Child-free, but not by choice?

[PrincessSuzanne]

Greetings all!

PrincessSuzanne: Sorry to hear about your hand--hope it's getting better. Now we are really going to be ships passing in the day since I'm also staying at POR.

Hi eveyone, How are you all doing? I am pretty good if I do say so myself.

hematite153, but had is all better now, thank you for asking. When are you going to be at POR?

Just looking forward to being off tomorrow, but dread going back to work on Thursday and trying to play catch up. I will actually be glad when my ****** co-worker comes back so she can have her work back, she doesn't do a very good job, to supposedly be a college graduate, and her spelling is atrocious (sp?). She isn't as great as she thinks she is, but I am tired of trying to clean up her messy work.

Have a safe and Happy 4th ladies.

Suzanne

 

[DonnettaR]

Wow, I never expected to find this board. I will be travleing for our annual "Girls Only" Trip to Disney next week. Usually it is me, my mom, and my daughter. Sadly, I lost my 13 year daughter in February. I have posted about her death on the Disney Cruise, Teen, and General Boards. I am trying to get excited about this trip, but it is really hard. Clarke was my only living child and we did everything together. She loved Disney so very much. She loved crusing on the Disney Magic. In fact her dream job was to be an entertainer or the cruise director on the Disney ships. Clarke's favorite show on the cruise ship was "Hercules the Muse-i-cal". She was really upset when it was taken off of the Magic. Because the Magic is out of the country this summer, we had to sail on the Wonder. Clarke swears that there is difference between the ships, but I can't tell. Anyway she only agreed to go on the Wonder because "Hercules" is still playing there.
In February, Clarke died suddenly and unexpectedly. A piece of me died too. I couldn't imagine going to Disney without her, but I decided that we needed to take the trip and see the "Hercules" show in her memory. It is very odd, that before I made the decision to keep the vacation plans, I went to see a Disney movie without her, just to test the waters. Would I be a complete basket case or could I hold it together. The movie I saw was "Meet the Robinsons'. I got my answer in the quote from Walt Disney which was the motto for Lewis Robinson..."Always keep moving forward". And that is what I am doing. Clarke always wanted to do the "Keys to the Kingdom" Tour, but of couse she was too young. We did the "Walk in Walt's Footsteps" tour at Disneyland and she loved it. So I will do the KTK tour in her honor as well.
I am trying to make this trip a pleasant memory, so I came to this board to find ideas for this grown-up only trip. I was always the one in the middle of everything. I made sure that the trip was balanced with enought exciting rides for Clarke and enough shows for my mother. Now I have no idea how to attack this trip. By now, Clarke and I would have been packed and our tweaking our intineray. Things are just so different.

 

[OhBother]

