Child Support Credit Card Theft!! EPPICard USERS**UPDATE**

[Tinker'n'Fun]

Okay can I chime in and steal this thread for just a second... Not all ex-husband's are that bad. When I married my DH I knew what I was in for, child support, drama, etc. He and his ex seperated when his son was 2. He paid every single week the amount that was due wether or not he was working. He was laid off for 2 years and I took out a loan and paid the support and extra's as requested by his ex!! He paid the amount he was ordered and only tried to reduce it once when his income went way down!! He was denied! On the other hand his ex took him to court so many times that our heads were spinning. Every time I got pregnant I knew court papers were coming. She was never happy or satisfied. Finally the judge put a flat weekly amount in because she served us 10 times in one year!! It was OUR fault that CPS took a fee... It was our fault that he couldn't get $200.00 sneakers and expensive toys. Still DH paid every single month, even when we knew his son ran away, moved out, and was trolling somewhere he shouldn't be. His EX gave my step son the option not to see us and she set him up with a lawyer when he was 12 so he wouldn't be inconvenienced coming over to our house with all the "rules"!! We were tired of fighting. DH paid til his son was 20 even though he was emancipated for 2 years prior.

Okay sorry had to get it out, DH is a good guy, misses his son dearly and can do nothing about it!!

And I am sorry that you aren't getting the support you deserve. It does suck, but so does the "label" of being the non-custodial deadbeat even if you are not one!!

Oh so to budgetize this, I am still paying off the loan that I took out to pay child support for the child that was "not" allowed to call me family by his mother!!

Oh boy, I am a bitter person, sorry

 

[*KeepMovingForward*]

I can honestly say my ex was a GOOD father for the first 8 years after we divorced. He saw the children regularly and always paid his support. I always told people he was a lousy husband, but an excellent father. Then I remarried...and it all changed literally overnight. My ex no longer paid and stopped showing up to see the kids. Now he's 30K in arrears and still going. Hasn't seen his kids since last year. Doesn't call or send a card for their birthdays, graduation-didn't even call when DS was in an accident and in the hospital. To me, all that qualified him to be called a deadbeat parent.

TinkernFun-No, your right, not all non-custodial parents are deadbeats and they may be wrongly labeled as such...but I think your DH is the exception and not the norm-its unfortunate, but true. Some men do deserve the title though.

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

I can honestly say my ex was a GOOD father for the first 8 years after we divorced. He saw the children regularly and always paid his support. I always told people he was a lousy husband, but an excellent father. Then I remarried...and it all changed literally overnight. My ex no longer paid and stopped showing up to see the kids. Now he's 30K in arrears and still going. Hasn't seen his kids since last year. Doesn't call or send a card for their birthdays, graduation-didn't even call when DS was in an accident and in the hospital. To me, all that qualified him to be called a deadbeat parent.

TinkernFun-No, your right, not all non-custodial parents are deadbeats and they may be wrongly labeled as such...but I think your DH is the exception and not the norm-its unfortunate, but true. Some men do deserve the title though.

I agree 100% that they are dead-beats. But maybe if somehow if they could see what the good ones are doing instead of always showing the bad, an good example could be set!! Never saw a Dr. Phil with the great dad who paid his support and was always there even though the ex wife was trying to sabatoge it!!

I am sorry the I didn't show compassion for the mother's who do not receive their money! They deserve it just as much as their children!!

 

[SnowWhite607]

Dont feel bad Tink. My DH and his ex do not even HAVE a support order (so legally he cannot be charged with ignoring a court order), yet he has paid between $300 and $400 every month for 12 years. When she wanted to up it from $300 to $400 cause she needed more, he did it. Now she wants to take him to court and get a formal court order and do it through the state "so I wont have to communicate with you anymore ever". HUH?! DH's daughter has mild autism and we got a notice that DHs ex had placed the child in a state facility for being violent at home, etc. The child was not even living with her during the week! Yet she took that $400 a month with no questions asked.

She will not let him have visitation, she will not agree to fly the girl down here in the summers or holidays. It is very expensive to fly from La to Oregon and she will not even help by coming to pick him up at the airport. So if he wanted to visit, he would have to pay for airfare, rental car and hotel. Sorry, we dont have that kind of imcome. She moved that far away just so he couldnt be involved except thru a check every month. She told him so.

And in 12 years, he has never missed a birthday or Christmas.

My parents were divorced when I was 2 and I didnt see my dad again till I was 17. THAT is a deadbeat!

 

[AuroraBeauty]

My heart goes out to all of you and the kids. What saddens me the most is that 38 years after my parents got divorced I'm still reading about deadbeat parents. My bio-dad was king of the deadbeats. $100/month and never paid. Then when my mom and I went to his state (we live about 2K miles away) and went to his house he had the nerve to tell me he didn't know who I was. Duh! I look exactly like my mom, who was standing next to me.

Then when my mom passed away he again had the audacity to call me (my grandparents -- mom's parents -- gave him my number) and try to tell me he was offended that I didn't tell him my mom died. Then 10 minutes later he says he sent flowers to the funeral home. He's a winner! NOT.

But here it is nearly 40 years after my mom was fighting for her measly $100/month for 2 kids and the stories haven't changed. That's pretty sad.

We got cable tv, walkmans, VHS, home computers, cell phones, DVDs, iPods, hybrid vehicles, and cheap long distance in the same time period. Yet, state CS agencies haven't changed one iota. Sad, very sad!

Every once in awhile a major news magazine will do a story, but still nothing has changed with CS enforcement.

Stay strong and vigilant, not for yourselves but for your kids! And to those of you who do pay on time, thank you.

 

[Mickeys.friend]

I just thought I would check in and see if anyone else had their card information stolen or compromised. I am considering looking into starting a class action law suit against Eppicard/ACS Payment processing and Mastercard. It seems that the thousands of us that were affected (had money stolen) and filed claims are ALL having our claims denied....I know Mastercard must have insurance for this type of thing.....All the stories I have read about parents that lost money from this scam are sooo sad and extremly frustrating! I just thought I would update....I am not going to get my $250 back and no one really cares. The government has also not managed to stop the scam yet, so again, if you have one of these cards for support or unemployment....cancel it and go to direct deposit....

LIZ

 

[*KeepMovingForward*]

I continue to see the warning about phising and scams on both the child support web site and on the eppicard website. Luckily I have not had any issues myself. Has anyone that has had an issue had any luck in getting the money credited back to their account?