~Dani and Bryan's Hopefully Fairy Tale Wedding on a Budget PJ and almost TR 12/5/10

I am so facinated by this PJ!! Keep it coming, you are so funny and yet I've pretty much related to all of it!! :)
 
Hi Dani!

I enjoy reading your PJ! I loved the Bob stamp story! I'm sorry you are feeling down, I can't say I blame you though. Just try to focus on the GOOD things, and HEY you are getting married in Disney world! I would LOVE to be able to do that. I know when it's all said and done everything will work out just fine and your special day will be amazing :-) Try to enjoy your time planning and just say "SCREW IT!" to all the bad crap. It helps me but I usually replace screw with another fun word that's not appropriate:goodvibes
 
Dani, i have REALLY enjoyed reading you PJ!!! I just finished reading it all and my DF keeps wondering what I am giggling about. :laughing:
After reading you PJ I feel like I completely know you! I look forward to reading more from you!popcorn::

Hope you have a Magical Day!:dance3:
 
I was so disconnected from the wedding. I have been in a fog, not really getting excited for anything. That is usually my personality unless I am at Disney with someone, going to a sale at Hobby Lobby, shopping at Target, etc. But the wedding? I am starting to panic. I have been volunteering at the boy's school and doing parent things. There are some days I do not know if I can be a good stepmother. Sure, kids were in my life's plan but I was not ready for it when it happened. I am trying to adjust.

I just dont think it has really hit me that I am getting married. Not. At. All. We had a surprise party for my mom and everyone was saying oooh, less then 2 months. Aren't you just so excited?! Um, I am not. Is that horrible?! At least I was happy when Bryan proposed. I was with the ex for 8 years and the thought of marriage made me want to throw up. Sad, but true.

I am having nightmares about the wedding. I dreamt that the Roots do not show up for the rehearsal or the wedding. I dream my dress is a mermaid dress (I have hips so this would be a true nightmare). I have so many dreams now so I guess the panic has started to set in. I did SO much at the beginning and now it is almost here and I am not sure I have everything covered. I mean, I need to do a guest book photo album or a mat to sign, I need to make some things, I need to do place cards, etc. I have not spoke to Rev. Day since we booked him in January so I am hoping we are still in his books. The easy thing to do would be to call him. Have I done that yet? No.

Everyone is emailing me asking for the timeline of the weekend's activities. Um, sorry for being a beotch but who does that when it is on a website, sent out in emails, on the invitations, etc? Unless I was in the wedding party, I would not think to ask someone for a timeline. Then they found out we are not doing a charter bus and man, did that cause issues. People are asking me what to do, how are they going to get places? If they were flying to Colorado would they expect us to have a bus? We will have cabs available, there are buses, etc. I feel awful but really, most people are renting cars. I get tons of emails about the Magical Express even after I have given info, links, phone numbers, etc. I want to scream. Man, am I cranky or what?

I just want to be one of those super excited brides who can't wait to say I do, and I am not. Not because of Bryan, although it has been hard living with someone, then adding two kids and a dog to the mix. I don't read bridal magazines, I am not on the board anymore, I have not been on any message boards like the knot. I am not obsessing over things. Is this wrong or is it good because I won't have post wedding withdrawal? I am having concerns about this. Is it because I feel married already?

Sorry I am rambling. And venting. And freaking out.

Hopefully the next time I write I won't be such a crab.

Happy Sunday!
Dani
 

honey, i feel exactly the same. in fact probably worse, because i have become judge judy to about the entire world even of wedding advice and boards! "why are people asking that?" "hello??!! have you even TRIED to search these boards before you post?!!"

but back to you. we are just at 100 days today. i did so much at the beginiing and now i am still fat, there are 10 RSVP/seats up in the air, NOONE has booked a freaking room in our block, i've run out of steam!!

there are still little projects to do - no desire for the moment!

and you FEEL married, which is awesome - and i do too i think, but i've moved into his home with he and his 16yo son about 3 months ago, and i am apparently a heinous step mom, a terrible housekeeper (because why can't i manage our insanely messy and disorganized house myself) and a terrible motivator/delegator (noone can do anything alone - ask for help!). and if anyone asks me one more time where their shoes are i may scream!!! :scared1:

i'm sorry you are getting grief! i've got to start practicing telling folks "check the website" or getting a stock email ready to shoot back when i get inane questions that doesn't have an insanely passive/aggressive undertone... and i COMPLETELY agree about the bus. HELLO???? grown ups?!?! i wouldn't be leading you around on a leash were you coming to my town for the wedding! people are weird! i have no real advice on that other than to say i feel that short of braining someone, you are demonstrating most excellent self restraint!!!! :)

hang in there! is there anyone else who can respond to the questions or well meaining but passive aggressive commentary for you? groom? MOH? mom?

hang in there! i think it's all totally normal and you will be a great mom and wife and partner!

at least that what i keep telling myself!! :rotfl2:
 
Just read your whole planning journal and you are hysterical.

I too an doing a red/black/white polka dot wedding and I didn't know about the overlays so I saved that picture thank-you-very-much.

Planning a wedding is a stressful thing, when you add in that you're an insta-mom and selling your house at the same time, girlfriend, you totally deserve some venting time. As it all gets closer, you'll get the excitement back.

So sorry about the crazy neighbor at the shower. That sucks.
 
