Cremation or Burial?

[agentpleakley]

ME: burial - I have a plot with my grandparents back in PA.

DH - if he goes first -- I'm having his remains made into a diamond ring. He is mad - but I keep telling him that he will always be with me and never alone. It makes perfectly good sense -- we have no family here - if either one of us goes - the other will more likely than not move out of the state to be closer to family. If I bury him here - who will visit his grave?

 

[Handbag Lady]

Buried with a HUGE HONKING sized tombstone that does tricks and shoots fireworks each night at midnight.




Well, you asked and I answered.


Cremation freaks me out.

Also, my grandparents: One was buried, the other cremated. It just feels lopsided to me. Plus, she was put in a gorgeous urn that was placed on top of his box.

 

[LukenDC]

Ideally, I want to be buried in a glass casket that is hidden in an alcove behind a waterfall. If I have trouble falling asleep, I often think of myself resting in my glass casket, enveloped with the mist from the falls. It's a soothing image.

Realistically, I will probably be cremated and I have asked that my cremains be scattered in San Diego's Balboa Park.

 

[agentpleakley]

Buried with a HUGE HONKING sized tombstone that does tricks and shoots fireworks each night at midnight.




Well, you asked and I answered.


Cremation freaks me out.

Also, my grandparents: One was buried, the other cremated. It just feels lopsided to me. Plus, she was put in a gorgeous urn that was placed on top of his box.

You guys make my diamond ring idea look lame

Ideally, I want to be buried in a glass casket that is hidden in an alcove behind a waterfall. If I have trouble falling asleep, I often think of myself resting in my glass casket, enveloped with the mist from the falls. It's a soothing image.

Realistically, I will probably be cremated and I have asked that my cremains be scattered in San Diego's Balboa Park.

 

[Stitchfans]

Do you prefer to have one over the other, or are you letting your surviving relatives choose?

Cremation and my ashes scattered... in a field of wild flowers or a wood would be nice. I want my funeral to be as "green" as possible.



...I dont want my ashes scattered in a Disney park, thank you very much!

Me too. In a Disney park would be ok with me but not with them.

 

[Abbie]

Cremated for me, absolutely no visitation. I'd love it if they threw a party instead. My DH asked that I make sure I die during the summer so he can have a crab feast. I told him I'd do my best to oblige.

We've just been through some difficult discussions on the subject with my mom, who's 83 and was very sick all through August. She and my dad have owned plots for years but we've decided to sell them. She hates the idea of a traditional funeral and visitation, so we found a local cremation business that will come pick up the body, do the cremation, and return the ashes, all for under $1000. Then we'll have a memorial service and reception at her retirement home. It's hard to think about but so nice to have things decided, and with her full blessing!

 

[SharpMomOfTwo]

I voted cremation other because I don't really care what anyone does with the ashes - at that point, I don't need them!!!

I can't go in a Jewish cemetary because I'm a jew with tattoos, they won't have me! Guess DH will have to spend eternity alone!

 

[Hedy]

My sister, my parents and I were discussing this last night since it's been on our mind lately (my grandmother is on life support due to a major stroke she had last week and they're pulling the plug on Friday ).

My mom is afraid of being cremated. She thinks she might still be alive when they throw her in the furnace, so she'd rather be buried (maybe being buried alive is better? ). My sister was saying she's going to have her cremated. We got into an argument over that and I said that, despite what sister's beliefs are, she should respect our mother's wishes.

Anyway, went sort of OT...I used to want to be buried, but now I think I want to be cremated, then buried. I would like a headstone too.

What a morbid topic.

Buried, once they harvest me for any organs that are any good. Should anything happen in the imediate future, I want to go to the plot on my mom's family's side in NY.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

For someone who has just had to do this for her mother (3 weeks ago), thank goodness I knew what she wanted, I want to be buried and I will be placed right next to her and DH, when he goes, I will between the 2 of them, where I have been since we got married.

I have second guessed everything I did, but I did as she wished, and I even bought a very expensive flower blanket for the top of the casket. I am surprised she hasn't haunted me about that yet, she thought flowers were a waste of money, but it made me feel better and they were the same flowers she carried on her wedding day. I haven't put a headstone out yet, I haven't gotten to that place yet. It is nice to have a place to visit her, any other way wouldn't have been acceptable to her anyway.

Suzanne

 

[C.Ann]

I even bought a very expensive flower blanket for the top of the casket.

they were the same flowers she carried on her wedding day.
Suzanne

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This brought tears to my eyes.. What an amazing gesture!

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

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This brought tears to my eyes.. What an amazing gesture!

That is why I chose them, they were white daisies and I added some pink carnations.

Suzanne

 

[challer]

I can't go in a Jewish cemetary because I'm a jew with tattoos, they won't have me!

This is a myth - there is no Jewish law against a tatooed Jew getting buried in a Jewish cemetary.

 

[aprilgail2]

I have extreme claustrophobia--the thought of being in a coffin has always freaked me out.
I want to be cremated and my ashes put into a nice urn and put on the mantel (where I an still keep an "eye" on things!)

I SO do not want a coffin and to be buried in one- the thought creeps me out-bugs and worms and maggots crawling over me-no thanks!. I much prefer to be cremated and have nothing left of me but ashes.

 

[antmaril]

I lost my husband in July. He was cremated and his ashes are in a mausaleum at the cemetery. When I die, I, too, will be cremated and my ashes will join his in the niche.

 

[horseshowmom]

I'd like to be cremated. The whole buried in the ground thing has always bothered me. After being cremated, I'd really like to be scattered out in one of our larger pastures if my husband and daughter didn't mind. I don't want a headstone.

 

[brerrabbit]

Buried in the family cemetary with my previous five generations. I look forward to some day meeting them all because they have some pretty interesting stories no doubt.

 

[Evil Genius]

Cremated and scattered over Lake Mead in Nevada.

For those who say they are letting the survivors decide, please rethink that. It's hard enough without the pressure of figuring out what to do with the ashes.

 

[wardfamily1]

Cremation and ashes scattered at WDW. I've already discussed this with DH. If something were to happen to me I want him to take the money that he would have spent on a funeral and take a vacation to WDW, take me on a few rides and then scatter my ashes.

 

[Iott Family]

Well, DH found a beautiful plot in a cemetary but I told him I couldnt bare the thought of him lying in a box decaying, that I would rather have him cremated so I could keep him close BUT then last night we were driving home and came across a taxidermy. Yep, he has agreed that being stuffed for posterity,sitting on his couch with his beloved remote in hand is the way. Me? I wouldnt miss him a day this way.

 

[chisnpeke]

Well, DH found a beautiful plot in a cemetary but I told him I couldnt bare the thought of him lying in a box decaying, that I would rather have him cremated so I could keep him close BUT then last night we were driving home and came across a taxidermy. Yep, he has agreed that being stuffed for posterity,sitting on his couch with his beloved remote in hand is the way. Me? I wouldnt miss him a day this way.