Curfew for a 15y old?

[The Sweetness]

Help me out PLEASE fellow parents... I need your opinions of what is an appropriate curfew for a15y old. My little **angel** and I just dont see eye to eye

 

[rbuzzotta]

We just raised DD's curfew (she is almost 16) to 11:00 but do reserve the right to make it back to 10:30!!! My little 'angel' thinks we are so out of touch with this but tooo bad..............it is my house she lives in and will abide by the rules!!! She knows she is in deep doo doo if she comes home late without a call or goooooooddddd excuse!!

 

[Anewman]

I really take it on a event by event basis.

Unsupervised party, 10:30.
Movies/amusement park/etc... with friends we know and us providing transportation, can be as late as midnight.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

My daughter is 17, but we sort of play it by ear depending on what she's doing. At 15 though, it was 10pm.

 

[Cool-Beans]

For the life of me, I have never understood curfews. Kids are right when they say that they can do the same thing before midnight that they can do after.

A friend of mine in high school had a super-strict mom. Her curfew was 10 p.m. on weekends and 7:30 on weeknights. She was pregnant at 15 and gave birth at 16.

Every parent has to make their own decsions, of course. Mine was no curfew...because, like I said, I don't see the point. Totally supporting a parent's right to set one, though.

 

[Skatermom23]

My DS15 doesn't have a curfew. On school nights he doesn't go out and on the weekends he either stays over at a friends house or the friends stay here. They don't just go wondering. If it is a special event then we judge it based on whos going, time of the event etc.

 

[ilovejack02]

Our curfew is what the city mandates, all kids to a certain age must be in by 11 pm. Once he hit 17 we changed it to midnight and now that is he almost 18 he doesnt have one...... BUT that doesnt mean he can come strolling in at 4am with letting me know where he is.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

For the life of me, I have never understood curfews. Kids are right when they say that they can do the same thing before midnight that they can do after.

A friend of mine in high school had a super-strict mom. Her curfew was 10 p.m. on weekends and 7:30 on weeknights. She was pregnant at 15 and gave birth at 16.

Every parent has to make their own decsions, of course. Mine was no curfew...because, like I said, I don't see the point. Totally supporting a parent's right to set one, though.

You're assuming that a curfew is meant as a deterent from certain behaviors. I didn't look at it that way or as being overly strict. We establish responsibility and move forward from there. Most kids appreciate boundaries, whether they'll admit it or not.

 

[petchie]

Weekend nights 11pm.

School nights 9:30 -10pm or so. UNLESS they are at an away game or school sponsored activity and the bus is not back.

 

[MagicalMom]

My 15yo daughter has to be in by 10pm. I don't see any reason for her to stay out any later. The mall closes at 9pm. There is really nothing to do in this area other than ride around & get in trouble or hang out at someones house.

 

[Cool-Beans]

You're assuming that a curfew is meant as a deterent from certain behaviors. I didn't look at it that way or as being overly strict. We establish responsibility and move forward from there. Most kids appreciate boundaries, whether they'll admit it or not.

Like I said, I totally support everyone's choice, whatever it is. If it teaches your kids responsibility, more power to you!

 

[The Sweetness]

I really appreciate all of your speedy responses! Keep 'em commin!

My dd is not pleased BTW, seeing that my guess of 11PM was pretty standard

 

[CJMickeyMouse]

It all depends on the situation. Our kids don't have a set curfew - some nights it's 10:00, sometimes much later.... depends on who they are with and what they are doing.

DS soon to be 17 has a girlfriend with very strict parents, so it's easy for us.... come home after you drop her off.

DS 15 does not go out much yet, but when he does he takes a cell phone and keeps in touch as to where he is and what is going on... whether or not he will need a ride home.

We live in a small town so I think that makes a difference..... but our boys know that all is takes is for us to catch them in one lie and then there won't have to be a curfew.... they just won't be going anywhere anymore.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

We don't have a curfew for my 15 very soon to be 16 y/o ds. Pretty much because he doesn't go anywhere unless he's with friends and usually either dh or another parent is with them.

They either hang out at each other's homes or go to sporting type events. I imagine we will figure out a curfew on a case to case basis as the more social events start.

 

[sPaRkLeSpAz]

I never really had a curfew. If I wasn't going to be home by about Eleven, I would call my mom and let her know who I was with, where we were, and what we were doing.

 

[JadenLayne]

Case by case here. If it's a school even he can be out until it is over. On the weekends all the kids around here usually do is go to the movies or bowling. Both places are closed by 12:00 so I would say his curfew is 12:00. When he starts driving by himself we will see. My curfew was always 11:00 but that was 15 years ago. It will probably be midnight.......there is NOTHING but trouble going on after midnight here so I'm sure thats what it will be.

 

[nsyncraider17]

I voted for 12 pm, but then I realized that means noon.

Seriously, though, I think anywhere in the 11-midnight range is reasonable. I wasn't really out late at all when I was 15, but when I started staying out later in my junior year, I think my curfew started out at 11:30 and soon moved to 12. Now that I'm 20, when I'm home for breaks, I think it's been moved all the way to 12:30. (But I don't really follow it anyway )

 

[LilyWDW]

I said 11, but not so much as a strict hard curfew. For me it was "Either be hone by 11 or call us to let us know what is going on and when you expect to be home." So pretty much 11 was the hour of choice to check up and let them know all is a-okay.

Then again, I am a dork and was almost always home by 11 lol. Even today at 25 years old, my boyfriend and friends make fun of me because by about 10:30 I am ready for bed!

 

[eclectics]

11pm seems fair for a 15 year old. That was mine, if I can remember back that far!

 

[BabyPiglet]

I'm a teen and I don't have a curfew. But I really don't go anywhere. So it doesn't really matter.


I think 11 is a good curfew though.