Christmas candy in an Easter basket...

[MosMom]

I was joking, that is why I put the "hahahaha" after it.

 

[tiggger1]

OP I agree with you.
Its one thing if your son LOVED M&M's and your inlaws said " I saw these on sale and decided to toss them in because he loves them so much"

its a completely different thing to give them because you had them laying around the house after she bought them 3 months ago and was too lazy/cheap to buy something else. True its the "thought that counts" but what if there was no "thought"

 

[Robinrs]

Ungratefulness and entitlement seems to be a theme on the DIS. I am amazed at some of the IN LAW posts I see.

I wish there were a board where I can read about the DAUGHTERS in law who post here. I'm sure it would be EYE opening

 

[tiggger1]

OP - I completely agree with you. Yes, it's the thought that counts. And when you get a bag of candy from Christmas at Easter... well, I doubt very much that any "thought" went into it.

Here's mine: MIL gave me a birthday gift - that happened to be a raffle gift she had won in a golf tournament and shown me 3 months before (and complained bitterly about). My DH was *shocked* when he saw the present. I still laugh about it! And no, I don't hate my MIL - I have a great deal of affection for her.

Kudos to you too, for keeping a good sense of humour about all of the negative posts. It was pretty clear to me that you were just venting a bit and not seriously upset or anything.

great minds think alike!!

 

[MosMom]

Well, we can't all be message board perfect.

 

[tiggger1]

Ungratefulness and entitlement seems to be a theme on the DIS. I am amazed at some of the IN LAW posts I see.

I wish there were a board where I can read about the DAUGHTERS in law who post here. I'm sure it would be EYE opening

See I don't get how she is ungrateful. Ungrateful would have been if the mil bought him an appropriate gift and she hated it. instead her mil gave her son a gift with no thought at all and probably had it sitting about for months...

 

[Toad_Passenger]

Well I am glad to hear that the OP was kind about receiving the gift. I still fail to see the humor, however, in someone who may not have the money to give "great" gifts.

My in-laws don't make nearly as much as my parents do, so there is obviously a large gap between what my kids get from their grandparents. I would never begrudge (or find humor in) the fact that my DD gets bags of chips for Christmas that were given out, for free, in a holiday parade 2 weeks before Christmas from my in-laws, while receiving loads of Disney Store merchandise from my parents.

So, again, I fail to see what was humorous here.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Ungratefulness and entitlement seems to be a theme on the DIS. I am amazed at some of the IN LAW posts I see.

I wish there were a board where I can read about the DAUGHTERS in law who post here. I'm sure it would be EYE opening

WOW....
Just WOW.....

Looks like the posters here are all nice enough DIL's to take their kids to see Gramma/MIL no matter how inappropriate she may be.

That comment was just completely uncalled for.

 

[MosMom]

Do you REALLY think a 3 POUND bag of Christmas M&M's cost less than 1 Reese's Egg or a small bag of Palmer candies with some $.50 plastic eggs. Even if the bag was 1.50, you can get an Easter toy at Walmart for $1. A $1 bubble wand.

It is the THOUGHT that counts and her in-laws put ZERO thought into the gift. Even if it was a HANDMADE card that didn't cost anything.

I feel like I'm reading a different thread. I'm in the twilight zone.

 

[Sparx]

Not a big deal. What has happend to it's the thought that counts? No wonder some kids feel so entitled today.

There isn't much thought put into a gift like this. Thats the issue that the OP has and I agree with her.

 

[tiggger1]

Well I am glad to hear that the OP was kind about receiving the gift. I still fail to see the humor, however, in someone who may not have the money to give "great" gifts.

My in-laws don't make nearly as much as my parents do, so there is obviously a large gap between what my kids get from their grandparents. I would never begrudge (or find humor in) the fact that my DD gets bags of chips for Christmas that were given out, for free, in a holiday parade 2 weeks before Christmas from my in-laws, while receiving loads of Disney Store merchandise from my parents.

So, again, I fail to see what was humorous here.