I got an email from my cousin asking me if I was excited because I leave one month from today for Disney. Holy Cow! (How did that expression even catch on? I must google it...) How did the time go by so, so, so very fast? It seems like we just got engaged and now we are trying to figure out a schedule of events for when we get there. I feel like I have not even had time to enjoy being engaged and now we are about to get married. I am so scared I am going to look back and be sad that I did not enjoy this time. But how does one enjoy the engagement period? I have two almost step kids, I have lots going on, and the wedding is the last thing on my mind. I got a few other emails today asking me if I am getting excited since it is 30 some days away. I really want to breathe into a paper bag. I am not scared to get married, I am just scared because I have not really thought about it. Now all these things are flooding my mind. Here are some skittles (bullets are far to violent) about what is going through my head...update: apparently there are no bullet options so it will be a dash....

-My tailor (Seamstress?) says I should not ship my dress. She said she would pack it in a carry on for me and it should be with me at all times. I am not sure how a ginormous dress will be able to be put in a carry on. A space bag maybe? I am getting it steamed anyway, so does it matter? The huge thing is my crinoline (man that thing is HUGE)

-The seamstress keeps telling me to take it in more. Um, I want to breathe. While it would be fabulous to look super skinny, I would like to eat, and party like it's 1999 (oh wait, that was 11 years ago) I do not want my dress to rip. I would also like to sit down.

- I finally told Bryan that the earrings he wants me to wear (of his mom's who passed away) do not match the dress. They are gold and my dress has lots of silver beading. I need to figure something out. I want to honor his mother so I would like to wear something of hers, I just don't think those particular earrings would work.

- I don't have the something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue thing. I do have cool blue sparkly shoes that an awesome gal I met on here made for me which I plan on wearing down the aisle so I am not worried about that. The dress is new. But what should be borrowed and old? My Dad is 71, does that count as something old? Ok, that was mean, but hey, it is a thought.

- I wanted to have people sign a photo mat but Bryan asked where on earth we would put that. I think it would be cool. he does not. I guess I will do a photo album with pictures of us. I will make a sign that says SIGN THIS DAMN IT. Ok, not that rude but you get it. I just want people to write something more than their names. Give me advice. Tell me something you remember about us. Etc. Think of it as signing a yearbook, minus the Love you like a sister, or call me, or Have a Great Summer! I want people to write all over it-I want it to be full of people's words. How does one do that?

- I have yet to find something for the cards to go in. I pray that we gets lots of cards that happen to have a lot of checks in them. We have a honeymoon to pay for so I hope for money, not a muffin pan.

- I had no idea there was such a thing as escort cards. As of now I planned on doing place cards with the table name on them. That is all I know and it has worked at every wedding. I just wish I could get some sort of idea as to how the room is going to be laid out. I hope Maxine can get something to me soon. My mom thinks it should be a free for all-sit where you want. I don't want that because people have kids, there are people who can't stand kids and I don't want them at the same tables. There are relatives who I know will annoy people so I need to keep them away from those who might punch them. So much to think about.

- Am I required to do a diagram of seats? Isnt the tables with numbers on them pretty obvious?

- What does one wear to a rehearsal that is followed with a BBQ on the marina. Everyone is asking me what to wear. I think casual would be fine but is it weird for the bride (me-duh) to wear casual?

- I found the perfect earrings for my bridesmaids. I even had a coupon. All the girls agreed on them and I went to check out online and guess what? "The item is no longer available." THEN WHY IS IT ONLINE?!?! So back to square one. I planned on making them but time is running out.

- How are people on here planning their weddings for 2+ years from now? That would just be hard waiting to get things booked. I also would wonder, will I really want to marry that person in 3 years? OK, not really, but you know what I mean. After that time is up, you are going to think Wow, I spent 3 years planning this one day and now it is over. Now what do I do? I am glad I only had 11 months. Props to those people but I would not even be looking at wedding stuff. I would change my mind far too many times over the years.

- I have had major ear problems for a month now. No doctor can figure it out. I am in such a fog-it feels like there are cups over my ears-like they cant pop. I am off to see a ENT on Thursday AND Friday (they had to break it up over two days. Seriously? Dont they know I have place cards to do?!) I am also having a root canal redone. Why is everything happening at once? Sorry-pity....table for one....pity party, your table is now ready.

- While watching a movie the other day (so happy my new car has a DVD player for the step kids. Oh how blissful it is....) the youngest saw the picture of the castle (Disney movie) and said, "We are going to that castle. When I get there I am going to punch Mickey." Oh super.

I am sure I will be back to vent tomorrow. What happened to the super excited bride? So stressed....and so not funny lately. Bummer.

Sleep well! Xanax will make sure that happens for me :rotfl:
Sincerely,
Dani Crankypants
 
how have i not seen your pj before?? i started reading it at 7am as i was already late for work, so what was a few more minutes. then i got to work, and instead of working... i immediately jumped on here to finish up. it's now lunch time so i'm glad that half the day is over :)

you write and think like me--and i enjoy that. i am one of the 2-year-out brides and i'm already going crazy. the kicker was on sunday when we formally announced to his mom (2 months later--we've been putting it off for several reasons) -- she told me i could find adress at a yard sale... i immediatley started to choke on my snickers i was shoving in my face. her idea of fancy is crepe paper and those fold around wedding bells. i figured this wasn't the time to tell her i had picked a $1200 maggie sottero and was going to order it in january. when we got home, i told df i was going to the doctor for a xanax prescription.

i'm sorry you're having problems with your ears... that's terrible. it's more annoying than anything and it just plain sucks. i hope you get to feeling better!!

i'm cranky by nature and everytime you say you're cranky i giggle out loud. i guess it's something i don't admit and i applaud you for speaking your piece :) you'll be out of your funk in no time. the next few weeks will fly and you'll be at the happiest place on earth!!

can't wait to hear more!
 
