Child-free, but not by choice?

Hi everyone,
I hope this doesn't upset anyone, but I am pregnant!!! This doesn't mean I am out of the woods in any way. Remember from my earlier posts, I made it all the way to 21 weeks and then my water broke. After 2 early on miscarriages, after I had gotten past the 3 months, we thought I was in the clear. So this is our 5th pregnancy, so I am asking for any prayers, chants, good thoughts you could throw my way. I will be 16 weeks on Sunday. I will start progesterone shots on Monday. I won't be out of the danger zone until I deliver a full term healthy baby. I just want to tell everyone, keep up the hope, I know we are all frustrated, lost, sad, sympathetic, but eventually I do believe one way or another we will all get our wish. I will continue to pray for all of you who are still hoping, and will keep you updated on my condition, as long as it doesn't offend anyone. I know how I felt after my 4th loss, it would kill me to see other women/friends/family getting pregnant and having babies, but I still tried to be happy for them, but I was still devastated inside. If you don't want me to post anymore, I understand, let me know, but I am still worried everyday that something will go wrong and I am not trying to stress myself out because I know it's not good for the baby or me. The really upsetting thing for me is I can't let myself get too excited. I try to almost act like I'm not pregnant so I don't get my hopes up. It's not fair, I want to scream it from the rooftops, start buying nursery furniture and baby clothes, but I can't. We haven't told anyone except my dad, brother and sis in law, and my mother in law, because if something does happen I don't want to have to keep explaining to people. The good thing is I haven't had any cramping or bleeding yet, so we are taking that as a good sign. All my other pregnancies, I bled and cramped throughout them. I just keep thinking that it just wasn't the time for us yet, that maybe now is the time. Thanks for listening!!



A Big Congratulations to you, in no way am I offended and I don't think anyone else here would be either. Please don't feel like you are offending anyone, think only happy thoughts for yourself. Do what my grandmother taught me, don't worry about what other people think. It is easier to accept a pregnancy of someone you know has been in the same boat as we are, or it is at least for me. Again Congratulations and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Sending some sticky baby dust :wizard: for a happy and healthy nine months :cloud9: The only thing is you have to promise to keep us updated.


Suzanne princess:
 
I found out some GREAT news about this fragile X... Not that fragile X is great, but what the genetecist told me is...
One of my X's is 30.. that's normal.. THe other X has a number of 56... This is where I'm a carrier for Fragile X....
The GOOD NEWS is that there are no documented cases of someone with a number under 59 to have a child with fragile X!!! I"M SO RELIEVED!!!!
She wants to do a study on my family... She wants to test my parents (for free) to see what their numbers are and how many repeats there are from them to me.
The only thing I really have to worry about is having a girl that's a carrier just like me, but if her numbers go up, she might be likely to have a baby with fragile X. Or she can get my good X and there won't be a problem at all!!!!!!!!
Of course I'm still trying to fingure out why I had 2 miscarriages...
They tell me that since I had one at 10 weeks and the other at 4 weeks, it's probably just 'bad luck', because if there was a problem with me, they would have happened both at the same time in the pregnancies....
At least I can stop worrying about the fragile X and just try to get through one pregnancy!!!

Congrats Mickey'sMainMami on the great news! You said you'll be getting progesteone shots... Did they test your blood progesterone level and it's low? Or they are just giving that to you as a precaution?? Did they give you a reason as to why you had a miscarriage at 21 weeks?
ohhh I hope everything goes well for you!!
 
Just wanted to give everyone dealing with this a great big hug. My hubby and I are still working to accept the losses we have suffered due to 13miscarriages and 2 preemies. We did decide to adopt and have 2 girls and are in the process of adopting a boy but we still wish we could have had a bio child or adopted a baby even. We never saw our kids first steps, heard their first words, or fed them a bottle. Friends tel us we were lucky to miss the diapers, 3am feedings, etc but I still feel cheated out of that piece of motherhood that the rest of the world takes for granted. Also, its especialy hard for me seeing so many children mistreated and unloved, why are their parents able to conceive, why are they given a healthy beautiful child they will only destroy?
 
