Commencement Speech: You're NOT special!

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I love it!

Commencement speech given by a high school English teacher:

I've only pasted part of it. It is definitely worth reading the whole thing:

http://webcache.googleusercontent.c.../wellesley-high-grads-told-youre-not-special/

Snipped:
And your ceremonial costume… shapeless, uniform, one-size-fits-all. Whether male or female, tall or short, scholar or slacker, spray-tanned prom queen or intergalactic X-Box assassin, each of you is dressed, you’ll notice, exactly the same. And your diploma… but for your name, exactly the same.

All of this is as it should be, because none of you is special.

You are not special. You are not exceptional.

Contrary to what your u9 soccer trophy suggests, your glowing seventh grade report card, despite every assurance of a certain corpulent purple dinosaur, that nice Mister Rogers and your batty Aunt Sylvia, no matter how often your maternal caped crusader has swooped in to save you… you’re nothing special.

Yes, you’ve been pampered, cosseted, doted upon, helmeted, bubble-wrapped. Yes, capable adults with other things to do have held you, kissed you, fed you, wiped your mouth, wiped your bottom, trained you, taught you, tutored you, coached you, listened to you, counseled you, encouraged you, consoled you and encouraged you again. You’ve been nudged, cajoled, wheedled and implored. You’ve been feted and fawned over and called sweetie pie. Yes, you have. And, certainly, we’ve been to your games, your plays, your recitals, your science fairs. Absolutely, smiles ignite when you walk into a room, and hundreds gasp with delight at your every tweet. Why, maybe you’ve even had your picture in the Townsman! And now you’ve conquered high school… and, indisputably, here we all have gathered for you, the pride and joy of this fine community, the first to emerge from that magnificent new building…

But do not get the idea you’re anything special. Because you’re not.

The empirical evidence is everywhere, numbers even an English teacher can’t ignore. Across the country no fewer than 3.2 million seniors are graduating about now from more than 37,000 high schools. That’s 37,000 valedictorians… 37,000 class presidents… 92,000 harmonizing altos… 340,000 swaggering jocks… 2,185,967 pairs of Uggs. .

If you’ve learned anything in your years here I hope it’s that education should be for, rather than material advantage, the exhilaration of learning. You’ve learned, too, I hope, as Sophocles assured us, that wisdom is the chief element of happiness. (Second is ice cream… just an fyi) I also hope you’ve learned enough to recognize how little you know… how little you know now… at the moment… for today is just the beginning. It’s where you go from here that matters.
 
Thanks for sharing that!
 

Good speech. And actually very realistic.

Once we enter the adult world, we are no more special than we were in school.
 
One wonders why such a curmudgeon was asked to give the speech.
 
And happy graduation day to you too Mr. Must Have One Last Shot To Piss On Your Parade.

:laughing:
 
Interesting way to start the speech.

So here we are… commencement… life’s great forward-looking ceremony. (And don’t say, “What about weddings?” Weddings are one-sided and insufficiently effective. Weddings are bride-centric pageantry. Other than conceding to a list of unreasonable demands, the groom just stands there. No stately, hey-everybody-look-at-me procession. No being given away. No identity-changing pronouncement. And can you imagine a television show dedicated to watching guys try on tuxedos? Their fathers sitting there misty-eyed with joy and disbelief, their brothers lurking in the corner muttering with envy. Left to men, weddings would be, after limits-testing procrastination, spontaneous, almost inadvertent… during halftime… on the way to the refrigerator. And then there’s the frequency of failure: statistics tell us half of you will get divorced. A winning percentage like that’ll get you last place in the American League East. The Baltimore Orioles do better than weddings.)
 
One wonders why such a curmudgeon was asked to give the speech.

Did you bother to read the entire speech? I'm guessing not. If you did read it and you didn't see the point, I suggest you go back and try taking it in and really comprehending what he is saying.

As he states:
And read… read all the time… read as a matter of principle, as a matter of self-respect. Read as a nourishing staple of life.
 