Two posts in two days-you know I am freaking out :)

Today I went dress shopping with my mom for her "mother of the bride" outfit. This is not an easy task. Her taste and my taste are vastly different. She likes patterns, I like classic solids with nice jewelry accents to jazz it up. She was having a hard time realizing how much things cost. Thankfully before we went shopping for my dress she watched a lot of "Say Yes to the Dress" and saw how people spend a fortune on their wedding gowns so when I found one for $800 she thought it was a bargain! But when it came to her outfit she thought things over $100 were outrageous. Thankfully with my bargain hunting skill I found something for her. It is not what she envisioned but it is really nice, AND it was on clearance. It is a wine color in a really nice fabric. It is a jacket and skirt which is considered a suit but it looks classic and it flatters her. I also had a coupon for $10 off. That's how I roll. She just needs some shoes and then she is ready to go! One more thing off the to do list. I hope she likes it a lot. It looks really nice.

My new stressor (not new but more prominent) is the darn jewelry for the girls. I found things I love but then no one likes them. Found some today and my sister said they were "gypsy" and my other friend said "fiesta." I am losing my mind over this. I don't feel comfortable buying fake diamonds and they look....well, fake. But is this more classic looking? I like big and dangly earrings but others do not. I also need to make whatever I buy into a clip on pair for one of the girls. I just want this to be over with! I lay awake thinking about earrings. I am so tempted to say wear whatever floats your boat because ladies, I am so jumping ship. I would also like to thank the saleslady at a store today who told me I was "cutting it close" to the wedding. Like I need to be reminded me of that. I don't care that you have had "7 years of service" with the company, lie to me and tell me I have plenty of time.

Tonight after dinner I went to Joann's to see what they have that could work for holding the cards. WHY am I so worried about this? I want something cute, but cheap and practical. I bought something that I think I might jazz up but it is not me at all. Seriously, it is something to put cards in (hopefully with some checks in it :banana:) so why does it matter? I realized I do not care about the garter so I bought one for $2.99. Oh yes, I know how to be classy and splurge. I will be tossing it to single men who might put it on their rear view mirror. So not paying a lot for it. Let's hope it does not fall apart.

One fabulous thing that happened is Maxine sent me the layout of the room. WAHOO! I am such a visual person and this really helped me. Tomorrow while I am stuck at the dealership I will be whipping out my seating chart. I am so over hearing "I want to sit with this person and not this person....can you put me here and not there....." Really? Am I back to teaching Kindergarten again? Man, I am so cranky, but actually, I am feeling better. I have something I can get started on.

I need to decide if I am going to do something for the table numbers. I thought about doing a picture of us with a number and the story of the picture on the back, but is that lame? I also want Mickey balloons somewhere. Yes, I said it. I can't take it back. It is a wedding faux paux according to wedding fancy people but dude, I love Mickey balloons. Would they be so wrong at the head table?! I just had a vision of the little ones trying to get them down and fighting over them. Maybe I might reconsider that. When they dont get the color balloon they want at Red Robin, tantrums ensue. I dont want that at the wedding.

Still keep thinking about what to wear to the rehearsal. SO happy we got the pavilion for the rehearsal. Wahoo! What does one wear? Do I go casual? Dressy? Am I going to be cold since it is outside? All these small things are adding up and I am feeling rushed. I guess I could get off the computer and do some of the actual stuff but what am I doing? Venting on here. I say that is time well spent.

I think that is all for now. I just worry there is something major I am missing.

Good night all!
Dani
 
Two posts in two days-you know I am freaking out :)

Today I went dress shopping with my mom for her "mother of the bride" outfit. This is not an easy task. Her taste and my taste are vastly different. She likes patterns, I like classic solids with nice jewelry accents to jazz it up. She was having a hard time realizing how much things cost. Thankfully before we went shopping for my dress she watched a lot of "Say Yes to the Dress" and saw how people spend a fortune on their wedding gowns so when I found one for $800 she thought it was a bargain! But when it came to her outfit she thought things over $100 were outrageous. Thankfully with my bargain hunting skill I found something for her. It is not what she envisioned but it is really nice, AND it was on clearance. It is a wine color in a really nice fabric. It is a jacket and skirt which is considered a suit but it looks classic and it flatters her. I also had a coupon for $10 off. That's how I roll. She just needs some shoes and then she is ready to go! One more thing off the to do list. I hope she likes it a lot. It looks really nice.

My new stressor (not new but more prominent) is the darn jewelry for the girls. I found things I love but then no one likes them. Found some today and my sister said they were "gypsy" and my other friend said "fiesta." I am losing my mind over this. I don't feel comfortable buying fake diamonds and they look....well, fake. But is this more classic looking? I like big and dangly earrings but others do not. I also need to make whatever I buy into a clip on pair for one of the girls. I just want this to be over with! I lay awake thinking about earrings. I am so tempted to say wear whatever floats your boat because ladies, I am so jumping ship. I would also like to thank the saleslady at a store today who told me I was "cutting it close" to the wedding. Like I need to be reminded me of that. I don't care that you have had "7 years of service" with the company, lie to me and tell me I have plenty of time.