Hello. I'm a fairly new poster but a long time lurker. But this is the first time I have seen this thread. When I have more time I want to go back and read every page but for now I just read the first couple and the last page. My wife and I are both big Disney fans and have been ever since we got together in 2000. We live less than 30 minutes away in the town of Auburndale so we come over quite often. We even had our honeymoon at the AKL in 2002. In September of 2003 we found out we were pregnant with our first child. The pregnancy went problem free for the first several months. Then in January 2004, during a sonogram, the doctors found a cyst on our childs umbilical cord. Apparently it is a rare occurrence and we were sent to Arnold Palmer's Hospital in Orlando. For months we were monitored there every couple of weeks. As it got closer to the due date in June though the doctors felt sure that the cyst would not hinder the delivery at all. We were turned back over to our regular hospital, Heart of Florida in Haines City. We were monitored there twice a week, every week for the duration of the pregnancy. My wife and I would joke that we maybe set the record for most sonograms during a pregnancy. We basically watched our child grow up in the womb. Because of the unknown complications that the cyst might cause, the doctors scheduled a c-section delivery for June 11th of 2004. On the night of June 5th, just 6 days until delivery day, my wife got worried when she noticed she hadn't felt the baby kick in a while. We did all the normal procedures to make the baby active and nothing worked. We went to the hospital and that was when our worst nightmares were confirmed. Less than a week to go and we had lost our child. We delivered on June 8th and the ironic thing is, the cyst ended up being no issue at all really. He had just gotten tangled up in his cord and cut off his air way. We asked the doctor if everything had gone as planned would the cyst have been a problem and she said absolutely not. It was just one of those freak things. We haven't been able to get pregnant since then. Right now we are in the process of adopting a little girl from China. We are in the waiting phase now. In the meantime, if we get pregnant again, thats great too......Ever since that day Disney has played a big role in our recovery process. It's our place where we can get away from everything and be guaranteed of having a good time. As a matter of fact, just today we joined the Disney Vacation Club. It was something we have considered for a while and finally went through with it today. We often bring our nieces, nephews and cousins with us when we visit and they always have a great time. In a small way it is like having our own children there. I just cant wait for the day when we can bring our own children there. I know its coming one day.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Wow, I never expected to find this board. I will be travleing for our annual "Girls Only" Trip to Disney next week. Usually it is me, my mom, and my daughter. Sadly, I lost my 13 year daughter in February. I have posted about her death on the Disney Cruise, Teen, and General Boards. I am trying to get excited about this trip, but it is really hard. Clarke was my only living child and we did everything together. She loved Disney so very much. She loved crusing on the Disney Magic. In fact her dream job was to be an entertainer or the cruise director on the Disney ships. Clarke's favorite show on the cruise ship was "Hercules the Muse-i-cal". She was really upset when it was taken off of the Magic. Because the Magic is out of the country this summer, we had to sail on the Wonder. Clarke swears that there is difference between the ships, but I can't tell. Anyway she only agreed to go on the Wonder because "Hercules" is still playing there.
In February, Clarke died suddenly and unexpectedly. A piece of me died too. I couldn't imagine going to Disney without her, but I decided that we needed to take the trip and see the "Hercules" show in her memory. It is very odd, that before I made the decision to keep the vacation plans, I went to see a Disney movie without her, just to test the waters. Would I be a complete basket case or could I hold it together. The movie I saw was "Meet the Robinsons'. I got my answer in the quote from Walt Disney which was the motto for Lewis Robinson..."Always keep moving forward". And that is what I am doing. Clarke always wanted to do the "Keys to the Kingdom" Tour, but of couse she was too young. We did the "Walk in Walt's Footsteps" tour at Disneyland and she loved it. So I will do the KTK tour in her honor as well.
I am trying to make this trip a pleasant memory, so I came to this board to find ideas for this grown-up only trip. I was always the one in the middle of everything. I made sure that the trip was balanced with enought exciting rides for Clarke and enough shows for my mother. Now I have no idea how to attack this trip. By now, Clarke and I would have been packed and our tweaking our intineray. Things are just so different.

Hi DonnettaR, and welcome, I have read your posts on the other boards and I can't imagine how you feel losing a daughter as such a delicate age, or at any age for that matter. Well wishes for a great trip, as mom and I say lose yourself in the magic, but also remember her when you ride her favorite rides and while you are enjoying the KTK tour. I usually think about my grandmother when we go to WDW, because she always wanted to go, but would never make the plans (she said it was too expensive, but she could really afford it). I always wish she could have gone before she died, but she really went downhill after her youngest daughter died from breast cancer 5 years earlier, so I know what losing a child can do to a person.

My family is just adults, Myself, DH and my mom, and we do any and every thing we want to, we transform into children when we get there. We went for a week in December, my DH loves to do the thrill rides, so mom and I go and enjoy the shows, especially Beauty and the Beast at MGM, and because we use ECV's they let us sit in the front, and Belle looked my way and winked at me, I was enjoying the show as if I was a young girl(well it is my favorite Princess movie). I got so into it. When you drive under that WDW sign, you will feel something different (I do every time). Have a great time, and remember your daughter, and think of the great times you have had together, I think it will make you feel better, and she will be right there with you.

