PlutoLuvr said:
I don't know if things have changed since the late '80s, but I have a very bad taste in my mouth from the Catholic high school I went to.
My rich grandmother wanted to pay for a "better" education for me than what she supposed the public schools were giving me. She'd heard that kids who go to public schools smoked pot and she didn't want me exposed to that. Understandable.
Sooo, I got on the waiting list about three years before I was supposed to enter nineth grade and was able to attend one of south Florida's "Schools of Excellence" . . . after a hefty donation to the parish in addition to tuition.
Well, I'll tell you, poor kids who go to the public schools can afford pot. The rich kids at the Catholic school can afford cocaine. And lots of it. I was exposed to and offered coke every day I went to that school.
Another thing that really bothered me was the whole "punishment" thing. In public school, if you do something wrong, you get a detention, maybe sent to the principal's office, a call to parents, suspension or something -- although my mother was beaten severely by nuns in the '60s at her schools. She still has scars from what one nun did to her with hot matches. They resemble chicken pox scars.
However, at my high school, if you did something wrong, you were expected to pay a monetary amount, or you wouldn't be able to take your exams. Just seemed to send a message that you can buy yourself out of trouble. Getting caught smoking, for example, was $20. Getting into a fight with another student was $50. Considering what all these kids were paying for eight-balls of coke at that time, $20 or $50 was nothing.
So I'd opt for home schooling, public if your schools are good, moving to another county with better schools or non-religious private schools before I'd ever send a child to a Catholic school. Especially with what's been in the news the last ten years or so with molestation.
As others have stated, these type of experiences are not widespread.
My DD was in public school last year for her 9th grade year. Now, let me state as most people probably won't do--my DD is a very "average" student. Average intelligence, a bit on the lazy side at times, but just your basic student. She is not gifted and she is not special ed. As a result, her public school couldn't give a load a crap about her. Talk about lost in the shuffle--oh my, it was awful. These "average" kids are the forgotten ones--at least in this county's public school. If you couldn't help their test scores, or if they didn't *have* to make special accommodations for you then you got NO help.
The student body at my DD's high school was close to 3,000 students. Sure, there were lots of drugs there, but there were so many different groups of kids that she could easily avoid this and didn't even really know who the druggies were, etc. The bigges issues/problems that we had with the public school were racial tensions--all day, every day. The second issue was lack of discipline and control in the classroom. Now, I'm sure that if you are a brainiac you can avoid most of these as you spend your days in classrooms where learning is the most important thing to those students. If you are average-to-above-average, you get mixed up with some of the troublemakers. My DD had 3 classes that were totally out of control, where they did nothing but socialize, and, oh, apply their makeup.
There was nothing I could do to stop this and I was just fed up.
I put my DD in a Catholic High School this year. This Catholic High School is not located in our school district, but up north a bit within a public school district that is one of the best in the nation (Fairfax County, VA). The test scores of her Catholic School (and this is SAT averages only) are on par with the surrounding public schools. No, the Catholic School does not do better than the public schools in that county but they certainly outscore the schools is *my* county. So, it is a step up for me.
The second beautiful thing about this school is the discipline. The kids *hate* it but there is total order in those classrooms. My DD has gotten one detention since being there. She was trying to enter the classroom as the bell was ringing. The teacher shut the door and 12 kids got locked out. They all served a one-hour detention. No we didn't have to pay money. Another girl got a detention yesterday for having her skirt too short.
I have to agree that there is *still* a drug problem. Catholic high school vs public high school makes no difference. My DD is actually more aware of the drug problem in this school because the school has only 1,100 students (versus 3,000). She knows exactly who uses drugs and what type they use. She said that in her larger public school, it just didn't seem so obvious, but I think that is because the school is so large.