Regarding the Scholastic book orders -
I have no problem telling my kids they can't have a toy or some sort of junk food or especially a video game or pack of trading cards....
But I have a real problem saying "no" to a request for a book. Especially one that is affordable like the Scholastic books are. As a result, my kids have their own private "library" that is growing as we speak (just drove DS8 to town to buy a new book he was DYING for) - and yes, we go to the library at least once a week! My kids simply share their Mama's love of owning books, and displaying them proudly on their book shelves....
And if they happen to be Disney books...oh, my! Double the love!!