Suzanne

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Hello. I'm a fairly new poster but a long time lurker. But this is the first time I have seen this thread. When I have more time I want to go back and read every page but for now I just read the first couple and the last page. My wife and I are both big Disney fans and have been ever since we got together in 2000. We live less than 30 minutes away in the town of Auburndale so we come over quite often. We even had our honeymoon at the AKL in 2002. In September of 2003 we found out we were pregnant with our first child. The pregnancy went problem free for the first several months. Then in January 2004, during a sonogram, the doctors found a cyst on our childs umbilical cord. Apparently it is a rare occurrence and we were sent to Arnold Palmer's Hospital in Orlando. For months we were monitored there every couple of weeks. As it got closer to the due date in June though the doctors felt sure that the cyst would not hinder the delivery at all. We were turned back over to our regular hospital, Heart of Florida in Haines City. We were monitored there twice a week, every week for the duration of the pregnancy. My wife and I would joke that we maybe set the record for most sonograms during a pregnancy. We basically watched our child grow up in the womb. Because of the unknown complications that the cyst might cause, the doctors scheduled a c-section delivery for June 11th of 2004. On the night of June 5th, just 6 days until delivery day, my wife got worried when she noticed she hadn't felt the baby kick in a while. We did all the normal procedures to make the baby active and nothing worked. We went to the hospital and that was when our worst nightmares were confirmed. Less than a week to go and we had lost our child. We delivered on June 8th and the ironic thing is, the cyst ended up being no issue at all really. He had just gotten tangled up in his cord and cut off his air way. We asked the doctor if everything had gone as planned would the cyst have been a problem and she said absolutely not. It was just one of those freak things. We haven't been able to get pregnant since then. Right now we are in the process of adopting a little girl from China. We are in the waiting phase now. In the meantime, if we get pregnant again, thats great too......Ever since that day Disney has played a big role in our recovery process. It's our place where we can get away from everything and be guaranteed of having a good time. As a matter of fact, just today we joined the Disney Vacation Club. It was something we have considered for a while and finally went through with it today. We often bring our nieces, nephews and cousins with us when we visit and they always have a great time. In a small way it is like having our own children there. I just cant wait for the day when we can bring our own children there. I know its coming one day.

Welcome, wow what he** you two have been through. I can't imagine what that was like, to lose a baby so close to birth. My birthday is 6/8 and I really got a chill reading your post. I do know what it is like to not be able to get pregnant, and also to take cousins to WDW and spoil them. DH and I have been together since October 2000, got married in December 2001, fist visit to WDW June 2005 for my birthday.

I would really like to buy into DVC, but that is not possible for us right now, maybe in the future. I hold little hope of ever having a child to bring to WDW, DVC is more of a sure thing for us. That won't stop me from loving the magic. The reason in fact that we started going to WDW was because after several months on fertility treatments and failures, I thought about the fertility statues that Ripley's Believe It or Not did a story on and decided to go touch them to see if it would help, and I decided why not go to WDW while we are there, and that is when I booked our first trip.

Congratulations on your choice to adopt, that just isn't possible for us.


Suzanne

 

[DonnettaR]

Thanks for the warm welcome. I will take your suggestions to heart.

 

[Tiggerlover91]

I've just been catching up on the posts I haven't read...wow.... What so many of you have been through...I have no words. I probably wouldn't say the right thing anyway.

Blessings to all of you, especially to those who have lost children through miscarriage or unexpectedly...many blessings...always.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Hello ladies, where is everybody. I hope everyone is doing well. I would really love to hear some updates.

I'm just trying to deal with the heat, rain, and humidity. I got an e-mail today that my co-worker will be back to work on 7/26/07. I am so excited . I can go back to my regualr shift and possibly accomplish something at home.

Hope to hear from everyone soon.

Suzanne

 

[want2bamommy]

Hello ladies, where is everybody. I hope everyone is doing well. I would really love to hear some updates.

I'm just trying to deal with the heat, rain, and humidity. I got an e-mail today that my co-worker will be back to work on 7/26/07. I am so excited . I can go back to my regualr shift and possibly accomplish something at home.

Hope to hear from everyone soon.

Suzanne

Hello! Sorry for being MIA. DH and I had a roadtrip planned but we booked a cruise to the Caribbean at the last minute. We got back on Sunday and the best time of our lives! I have been trying to catch up with work and the house this week now.

I am happily in my first cycle since Mark's return home from Afghanistan. I do NOT expect to get pregnant this cycle but I am 3 Days Post Ovulation. I will test on July 21st (which is the day of DH's Brother's wedding!!). If I am not pregnant this cycle I will start my Clomid which I have already filled and have an HSG done.

I am trying to enjoy the warm weather whenever I am not working, lol. I plan on going to the beach on Saturday and Sunday.

How is everything going with you?