I found out some GREAT news about this fragile X... Not that fragile X is great, but what the genetecist told me is...
One of my X's is 30.. that's normal.. THe other X has a number of 56... This is where I'm a carrier for Fragile X....
The GOOD NEWS is that there are no documented cases of someone with a number under 59 to have a child with fragile X!!! I"M SO RELIEVED!!!!
She wants to do a study on my family... She wants to test my parents (for free) to see what their numbers are and how many repeats there are from them to me.
The only thing I really have to worry about is having a girl that's a carrier just like me, but if her numbers go up, she might be likely to have a baby with fragile X. Or she can get my good X and there won't be a problem at all!!!!!!!!
Of course I'm still trying to fingure out why I had 2 miscarriages...
They tell me that since I had one at 10 weeks and the other at 4 weeks, it's probably just 'bad luck', because if there was a problem with me, they would have happened both at the same time in the pregnancies....
At least I can stop worrying about the fragile X and just try to get through one pregnancy!!!

Congrats Mickey'sMainMami on the great news! You said you'll be getting progesteone shots... Did they test your blood progesterone level and it's low? Or they are just giving that to you as a precaution?? Did they give you a reason as to why you had a miscarriage at 21 weeks?
ohhh I hope everything goes well for you!!

I am so happy for you and so relieved. When I went through my IUI's, I took Progesterone suppositories just as a precaution and would have continued to use them until at least the 8th or 12th week. They never tested my Progesterone level, or told me if they did, my Doc just did this with all of his pt's. He did see many that this was the reason they didn't carry to term.

Good Luck and Sticky Baby Dust to you too.

Suzanne princess:
 

Also, its especialy hard for me seeing so many children mistreated and unloved, why are their parents able to conceive, why are they given a healthy beautiful child they will only destroy?

I feel this way every day of my life, especially being in the job that I am in. Heartbreaking and there really is no reason for it, except maybe ignorance.

Suzanne princess:
 
I feel this way every day of my life, especially being in the job that I am in. Heartbreaking and there really is no reason for it, except maybe ignorance.

Suzanne princess:

I know what you mean. I was a case manager for CASA for several years while we were actively ttc. I finally quit my job because it got to me so badly. I knew when I could no longer see the good in the world it was time to quit.
 
Mickey'sMainMami- This is GREAT news!!!! Congratulations! Awesome!

DznyLvr2005- I'm glad you got better news today! I also have taken progesterone with every IUI or IVF cycle I've been through. I guess as a precaution since they've never tested my progesterone. My RE always does this.
 
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Hi everyone,
I hope this doesn't upset anyone, but I am pregnant!!! This doesn't mean I am out of the woods in any way. ... I won't be out of the danger zone until I deliver a full term healthy baby.

Wooohooo! :yay: :cheer2: :yay: :cheer2: :yay:

I will keep you in my prayers. Please, do keep us up to date. (Perhaps we can hold some of the stress for you to make the journey easier.)


I found out some GREAT news about this fragile X... Not that fragile X is great, but what the genetecist told me is...
One of my X's is 30.. that's normal.. THe other X has a number of 56... This is where I'm a carrier for Fragile X....
The GOOD NEWS is that there are no documented cases of someone with a number under 59 to have a child with fragile X!!! I"M SO RELIEVED!!!!
She wants to do a study on my family...

That's a great update! Go for the study. You never know, you may luck into contact with some specialists who can help you figure things out.

My hubby and I are still working to accept the losses we have suffered due to 13miscarriages and 2 preemies. We did decide to adopt and have 2 girls and are in the process of adopting a boy but we still wish we could have had a bio child or adopted a baby even.

Ouch! Although it's been frustrating to have no success in 3.5 years, stories like this make me feel lucky. I am really sorry for your losses. And, I'm glad that you got your family through adoption.

I also have taken progesterone with every IUI or IVF cycle I've been through. I guess as a precaution since they've never tested my progesterone. My RE always does this.

My Dr. asks for specific information about the cycle (and they measure my estrogen and progesterone levels leading up to IUI) and so far I don't take progesterone. She says that the side effects can be bad and she doesn't want to put me through that if I don't need to. But, I know exacty what to watch for and report if needed.

My own update...I started a cycle with serophene. So far, I'm not impressed. I had just about every side-effect on the warning label--last night was day 11 and it was the first night's sleep I've gotten since day 3! I had an US on day 10 and had fewer follicles overall and only 1 chartable one (last month, without drugs, I had 3!). I have another US tomorrow, so we'll find out if it's growing better.
 
