Curfew for 14 year old??

[DisneycrazedX6]

I am the worst mother in the world....says my son.
He wants to sleep out next door with other 14 and 15 year old boys and girls. Yes girls......unsupervised sleep over, with parents that force their children to date. Am I the overprotected mom??? Isnt midnight fair for a curfew. I didnt get midnight until I was 16. I need feedback.....I am going out of my mind!! Should couples that are 14 be having sleep-overs??

HELP!!!!

 

[ksjayhawks]

Midnight seems fair. You are not overprotective and boys and girls should not be having unsupervised sleepovers together! Be the meanest mom--after me, that is.

 

[mamajoan]

Last night I was the Evil Mom to not so dear d-17 .. I have ruined her life... again....

She is a junior in HS.. her curfew is 11pm. Senior year garners midnight curfew... I did this with the other kids. They also said I ruined their lives at the time. They survived and now say they ''get it''. I will not say this kept any of them from sneaking out late at night. The boys thought they were ninja's for pete's sake... ya.. we had the knotted sheets hanging from the 2nd story bedroom windows one night...

So I think at 14 your son got off easy with a midnight curfew. Send him over here to my house if he wants to see a really mean mom

 

[Fan2CSkr]

A midnight curfew for a 14 year old does not make a mean mother in my book! I had a 10P curfew growing up until I was 18.

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I was NEVER allowed to go to or have co-ed sleepovers. My curfew was 10 p.m. until I was 16 and then it was 11 p.m. I don't particularly see the reason to have boys and girls at a sleepover. They can hang out at daily things and at school, there's really no need to spend the night together IMO.

 

[dreamcometrue]

I am a very laid back mom, however, I would not allow co-ed sleepovers at 14!! I think 12 o'clock curfew is more than fair! I didn't get that until I was 16!

 

[minkydog]

Co-ed sleepovers at 14? yowsa! He's lucky he's going at all. Personally, I think 12 mn is late, but you know your son best. Make sure he understands that curfew means 12 on-the-dot...12:01 is late and will result in repercussions.

 

[DISUNC]

I am the worst mother in the world....says my son.
He wants to sleep out next door with other 14 and 15 year old boys and girls. Yes girls......unsupervised sleep over

Firstoff..WHY did this stuff NOT happen when I was 14! I am Jealous!

, with parents that force their children to date.

That topic is a WHOLE thread all by itself!

Am I the overprotected mom???

Not because of this topic

Isnt midnight fair for a curfew.

Very FAIR!

I need feedback.....I am going out of my mind!!

Sorry you are in a tough situation, with them living next door. And you dont want your son to come across as a "mamas boy" to these other kids....BUT YOU HAVE TO STICK TO YOUR GUNS! Be Firm...DONT WAIVER!

Should couples that are 14 be having sleep-overs??

Not unless they want to be Mommy & Daddy @15!!!!!

Couple at 14???? They are just Hormones with skin at that age!

Keep A cool Head...and be FIRM about it!!!!

 

[spazzyjazzy]

Personally, I think that midnight is too late for a 14 year old. You also may want to check what your local curfew for minors is and go off of that.
When my son calls me a mean mom I just tell him oh well. I was just a 14 year old myself not too long ago and I have some stories of what I used to do as a 14 year old. Holy Cow! If only my mother knew I think it would give her a heart attack.

My son is 13 and if he asked me if he could go to a coed sleepover I think I would laugh at him and ask him if he was kidding. It wouldn't even be something I thought twice about.

 

[Sherri]

I am the worst mother in the world....says my son.
He wants to sleep out next door with other 14 and 15 year old boys and girls. Yes girls......unsupervised sleep over, with parents that force their children to date. Am I the overprotected mom??? Isnt midnight fair for a curfew. I didnt get midnight until I was 16. I need feedback.....I am going out of my mind!! Should couples that are 14 be having sleep-overs??

HELP!!!!

Oh this fight sure sounds familiar to me. My ds tried the same thing last year when he was 14. I said, no way, no how.

