DDA Chapter 10

[Blueeyes101817]

Glynis-Im so glad you are okay---keep those snacks on you! Let us know how the ultrasound goes

Theresa-you know you are in my prayers--sent you a PM as well

Speaking of sad....

Did you hear that Randy Pausch died? (He's the gentlemen who did that "Last Lecture" I had mentioned months ago...he died this morning from complications from the pancreatic cancer....

for whatever reason...it has stirred up emotions from when my dad died of cancer....

I didnt hear that--that is horrible. I had his website with updates on my favorites and checked it every few days..

 

[Tinkaroo]

Hi, DDA,

It has been a long time and I've been horrible about keeping up, but I wanted to pop in and say "hi" to everyone. Life is crazy hectic here, and I'm just trying to hang on and get through it. I do think of you all often, and miss my life on the DIS and the DDA.

I only read the last couple of pages...

Jen - good luck with all the interviews! How wonderful that your patience is paying off. I hope today went well.

Tammi - I'm glad to hear your mammo was clear.

Elizabeth - I'm glad to hear your mom is doing fairly well - how exciting to just have a week until your big vacation! You deserve it.

Chanon - happy belated birthday!

Deb - I can only imagine what fun you guys must have had. Do you have a trip report? I missed everything about your trip.

Janet - good luck to Riley tonight!

To all of you with trips so soon - have wonderful times!!!!

Glynis - I'm so glad to hear nothing worse happened yesterday, and I hope your ultrasound goes well today. God bless Katie, too. I hope you continue to rest and take care of yourself and the little Peanut!

Theresa - lots and lots of . I will be praying for you in every regard, both the said and unsaid. I am so sorry that you're in this place right now, and pray that you will receive comfort, guidance and come out the woman God wants you to be. Stay strong!!!!

I have to run - my weekend will be pretty bad, but maybe I can make it on on Sunday. Take care, DDA!

 

[yellowfish78]

...so after all that bag talk, I bought one I didn't post. I found it talking to Janet last night and she even sent me alike for finding it cheaper! So here's what I went with - I wanted one that looked like a purse/carry on bag. If I don't like it, I'm gonna get the orginial bag in red.

http://www.ebags.com/mobile_edge/womens_casual_tote/product_detail/index.cfm?modelid=118596

 

[babytrees]

...so after all that bag talk, I bought one I didn't post. I found it talking to Janet last night and she even sent me alike for finding it cheaper! So here's what I went with - I wanted one that looked like a purse/carry on bag. If I don't like it, I'm gonna get the orginial bag in red.

http://www.ebags.com/mobile_edge/womens_casual_tote/product_detail/index.cfm?modelid=118596

like it!!

 

[tink2020]

Hi, DDA,

It has been a long time and I've been horrible about keeping up, but I wanted to pop in and say "hi" to everyone. Life is crazy hectic here, and I'm just trying to hang on and get through it. I do think of you all often, and miss my life on the DIS and the DDA.

...

I have to run - my weekend will be pretty bad, but maybe I can make it on on Sunday. Take care, DDA!

Hi Lindsay! I hope things settle down for you soon.... we miss you!

 

[lovesdumbo]

Well, we're leaving for the ultrasound in about 45 minutes. I wanted to pop in to update you all on what is going on with me.

I ran to walmart yesterday to pick up a few things, and while I was in the checkout line, I started to get really hot. I wasn't too worried, as I knew I was not dehydrated. However, as I finished up, I felt all the blood rush from my head. Next thing I knew I was on the floor, surrounded by 15 walmart employees, who were holding me down, telling me I had passed out, and not to move. The emergency response team came, and I had to lie there for 10 minutes until they decided I didn't have any broken bones, no split skull and no likely concussion. They helped me up and to the office where I sat for another 15 minutes drinking water and reassuring them that I wasn't going to sue.

Finally, they escorted me to the car, and I headed home. I stopped at the doctor's office on my way home, and they checked me out as well. The baby was fine, and they concurred that I didn't have a concussion. The doctor thinks that my blood pressure is a bit low, and dips if I don't eat enough or drink enough. So, I now have to stock my purse with granola bars, etc.

I got home, and crawled into bed. I think I went into shock at that point. I called Alan (who was out of town on a story), crying hysterically. He was really concerned, and after talking to me for a while, called his boss. Luckily, his company is really family oriented, and they agreed to send a replacement, so Alan could come home. Meanwhile, Katie took great care of me. She brought me ice for the knot on the back of my head (as large as my palm), got me water and food and checked on me every hour so I could check my eyes. Bless her heart! She was a real trooper. She also took care of all the other kids.