I didnt see anywhere that is says they dont have the $$ for a gift. For all you know they could have a ton of money and were too lazy to buy something. Also for the $$ they spent on the clearance M&M's they could have bought a chocolate bunny at walmart for less than a buck!

 

[tiggger1]

there isn't much thought put into a gift like this. Thats the issue that the op has and i agree with her.

exactly!!!

 

[Wishing on a star]

Yep, I agree with these latest posters...

There was just NO thought, and nothing appropriate about this gift.

Anybody who wants to blame the OP here for simply noticing this is just way, way, off-base.

 

[Toad_Passenger]

I didnt see anywhere that is says they dont have the $$ for a gift. For all you know they could have a ton of money and were too lazy to buy something. Also for the $$ they spent on the clearance M&M's they could have bought a chocolate bunny at walmart for less than a buck!

But that was the point of my post. There is entitlement lurking here. Some sort of entitlement to a gift that MUST be themed to the occasion? As I said, is my DD's Christmas gift any less of a gift because it was given out at a parade? A bag of Cheetos isn't Christmas themed. Next year should I expect my in-laws to at least put green & red ribbon around it?

 

[Toad_Passenger]

Yep, I agree with these latest posters...

There was just NO thought, and nothing appropriate about this gift.

Anybody who wants to blame the OP here for simply noticing this is just way, way, off-base.

Fine, notice it. But to make fun of it? It's a little below the belt IMO.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Where did she 'make fun of it'.....

Good Lord People....


The MIL gives a thoughtless and inappropriate gift...
And the OP is attacked?????

Ohhhh, the wonderful DIS shows itself again.....

 

[Toad_Passenger]

Where did she 'make fun of it'.....

Good Lord People....


The MIL gives a thoughtless and inappropriate gift...
And the OP is attacked?????

Ohhhh, the wonderful DIS shows itself again.....

Post #24, in their own words, the OP admitted making fun of their in-laws frugality. I'm not sure where the humor is, though.

 

[MosMom]

There is a difference between frugal and cheap. I've given several examples of how you can still give a thoughtful give that is frugal. You also have not given your opinion on how inappropriate a 3 pound bag of candy is for a toddler.

 

[3prettyprincesses]

Oh my goodness! Y'all are too much! I highly doubt the OP is some horrible, selfish, ungrateful daughter in law. Good grief, she was only posting something she found humorous, that's all. I'd think it humorous too if my in-laws gave my DD's Christmas m&m's for Easter. It's obviously left over from Christmas which is why it's funny. Red and green m&m's aren't exactly the colors of Easter! I'd hardly be ungrateful but I'm sure I'd laugh it over with DH that it was from Christmas. I'm sure it was with a light heart that the OP posted this, thinking it'd get a laugh. Not with some mean, rude, entitled spirit where she wanted to vent.

OP, this thread have given me a great chuckle and proved to me once again why I'm always hesitant to post a thread on the community boards. I cannot believe that people are accusing you of bringing up your son with a sense of entitlement. I'm sure you were gracious when your son received his gift and doubt you laughed in your in-laws face. I wonder how many pages this thread will generate...

 

[Toad_Passenger]

There is a difference between frugal and cheap. I've given several examples of how you can still give a thoughtful give that is frugal. You also have not given your opinion on how inappropriate a 3 pound bag of candy is for a toddler.

It's tough to comment about the appropriateness of a gift that was given on a Holiday that has become synonymous with candy.

If my DD (going to be 4) was given a 3-lb. bag of M&M's, I wouldn't think too much of it. She gets treats, and that includes candy. She knows she would never be allowed to eat the whole bag at one time, but a few here and there aren't going to be the end of the world. Having candy in the house is more a rationing thing that is in the hands of the parent, it really has no bearing on if it is an appropriate gift. If your kid doesn't eat candy, then off it goes somewhere else. If they do, then it's up to the parent to ensure how that 3-lbs. gets portioned out.

I just don't see the whole thing as being that big of an issue. Especially given the fact that one PP mentioned their kids didn't even get a phone call from their GP's.