 

[DVC Jen]

No you are NOT being unfair. You are simply being a PARENT - which unfortunately your DS's genetic donors are not being.

There is a quote I LOVE - "Having children makes you no more a parent than having a piano makes you a pianist"......Michael Levine

You are being more than understanding. I don't let my almost 14 yr old stay out until midnight. She has to be home by 10. As far as the co-ed sleepovers - one of my DDs friends tried to do this. NO WAY!

 

[ChrisnSteph]

I'm a pretty laid back mom, but for a 14/15 year old:

A co-ed sleepover - over my dead, cold body. Not even when he's 17. WTH are parents thinking these days?
Curfew - 10-11 pm, depending on where he is, and what he's doing.

 

[miss missy]

midnight is more than I would give a 14 yr old!!

And your not the meanest parent out there, that title was mine when DS was a teen and I am sure DD is thinking it now too!

 

[rie'smom]

As a mom who's been through this with 2 sons and a DD soon to be there-midnight is good. Coed sleepover is that mom's way of saying that she's ready to be a grandmother!!

 

[ilovejack02]

woo hoo, i would have loved you for a mom at 14 if midnight was the curfew
Hell no, my child would have gone to a co ed sleep over, maybe to hang for a little while but be home by 10 even if it was next door. Im a big old meanie i guess lol. I get the whole girl boy party but i dont get the whole sleep over thing and I wouldnt trust anyone who allowed it too watch my kid. If it was just a party i would prob give a later curfew, but this sleep over thing blows my mind.
I have a 17 yr old and that has never come up thank goodness.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

This is our town's laws....So your son would have had to come home at 11pm if I was his mom.

Children under the age of 17 cannot be out between 11 p.m. and 6 a.m. from Sunday to Thursday and between midnight and 6 a.m. on Friday and Saturday. There is an exception if the child is going to or returning from a job without taking a detour and if the child is supervised by a parent or guardian.

 

[shortbun]

My son is almost 12 and he will not be attending any co-ed, unsupervised sleepover at 14-not even a drive by. Are those parents crazy? Just because they ARE, doesn't mean you have to be. Find another activity for your son that night, he needs a reality check. 14 yo boys should be sitting at home playing video games with each other or at the very most hanging at a mall with girls in a group. Heaven help us all. Will someone please put a stop to this?!

 

[Disney Doll]

When I used to tell my mother that she was the meanest mother in the world, she would reply "Well, good. Then I am doing my job". And she'd give me a little .

Truthfully, having a midnight curfew at 14 is more than generous. My DSIL's children did the coed sleepover thing when they were seniors in high school after their prom with the boys sleeping on the finished basement and the girls upstairs in the bedroom and the father sleeping against the door of the basement with a trip wire that would set off an alarm if someone so much as walked in front of the girls bedroom door.

I tease, but when they did the coed sleepover thing it was at the home of people DSIL & DBIL knew were responsible parents, and not people who were encouraging dating when the children were 12 years old.

Why do parents (not referring to you OP, but to the other parents who are encouraging this dating thing in children so young) push to put children into situations they cannot handle.

Stick to your guns. Your son will live.

 

[PaMom001]

I lived at home till I was 22. That was when I got married. I had to be home by 11 pm. A 22 year old had to be home by 11pm, now you can tell your child that my mom was the meanest.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I am the worst mother in the world....says my son.
He wants to sleep out next door with other 14 and 15 year old boys and girls. Yes girls......unsupervised sleep over, with parents that force their children to date. Am I the overprotected mom??? Isnt midnight fair for a curfew. I didnt get midnight until I was 16. I need feedback.....I am going out of my mind!! Should couples that are 14 be having sleep-overs??

HELP!!!!

Wait, what do you mean...parents that force their children to date?

But, no, it wouldn't be happening here. My son asked me if he could once, too. I just laughed. Actually he did one time go to a boy/girl sleepover, but it was with his youth group and the girls were on the second floor and the boys were on the basement with the pastor on the first floor and chaperones on all floors.