Missie

 

[Golden Rose]

Has anyone ever had a corpus Luteum cyst on the ovary??
I think that's what screwed up my AF this month. 3 weeks ago I had throbbing pain on my left ov. (Ovulation time, though I NEVER get OV pains) than a few days ago, same thing, throbby ovary pain... AF was late and just different.. I think it had something to do with this stupid cyst.
I know I wasn't/am pregnant, because that would literlaly be impossible. Since my miscarriages, I'm just "not up" to anything!! I'm a total mess/disaster... ANYWAY....
I just had a super wierd AF...cramps, lots of clots, sore bbs and very bright red af, temp took a while to go down and still didn't go down all the way.. TMI, but had to explain! CL cysts produce progesterone, hence the temps that take forever to go back down.
So I'm wondering if any else ever had one of these things?
I havent gone to the MD since I'm going on vacation on Monday to Maine for the week.
I have my RE appt on July 11th and am going to ask him some questions about this.

I think that's what one of the cysts I have right now is called. I've been having cyst problems for almost 6 months now. I had one removed during the aftermath of a burst fallopian tube due to an ectopic pregnancy - they found a huge cyst on the other ovary when they went in and removed it at the same time. Well, it was replaced by two new cysts. I've actually been in pain since about February due to the cysts. First my ob/gyn wanted to "wait and see", then she put me on two months of birth control pills. I'm still having pain, so I'm either going to have to go on another two months of pills or have surgery. I'm going to have another ultrasound next week so they'll know which to recommend.

BTW, I'm new to posting on this group, because I wasn't sure if I really belong. I have one son (2.5), so I'm not childless. We've been trying for two years to have a second child. When I finally got pregnant after a year and half of trying, it turned out to be ectopic and burst, of course killing the baby and almost killing me. Now I'm having these cysts on the side with the remaining fallopian tube, and I'm trying not to despair. My doctor says I'm probably a great candidate for IVF, although we're still hoping that we'll somehow be able to conceive without it. Our insurance wouldn't cover it, and our first son was extremely expensive to have (our part was about $9,000) without trouble conceiving.

I had a huge number of problems with the first pregnancy - morning sickness for 7 months, gestational diabetes, pre-eclampsia, and an emergency induction that turned into an emergency c-section. DS was in the NICU for the first day of his life, although thankfully, he hasn't had any major problems since. I'm really scared of what going through the stresses of IVF will do to my body, since the pregnancy was so hard. We're talking a little about adoption, but my DH is still fairly opposed. Whoa, that may be a little too much of an introduction to our personal life.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

I think that's what one of the cysts I have right now is called. I've been having cyst problems for almost 6 months now. I had one removed during the aftermath of a burst fallopian tube due to an ectopic pregnancy - they found a huge cyst on the other ovary when they went in and removed it at the same time. Well, it was replaced by two new cysts. I've actually been in pain since about February due to the cysts. First my ob/gyn wanted to "wait and see", then she put me on two months of birth control pills. I'm still having pain, so I'm either going to have to go on another two months of pills or have surgery. I'm going to have another ultrasound next week so they'll know which to recommend.

BTW, I'm new to posting on this group, because I wasn't sure if I really belong. I have one son (2.5), so I'm not childless. We've been trying for two years to have a second child. When I finally got pregnant after a year and half of trying, it turned out to be ectopic and burst, of course killing the baby and almost killing me. Now I'm having these cysts on the side with the remaining fallopian tube, and I'm trying not to despair. My doctor says I'm probably a great candidate for IVF, although we're still hoping that we'll somehow be able to conceive without it. Our insurance wouldn't cover it, and our first son was extremely expensive to have (our part was about $9,000) without trouble conceiving.

I had a huge number of problems with the first pregnancy - morning sickness for 7 months, gestational diabetes, pre-eclampsia, and an emergency induction that turned into an emergency c-section. DS was in the NICU for the first day of his life, although thankfully, he hasn't had any major problems since. I'm really scared of what going through the stresses of IVF will do to my body, since the pregnancy was so hard. We're talking a little about adoption, but my DH is still fairly opposed. Whoa, that may be a little too much of an introduction to our personal life.

With all we have been through here, your really can't say you are sharing too much. My modesty went out the window with my HSG, so sharing a little personal info isn't so bad.

I'm sorry about your loss and you are certainly welcome here. We are all dealing with infertility in our different ways, even if it is secondary. IF is a witch, so why shouldn't you have a place to share it.

My DH and I are at the point of giving up hope right now. We have no hope of ever being able to afford IVF or adoption. We have been through 3 IUI's with no success and I can't put past me the pain that I went through. The emotional roller coaster I have been on for the last 5 1/2 years has been horrible and I just had to decide to give up for now.

