David Tutera Divorce

[lizabu]

I just can't wrap my mind around two kids, born to the same mother, from the same pregnancy, that have different biological fathers, are considered twins. Not unless the general definition of twins is merely the resulting two children born from the same pregnancy.
I have no issue with the two kids being brought up in different households. Children are remarkably resilient. I imagine the will be just fine.

That's basically the definition of twins. They're born in the same pregnancy. Identical twins is one fertilized egg that splits into two and fraternal twins is two different eggs that both get fertilized.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Unless children are old enough and mature enough to have an opinion about where they live, I do not think children should be split in a divorce.

Every decision is made for infants. Someday they may grow up not to like where they lived, who they lived with, that they were born at all, that they were given up for adoption, that they were or were not circumcised, what religion they were raised in...whatever.

I just can't wrap my mind around two kids, born to the same mother, from the same pregnancy, that have different biological fathers, are considered twins. Not unless the general definition of twins is merely the resulting two children born from the same pregnancy.
I have no issue with the two kids being brought up in different households. Children are remarkably resilient. I imagine the will be just fine.

Exactly.

This was a surrogate. If the surrogate produced a child with/for one man 5 years ago, and with/for another man currently, would those children be considered siblings that needed to have a relationship? And what about all those children produced by sperm donors? IMHO, the fact that they were carried at the same time makes no more of a bond than these other situations. Yes, there are studies about a "bond", but I don't believe for a minute that their lives are going to be influenced in a negative way having been separated at birth.

It's not the first case of fraternal twins with different fathers.

And if the mother gave them up for adoption, would the fathers be forced to have a relationship to the extent that they have to share custody or have visitation between the two children?

 

[snykymom]

I have no issue with the two kids being brought up in different households. Children are remarkably resilient. I imagine the will be just fine.

I believe that it is a relatively rare situation in which children are brought up in different households. Usually, even in shared physical custody, the kids move as a "team" - one month with Parent A and one with Parent B. Not Kid 1 with Parent A and Kid 2 with Parent B.

I think children are less resilient than adults try to convince themselves, when they're putting the parental needs first.

 

[jrmasm]

Every decision is made for infants. Someday they may grow up not to like where they lived, who they lived with, that they were born at all, that they were given up for adoption, that they were or were not circumcised, what religion they were raised in...whatever.Exactly.

This was a surrogate. If the surrogate produced a child with/for one man 5 years ago, and with/for another man currently, would those children be considered siblings that needed to have a relationship? And what about all those children produced by sperm donors? IMHO, the fact that they were carried at the same time makes no more of a bond than these other situations. Yes, there are studies about a "bond", but I don't believe for a minute that their lives are going to be influenced in a negative way having been separated at birth. And if the mother gave them up for adoption, would the fathers be forced to have a relationship to the extent that they have to share custody or have visitation between the two children?

If this was a twin pregnancy that resulted naturally would you be ok with them being separated in a divorce?

And I don't see how this is in the same universe as surrogate pregnancies for different couples or sperm donors or whatever. From what I can tell, these two men intentionally created a twin pregnancy. IMO these twins should be raised together.