Doesn't sound curmudgeonly at all, sounds realistic. The last thing we need is another class of self-centered, coddled, self-entitled brats thinking the world revolves around them. Don't we have enough of those adults already? You have to actually do something with your life to make yourself special. Just the fact that you exist is not enough to make the world adore you.
 
I have to admit, the point of this speech was the most awakening moment of my life.

It happened when I was 31, though, because no matter how many times you tell a teenager something like this, they see you as an old stupid person who doesn't matter... ;)

They will find out, no one even NEEDS to tell them. Feeling it is so much more tantamount than hearing it.

High school is a social enigma that dissipates very shortly after you leave there. Every one of those so called "spoiled brats" will realize that their AP classes, sports awards and "popularity" will matter to no one but them.
 
What concerns me is in every group of children is a child who was TOLD that by their own parents and has the self esteem of a flea.

The world has already stepped on them and they certainly don't need to be reminded. Every child doesn't grow up happy or entitled, it's a myth. My ex was a jr high counselor and he spent most of his time trying to build up abused kids.

What about those kids? Did they get a YOU ARE SPECIAL speech?
 
One wonders why such a curmudgeon was asked to give the speech.

Because, obviously -- he's funny. And manages to say something important at the same time.

The graduates might actually remember this speech, and that is a very unusual thing. Most graduation speakers are so dull that the graduates ignore the speech entirely. I cannot for the life of me remember anything that was said by the speakers at my two university commencements, and we didn't even have an adult speaker at my HS graduation, just the valedictorian, who was an asthmatic who hated speaking in public. As I recall, his speech was less than 60 seconds long; THAT was what was memorable about it.
 
The world has already stepped on them and they certainly don't need to be reminded. Every child doesn't grow up happy or entitled, it's a myth. My ex was a jr high counselor and he spent most of his time trying to build up abused kids.

What about those kids? Did they get a YOU ARE SPECIAL speech?

:thumbsup2
 
I've been telling kids they aren't special for YEARS and getting dirty looks for it. So not fair.







;)
 
What concerns me is in every group of children is a child who was TOLD that by their own parents and has the self esteem of a flea.

The world has already stepped on them and they certainly don't need to be reminded. Every child doesn't grow up happy or entitled, it's a myth. My ex was a jr high counselor and he spent most of his time trying to build up abused kids.

What about those kids? Did they get a YOU ARE SPECIAL speech?

For starters, this area of MA is a fairly affluent area from what I have read. That doesn't mean kids didn't have horrible things going on behind closed doors but we also aren't talking about the slums. The majority of kids in this HS do not have a father in prison, a mother strung out on drugs, and a path to school which is so dangerous that they are lucky to make it there alive each day.

I wish we could get out of the habit of falling back on the "what about those kids" speech. The PC of it all drives me crazy. We can't tell kids to get over themselves and make the future really count for something because one of those kids may have been told he wasn't special enough. It gets really old. But I'm mean so maybe I'm the only one that feels like this!
 
This is an affluent community in MA. most students have more than they need.
The surrounding towns mentioned are also affluent.

http://www.greatschools.org/massachusetts/wellesley/

I love the end.



"* Climb the mountain not to plant your flag, but to embrace the challenge, enjoy the air and behold the view.* Climb it so you can see the world, not so the world can see you.* Go to Paris to be in Paris, not to cross it off your list and congratulate yourself for being worldly.* Exercise free will and creative, independent thought not for the satisfactions they will bring you, but for the good they will do others, the rest of the 6.8 billion–and those who will follow them.* And then you too will discover the great and curious truth of the human experience is that selflessness is the best thing you can do for yourself.* The sweetest joys of life, then, come only with the recognition that you’re not special.

*********** Because everyone is. "
 
What concerns me is in every group of children is a child who was TOLD that by their own parents and has the self esteem of a flea.

The world has already stepped on them and they certainly don't need to be reminded. Every child doesn't grow up happy or entitled, it's a myth. My ex was a jr high counselor and he spent most of his time trying to build up abused kids.

What about those kids? Did they get a YOU ARE SPECIAL speech?

If you read the whole thing you see that this IS a you are special speech.
 
How dare he say our children are not the special "snowflakes" we thought they were! ;)
 


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