Thank you all for your warm words of encouragement, wishes, and prayers, we can really use them. I had my 16 week check up yesterday, and an ultrasound and seeing the baby bouncing around in there just warmed my heart. He/she even waved at us, I thought my husband was going to burst into tears right there in the office. My doctors had pretty much tested me for everything, some of which I can't remember. I don't know if they checked my blood for low progesterone levels, I will remember to ask when I go back on May 11th. I know that the nurse did tell me that Progesterone does seem to help with pre-term labor, so they are going to give it to me, so we will see. They are also going to do cervical lengthining measurements, they said that if my cervix does start to shorten, then I might have to be hospitilized/bed rest/cercalage, they aren't exactly sure. They also said that by doing the cervical measuring, it doesn't always change the outcome, so just because they know it is shortening, doesn't mean they will be able to do anything to stop it. At least I know this time after 4 failed pregnancies, they are pulling out all the big guns to try and do everything they can, if it doesn't work this time, I am done, but at least they did everything they could. The one thing that upsets me is that you have to have so many miscarriages or problems before they finally start to take you seriously! I know 1 or 2 miscarriages are very common, but they are very devestating, and I just hate that I had to lose my boy at 21 weeks because they didn't take me seriously before, who knows, maybe if I had been on progesterone then, I would be holding my boy now. I don't know, I am just frustrated and worried but still hoping. All I do know, is that going through all of this, I wish I was able to carry, because I would be a surrogate for all of you, and wouldn't charge you a dime, except maybe a couple of dollars for maternity clothes, he he, they are so expensive, and you arent' even going to wear them that long!!! I do really hope it works out for me, and I really, really, really hope and pray and wish for all of you too, I know how hard it is. I will definately keep you all updated on my progress, thanks for listening!:grouphug:
 
Thank you all for your warm words of encouragement, wishes, and prayers, we can really use them. I had my 16 week check up yesterday, and an ultrasound and seeing the baby bouncing around in there just warmed my heart. He/she even waved at us, I thought my husband was going to burst into tears right there in the office. My doctors had pretty much tested me for everything, some of which I can't remember. I don't know if they checked my blood for low progesterone levels, I will remember to ask when I go back on May 11th. I know that the nurse did tell me that Progesterone does seem to help with pre-term labor, so they are going to give it to me, so we will see. They are also going to do cervical lengthining measurements, they said that if my cervix does start to shorten, then I might have to be hospitilized/bed rest/cercalage, they aren't exactly sure. They also said that by doing the cervical measuring, it doesn't always change the outcome, so just because they know it is shortening, doesn't mean they will be able to do anything to stop it. At least I know this time after 4 failed pregnancies, they are pulling out all the big guns to try and do everything they can, if it doesn't work this time, I am done, but at least they did everything they could. The one thing that upsets me is that you have to have so many miscarriages or problems before they finally start to take you seriously! I know 1 or 2 miscarriages are very common, but they are very devestating, and I just hate that I had to lose my boy at 21 weeks because they didn't take me seriously before, who knows, maybe if I had been on progesterone then, I would be holding my boy now. I don't know, I am just frustrated and worried but still hoping. All I do know, is that going through all of this, I wish I was able to carry, because I would be a surrogate for all of you, and wouldn't charge you a dime, except maybe a couple of dollars for maternity clothes, he he, they are so expensive, and you arent' even going to wear them that long!!! I do really hope it works out for me, and I really, really, really hope and pray and wish for all of you too, I know how hard it is. I will definately keep you all updated on my progress, thanks for listening!:grouphug:


I'm so happy for you, glad to know things are going well, and I will keep you close to my thoughts.

I would love to find a surrogate that would have a baby for me for the price of maternity clothes, then I would definitely take her up on her offer. I actually have some maternity clothes packed away when we thought we weren't going to have problems. I have never even gotten pregnant before, guess I should consider giving them away (they are plus size)(most of the girls around here dont wear them anyway, they just let it all hang out :eek: ).

Suzanne princess:
 
