I've never seen a bunch of meaner, more morally "superior" people. Okay, the OP was asking something against the rules. A simple "it's against the rules, and they do check" would do. Insinuating that she is obviously too poor to go, is a horrible person who will clearly ruin her daughter, and is not nearly as good a mother as YOU are is ridiculous, and a symptom of the crap I see on this board all the time lately. Those of you who jumped on the "horrible role model" bandwagon have really honestly never done anything ever that would be considered not 100% legit? Because I bet that in itself is a lie.
I am so over this. I read the boards for information, but I no longer post because no matter what you say or how you phrase it somebody gets up on a high horse and looks down. Arg.