Tonight after dinner I went to Joann's to see what they have that could work for holding the cards. WHY am I so worried about this? I want something cute, but cheap and practical. I bought something that I think I might jazz up but it is not me at all. Seriously, it is something to put cards in (hopefully with some checks in it :banana:) so why does it matter? I realized I do not care about the garter so I bought one for $2.99. Oh yes, I know how to be classy and splurge. I will be tossing it to single men who might put it on their rear view mirror. So not paying a lot for it. Let's hope it does not fall apart.

One fabulous thing that happened is Maxine sent me the layout of the room. WAHOO! I am such a visual person and this really helped me. Tomorrow while I am stuck at the dealership I will be whipping out my seating chart. I am so over hearing "I want to sit with this person and not this person....can you put me here and not there....." Really? Am I back to teaching Kindergarten again? Man, I am so cranky, but actually, I am feeling better. I have something I can get started on.

I need to decide if I am going to do something for the table numbers. I thought about doing a picture of us with a number and the story of the picture on the back, but is that lame? I also want Mickey balloons somewhere. Yes, I said it. I can't take it back. It is a wedding faux paux according to wedding fancy people but dude, I love Mickey balloons. Would they be so wrong at the head table?! I just had a vision of the little ones trying to get them down and fighting over them. Maybe I might reconsider that. When they dont get the color balloon they want at Red Robin, tantrums ensue. I dont want that at the wedding.

Still keep thinking about what to wear to the rehearsal. SO happy we got the pavilion for the rehearsal. Wahoo! What does one wear? Do I go casual? Dressy? Am I going to be cold since it is outside? All these small things are adding up and I am feeling rushed. I guess I could get off the computer and do some of the actual stuff but what am I doing? Venting on here. I say that is time well spent.

I think that is all for now. I just worry there is something major I am missing.

Good night all!
Dani

Have you considered just letting the girls pick their own jewelry? Tell them "something simple" or whatever. It might make you less stressed, it's not such a big thing that you should be stressing over.

As for the rehersal- You could wear a casual dress and maybe a sweater or cute jacket over it if it's cold out.

I like the mickey balloon idea but I think you might be right about it just causing a fight with the little ones. NOT GOOD! lol Maybe you could find a different way to incorporate them into the wedding/reception/pictures.

I really hope you find a way to not stress over the details, at the end of the day you will be married to the man you love in the happiest place on earth and I bet you that IF something isn't perfect you will be the only one who will know. :thumbsup2
 
Just to chime in on the balloon thing. I know they are not "correct" for weddings but I had seen pictures years ago of ADH with balloon bouquets and I wanted them. Here are a few photos from our ADH reception.

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We had 6 bouquets. One on either side of the stage at ADH (see photo below).

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One on either side of the stairs that we walked down to our reception. And one on either side of another staircase coming from the bar area.

I just loved them and did not care if they were "correct" or not.

After the ceremony we took two red balloons and went with Misty (our photographer) and she got some great pictures of us with the balloons (she made us black and white and left the balloons red).

I say if you want them - get them.

Linda
 
Just have to let you know I love reading along. I remember reading your PJ awhile ago but then decided it's best to focus on my ideas than thinking about everyone elses, indecisive much? hehe

LOVE your writing style - I don't know what you sound like but I think it's you reading it in my head. weird

Can't wait to read more!
 
Hi All-

lpizzuro123-Thanks for the balloon pictures. I remember seeing your pictures and that made me think of balloons. Apparently the people at Disney think it is tacky but I heart them.

erin W.: thanks for the compliment. Would love to write a book but who would read it? What would I write about? :) I sound very seductive and sexy. I could have a hotline 1-900-HOT-DANI. Totally kidding.

So we are less than a month away and the tension in my neck is killing me. To top it off, we are putting our dog down tomorrow. She was going to be 11 on our wedding day. The boys are going to be destroyed. The sun and moon revolve around this dog. I have never been attached to a pet and in the year I have been around her, she is my buddy. She is always next to me (laying on my feet now), sleeps near me, wags her tail when I come in, etc. I said we should wait, but Bryan thinks Disney World will be a good distraction. Not so sure about that. Well, enough sadness and random, non wedding stuff.

I am finalizing the last few things. I am adding things, removing things, etc. It is all within the same amount, so it works, but since the count of people went down, I pay less for table linens, chair covers, etc. So what do I do? I decide I need more things, like the balloons. Not sure if I will do that as even the people at Disney tells me it is tacky. I am questioning having a kids table, but for 7 kids, most of which will dance and play with their DS, I dont know if I should do it. I think it might look weird and I think it will be an eye sore. They said the centerpiece could be balloons but I don't know.

