Jennifer - I hope you see improvement in the girls over the next few nights!
DS did go to the party yesterday. He enjoyed it for the most part. Thug was not there, but his ex-friend is really just a jerk now. The boys did end up going in the pool, and it sounds like the ex-friend was being pretty rough. Unfortunately DH just dropped DS off so there wasn't anybody to tell the ex-friend to back off.

There were 4 moms there, including the ex-friend's mom, but she was busy chatting and didn't notice that her son was attempting to drown mine.
DS had a good time with the other boys, so I think he is glad he went. I need to make a serious effort to invite kids over on the weekends. I tend to be hermit-y on weekends and I don't want extra kids in the house, but I think DS needs to strengthen his friendships so he will have some allies. I also need to see if the boys I *think* are good for him to be around are REALLY good for him. I can evaluate them more effectively if we invite them over. I have no problem with his 2 friends from last year, but they weren't at the thing yesterday. One of them lives really far - his parents are teachers so he goes to our school on a transfer order.
Deb - I hope you feel better soon!