Good Luck with whatever you choose and we are hear to talk to, or vent to,
or share with, or cry with.

Suzanne

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Hello! Sorry for being MIA. DH and I had a roadtrip planned but we booked a cruise to the Caribbean at the last minute. We got back on Sunday and the best time of our lives! I have been trying to catch up with work and the house this week now.

I am happily in my first cycle since Mark's return home from Afghanistan. I do NOT expect to get pregnant this cycle but I am 3 Days Post Ovulation. I will test on July 21st (which is the day of DH's Brother's wedding!!). If I am not pregnant this cycle I will start my Clomid which I have already filled and have an HSG done.

I am trying to enjoy the warm weather whenever I am not working, lol. I plan on going to the beach on Saturday and Sunday.

How is everything going with you?

Missie

Hello Missie, glad you are back. What an exciting time, on a cruise, can't bring myself to go on one. I love to swim, but that much water scares me a little (who am I kidding, it scares me alot )

Never give up hope until AF visits, you never know what will happen. But, I am glad you have a backup plan. TMI ahead: Our sex life has become almost non-existant, and I don't know what to do about it. We both are working really hard at work right now and I have so much on me right now, that I am surprised I am even able to do anything with much sense lately. I need a break, and I am hoping our trip next month will give it to me, but I know I will worry about my mom the whole time we are gone, especially being that far away from home. I will take phone numbers of our neighbors, so I can call the to check on her if need be and I am sure I will call her several times a day.

I am going to keep you in my prayers for a successful cycle. I will talk to you later.

Suzanne

 

[Golden Rose]

With all we have been through here, your really can't say you are sharing too much. My modesty went out the window with my HSG, so sharing a little personal info isn't so bad.

I'm sorry about your loss and you are certainly welcome here. We are all dealing with infertility in our different ways, even if it is secondary. IF is a witch, so why shouldn't you have a place to share it.

My DH and I are at the point of giving up hope right now. We have no hope of ever being able to afford IVF or adoption. We have been through 3 IUI's with no success and I can't put past me the pain that I went through. The emotional roller coaster I have been on for the last 5 1/2 years has been horrible and I just had to decide to give up for now.

Good Luck with whatever you choose and we are hear to talk to, or vent to,
or share with, or cry with.

Suzanne

Thanks for the kind welcome.

We've been having a really tough time. I have two very close friends (we're all in our mid-30's) dealing with infertility issues, but neither of them are completely sympathetic to our struggles with it because we do have a son. (As one of them said, "We only want _one_, and you have that!")

We'd planned on three, and we still would love to have three, but I just don't know how we'll get there. I keep wanting to at least look into adoption possibilites, but DH keeps saying "we'll keep trying the natural way," since we did have one that way. I was about to go in for the panel of tests (just waiting for the next cycle) when I got pregnant with the pregnancy that turned out to be ectopic. When my ob/gyn discovered the huge cyst on my other ovary during the surgery, she thought that that was probably the problem that had made it more difficult to get pregnant. She thought that after the cyst was removed, we would have a shot at a normal conception even with only one fallopian tube. Within two months I was in terrible pain - I was actually afraid it was another ectopic pregnancy. (I had been in pain with it, but I thought it from from another source.) After a couple of visits to the doctor and an ultrasound, the diagnosis was two cysts. Since I was ovulating into one of them, my chance of conception was basically 0%. I really don't want another surgery, but so far waiting and seeing and trying birth control pills (which is the first treatment for some reason) hasn't worked.

We're still hoping that once the cysts are gone, we'll be able to conceive. But our chances seem to keep dropping, which has me thinking about alternatives. One of my close friends is starting the process for IVF for the first time right now, and I think she'll tell me honestly about how she is feeling at each stage and just how bad the shots are.

As far as the expense goes, well, I'm staying home with our DS, so I'm not bringing in any income anymore. We do just fine on DH's income, except that we've had almost $10,000 (after insurance) in unforeseen medical bills this year (since January), between my ectopic pregnancy, the ongoing cyst problem, and some problems DH has had. (He's actually going to be in the hospital for surgery next week.) So doing anything this year is right out.

I keep trying not to get depressed, but it is really tough. I keep reminding myself that we have a wonderful son, and I truly am grateful for him, but I really don't want him to be an only child.

