Our DD is heading off to college this fall. She is going to a private school. Her 2nd choice was a state school. Although the private school is more than twice the state, both would have cost her the same after school scholarships and loans. Once we saw the financial aid awards from both schools, we were happy to know she could attend her first choice because it wasn't going to cost any more than the state school - in fact, it was about $200 less.
About 2 years ago, friends that have had 5 children go through college told us a few smart tips.
1. Anything we had saved and my mom had saved for her we transfered into one of her brother's names so she showed no assets. It was several thousands of dollars. My mom works at a credit union and has been putting $$ away for all the grandkids. Taking DD's out and into her brothers was smart but not as smart a us (as parents) taking the money we had set aside in a mutual fund and putting it into a CD for 22 months. Shortly after we moved it, the market tanked and we would have lost over 1/2 of it.
2. We had DD pay all her deposits for colleges with her money so when we filled the FAFSA, she had very little in her savings. We also paid all of our bills so when we filled out the form, we had about nothing.
The FAFSA does not ask the same ? as many early estimaters for private schools. FAFSA is straight forward on info from your (and child) tax returns plus $$$ assets (savings, checking, stocks, bonds, child support, etc). They do not ask about your house or cars or any debt. We have not had to supply the private college with any $$$ info as of yet. I think they audit so many a year.
We have told DD she will have to pay for her schooling. Our parents didn 't pay ours and I think we appreciated it more having to work for it. I never knew if I was going to be able to make it 2nd semester or not. I did, but it wasn't easy.
DD has 2 scholarships from the college totaling almost $10K. She also can get about $5K+ in subsidized and unsubsidized loans. She has also qualified for some state grant because of testing in MI that guaranties college $$. I don't remember what else. SHe will have to come up with $4K this year along with working on campus. Thankfully we have the money set aside but that will only last for about 3 years at today's rate.
Good luck