Cranberry or Pineapple?? Part 2

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Sorry I couldn't post earlier, I was really busy this weekend and yesterday.

Stephanie - I am so sorry to hear about your nephew. That is horrible. I will pray for him. I hope he has a speedy recovery. Thank god those girls were okay. Are they going to charge the driver with anything? Hugs to you.

 

[jiminyC_fan]

Good morning everyone.

Heidi and I are having a tough day. We just found out that her twin is moving to a different town. It is only 45 minutes away but it is like cross country to us. We are a very close family. I guess it is the thought that we just can't drive to each other's house easily, or go shopping together, or just pick up the phone and talk. It will be long distance. It is sad to know that we can't watch the babies grow up like we had all planned. Stacey is having a hard time with it too.

 

[Jrsy Boy]

Good morning everyone.

Heidi and I are having a tough day. We just found out that her twin is moving to a different town. It is only 45 minutes away but it is like cross country to us. We are a very close family. I guess it is the thought that we just can't drive to each other's house easily, or go shopping together, or just pick up the phone and talk. It will be long distance. It is sad to know that we can't watch the babies grow up like we had all planned. Stacey is having a hard time with it too.

Is she in Highlands Ranch now? Where are they moving? Colorado Springs? Fort Collins? Don't worry, you will adapt. My parents are in NJ so at least you will see your grandkids more than they see Alex.

 

[jiminyC_fan]

Thanks Jrsy. She is moving to Monument from Highlands Ranch. I do know that there are people out there a whole lot worse than us. But it still doesn't make it better. I told myself to quit being so stupid. That didn't help either. LOL

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

I agree...45 minutes away isn't that long...but when it turns to long distance calls and snowstorms that you can't pass the hill because they get hit so hard...it is extremely hard. For someone moving that far away and that we haven't been farther apart than 10 miles for 27 years is extremely emotional for me.....on top of that it most definitely the twin connection that makes it even harder.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Jrsy - problem is.....I don't want to adapt!!!! I want to be able to see them 1-2 times per week like I am doing now, with them moving it will be once a week in the summer and maybe once a month in the winter depending on snow and how much I have for gas money!!! No more alone time for me with the twins, no more future plans that I had of picking them up from school in the afternoon and spoiling them!!!

 

[cristit14]

Sandy and Heidi I know it will be tough, but you will make it. Just think when you do see them you can plan on spending the night and having a slumber party.

 

[Stepht5]

Good morning everyone.

Heidi and I are having a tough day. We just found out that her twin is moving to a different town. It is only 45 minutes away but it is like cross country to us. We are a very close family. I guess it is the thought that we just can't drive to each other's house easily, or go shopping together, or just pick up the phone and talk. It will be long distance. It is sad to know that we can't watch the babies grow up like we had all planned. Stacey is having a hard time with it too.

I do understand. My oldest dd lives 45min - an hour away and it might as well be hours. She's a retail manager so, she has crazy hours anyway (annd her job is 45 in the other direction) so, we are lucky to see her once a month!!!
And there aren't any grandbabies involved! UGH! That's terrible!
She lives in a direction that we never go -- it is in another county and yes, long distance.

 

[Stepht5]

Thank you everyone!!!

Yesterday the police gave my sister & bil a little more information -- the car ( a brand new Lexus SUV) was going 73 mph and went around two stopped cars and hit my nephews car (he was the 3rd car through the green light) and pushed the car 200ft.

My BIL said the other guys car is drivable and just had the front head lights out..... My 6 dneice is having nightmares -- I would, too!!!!

We don't know what all the guy is going to be charged with.....

I talked to my bil a few moments ago and he said that Andrew is doing sooo much better today then yesterday. They have sat him more upright and he is having a little bit easier of a time breathing -- I think they may have been able to remove the chest tube. He is also on oxygen.

If 2 of our children weren't in a play (Prince Caspian and Elvis has the part of Reepicheep) we would be down there this whole week.

I'm hoping that we can go down again on Monday. DH is planning on going dow eith Thursday or this weekend. We are letting our nephew's wife use one of our cars for now -- that was their one and only car.

Thanks again for all the prayers!

 

[jiminyC_fan]

Thanks everyone for your understanding and help.

Stephanie, I feel guilty even feeling the way I do right now with what your family is going through!

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

I am so furious right now. I am so mad that I am physically shaking. When I told Chris about why I was crying last night, his response was "well at least they are not dead." I tried to explain to him how I am feeling and I told him that I am feeling probably the same way he would be feeling if his daughters moved out of state and he couldn't see them once a week. He told me that there is a difference because they did move out of state and he followed them. I told him just to try and be in my footsteps right now and try and imagine what I am feeling and he told me that there was another difference, that my niece and nephew are not my Biological kids. So because they are not biologically mine that I should not be sad or love them like they are my own. I am so upset....so does he think because I am not his daughters biological mom that I can't love them as much as the biological parents do? Or their step dad that raised the girls do not love them as much as Chris does? Some support he is giving me during this hard time.

