Could I have some hugs?

[Phrebert]

I am getting close to the end of my rope.
My DW had to have Gall Bladder Surgery and with us being part of the 47 million without insurance the bills have hit us pretty hard.
I took a second job along with my full time one, and I've worked 14 days in a row, and I am feeling guilty that I haven't been able to stay home to take care of her. Her relatives don't seem to want to help with any of it and they live right down the street. any suggestions??

 

[EdiePA]

Do you have a church family that could help out?? How about some kind neighbors?? I know that when a neighbor had cancer we took turns taking care of her children and making sure that they had a hot meal each night for dinner.

Can you ask the hospital to spread out your payments so that your bills are easier to manage??

Hugs coming your way and prayers and pixie dust, too.

Edie

 

[chell]

's and prayers to you

 

[grinningghost]

I wish I had some advice on relatives that won't help, but I have the same type of relatives. It's a crime that everyone in this country doesn't have health insurance. It's the one thing that we all need. Here's another hug for you and your DW

 

[letfuller]

Thoughts and prayers are with you.




~Linda

 

[Microcell]

I know it is hard to do, but maybe you can work something out with the hospital and get a payment plan going. They can't take blood from a stone. I am in a similar situation where I want to make more money to get debt reduced, but I will not put my kids in a daycare, so we struggle alot, and have resolved if we have to ruin our credit in the short term then we will.

My father used to work in the credit dept of hospitals- he was the nasty caller who threatened to break legs and he said all the time that it was the non payors that made him decide to ding their credit, but no matter how little someone paid he would leave them alone if the payments were regular.

I work in a Doctors office doing AR and we urge paying in half now then the other half in a month, but I have said yes to paying $20 a month as long as they were paying. Offer what you can pay to the billing dept and see what they say. I know you are talking thousands, my DD had an appendectomy three months ago, and it was alot!

 

[Dan Murphy]

So sad, Phrebert, they won't help any, a real shame. Good wishes are with you, and as said above, paying, just a little, but regular, should satisfy the hungriest of the medical folks. Saying a prayer for you guys for some relief. 's buddy.

 

[meandtheguys2]

I am so sorry you are having to go through this! I wias I could do more than a hug and a prayer, but I guess those will have to do. Hope your wife feels better soon. Please look into the policy at your hospital as suggested. At my sister's hosp. they will allow you to make any size payment you are able, as long as you are consistent.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

 

[S. C.]

Prayers 's

 

[Serena]

First of all

I applaud you for doing what you can to help your family. I'm sorry your family doesn't help. I really hate that. Have you looked into neighbors or friends that might be better, or just laying into the family that won't do anything.

I agree with the other's about the bills. I've also heard that if you make monthy, weekly, whatever payments and aren't late, then they more or less leave you alone. Just as long as you are making some sort of payments on a regular basis.

Good luck, and remember, you can only do the best you can.

 

[birdiesunshine]

Hugs and pixie dust coming your way!! Please take care of yourself. If you run yourself into the ground who will be able to take care of you!!!

 

[Phrebert]

Keep your P&PD coming, its working. I got payraises from both places after I told (begged) for help. We're going to try the guilt card with the family and see if that works.

 

[Gramto6inPa]

I hope your wife recovers quickly.And you take care of yourself.

 

[yasuern]

Prayers and pixie dust to you and your wife. Shame on the family for not helping! Have you checked to see if you qualify for free or prorated care(done by income and people/household) if not please arrange to pay the amount you can reasonably afford each month and the hospital willl leave you alone.


Wishing a speedy recovery to your DW

Sue

 

[Pooh93]

PD for all of you. It burns me that people can not afford health insurance in our country. This just is not fair. Hang in there and I hope things lighten up for you soon.