Well I have just had my daughters birthday ruined. A
A liitle background. She is 9 her friend is 8, 9 in April.. They have been friends since they were 2. I wAtch this little girl and her brother at my house after school FOR FREE. They have been in the same class 3 out of the last 4 years. She has often spent the night with no problems except once when she was young.
This past Halloween she said she would go trick or treating with my daughter and then backed out giving some lame excuse that she would not be home from her other daycare in time etc etc. So luckily my daughter was invited out that night by another girl so the night was saved.
My daughter can be bruttally honest to some other friends but this one really really adores. She tries so hard to please this one and make her want to do things with her etc. This girl will often not always return phone calls or just say she doesnt feel like playing. My daughter on the other hand would never dream of turning down an invite from her. They are like gold to my daughter.
So my daughters birthday is planned and I tell her she can invite 3 friends. My daughter says no I want to make it special lets just invite this one girl. So we invite her to Goofys Kitchen, then Libby Lu then Disneyland. Oh and btw we took her to Disneyland less then a month ago all went well, they had a good time.
So the girl comes to spend the night tonight stays about an hour and half and then all of sudden out of the blue announces she wants to go home. And is on the phone with her mom to go home. Fully aware that she is the only guest my daughter invited. No offer of I will get up early and go with you in the morning nothing. I just don't feel like going and I want to go home. I asked my daughter if anything had happened between the two and she said no.
Her mother calls me. I told her to put her kids in daycare next week I can't possibly watch them with the feelings I have now. My daughter is just devestated. It's like someone stole her presents back. THe mom told me well she is just 8 and she has seperation anxiety. I told her well I am sick of this. I am tired of your daughter treating mine like crap, used another word there. I told her my daughter is just devestated, I am disgusted and speaking of anxiety my daughter has it now too because she has anxiety no one is going to show up to her party which HELLO they aren't. I was in tears and hung up on her. I honestly do not know if I can watch her kids on a daily basis again. This was so cold blooded to me.
The daughter has spent the night here before with no problem. Gone to theme parks with us no problem. Known us for years. And is with her supposed best friend at Disneyland and she can't cope with all that? Sorry if it were my kid I would of told them to suck it up and live up to your obligations to your friends. I may be alone thinking that but thats what I would of said. It's not like we are casual friends. I exchange gifts with these people. I just don't know how I am going to get over this. To be able to watch their kids again with the same feelings when I know their daughter could turn on mine with any whim, I just don't know.
My daughter at first wanted to call the whole thing off and not go at all. Then she decided she will suck it up and go and we will do a little shopping at downtown disney, still do the libby lu and shop there and she will spend the day with us in California Adventure. I am proud of her for sucking it up and still going and not moping around the house. We tried to give her options of other kids to invite even though it was later at night but she said no to that idea. I am just so in shock
A liitle background. She is 9 her friend is 8, 9 in April.. They have been friends since they were 2. I wAtch this little girl and her brother at my house after school FOR FREE. They have been in the same class 3 out of the last 4 years. She has often spent the night with no problems except once when she was young.
This past Halloween she said she would go trick or treating with my daughter and then backed out giving some lame excuse that she would not be home from her other daycare in time etc etc. So luckily my daughter was invited out that night by another girl so the night was saved.
My daughter can be bruttally honest to some other friends but this one really really adores. She tries so hard to please this one and make her want to do things with her etc. This girl will often not always return phone calls or just say she doesnt feel like playing. My daughter on the other hand would never dream of turning down an invite from her. They are like gold to my daughter.
So my daughters birthday is planned and I tell her she can invite 3 friends. My daughter says no I want to make it special lets just invite this one girl. So we invite her to Goofys Kitchen, then Libby Lu then Disneyland. Oh and btw we took her to Disneyland less then a month ago all went well, they had a good time.
So the girl comes to spend the night tonight stays about an hour and half and then all of sudden out of the blue announces she wants to go home. And is on the phone with her mom to go home. Fully aware that she is the only guest my daughter invited. No offer of I will get up early and go with you in the morning nothing. I just don't feel like going and I want to go home. I asked my daughter if anything had happened between the two and she said no.
Her mother calls me. I told her to put her kids in daycare next week I can't possibly watch them with the feelings I have now. My daughter is just devestated. It's like someone stole her presents back. THe mom told me well she is just 8 and she has seperation anxiety. I told her well I am sick of this. I am tired of your daughter treating mine like crap, used another word there. I told her my daughter is just devestated, I am disgusted and speaking of anxiety my daughter has it now too because she has anxiety no one is going to show up to her party which HELLO they aren't. I was in tears and hung up on her. I honestly do not know if I can watch her kids on a daily basis again. This was so cold blooded to me.
The daughter has spent the night here before with no problem. Gone to theme parks with us no problem. Known us for years. And is with her supposed best friend at Disneyland and she can't cope with all that? Sorry if it were my kid I would of told them to suck it up and live up to your obligations to your friends. I may be alone thinking that but thats what I would of said. It's not like we are casual friends. I exchange gifts with these people. I just don't know how I am going to get over this. To be able to watch their kids again with the same feelings when I know their daughter could turn on mine with any whim, I just don't know.
My daughter at first wanted to call the whole thing off and not go at all. Then she decided she will suck it up and go and we will do a little shopping at downtown disney, still do the libby lu and shop there and she will spend the day with us in California Adventure. I am proud of her for sucking it up and still going and not moping around the house. We tried to give her options of other kids to invite even though it was later at night but she said no to that idea. I am just so in shock
I don't blame you for reacting the way that you did. I would have reacted in a similar fashion. My best friend was like that when I was a kid. She was a fair weather friend, and if the chance came to "one up", or spoil a special occasion for me, she did it - whether it was making plans and standing me up (she was in my wedding and didn't even show up to my shower), or ignoring me and the friendship when she felt something better came along. Of course, she'd always come crawling back when she needed something (i.e when we were teenagers and I had lots of guys hanging around and interested in me and my other girlfriends and she didn't have any boys that liked her. ) Suddenly she was my best friend again. 
I had lots of other nice friends who saw her true colors and told me to "lose her". I should have listened to them. My only regret was not breaking off the friendship sooner. Do you daughter a big favor and let her hang out with her genuine friends and break off the relationship with this particular kid.
for your DD and please wish her a Happy Birthday from me.. 
I wish I could spend the day in 