 

[want2bamommy]

Hello Missie, glad you are back. What an exciting time, on a cruise, can't bring myself to go on one. I love to swim, but that much water scares me a little (who am I kidding, it scares me alot )

Never give up hope until AF visits, you never know what will happen. But, I am glad you have a backup plan. TMI ahead: Our sex life has become almost non-existant, and I don't know what to do about it. We both are working really hard at work right now and I have so much on me right now, that I am surprised I am even able to do anything with much sense lately. I need a break, and I am hoping our trip next month will give it to me, but I know I will worry about my mom the whole time we are gone, especially being that far away from home. I will take phone numbers of our neighbors, so I can call the to check on her if need be and I am sure I will call her several times a day.

I am going to keep you in my prayers for a successful cycle. I will talk to you later.

Suzanne

Thank you Suzanne! I chart daily still and hope to see increased temperatures but am just not putting all my hope in this cycle, KWIM?

I COMPLETELY understand what you mean about the non-existent sex life. In the past we have been there. We too both work full time and are tired, etc. My hubby feels a lot of pressure when he knows I am near ovulation. I have to not tell him about it anymore because it is too stressful for him.

You must be so excited about your upcoming trip! I am so happy for you. I know that you will still have a lot on your mind with your Mom but I hope you can relax a bit too.

Missie

 

[want2bamommy]

Wow, I never expected to find this board. I will be travleing for our annual "Girls Only" Trip to Disney next week. Usually it is me, my mom, and my daughter. Sadly, I lost my 13 year daughter in February. I have posted about her death on the Disney Cruise, Teen, and General Boards. I am trying to get excited about this trip, but it is really hard. Clarke was my only living child and we did everything together. She loved Disney so very much. She loved crusing on the Disney Magic. In fact her dream job was to be an entertainer or the cruise director on the Disney ships. Clarke's favorite show on the cruise ship was "Hercules the Muse-i-cal". She was really upset when it was taken off of the Magic. Because the Magic is out of the country this summer, we had to sail on the Wonder. Clarke swears that there is difference between the ships, but I can't tell. Anyway she only agreed to go on the Wonder because "Hercules" is still playing there.
In February, Clarke died suddenly and unexpectedly. A piece of me died too. I couldn't imagine going to Disney without her, but I decided that we needed to take the trip and see the "Hercules" show in her memory. It is very odd, that before I made the decision to keep the vacation plans, I went to see a Disney movie without her, just to test the waters. Would I be a complete basket case or could I hold it together. The movie I saw was "Meet the Robinsons'. I got my answer in the quote from Walt Disney which was the motto for Lewis Robinson..."Always keep moving forward". And that is what I am doing. Clarke always wanted to do the "Keys to the Kingdom" Tour, but of couse she was too young. We did the "Walk in Walt's Footsteps" tour at Disneyland and she loved it. So I will do the KTK tour in her honor as well.
I am trying to make this trip a pleasant memory, so I came to this board to find ideas for this grown-up only trip. I was always the one in the middle of everything. I made sure that the trip was balanced with enought exciting rides for Clarke and enough shows for my mother. Now I have no idea how to attack this trip. By now, Clarke and I would have been packed and our tweaking our intineray. Things are just so different.

I am so very sorry for your loss. It sounds like Clarke was one in a million! I think it is good that you and your Mother are still going to do your annual trip. I just got home from vacation so I don't know if you posted an update but I will look.

HUGS!

Missie

 

[want2bamommy]