I talked to Maxine and we have a pretty good schedule. I was stressing about it but did I take the time to re read the BEO and realize it had been on there since July? Uh, no. I felt like an idiot. I made my guest book last night. Engagement pictures with a white background, and then got sharpies for people to sign. I went to get the Sharpies and realized they have Silver ones so I could have done black pages. Contacted Snapfish-no luck in canceling. Darn them for being so efficient and timely. I need to not focus on the fact I could have had black pages. Grrrr. I am going to make a sign that says "Please don't just sign your name. Or "Have a Great Summer" or "Love you Like a Sister" or "2010 RULES" like they do in yearbooks. Kidding of course, but I am going to make a sign that says please write a memory, wish or something to the bride and groom. I want to say DO NOT JUST SIGN YOUR NAME. But that is not going to fly. A fabulous former Disney bride bought me the adorable house with a slot in the roof for my cards. Saw it on Etsy and fell in love, and she got it for me. Thanks C! You are the best!

My friend made me a Bride hoodie to wear while I am getting my hair and makeup done (thankfully all my friends got married and I learned not to wear something I can't unbutton or unzip) but when I washed it all the jewels fell off. I am SO sad. Need to find something but it is so much money and I am not sure if I feel ok doing it myself.

My bridesmaids are doing all the table numbers for me. I was going to cut out Mickey heads with the machine I have, put a number on them and laminate them to put in the stands. One BM (hate saying that abbreviation) said I am spending a half a million dollars (I am not even spending $30,000) and I need to put tacky back in the closet. I learned the hard way I need to stop asking everyone's opinion on everything. I bought the bridesmaids earrings, waiting for them to come so I can get them wrapped. They are simple and boring, but they were on clearance and cute. AND they were only $12. I hope they look ok.

My latest struggle is my sister is my MOH and she has a bouquet like mine-roses and daisies. Should I make hers like the other girls? Or make it like mine since she is the MOH? The moms and step mom have white roses, but I am thinking they should be red to match other peoples. Thoughts? Anyone?

Bryan and I picked our ceremony music. I wrote out our ceremony taking bits and pieces from everything Jack Day gave us. I was worried it was too much but he wrote me back and said WELL DONE all in caps, which means I am awesome. I planned on having readers but when do they come in to the ceremony? I already asked them so I need to find something. Somehow...someway. I was having issues not having the remaining two nephews in the wedding. Always wanted them as ring bearers so I made Bryans 2 boys solely groomsmen and my two youngest nephews the ring bearers - even though I highly doubt that the 6 year old who does not talk and is SO shy will do it, the 8 year old seemed excited about carrying the pillow. Hope he knows it is not a real pillow. Or a pillow pet. I told my sister in law they can just wear their black suits. Bryan thinks they should have tuxes but here is the kicker-each tux is $183. Seriously?! I am fine with the suits, but then I think yes, they should have them, but that is a ton of money to hold a pillow when the groomsmen will be in black jackets and black ties as well. Does it really matter?

Bryan and I finally picked our first dance song. He hated everything I wanted. Hated, hated, hated. Then he said Fine, pick what YOU want. So then I sobbed saying this is my first wedding, and this is the only part of my wedding I thought about when I was little and I want something that is meaningful to both of us. He said every song that makes him think of me is fast and can't be danced to. He went to iTunes and was searching for random songs. I said I did not want to pick something for iTunes. Finally we agreed on one, but I think after 2+ hours he was just over it so he picked one. At least it is done.

We were assigned our DJ. I am worried. I want our DJ to be great. I have lots more to say about this but I heard the DJs go onto the boards so I am going to shut it. Any recommendations on DJ's? Feedback? You can PM me and let me know if you don't want to post it.

Trying to think of what else. I have a dress fitting tomorrow. Have not been to the gym so I am worried. Too much going on for the gym. I should make time, but I would rather cry about the dog, work on wedding stuff, and eat some Golden Oreos. So delicious.

I spray tanned all summer, and paid through December. Have I gone since September? No. I keep thinking I better go. My fear is it rubbing off on my dress. Also, do I need to be "tan" since only my arms and chest are going to be shown?

Another random thing (I am all over the place) I forgot I get hives when I am sad or nervous or anxious. I should have bought a turtleneck dress.

Castle shoot might be moved to a later time. Apparently they are all switching in 2011 and they might do it for the December brides. I am nervous about this as I wanted pics in the "dark" with the castle lit up. Also really worried that the lights are on the castle. What will it look like when they are not on? I fear it will be like the lame neighbor who stills has the icicle lights up for the holidays in March. Speaking of that, Christmas decorations are EVERYWHERE. Lights on the houses, and the horrid inflatable things in the yard. My apologies for those who love them, but the giant Santa in a hot air balloon that says MERRY CHRISTMAS on it does not excite me. It also makes me feel pressure that when I get back from the wedding, it will be present time. I want to shop now but we can't afford it with the wedding.

Yet another random thing (let me just be honest and tell me my doctor put me on Ritalin because I was so all over the place. I think it is safe to say, it is NOT working. AT ALL)....we booked our honeymoon. We were supposed to go to St. Lucia. Would love the Maldives but we need to win the lotto first. He wanted Europe but for 5 days, not worth it in my book. If I go, I want to see a ton. Planned on St. Lucia but then our travel agent (did not know they were still around) said to think about Jamaica. Hope I did not already write this-sorry if I did. We looked into Jamaica and for $3,000 less than St. Lucia we get the "Millionaire Suite", our own pool, and two butlers. Seriously? Who is going to want to come home to potty time, cleaning, laundry, etc? Not me. When people ask us about the honeymoon Bryan points out we have an outdoor shower. Is that really worth telling? Here is the link to our room:

http://www.sandals.com/main/negril/ne-millionaire.cfm

I went to Sandals with the ex boyfriend in the Bahamas and I loved it. Hope this one is just as amazing! I am SO happy we are waiting until February to go. I need to come down off the wedding and have something to look forward to.

