Caryn and Mark PJ- SBP/LSS/PI >>>>>>AND WE'RE OFF<<<<<<

[JaxTeach]

Loving the invites! I'm really fond of the truffle color.

I bought a wax seal to use on our invitations, but since we were using the Pocketfolds, I couldn't figure out where to put the seal! Oh well, it was a good idea. I'd love to see how you use your wax seal.

 

[Kristen14]

The opal paper looks great! No wonder they looked better than Martha's! I'm glad you're getting close to being done. I'll have a margarita with you when you finish

 

[Lisella]

Your invitations are coming out awesome!

I have to tell you that I am so inspired by your criney and the whole idea. I have been adament that I do not want a poofy dress...no poof at all. I want something simple. But reading about what you wanted do and then how you did it, and then checking out that link you provided from the Knot - oh my, I think you've almost convinced me that I must get at least a little poof so I, too can dye one. I think its such a fun idea! I'm all about following your own path and having as much fun as possible

Good luck with the rest of the planning. Your date is getting so close!

 

[caryndisneydiva]

The invites look fantastic Caryn! Very elegant. I love the color of the envelopes. I have purchased a wax seal to do mine when we get to that point. I'm using silver wax on them. I have them designed, but it's way to soon to print them. I still have to be sure I can get my venues.

I'm excited about the wax seal situation, i've never used it before and i think it's going to be fun!

The invites are great, very pretty. I love the colours.

thanks!

Loving the invites! I'm really fond of the truffle color.

I bought a wax seal to use on our invitations, but since we were using the Pocketfolds, I couldn't figure out where to put the seal! Oh well, it was a good idea. I'd love to see how you use your wax seal.

i'll post wax pictures asap, i'm hoping to have them done by thur!

The opal paper looks great! No wonder they looked better than Martha's! I'm glad you're getting close to being done. I'll have a margarita with you when you finish

the stardream paper came as a surprise to me, i bought it in bulk locally and i lLOVE it. there is nothing bad i can say about it, it's fantastic! i need a margarita NOW!!!

Your invitations are coming out awesome!

I have to tell you that I am so inspired by your criney and the whole idea. I have been adament that I do not want a poofy dress...no poof at all. I want something simple. But reading about what you wanted do and then how you did it, and then checking out that link you provided from the Knot - oh my, I think you've almost convinced me that I must get at least a little poof so I, too can dye one. I think its such a fun idea! I'm all about following your own path and having as much fun as possible

Good luck with the rest of the planning. Your date is getting so close!

thanks on the crinnie idea! i love it! i'm so happy with it now! i always said that i would not wear a ball gown, i modeled in wedding shows in college and HATED the fact that you can't move or sit becuase they are so heavy! i always wanted a sheath, but when i started looking at pics of dresses, i only wanted a ballgown! for one day in my life i can deal with it! i'm all about the poof! thanks for reading!

 

[caryndisneydiva]

a very excited thing happened last night! we went to see my fmil, ffil is on a trip and we wanted to see what she was up to, so df and i decided to drive down there and take her to dinner. fmil owns an antiques shop near galveston, tx. because the area that the shop lies in is becoming increasingly unsafe, she has decided to close her shop . i hadn't been there in awhile, like, probably 2 years. over the course of this wedding planning i've been asking her to look for things for me (cake servers, hair clips, SHOE CLIPS...), so i walk into her shop late last night and i saw began looking for antique clip on earrings for my ceremony ballet shoes. i was searching for an appropriate pair online the night before and couldn't find anything. i'm really particular about what i wear, especially jewelry. buried deep in this pile of brooches and cameo's, i found these...

they are PERFECT. they're vintage, from the 1940's, one of the stones is cracked, but i don't care, i LOVE them. and with the family disocunt, they were very affordable!!! yyyyyaaaaaayyyyyy! i'm soooo happy! i REALLY wanted to find something to dress those shoes up! so exciting!

GUEST DRAMA​

we also went yesterday to get our passports (for our honeymoon cruise!!!), mark just had to get his renewed, but i had to do the whole shebang. it took FOREVER. oh well, it's done. while we were standing in the very long line at the post office, i got a text message from one of my friends. he is going to come to the wedding, staying at pofq for a few days-GREAT. then he asked me if he could bring 2 guests. i was slightly miffed by this. #1, i haven't even sent out invitations yet, so he shouldn't assume that he is invited with a guest and #2 that is just plain rude (even though he said please, still rude). i asked him who he planned on bringing, he hasn't answered me. i have a feeling it's one of my old girlfriends and her boyfriend. we all used to work together and she and i had a falling out a few months ago. the fact that he's not telling me who he is bringing is suspect. how to handle this? i just told him that i have family who i am not inviting because our guest list is limited and i would let him know closer to the date, once i started getting rsvp's in. i know this is just a way of procrastinating and putting it off until later, but for right now, that's what i came up with.

i've been battling this guest situation for awhile now. the friends that we are inviting are from all over, not many of them know each other and if they do, it is just in passing. i know that other disbrides have grouped people in rooms so that they will have someone to hang out with etc...but i don't think our guests would go with this idea at all...so i made the decision to invite everyone with one guest. this is a big deal because some of my friends have children that i have become close with over the years and i am not inviting them. our guest count is now at 130. we were hoping to max out at 75.

