Creepy, Flustered or otherwise?? *Long*

[Fishbone†]

Long story as short as possible...

I work for a Ford Partner Company, and about a month ago they (Ford) had an appreciation day for us in which they displayed a bunch of their cars and served lunch. I went up there for awhile to drool over the Mustang GT they brought, and have some lunch.

Fast forward a couple of weeks..... I'm on an errand in our main building, and walking down the hall behind this guy. As we approach the end of the hall, he stops, turns around and introduces himself... asks my department, if I'm new, etc. He seemed really nice, and I got the tiniest inkling that he may be interested, but wasn't sure if I was just being vain or something.

Fast forward to today..... I'm on my way over to the main building, and as I approach the smoker's dock, we'll just call him "R" meets me halfway.

R: Excuse me
Me: Hi
R: Do you remember that day when Ford had all their cars here?
Me: Yes.
R: I just want to apologize. I was staring at you, and I'm sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable.
**Now quite honestly, I hadn't noticed, so I wasn't sure what to say.**
Me: That's okay.
R: I just don't want you to feel like you have to avoid me because you're scared or something.
Me: It's no problem. I'm okay.
R: I just feel bad if I made you nervous.
Me: I wasn't nervous.
**And not realizing how it might sound.....
Me: I guess I didn't even notice.
**With a hurt/surprised look on his face...
R: You didn't notice??
Me: No, sorry.
R: Well, it's just that I find you so incredibly attractive that I couldn't keep my eyes off of you.
Me: Thank you.
**And then to change the direction and enter more comfortable ground....
Me: Are you the one I met in the hall the other day.
R: Yes, that's me.
Me: Well it's nice to see you again.

And then I politely continued on my mission. Here's the thing. First, I'm madly, deeply and completely in love with the one for me...... I'm not available. Second, I had NO idea he was staring at me that day. And Third, I don't work directly with him, so other than today, the only other time I've seen him was that day in the hallway. I don't know anything about him or what he even does here.

I actually kind of felt bad. To me, I saw it as he was interested, and took the risk of approaching me and throwing it out there. I didn't crush him, but was trying to figure out how to tell him I'm with someone, and leave him to whatever. My DBF however found it disturbing..... thought his "pickup" line was creepy, and said there is no way he would have approached a girl that way. Maybe "Hey I noticed you at the Ford event. Do you like Fords?" or something to that nature. I see his point, and he may be right, but it also may have just been a bad judgement call as far as "pickup" lines... he may be back at his desk kicking himself for it. I have a tendency to trust maybe a little too much and see good where there may be "danger".... country girl you know. My DBF grew up in the city, and may be (okay IS) a quite a bit more "street smart" than I am. He thinks I should document it.... just in case. I think I should let the guy off the hook and let him know I'm taken.

So what do you guys think?? Creepy, flustered or otherwise??

P.S. I'm just interested in other people's takes on this. I've pretty much decided not to do anything at all, unless it comes up again.

 

[Christine]

Creepy.

 

[NMAmy]

The staring at you line was a little creepy but I think I'd just blow it off unless it continued. I wouldn't bother to document something like that--particularly since he doesn't work with you and you rarely see him.

Now if I suddenly began "running into him" a lot more frequently, I'd say something to him about having a steady boyfriend and not being interested and then consider making a complaint if it continued.

 

[mickeyboat]

Sounds like it might be time for DBF to give you a gigantic, shiny rock that can be seen from miles around to wear on your left hand!

No, really - it is a little creepy, but I am sure he was nervous and flustered. Chalk it up to him being little clueless (but creative), and let it go.

Denae

 

[Maleficent13]

You don't mention his age, but I know a few younger guys (think 20-25) who would think this was a perfectly snappy pick up line.

I agree with Amy...unless he keeps pursuing it, I'd let it go.

 

[experiment626mom]

Sounds like he doesn't quite know what to say to a person. So I would say flustered. Now if he keeps "bumping" into you, well then I'd say something about being with someone.

Good Luck Gorgeous!!

 

[drgnfly30]

Creepy....

 

[HappyMommy2]

From what you said, I'd take it as just kind of a dumb pick-up line.

However, I'd keep an eye out, and if he continues to "run into" you and mention your attractiveness you will want to tell him in no uncertain terms that you are not available. If you don't a ring, how else is he to know? His response to that would probably reveal the truth about whether or not he is creepy.