I went to the ENT the other day (hoping I did not write this before) and the lady told me she just came back from her wedding and has been crying non stop since it is over. Hope that does not happen to me. Anyway, the Dr. looked in my right ear, said it looked perfect. NO! He looked in my left and said my ear drum is supposed to be a cone, but it is straight up and down and bulging. I am on Mucinex and a nasal spray. He said it MIGHT clear up in three weeks. I told him I am getting on a plane. He said I am pushing it. I have no choice. Hoping this pressure and pain and blocked feeling goes away.

Final note. I did the seating chart, felt good about it, but then I went out with 4 couples on Saturday night who are all going to the wedding. They all loved each other and begged me to put them at the same table. It is already done! Sure, it could change, but not likely. But what am I doing? Trying to make everyone happy. Then I did not realize how much these people drink. Makes me worried about the BOC but Maxine said she has only seen two weddings that did not benefit from BOC. Fingers crossed.

That is about it. Thanks for having me vent and reading it!

Dani
 
OMG that room is insane. I want to go there right now....holy crap.

I laughed out loud (not just an LOL, but a full out all spelled out LAUGHED out loud) at your comment about Rev. Jack writing you back in all caps...it was one of my favorite things about him, every email I got it was like he was screaming at me in excitement!

I cannot believe you are this close - your plans sound wonderful - I wish I was coming, but alas I wasn't invited, and my showing up would be slightly stalkerish...
 
I should not come on here, because seeing the ticker that says 2 weeks + makes me want to crawl into a ball and roll away to some fabulous place, alone. For months it seemed like Tink was not even planning on flying across that ticker, yet suddenly she is hauling to the end. Where did all the time go?

I am still in a complete fog. Not sure if it is my ears or not. I want to feel better. I am not enjoying anything, and I have a list a mile long. I have been a shell of myself for a long time and I miss "me." I hate that this is happening at the time of the wedding. I can barely remember yesterday. Seriously. No doctor believes me and it is frustrating. How does one explain brain fog? Going through the motions? I have 2 weeks and there is nothing that can be done. I just want to be better. I also want to not be so cranky. Enough about my personal health stuff :)

I feel like I have so much to do (and what am I doing? Looking on the computer wasting time). I like to avoid the overwhelming. I got the guest book in the mail the other day, need to tie a ribbon on it, and then pack that up. I made the tin to hold the pens for the guest book table, bought the pens, the sand to hold up the pens, and I just need to make a sign that says please write something to the bride and groom.

Some people just bailed so now I need to rework the seating. It is going to be weird because there is only about 4 people that will have a 10 person table. I need to break it up more but some families are huge so it is hard. We will see. Just want to get the place cards done. I have a ton of crafting stuff, but I thought about using the perforated business card size to print people's names on them and then do something crafty on the side of them, but formatting them is a NIGHTMARE. Might need to think of something else.

I am super nervous because my final dress fitting is the day before we leave. I am freaking out about that. Hope it is ok. I paid for the steaming appointment, I have almost all the hair and makeup prepaid, now I just worry about tipping. I am getting Maxine something, but am I supposed to get the florist something? Her assistant something? My salesperson? Then I have to tip the limo driver, the photographers, etc. It is out of control. I guess I have to get something for the videographer too?! Ugh. Any thoughts?

I have been so stressed (I am ALWAYS this way) so I went to get a massage today. I love, love, love the way this guy does massages (yes, a guy which I thought I would be against) but he is amazing.....except he talks. The entire time.....and uses the same jokes....the entire time. Every time. Over it, but man, he rocks with massage so I go with it. So there he is, working out the endless knots all over my body and I sit there listening to the music trying to not think about everything. I swear to you, it is the same music they play while you are waiting in line for Space Mountain. So of course I think, I hope the park is not insanely crowded....I hope the lines are not long, I hope we get some fast passes, etc. So much for relaxing....then again I don't know HOW to do that.

Not much else to report. I told Warren I wanted the balloons but just two clusters, one on either side of the door when you walk in. Maxine said she is not for balloons and I appreciated that opinion, but I am going to go with it. It won't be overkill I don't think. I did ask that there be some at the wedding pavilion so Bryan and I could do a picture or two with them after the ceremony. Just like a Mickey one or something. Warren said he would add them to the WP, but I wrote him back saying I just want them somewhere, not visible. Perhaps in the vestibule?! We shall see.

I am really worried about pictures. The groomsmen only get 30 minutes before they leave for the WP and I am hoping they cram as much as possible in there. Bryan with his family too. I want to get a ton of pics with my side of the family (like my siblings, niece, nephew, etc) before the wedding so I really hope we have time to do a lot of them. My shot list is huge so we will see.

Did I tell you that my nieces dress came in and it is huge? I had to contact someone else and they are making a different one in her size. They had me measure her exactly-so I hope this works. It is a tank dress so she needs a cardigan. Another thing to worry about.....

Apparently everyone is wearing jeans to the welcome dinner. Even Bryan. Not sure what to wear. Maybe just a simple black dress? Casual? I feel like I am the bride so I need to wear something nicer.

Wow, I ramble. And complain. A lot.