Hi everyone,
I hope this doesn't upset anyone, but I am pregnant!!! This doesn't mean I am out of the woods in any way. Remember from my earlier posts, I made it all the way to 21 weeks and then my water broke. After 2 early on miscarriages, after I had gotten past the 3 months, we thought I was in the clear. So this is our 5th pregnancy, so I am asking for any prayers, chants, good thoughts you could throw my way. I will be 16 weeks on Sunday. I will start progesterone shots on Monday. I won't be out of the danger zone until I deliver a full term healthy baby. I just want to tell everyone, keep up the hope, I know we are all frustrated, lost, sad, sympathetic, but eventually I do believe one way or another we will all get our wish. I will continue to pray for all of you who are still hoping, and will keep you updated on my condition, as long as it doesn't offend anyone. I know how I felt after my 4th loss, it would kill me to see other women/friends/family getting pregnant and having babies, but I still tried to be happy for them, but I was still devastated inside. If you don't want me to post anymore, I understand, let me know, but I am still worried everyday that something will go wrong and I am not trying to stress myself out because I know it's not good for the baby or me. The really upsetting thing for me is I can't let myself get too excited. I try to almost act like I'm not pregnant so I don't get my hopes up. It's not fair, I want to scream it from the rooftops, start buying nursery furniture and baby clothes, but I can't. We haven't told anyone except my dad, brother and sis in law, and my mother in law, because if something does happen I don't want to have to keep explaining to people. The good thing is I haven't had any cramping or bleeding yet, so we are taking that as a good sign. All my other pregnancies, I bled and cramped throughout them. I just keep thinking that it just wasn't the time for us yet, that maybe now is the time. Thanks for listening!!

Congratulations to you!!! I am so happy for you and will send all the sticky vibes that I can muster!!!!! I do hope you'll stick around and keep us updated throughout the pregnancy! :banana: :cool1:

Missie
 
Just wanted to give everyone dealing with this a great big hug. My hubby and I are still working to accept the losses we have suffered due to 13miscarriages and 2 preemies. We did decide to adopt and have 2 girls and are in the process of adopting a boy but we still wish we could have had a bio child or adopted a baby even. We never saw our kids first steps, heard their first words, or fed them a bottle. Friends tel us we were lucky to miss the diapers, 3am feedings, etc but I still feel cheated out of that piece of motherhood that the rest of the world takes for granted. Also, its especialy hard for me seeing so many children mistreated and unloved, why are their parents able to conceive, why are they given a healthy beautiful child they will only destroy?

I am so terribly sorry about your losses!! I'm glad that you have your daughters now and I hope that you get a baby boy! I completely understand what you mean about seeing children being mistreated and unloved! It always leaves me asking why did they get to have children and me and so many other women haven't been able to.

Last Saturday I was reading the paper and saw that a 17 year old girl gave birth to a baby and stabbed it 135 times. When I read that she lived in a state with the Safe Haven law and that she could have dropped the baby off at a Church or Hospital I started to cry. There are so many people out there willing to give homes to children and she had to kill her baby????

I'm sorry but I had to get that off of my chest!

Please keep us updated and let us know if you try adopt a baby/boy.

:grouphug:

Missie
 
I currently have my little boy. he just turned 4, we are working to get his bio parents rights terminated so my dh and I can adopt him. It may take a year or so still to make it happen but our DA assures me it will happen.
Lora
 
Originally Posted by Mickey'sMainMami
Hi everyone,
I hope this doesn't upset anyone, but I am pregnant!!! This doesn't mean I am out of the woods in any way. Remember from my earlier posts, I made it all the way to 21 weeks and then my water broke. After 2 early on miscarriages, after I had gotten past the 3 months, we thought I was in the clear. So this is our 5th pregnancy, so I am asking for any prayers, chants, good thoughts you could throw my way. I will be 16 weeks on Sunday. I will start progesterone shots on Monday. I won't be out of the danger zone until I deliver a full term healthy baby. I just want to tell everyone, keep up the hope, I know we are all frustrated, lost, sad, sympathetic, but eventually I do believe one way or another we will all get our wish. I will continue to pray for all of you who are still hoping, and will keep you updated on my condition, as long as it doesn't offend anyone.

YAY!!!!! CONGRATS & I WILL PRAY FOR A VERY STICKY HAPPY & HEALTHY 9 MOS:banana: :cool1: :dance3:


Originally Posted by sl_underwood
Just wanted to give everyone dealing with this a great big hug. My hubby and I are still working to accept the losses we have suffered due to 13miscarriages and 2 preemies. We did decide to adopt and have 2 girls and are in the process of adopting a boy but we still wish we could have had a bio child or adopted a baby even. We never saw our kids first steps, heard their first words, or fed them a bottle. Friends tel us we were lucky to miss the diapers, 3am feedings, etc but I still feel cheated out of that piece of motherhood that the rest of the world takes for granted. Also, its especialy hard for me seeing so many children mistreated and unloved, why are their parents able to conceive, why are they given a healthy beautiful child they will only destroy?

I know exacty what you mean!! I am so very sorry for your losses!! I will pray that all goes well with your adoption process. :hug:
 
Hi all, where is everyone, at WDW LOL :rotfl:. Well AF decided to rear her ugly head today after a 2.5 month hiatus. Still taking Metformin and waiting, for what I don't know anymore. I'd like to "hear" from eveyone to find out how you all are, come on just check in.