Alan arrived home at 5:00 last night, and hasn't let me out of his sight since then. I expected problems being 41 and pregnant, but I wasn't expecting anything like this! However, I'm doing ok. I'm bruised (my rear end is the worst), and sore, but I'm in one piece.

I'll update you all on the ultrasound when I get home.

Please take care of yourself! It must have been scary yesterday and for the kids too.

Warning-hugely long and personal post coming up. You can pass over it but I have to get it out.

Last night after I got off of work my volunteer (and friend) said that if I wanted to she could take me to her friend to see if she could help with some pain I’ve been experiencing since Tuesday in my neck. For some reason, I said fine if she can help I’ll do it. God lead me there, I believe.

Lynne is a massage therapist and one look at me said she’d fit me in right then and there. (Phyllis has never taken anybody over there without calling first…another God thing). While working on my neck, Lynne really was like a therapist and I spent quite a bit of the time crying. She said I need to open up and get a blanket of caring around me and I need to start leaning on other strong people because I can’t do it on my own anymore. So I come to my friends asking for that strength.

Usually when there is stress in our life it gives us a break….you know work is stressful, home is okay. I don’t get that break and I haven’t had that break in a long time.

You all know most of my troubles at work so bear with me as you get a glimpse into what it’s been like at home.

My husband has ADD, and uses that as an excuse for everything. Nothing is ever his fault, ever…it is always somebody else’s fault, usually mine. About a month ago he spouted off some heartbreaking things….including that he has never trusted me from the last time we separated because I mentioned divorce. That was 10+ years ago. When we last had trouble I said he had one job and that was to find a couples counselor. That Sunday I told him I wouldn’t go to a couples counselor until he had gotten personal help. I also wrote him a letter….he thought it was a letter of my forgiving him….it wasn’t. As of Wednesday night he hadn’t gone to a counselor, doesn’t have an appointment and I don’t think has any intention of going.

In the letter I told him I didn’t like who I saw in the mirror and more importantly I didn’t like what my girls saw when they look at me. I have lost who I am somewhere in the shuffle of covering his butt when he screws up, in one way or another. I am done…it has never been my job to change him….but I have changed and I want to go back to the way I was before. I grew up…I don’t think he has.

So right now I am trying to figure out where my life is headed, where my marriage is headed, if it’s even salvageable. You all have been my beacon of light when I’ve needed you and my normalcy in this storm. Thank you.

A few of you know more and as I feel up to it, I will probably share more, so please be patient with me.

So sorry for all you're going through.

Speaking of sad....

Did you hear that Randy Pausch died? (He's the gentlemen who did that "Last Lecture" I had mentioned months ago...he died this morning from complications from the pancreatic cancer....

for whatever reason...it has stirred up emotions from when my dad died of cancer....

How sad.

I think we all know Elizabeth's next dream will be...

eeewwww!!!!!!!!!!

I have to run - my weekend will be pretty bad, but maybe I can make it on on Sunday. Take care, DDA!

Nice to see you. I still owe you a CD!

...so after all that bag talk, I bought one I didn't post. I found it talking to Janet last night and she even sent me alike for finding it cheaper! So here's what I went with - I wanted one that looked like a purse/carry on bag. If I don't like it, I'm gonna get the orginial bag in red.

http://www.ebags.com/mobile_edge/womens_casual_tote/product_detail/index.cfm?modelid=118596

That one looks great!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I think it's adorable!

Glynis, glad to hear everything is ok. Please take care of yourself! Drink PLENTY of fluids.... even if you aren't dehydrated, it will help with BP! I can't wait to hear about the ultrasound!

You will be in my prayers, Theresa.

Robyn - I think it looks great!

Glynis - Wow! I am glad you are OK! Can't wait to hear about your ultrasound! I hope all is well!

Theresa - I am so sorry! Definitely lean on us and let us help you get through this tough time!

Speaking of sad....

Did you hear that Randy Pausch died? (He's the gentlemen who did that "Last Lecture" I had mentioned months ago...he died this morning from complications from the pancreatic cancer....

for whatever reason...it has stirred up emotions from when my dad died of cancer....

Very sad. I loved his speech/lecture. I am sad to hear that he died, but I am happy that he made the best of the time he had left. He has touched many, many people. My thoughts are with his family.

I think we all know Elizabeth's next dream will be...