Hope everyone is having a great day!
Dani
 
i hope you're feeling better!!

you're getting so close, i can't wait for an update!!
 
Wow, I used to laugh at those who plan their weddings more than a year from the date, but I realized how time flies. I wish I would have enjoyed this time more, but I don't know how that would have changed if I were to do it all over again.

I went back to the ENT and after 3 hours and many more tests, they determined it is just my horrible TMJ and I should get my jaw broken, rewired, and the problems will go away. Uh, I think I will pass on that, although the weight loss would be phenomenal. So no luck on finding the root of the issue-I think they dont know what to say so they just went with something. I had sinus tumors removed in 1994 and they said they were likely to return in 10 years. He said he did not see any of them, but they did not see them last time until they did a CT scan. I just want to feel better. I asked him if there is anything I could do, and he told me, and I quote "Don't get bombed any time soon." Um, that is all you can tell me? Not "Take mucinex, do a nasal rinse, drink lots of fluids, etc." Just don't get drunk? Gee thanks. Bryan and the boys have sinus infections and I am hoping I do not get anything. I also hope the plane ride is comfortable for my sinuses and me.

I am finally getting things done. I tend to wait until the last minute. I over think things way too much. I have a machine that can cut things so I cut out 40+ Mickey heads, then punched red scalloped circles, and then put the name and table number on a white circle mounted to the mickey. I need to take a picture. I will attach the tags to black and white polka dot boxes that I will put ornaments in. I have cards for the tables that say "in lieu of favors we donated to Susan G. Komen." So WHY did I decide to do the ornaments and extra work? Because I like to add stress to my life. I wanted to ship the boxes and stuffing down to FL but Bryan said no, we need to do them here. Um, I am not going to put together 40+ boxes with stuffing and put them in 15 suitcases. But he ordered them and they arrive on Friday. I will pack the flat boxes and the stuffing and do them down there. After all, I have to wait to get the ornaments until I am down there. I will be poking a hole in the Mickey, then tying it with white ribbon onto the polka dot box. My friend made the table numbers for it. I gave her no direction and she used polka dot paper. They are adorable but I am now wondering if people put their boxes on the already polka dot tables, with polka dot table numbers, will it look like polka dots threw up? I really hope not. I need to post pictures.

An amazing person on this board got me our card box that I will love and cherish forever. Words can't express how grateful I am to her for all the work she has done for me. It is amazing! Thanks C!

I packed my "Bridal Emergency Kit" for the wedding day. I was not sure what to cram in there, but I put in every possible medication for every possible ailment I can think of. Tissues, Visine, Chapstick, Floss, Wisp toothbrushes, safety pins in case the bustle falls (I hate my bustle the seamstress did but it was the only way to do it. It looks like I have wings coming out of my hips. Like I need to look larger) and there are other things I can't even remember. I sent a picture to my friend and she said the bag was not big enough for vodka and a getaway plane. I hope I remembered everything.

I have been wearing my wedding shoes all over the house (they look super hot with sweat pants) because even though they are a Size 10, they are SO tight. They were supposed to stretch. Um, no. So I ask myself, why did I have my parents spend $40 on shoes that really do look like slippers, but are far less comfortable? Not sure. I have blue shoes to walk down the aisle in but for the reception? I am thinking I should have bought the silky ivory slippers I passed by at Kohl's today. Darn.

My final dress fitting is the day before we leave. Fingers crossed it fits and is done-and fits in the carry on. She said she is a miracle worker with those bags. Let's hope she is right. Bryan said he needed a huge suitcase for the tuxes. I said they might fit into a carry on. He asked me if I knew how big tuxes were. I asked him if he knew how insanely huge my dress was. He has not seen it, but it is large. Packing for this trip should be interesting. We are allowed to check 8 bags and then we can have carry ons. I keep reminding him that we have a washer/dryer and we need to plan. I have no idea what to bring but the boys can wear the same outfits again (Assuming the guaranteed Mickey ice cream bar stains come out of them). Bryan apparently thinks our car is a clown car that can pack 8 suitcases, 4 carry ons, and 4 people. Um, no. We need to consolidate. I sent things down to Maxine for the wedding which I am so happy about! I sealed the Photo Guest Book for fear she will open it before the wedding and see all of our "illegal" engagement pictures from Epcot and cancel our wedding.

The remaining costs are adding up. Big time. Then I almost gave my 71 year old father a heart attack. Apparently he thought our deposits were final payment for the videographer and photographer. Um, no, we owe like $4,000 more. I felt terrible. Horrible. I cried and cried, but it was in the original budget I gave him. He is paying for so much and I appreciate every cent. I wish there was something I could do to show how grateful I am. There are things I can cut, but at this point there are some things I can't go back on. I just hope everything goes as planned and things are awesome.

I decided on balloons, which I think I wrote about but I am too lazy to re read previous entries. I am doing them when you walk into the reception. Red Mickey heads with a mylar Mickey and Minnie. Call them tacky, but if they look bad, I can always pop them. Or give them to the kids who will already have hounded me for them the entire reception. I also had some placed in the bride's vestibule so we can have some silly pictures with them after the ceremony.

My big frustration now is the videographer and the DJ need music in MP3 format. I have all WMA files on my iTunes. They said to download them from iTunes-but I already have them and I just need them in a different format. Grrr!