 

[Jsme]

Good morning everyone.

Heidi and I are having a tough day. We just found out that her twin is moving to a different town. It is only 45 minutes away but it is like cross country to us. We are a very close family. I guess it is the thought that we just can't drive to each other's house easily, or go shopping together, or just pick up the phone and talk. It will be long distance. It is sad to know that we can't watch the babies grow up like we had all planned. Stacey is having a hard time with it too.

You need to look into Vonage Phone Service. BUT you can not have dial up to use Vonage. I pay $28 a month and have all my regular services and a lot of extras plus all long distance.

I am sorry Stacey will be moving. I know you guys are having it tough.

Stephanie I tried to post last night to you but for some reason I do not see my post on here. We will be praying for your family. Please keep us up to date on his recovery.

 

[Jsme]

Heidi I am so so so sorry.

I seriously doubt Chris even realized how he sounds. Men can be this way a lot of the time. They just do not have the same connections as women do. Plus it is your twin's children. I would think that would make it a little different since you do have the twin bond. Try to chalk it up to him being a man. I am NOT saying all men are this way. But a lot of them are very selfish and just can not see someone elses pain.

I do not think Chris is good with emotions. Try to remember that as well. He just does not know how to deal with emotions. His way of dealing with them may be to tell you to stop and you are acting silly.

I know this does not help but just remember he probably does not mean to hurt you by what he said.

 

[jiminyC_fan]

Wow Selena, I can't wait for Heidi to get here and read your post. You should have been her mom!

 

[Jrsy Boy]

I am NOT saying all men are this way.

I would hope not!

 

[jiminyC_fan]

Jrsy, I think that you and Ted are exceptions to that for sure!

 

[Stepht5]

I am so furious right now. I am so mad that I am physically shaking. When I told Chris about why I was crying last night, his response was "well at least they are not dead." I tried to explain to him how I am feeling and I told him that I am feeling probably the same way he would be feeling if his daughters moved out of state and he couldn't see them once a week. He told me that there is a difference because they did move out of state and he followed them. I told him just to try and be in my footsteps right now and try and imagine what I am feeling and he told me that there was another difference, that my niece and nephew are not my Biological kids. So because they are not biologically mine that I should not be sad or love them like they are my own. I am so upset....so does he think because I am not his daughters biological mom that I can't love them as much as the biological parents do? Or their step dad that raised the girls do not love them as much as Chris does? Some support he is giving me during this hard time.

Sometimes men don't feel the same way that women do about things and they just don't understand.

I can certainly understand how sad you are -- you are used to being their 2nd mom! Of course you want them nearby! Before my sister moved 3 1/2 hrs south of here, I was the one that went to the kids Field day at school (my sister & bil were at work), I went to class parties, I ate lunch with them at school, etc... I had my kids at the time and they just went with me!

He isn't close to any of his neices or nephews, is he? Luckily for me my dh is very close to my neices & nephews -- the one that is in the hospital my dh was my sister's labor coach and he's the one that cut the cord!
He isn't close to his own neices, though... And they live within 20mins of our house. His brother has never been in our kids lives either and for about 8yrs or so they (BIL & his wife) lived around the corner from us..... When their children were small they had me or my oldest dd babysit.... but, that was the most of a relationship that they wanted.

 

[Stepht5]

Stephanie I tried to post last night to you but for some reason I do not see my post on here. We will be praying for your family. Please keep us up to date on his recovery.

Thank you so much!

My nephew is starting to be able to talk more -- he could only say a few words at a time before this afternoon.

I'm hoping my dh can go down in the next few days. The kids & I can't since they are in a show but, I think I can go back down on Monday.

My dad brought our extra car down to my nephew's wife today. And my dad is going to stay at the hospital for a couple of days to give everyone some rest.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Heidi I am so so so sorry.

I seriously doubt Chris even realized how he sounds. Men can be this way a lot of the time. They just do not have the same connections as women do. Plus it is your twin's children. I would think that would make it a little different since you do have the twin bond. Try to chalk it up to him being a man. I am NOT saying all men are this way. But a lot of them are very selfish and just can not see someone elses pain.

I do not think Chris is good with emotions. Try to remember that as well. He just does not know how to deal with emotions. His way of dealing with them may be to tell you to stop and you are acting silly.

I know this does not help but just remember he probably does not mean to hurt you by what he said.

Thanks Selena. I needed this. I think he realized last night about what he said and how much more it hurt me, but we will see since I only saw him for about 5 minutes this morning.

Stephanie - thanks for understanding!

Where is Marcie at?

Jrsy - we know you are completely different and definitely a great catch!!!!

 

[Jrsy Boy]

Thanks Selena. I needed this. I think he realized last night about what he said and how much more it hurt me, but we will see since I only saw him for about 5 minutes this morning.

Stephanie - thanks for understanding!

Where is Marcie at?

Jrsy - we know you are completely different and definitely a great catch!!!!

Often I find myself wishing I was Chris (for obvious reasons ) but not yesterday, that's for sure!