Great.
I actually had bad dreams last night, but just little fragments of bad, not some big long story. And no DDA.

...so after all that bag talk, I bought one I didn't post. I found it talking to Janet last night and she even sent me alike for finding it cheaper! So here's what I went with - I wanted one that looked like a purse/carry on bag. If I don't like it, I'm gonna get the orginial bag in red.

http://www.ebags.com/mobile_edge/womens_casual_tote/product_detail/index.cfm?modelid=118596

That one is cute!

Hi Lindsay! I hope things settle down for you soon.... we miss you!

Lindsay, I hope things slow down a bit soon! Momboss is swamped with intern activities right now, but they are going home July 31! I have been thinking of you when she tells me about the interns.

My mom left me a voice mail saying my sister's attorney says my attorney is holding up the probate process. Um, no she isn't! My attorney doesn't CARE! There are no assets to speak of AND my attorney is doing this for FREE! Why on earth would she be holding up the process? Mom wants me to call Ms. Selfish and discuss it with her. I don't think so.

 

[my3princes]

Well, we're leaving for the ultrasound in about 45 minutes. I wanted to pop in to update you all on what is going on with me.

I ran to walmart yesterday to pick up a few things, and while I was in the checkout line, I started to get really hot. I wasn't too worried, as I knew I was not dehydrated. However, as I finished up, I felt all the blood rush from my head. Next thing I knew I was on the floor, surrounded by 15 walmart employees, who were holding me down, telling me I had passed out, and not to move. The emergency response team came, and I had to lie there for 10 minutes until they decided I didn't have any broken bones, no split skull and no likely concussion. They helped me up and to the office where I sat for another 15 minutes drinking water and reassuring them that I wasn't going to sue.

Finally, they escorted me to the car, and I headed home. I stopped at the doctor's office on my way home, and they checked me out as well. The baby was fine, and they concurred that I didn't have a concussion. The doctor thinks that my blood pressure is a bit low, and dips if I don't eat enough or drink enough. So, I now have to stock my purse with granola bars, etc.

I got home, and crawled into bed. I think I went into shock at that point. I called Alan (who was out of town on a story), crying hysterically. He was really concerned, and after talking to me for a while, called his boss. Luckily, his company is really family oriented, and they agreed to send a replacement, so Alan could come home. Meanwhile, Katie took great care of me. She brought me ice for the knot on the back of my head (as large as my palm), got me water and food and checked on me every hour so I could check my eyes. Bless her heart! She was a real trooper. She also took care of all the other kids.

Alan arrived home at 5:00 last night, and hasn't let me out of his sight since then. I expected problems being 41 and pregnant, but I wasn't expecting anything like this! However, I'm doing ok. I'm bruised (my rear end is the worst), and sore, but I'm in one piece.

I'll update you all on the ultrasound when I get home.

Glynis that is scary. It sounds like you may need to slow down during this pregnancy and lean on others. I'm afraid for you to be by yourself too Good luck with the ultrasound. Let you Mom and Dad take care of you while you are with them, but please be extra careful driving.

Warning-hugely long and personal post coming up. You can pass over it but I have to get it out.

Last night after I got off of work my volunteer (and friend) said that if I wanted to she could take me to her friend to see if she could help with some pain I’ve been experiencing since Tuesday in my neck. For some reason, I said fine if she can help I’ll do it. God lead me there, I believe.

Lynne is a massage therapist and one look at me said she’d fit me in right then and there. (Phyllis has never taken anybody over there without calling first…another God thing). While working on my neck, Lynne really was like a therapist and I spent quite a bit of the time crying. She said I need to open up and get a blanket of caring around me and I need to start leaning on other strong people because I can’t do it on my own anymore. So I come to my friends asking for that strength.

Usually when there is stress in our life it gives us a break….you know work is stressful, home is okay. I don’t get that break and I haven’t had that break in a long time.

You all know most of my troubles at work so bear with me as you get a glimpse into what it’s been like at home.

My husband has ADD, and uses that as an excuse for everything. Nothing is ever his fault, ever…it is always somebody else’s fault, usually mine. About a month ago he spouted off some heartbreaking things….including that he has never trusted me from the last time we separated because I mentioned divorce. That was 10+ years ago. When we last had trouble I said he had one job and that was to find a couples counselor. That Sunday I told him I wouldn’t go to a couples counselor until he had gotten personal help. I also wrote him a letter….he thought it was a letter of my forgiving him….it wasn’t. As of Wednesday night he hadn’t gone to a counselor, doesn’t have an appointment and I don’t think has any intention of going.