My niece's flower girl dress came (the second one since the first one was huge and well, revealing) and I am about to head over there to see if it fits. If not, we will be pinning it. I am also going to see her get her first haircut in her 3 years on this planet. I love that kid but her hair always looks like she has been on an all night binger or is trying to bring back a badly cut mullet. My sister in law is going to resist the cut but she so needs it. It will grow so much better. The lady doing the haircut has not been doing hair in many years so I have a bad feeling about this. Let's see how it goes!

More to come as the days go by....I hope!
D
 
Hey Dani! Can you believe it's almost our big days? I am the day after you. I'm glad I'm not the only one who entered a pre-wedding fog and am just now coming out of it and realizing I have no idea what I've been doing about this wedding for the past couple months. It's like I spent so long thinking it was so far away that it would never come and now it's like:scared1: oh crap - it's here! I hope everything falls into place for you... if you feel stressed I hope you find a little peace in knowing that I am freaking out too:rotfl:
 
good luck with everything - i'm barely coming out of the fog myself. i think you can change the format of songs within itunes? i think you can without re-downloading but obviously it still takes the human intervention! make the hubby to be do it? i'm sorry about the money stress. its so hard! try not to worry! hang in there - once things get going there you will have FUN!
 
People have been emailing me saying "One more week you will be married!" Then my sister posted pics of Thanksgiving and said "My sister and her family." Whoa.

Yesterday the stuffing for the boxes came. It is huge and I really wish Bryan would have listened to me and let me ship it down there. I put it in a Space Bag and vacuumed the air out so it fits. Well, of course it is not staying compressed and it is huge! It fills an entire suitcase. When it is compressed it look questionable, so I can see the TSA people opening it since it looks like it could be rice, popcorn, or possibly cocaine :)

Bryan gets the tuxes tomorrow so when he brings them home, I will at least know how much room we have in the suitcases. There are already so many bags. I keep reminding him that we have a washer and dryer so we will see. He is packing like we are going to a desert or something. Do we really need 3 things of wipes when the little one is mostly potty trained? Do we need 15 outfits each? Nope. We need to consolidate. We were so excited to not bring a stroller, then I saw the cost of a double stroller down there. Uh, we will bring our own. A pain in the bottom of course, but we will save some money.

Our castle shoot was going to be on the 6th but they said no because they would be doing the Christmas parade that day. Well, now my friends are saying they read it is on Friday and Saturday. The Disney people I talked to said it is on the 6th, no special tickets are required, etc. I am so confused.

Can I just tell you how many people are calling and emailing me asking what clothes they should pack and ask me what the weather will be. Um, am I Al Roker? It is called weather.com. That is what I will be doing. I have no idea what to tell you to pack. All I can tell you that the welcome dinner is casual and then there is the wedding. So many people ask me what to wear to the wedding. Really? I don't understand. It does not say black tie affair, no you should not wear jeans or shorts (doesn't everyone know this?)-other than that, surprise me.

My biggest worry right now is all three guys in the house are sick. Bryan and Torrin are feeling better but their meds ran out. Camden has had a 101.9 fever for 3 days now, and just now at dinner he threw up. I really hope I do not catch anything and that everyone is well for the wedding.

I feel like I got some things done today which is nice. Still need to write out some cards. I keep thinking of more things I want to do, but I need to stop. I am putting more work on myself that is not needed. I feel like I need to make everything. I feel like I need to write a meaningful letter to all the Bridesmaids, my parents, Bryan's Dad, etc. I just really, really, really hope I am not a total stress case and I really enjoy the day and not sob through the entire day.

I had a meltdown on Friday night. There was a big mix up with my hair and makeup girl, things were lost in translation and I frustrated her so much. I was convinced I was going to be hated and I was a mess. Eventually things worked out and all is well. Phew! I did not want to be worried about it for a week.

I texted my seamstress saying I did not feel comfortable having my final fitting the day before I leave, but no response. I hope everything looks good!

I decided to go back to spray tanning. I had not done it since September and I paid for all the other months in between. I get there last night, this guy working there is named Jeff, and he started talking and talking to me. He asked why I have not been in, I said no time and I have been wearing pants. He then tells me I should renew since I only have a week left on my plan, that I should buy this great lotion for $20, etc. I then ask him for advice on when I should come in to make sure I have some color for the wedding. We talk for a long time, he congratulates me on the wedding, tells me men may pretend to not care about things, but they really do, etc. I chatted with him for about 15 minutes. Today I go back-there is no one there, and he is sitting at the counter very bored. I say Hey! (After all, after last night we should have Best Friends necklaces.) He then sees my account, tells me my subscription is about to expire, asks me if I need lotion, etc. Then he asks me what did I want done. I tell him the spray tan. I say I will be back on Tuesday as I planned (We talked about this last night.) He tells me I should come in on Thursday too. I tell him I can't, I am leaving. He asks me where I am going, and I tell him Florida. He asks me why am I going there. Uh, I am getting married. He says, "Congratulations! That is so great!" I remind him I was the last customer last night and we already talked a lot about this. He was confused. I am sure it will all wash off when I get to Florida, but I figured lets give it a try and hope my dress does not turn orange. The best part is every time I come home from tanning, the 3 year old asks me why I smell like carrots. It does smell like carrots.

I am off to make some more things and put these sick kids to bed soon. Please send pixie dust my way so I do not get sick. I am a nervous wreck over this-and the wedding.....

Hope you had a good weekend!
Dani
 














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