbucks and now I am having a little break. The housekeeper is coming, so I have to be here to let her in. I might go to the grocery after she gets here, or I might wait and take Princess with me after school.

Marci - I did talk to Mom yesterday. She was feeling better and thought she would probably go to work today.
She was talking about driving down here with Diva for Thanksgiving. I think that's a HORRIBLE idea, but she likes to do things I am opposed to.
You may remember she drove down last year and spent the night in the Tom Thumb parking lot because she didn't want to "disturb" Ms. Selfish in the middle of the night. And she brought the guinea pig because there wasn't anyone in KS to watch it. Insane. But she HAS to come down so she can watch the babies on Black Friday while Ms. Selfish goes out shopping! Right. Good plan! Ms. Undetectable White Cells is going to drive down on Tuesday night after working all day, watch 2 germy toddlers all day on Friday, drive 9 hours back home on Sunday and work on Monday. Smack in the middle of her 12 Taxol infusions. Diva can help with the driving but Mom is going to be so fatigued she won't be able to function for days afterwards! The girls on the breast cancer thread said Taxol is bad for causing bone pain and neuropathy, which means Mom is going to have a hard time working if the side effects are severe. She should stay home and REST during the time she has off for Thanksgiving!

Now you are sorry you asked, aren't you?

Elizabeth, I'm glad to hear your latte made you feel a bit better.... but I hope your day actually improves as well!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

No, not sorry. I hope writing it out made you feel a little better. If it made you feel worse, don't hold it against me for long...

Aren't you on her HIPPA? If the doc feels the same way, maybe he/she can tell her no extended car trips, no babysitting young children etc., or will she not listen to the advice? I know you can't enlist Ms. Selfish to help, so that's not an option. Maybe it will work itself out, where she doesn't feel bad, but is too tired to make the trip.

I am on her HIPPA. The last time the onc and I had that particular chat he said her white cells wouldn't get that low. Oh, really? Surprise! They ARE that low! Mom did acknowledge that she may not feel up to it, so we'll see. Even if the onc told her not to go she would much rather go, have major setbacks in her treatment, and then tell me "I should have listened to you when you said not to do that."

Deb - I can see your side of it. I am sure she wants to see the girls. (She is over DS, as she has demonstrated previously.) She is also in some sort of competition with Ms. Selfish's in-laws. The IL's have supported Ms. Selfish and their son from the word "go" by paying for things and providing free childcare. Mom wants a piece of that action, so she will sacrifice her health, her finances, whatever, so the IL's can't say she never helps out. It will be a cold day in a very hot place before I drive over 100 miles to Podunkville on Black Friday to watch Ms. Selfish's children. DH will be working, which means DS would be dragged along. So I would get to hear DS whine, hear Diva whine, hear those babies whine, all to make sure Ms. Selfish can go out and spend money she doesn't have. Enabling, anyone? Maybe it would make me the bigger person to do that in the interest of helping Mom, but I can tell you right now that I will NEVER be that big. There has to be a boundary somewhere.

Elizabeth, I'm glad to hear your latte made you feel a bit better.... but I hope your day actually improves as well!

Princess had a terrific day at school, so that's a good thing! I was going to take her to the grocery store, but she fell asleep in her chair watching Diego. I just moved her to a blanket on the floor. Guess I'll see how long it takes for her to wake up!

 

[babytrees]

Elizabeth-it seems when it rains it pours I am glad the latte helped your day and I hope it only got brighter.

My friend (and the girls piano teacher) is 5 years out from breast cancer and still has neuropathy pain...we were also discussing bras recently, she said while the pain has lessened it still hurts in the radiation areas.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Elizabeth-it seems when it rains it pours I am glad the latte helped your day and I hope it only got brighter.

My friend (and the girls piano teacher) is 5 years out from breast cancer and still has neuropathy pain...we were also discussing bras recently, she said while the pain has lessened it still hurts in the radiation areas.

Mom already has problems with her fingers going numb. I think the chemo she just finished might have been the easier of the 2. While Taxol is less brutal than Taxotere I don't think it will be a picnic. Then again, all women are different so maybe the Taxol won't be too bad. Since it is weekly I can't imagine that the dose is very high!

Mom will have radiation (30 doses) probably in January/February.

 

[babytrees]

so I have a question....what do I do about a co-worker who refuses to look at me when I talk to him in staff meeting?? I wasn't the only one who noticed today and I refused to continue talking to him (in a nice way..as my friend says I am too nice for my own good sometimes) until he at least acknowledged I was speaking to him.

He is the newest staff member and is a horses patoot in other areas...I think he mainly does it to tick me off and because I am so dang reasonable and I refused to back him up on his very unchristianlike views of what we should be doing as a church.

 

[bear74]

so I have a question....what do I do about a co-worker who refuses to look at me when I talk to him in staff meeting?? I wasn't the only one who noticed today and I refused to continue talking to him (in a nice way..as my friend says I am too nice for my own good sometimes) until he at least acknowledged I was speaking to him.

He is the newest staff member and is a horses patoot in other areas...I think he mainly does it to tick me off and because I am so dang reasonable and I refused to back him up on his very unchristianlike views of what we should be doing as a church.

Theresa
no answer but