can'twait said:
I'm wracking my brains trying to think of something between $5-$8 for four female co-workers. I've done desk calendars and Bath & Body Works up the ying yang and am trying to come up with something different. I've seen the silver jewelry thread but I have sworn off credit cards, so it must be cash only. Please help! Please don't think I'm cheap, but I have a million people to buy for. I don't think these people will buy for me, so I don't want to spend a lot or make them feel bad that they didn't get me anything. I just want to get a small token to show I appreciate what they've done to help me out all year. Any ideas?
I'm going to give you a different perspective here completely....save your money.
If this is a high end office, and these woman can afford their own stuff (maybe they can, maybe they can't), they may have really specific taste. As I said, I'm not a gift person, but things you'd be throwing away money on if you gave them to me: Candles (don't use them), Bath and Body Works stuff (can't stand it), Christmas stuff (have very specific collectables in my house for Christmas), Candy (specific taste - particularly chocolate), jewelry (wear the same necklace, earrings and wedding ring every day of my life). And its literally throwing money away. I don't regift. I don't return. I don't donate it. All that is too burdensome in effort for me for a token. It goes into the trash.
On the other hand, if my coworkers give me something, particularly if I know or suspect they've had money issues (which I'm gathering from you having sworn off the credit cards), what I do receive is guilt. Even if there are no money issues, to me, gifts carry obligation, and if I didn't get you something, I now have a burden on me. When I say "gee, you didn't have to do this." I mean "gee, you REALLY didn't have to do this." Even with a token gift you do manage to make me feel bad. I know that isn't your intention, and I'll never let you catch on. But it isn't what you want to accomplish.
If you want to show your appreciation, get some nice paper and write each of them a handwritten thank you note. Make them personal, telling each woman what you especially like about her and sharing something you remember from the previous year. Way more meaningful to me than a token. I have thank you notes from my coworkers going back years that I do treasure. I keep them in a file in my desk and when I'm having a bad day on the job, I bring them out and read them. Bring them in with a plate of Christmas cookies if you must bring something.