Suzanne princess:
 
Hi all, where is everyone, at WDW LOL :rotfl:. Well AF decided to rear her ugly head today after a 2.5 month hiatus. Still taking Metformin and waiting, for what I don't know anymore. I'd like to "hear" from eveyone to find out how you all are, come on just check in.

Suzanne princess:

Well, like Mickey'sMainMami I'm leery of sharing potentially good news (and there's the whole societal thing of not telling people when it could still go wrong) but since you asked, AND I'm a long way from a successful outcome....

I have 2 nice follicles (one on each ovary), took ovidrel to pop them earlier today and am going for another IUI tomorrow. Cross your fingers for me.

On the WDW front we've planned a trip during free dining (with friends with a 1year old). We were going to go elsewhere this year but.... :)

Suzanne--Thanks for keeping us together. Good luck with the metformin and the waiting...surely it will pay off eventually.
 
Hi all, where is everyone, at WDW LOL :rotfl:. Well AF decided to rear her ugly head today after a 2.5 month hiatus. Still taking Metformin and waiting, for what I don't know anymore. I'd like to "hear" from eveyone to find out how you all are, come on just check in.

Suzanne princess:

Hello! It's good that AF reared her ugly head finally. Be sure to keep us posted as to what happens.

As for me I am ANXIOUSLY awaiting for DH to return from Afghanistan. We have just a couple of months to go. It'll be an entire year since I saw him in person (during his 2 week vacation) and 16 months since he left for the deployment.

Oddly enough after years of TTC we need to prevent pregnancy for the first 6weeks after he gets back. The only reasoning behind that is that we have a Christmas trip to Disney and I'd be nearing the 3rd trimester (if by some miracle I were to get pregnant, lol.)

I look forward to reading updates from everyone else!

Have a great day! :thumbsup2

Missie
 
As for me I am ANXIOUSLY awaiting for DH to return from Afghanistan. ...

Oddly enough after years of TTC we need to prevent pregnancy for the first 6weeks after he gets back. The only reasoning behind that is that we have a Christmas trip to Disney and I'd be nearing the 3rd trimester (if by some miracle I were to get pregnant, lol.)


:laughing: Murphy's law might suggest that this will be the time you do get pregnant. Overall, it wouldn't be a bad reason to cancel a wdw vacation.

We have a similar situation in that we have a big family trip planned for Jan 2008--that we're supposed to be organizing. We've decided that if we end up sending them alone it will be okay because it would mean that we were getting a baby.
 
I just came across this thread.

DH & I are what you call an infertility couple, we have issues on both sides, after trying for over 9+ years we did our first IVF cycle that resulted in our beautiful dd. The road of infertility is such a hard road that to the ppl not going through it, seems like an easy trail. I would not wish the pain, the empty hopes and emotions on anyone. I remember going to Disney with my one year old niece when I went off the pill and had tears in my eyes saying I cant wait to come back when we had a kid, little did I know it would take me 11 years to be there with my dd. I will never forget that trip as long as I live.

I want to wish each of you hopes and prays that one day you will have that chance, whether through the fertility road or adoption road.

DH & I have been trying to decide if we want to do another ivf cycle to try for #2. I honestly dont have it in me to do that road again. I dont think I am strong enough to handle the ivf rollercoaster again. I did have a wonderful support group at ivfconnections dot com.

Mickey'sMainMom congrats and to all the ladies who are doing or going done the ivf rollercoaster again some pixie dust to you for a happy nine months and a healthy baby at the end.

Stephgles

2007 - Pop
2006- Movies
2005 - Sports
to many to add
 
Me and bf haven't started trying for children yet, we feel we're still a bit young at 22 and 24 and i'm still studying so hopefully after i've graduated in 2008 i'll work full-time for a while and we can start trying a year or so after when i'll be 25-26. I have PCOS and my mum had some fertility problems (ended up having me at 36 and my sister at 41 though so all you couples trying please don't lose hope, the doctor didn't believe my mum was pregnant with my sister as the chances were so low but she's now 17 years old and healthy so obviously he was wrong!) so i'm prepared for the fact that it may not happen immediately for us. I work with kids (daycares) though and love it, if i'm totally honest i'd try for a baby tomorrow if my circumstances were more fitting. Just want to wish all of the couples trying all the luck in the world :grouphug:
 














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