In the letter I told him I didn’t like who I saw in the mirror and more importantly I didn’t like what my girls saw when they look at me. I have lost who I am somewhere in the shuffle of covering his butt when he screws up, in one way or another. I am done…it has never been my job to change him….but I have changed and I want to go back to the way I was before. I grew up…I don’t think he has.

So right now I am trying to figure out where my life is headed, where my marriage is headed, if it’s even salvageable. You all have been my beacon of light when I’ve needed you and my normalcy in this storm. Thank you.

A few of you know more and as I feel up to it, I will probably share more, so please be patient with me.

Theresa it sounds like you have been doing a lot of soul searching. You and you alone need to figure out what is best for you and your family, but we are certainly here to support you and to listen and or give advice. I hope that you can figure out what is best for everyone

 

[my3princes]

All is quiet here. My parents took the boys to the campground with them at noon. Chris and I even managed to go out for lunch. Nothing big, just Pizza Hut. It is our 16th Anniversary today so it was nice to sneak out for a few minutes. We'll head camping as soon as Chris is out of work.


Tammi I sent you the direct invite for our photopass.

Lindsay We had a spectacular trip. I haven't done a trip report and since I didn't find time to take notes, I'm thinking I won't be doing one. We do have lots of pictures though and I can send you links if you'd like.

Jen did you get the job?

 

[Blueeyes101817]

Deb-Happy Anniversary!!
The interview went well--There were 4 principals there but they are still interviewing

By the way, can anyone sed me the DDA info...I just installed Word on this computer so it will open!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Happy Anniversary, Deb and Chris!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Jen - Good luck! I hope you hear back from them soon!

 

[mommykds]

Deb,
Happy Anniversary to you & Chris!!!

Jen,
Glad the interview went well!

Chanon,
Very nice!

 

[mommykds]

Theresa,
I am sorry you are going through some tough times...

 

[mommykds]

Glynis,
You need to slow down girl! Glad you & the baby are ok.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Any of you following the school supply thread on the Family board? I was pretty sure my opinion of "I buy supplies for MY child, not for the whole school" wouldn't be very popular. I had a teacher tell me I am saying the TEACHERS should provide supplies. Nope. Never said that.
I said we got a list last year from Art, Science, Math, English, Band, and Social Studies. I bought every item on each list and sent them to school, where every bit of the stuff promptly disappeared, leaving DS with NO supplies! What did the teachers DO with all of DS's supplies? Did they honestly think I was GIVING that stuff to them to dole out to other people?

Whatever. DS is going back to school with a few pencils and some paper and very little else. As the first marking period progresses we will sort out what he REALLY needs, and I will go buy it. It will be in his backpack, not a Target bag, and he will NOT attempt to give it to the teacher.

 

[my3princes]

Thanks for the Anniversary Wishes.

The house looks great and I only have a few more things to put in the camper. I should be ready in plenty of time

Nick's teachers sent home a supply list at the end of last year for supplies needed this year. The supplies are his and will remain that way. The teachers here let the kids keep their own items and don't pool anything. I don't think the kids supplies cost me more than $20 so I can't complain. I want to make sure that I have everything on hand when the need it as I hate having to run out. Usually that occurs on a night that I need to work and that sucks Of course I pick everything up when it's on sale now and stockpile extras for throughout the year

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

The things I was smart enough to keep at home (extra spirals, note cards, pens & pencils, etc.) are in 2 big bags in DS's room. We still have folders, notebook paper, all sorts of stuff. I SHOULD have bought the stuff from the lists last year and NOT sent it in. DS has more scissors, markers, crayons, colored pencils, etc. than he can possibly use. Buying more and sending them to school with him begs for them to be lost or stolen.
I will happily send in tissues, paper towels, whatever, but NOT other supplies that will be snatched up and redistributed to kids OTHER than DS, leaving me to go buy MORE.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

i think i rembered someone talking about 22 cent crayons..was that a special promotion or is that all of the time at some store? if so, which store?
Thanks

 

[Mommy2EmMoLu]

Theresa- Please know that you and your family are in my prayers. for you as you sort through your feelings. 's

Glynis- How scary. I hope that you aren't terribly sore and that you will somehow take it easy.

Lindsay- It's so good to see you pop in. I hope you get some "me" time in all the crazy work stuff.

Deb- Wishing you and Chris a very happy anniversary.

Jen- I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.