Hello. I'm a fairly new poster but a long time lurker. But this is the first time I have seen this thread. When I have more time I want to go back and read every page but for now I just read the first couple and the last page. My wife and I are both big Disney fans and have been ever since we got together in 2000. We live less than 30 minutes away in the town of Auburndale so we come over quite often. We even had our honeymoon at the AKL in 2002. In September of 2003 we found out we were pregnant with our first child. The pregnancy went problem free for the first several months. Then in January 2004, during a sonogram, the doctors found a cyst on our childs umbilical cord. Apparently it is a rare occurrence and we were sent to Arnold Palmer's Hospital in Orlando. For months we were monitored there every couple of weeks. As it got closer to the due date in June though the doctors felt sure that the cyst would not hinder the delivery at all. We were turned back over to our regular hospital, Heart of Florida in Haines City. We were monitored there twice a week, every week for the duration of the pregnancy. My wife and I would joke that we maybe set the record for most sonograms during a pregnancy. We basically watched our child grow up in the womb. Because of the unknown complications that the cyst might cause, the doctors scheduled a c-section delivery for June 11th of 2004. On the night of June 5th, just 6 days until delivery day, my wife got worried when she noticed she hadn't felt the baby kick in a while. We did all the normal procedures to make the baby active and nothing worked. We went to the hospital and that was when our worst nightmares were confirmed. Less than a week to go and we had lost our child. We delivered on June 8th and the ironic thing is, the cyst ended up being no issue at all really. He had just gotten tangled up in his cord and cut off his air way. We asked the doctor if everything had gone as planned would the cyst have been a problem and she said absolutely not. It was just one of those freak things. We haven't been able to get pregnant since then. Right now we are in the process of adopting a little girl from China. We are in the waiting phase now. In the meantime, if we get pregnant again, thats great too......Ever since that day Disney has played a big role in our recovery process. It's our place where we can get away from everything and be guaranteed of having a good time. As a matter of fact, just today we joined the Disney Vacation Club. It was something we have considered for a while and finally went through with it today. We often bring our nieces, nephews and cousins with us when we visit and they always have a great time. In a small way it is like having our own children there. I just cant wait for the day when we can bring our own children there. I know its coming one day.

Welcome to the group! First of all I am very sorry about your loss. There are no words to help ease your pain but my heart does go out to you!

I am thrilled to hear that you are about to get your little girl from China. I will NEVER forget a day that my Hubby and I were at the airport and 6-8 families came off of a plane with their new little girls from China. All of their extended families were waiting for them at the gate with signs, balloons, camera's and tons of tears. I started crying right then and there. It was a beautiful sight!

Missie

 

[rrobin3051]

my best friend lost her 3 year old son Kyle to immune deffiency syndrome and has talked about going to Disney world. Her son loved all Disney movies and characters but sadly never made it there and she wants to go and appreciate the beauty and magic of Disny.

 

[hematite153]

Greetings all!

Lots seems to have gone on in my absence. Welcome to the newcomers. Thanks for sharing your stories. Sorry, I don't have any knowledge in the area of the newest questions.

My update:
I'm home but exhausted--don't expect heavy posting from me for awhile.

I took a cycle off and used the month to take all of the things I used to take to keep my fibro in check. It was amazing how much difference a short stretch of time could make. Yet, I'm still in pain--I was in a bus accident (as a passenger) and my back is still spasming off and on.

My current cycle (with serophene) has been odd. I'm going to inseminate tomorrow but I think the chances are probably low. On day 11 I had a 19mm follicle(?) and 4 others between 12-15mm. The four smaller ones weren't that surprising since I often get a bunch of them started. But, I haven't ovulated before day 16 since I started this whole process so the larger one was confusing. The doctor looked at the ultrasound and said that he thought he saw an internal echo and that it was more likely a cyst from an incomplete ovulation in my off cycle than a follicle. Two days later (day 13) another ultrasound and another doctor...I got depressed because everything else had shrunk and the cyst(?) had grown--26mm!! Well, they looked at the ultrasound and my blood tests and said that it was a follicle but might be a bit late to use it. Ah well, fingers crossed...as someone said to missie, I'm not going to give up until I have no other choice.

 

[wkrider]

My DW and I tried to have children for 5 years until we found that it was not meant to be. We have now built a lovely life for ourselves and enjoy each others company. We too love going to Disney, so much that we belong to DVC. We are often asked "why did you choose to not have kids".....I reply kindly "It was not a choice". Some people don't understand how we can vacation at Disney several times a year and also go on the Disney cruises.....Keeps me young.

 

[want2bamommy]

My DW and I tried to have children for 5 years until we found that it was not meant to be. We have now built a lovely life for ourselves and enjoy each others company. We too love going to Disney, so much that we belong to DVC. We are often asked "why did you choose to not have kids".....I reply kindly "It was not a choice". Some people don't understand how we can vacation at Disney several times a year and also go on the Disney cruises.....Keeps me young.

Hello! I just wanted to say welcome to the thread. I am so glad that you and your wife continue to go to Disney. Dh and I always talk about how we'll always go whether we have children or not. We do intend on adopting if we can't conceive as DH was adopted but we don't know if we'll be able to afford it.

Missie