Complicated situation/help

[ElleBren]

Hello!

Ok So long story short my husband and I got married a month before our daughter was born. We essentially eloped and now we are planning our disney wedding renewal. We are treating it as if it was a wedding and inviting everyone, but I don't know if I should register anywhere or allow anyone to throw a bridal shower. I feel kind of guilty about it. I don't know. Anyone have any suggestions?

thanks

Lana

 

[JonetteA]

Lana,

I would register just in case. You don't have to give out that information unless someone asks if you feel funny about it. The other thing on the shower is that if someone wants to do something nice for you let them. There is no shame in that. You are going to have a wonderful time planning, and I can't wait to hear everything about it!

Jonette

 

[Mama of Indybride]

My DH and I kind of ran off and got married with only my parents and 2 DDs...We were chastised and scolded and still get sneers occasionally.

Your fam will no doubt be thrilled to recreate your special moment and do all of those fun things they feel they missed out on the first time!

Some day we will have a vow renewal, and it will be at WDW, and invite everybody who cried and swore at us, and then we will live happily every after!

 

[alissa2008]

I don't see why not! The whole point of the VR is so that everyone can celebrate with you! Unfortunately, tradition dictates that gift giving is part of that celebration. If you feel funny about it, mention a specific charity that you would rather take donations instead of tangible things...or tell your guests that joining you for your wedding is gift enough...

 

[ElleBren]

Thanks so much. However I realized why it was so complicated and am totally having a blonde moment. The reason why I was feeling funny was because its his second marriage and my first one. Not sure on how that works.

Lana

 

[PixyDusted]

I say register! Why not? No one HAS to buy you presents but if they choose to do so you might as well get what you asked for!

 

[Ember]

Go ahead an register! Just don't give out the information unless asked. (No including it in invites, etc.) Usually showers wouldn't be held for a vow renewal, but if someone wants to throw you one, then accept graciously. If you feel uncomfortable, you could also have a Bridal Tea or Lunch, and specify "no gifts" or do charitable donations. Then you still get to celebrate, but not have the pressure of receiving presents.

Also be aware the gifts aren't expected for a vow renewal. Chances are, people will give them anyway, but they aren't required and shouldn't be expected.

Good luck!

 

[DisneyFairy19]

I would register as well, you have nothing to lose... That way they can buy things that you want instead of giving you something that you dont want

 

[JandJ]

Our wedding was really small (8 guests) and like you, it was my first and his second. He had a huge wedding the first time and his whole family attended and gave gifts so we felt we wouldn't get anything from them, and that was fine. I did have a bridal shower, but that was more for my side as the only person from his side who attended was his mom.

After the wedding we sent announcements and just about everyone from his side sent us a gift or a check - I was happily surprised! So, I say register. There will be a lot of people who want to congratulate you both and honor you with a gift.