i feel like all people want to do is criticize EVERY wedding move that you make. several people complained that we weren't registered and that our guests think we are asking for money, so we registered. then, another one of our guests complained that we aren't doing ENOUGH for our guests. we aren't going to have a rehearsal dinner, but i thought that we might have a brunch the day after, but we haven't decided yet. honestly, i want to keep costs down. as soon as ffil gets back from his trip we'll discuss this. this could replace the RD that he wanted to do. i know that everyone says not worry about anyone else's opinions, but it is very difficult. i'm a perfectionist and hearing criticism aggravates me. i feel like we brides work so hard on our weddings, to put together a beautiful day, why can't people just feel blessed that we included them? my mother always told me that, "some people are just b*7^#s" and i think she's right.

enough negativity! i started our thank you notes, here's a pic!

and another one

i'm also debating the whole place cards, table #'s (we've decided to go with #'s instead of names in the interest of saving caryn's sanity) and menu cards...here's what i have so far...

Place Cards-
Here's a pic of what i've bought so far

i feel like the place cards look like post it notes, so i ordered more, in chocolate brown and curry from paper source. i think i'm going to use an oval punch with vellum and the printed name on it and then put a gold # for the table # in the lower right hand corner. I'm going to use one of those flowers at the top left hand corner (there are 2 types of flower, ones that are made of paper and another one with a brad, like a little daisy) and I'm going to add a teeny-tiny crystal hidden mickey near the #...I need to make a mock up and post it...

Menu Cards-
They say that EPCOT can provide them, does anyone have pics? This is what I'm thinking...chocolate brown background with either a yellow or ivory sheet with the menu printed on it. also, i ordered chocolate brown and yellow satin ribbon to go on top...they will be at every place setting.

Table #'s-
EPCOT can provide these as well...pics anyone? Since i plan on buying gold glitter number stickers for my place cards, i feel that the table numbers should match. is this me being overly O.C.D? i have a few options...i can buy wooden #'s from michaels or hobby lobby or i can make them out of styrofoam and glitterize them myelf...what to do what to do...


baking will commence soon. i have to wait until df is not here or he'll eat them as the come out of the oven-not good for the wedding diet...

thanks for reading/listening ladies!

 

[lpizzuro123]

As far as a guest bringing two guests - I would let him know that they can come with him on the trip but not to the wedding and reception. You are paying per person and will not pay for extra "friends". I am sure you have your own family and friends that are not getting invited to your wedding. If he just wants to hang out with them and go to the parks with them during times he will not be involved in your wedding that would be fine - but you should not have them at the actual wedding and reception.

Linda

 

[Kristen14]

Did you make the Thank You's yourself? They're cute! I like the patterns.

I'm glad you found some shoe jewelry. When are you wearing your flats? After the ceremony & formal pics?

Your guest list sounds like mine! I wanted 50 but now we have 100... most because of the Monster in Law. You just need to be firm with these people and tell them that due to space concerns you wont be able to invite their guests. According to Emily Post's book of etiquette, you only need to invite a guest if they are a spouse, fiance, or live in partner. Anything else is nice, but not at all required. I've been at a few weddings where i've been seated at a singles table... it was fun to commiserate with other singles One of my friends actually met her DF at a wedding!

I really dont think the LSS can fit 130 people, can it?

I know what you're saying about getting sick of pleasing everyone. I've been dealing with that since we've been engaged. Dont be afraid to stand up for yourself. If someone gets upset with you about YOUR wedding then they probably arent worth worrying about anyways!

 

[caryndisneydiva]

Did you make the Thank You's yourself? They're cute! I like the patterns.

I'm glad you found some shoe jewelry. When are you wearing your flats? After the ceremony & formal pics?

Your guest list sounds like mine! I wanted 50 but now we have 100...
I really dont think the LSS can fit 130 people, can it?

thanks! i did make the cards, i bought a pack of 50 textured cards from micheals, cut vellum to fit, used metallic embroidery ribbon to tie around the crease to keep it together, then i used martha's rub on "thank you's" on the vellum. very simple. very cheap. we'll include a wedding photo with each one.

yes, the flats are for ceremony, formal pics and dancing with mark.

when we first got engaged, i asked ffil how many people from their side we would have to invite. the answer was 5. now it is close to 50. and you are correct, the lss does not fit 130. absolute max is 100. it is most comfortable with 60-75...i'm not sure what i'm going to do...i have these illustrious dreams of moving to american adventure if need be or ADH...can't think about that, will hyperventilate...

 

[Kristen14]

I'm having 100 in the LSS, and I think it can fit maybe 110 or something. So you'll be ok if 20% or so can't make it!

Totally off topic... did you use salt when you dyed your crinnie? I think i'll do mine tonight!

 

[caryndisneydiva]

I'm having 100 in the LSS, and I think it can fit maybe 110 or something. So you'll be ok if 20% or so can't make it!

Totally off topic... did you use salt when you dyed your crinnie? I think i'll do mine tonight!

no, i think it said to use salt if you were dying cotton or linen, so i didn't use it! i can't wait for you to dye your crinnie! post pics! i'm excited!

 

[audisight]

Hi! I've been lurking around your PJ for awhile and I just wanted to say I think it's great. I really have enjoyed reading it.
I love the earings! They are going to look great with your dress.
The guest list is one of the hardest things in any wedding, and I think Disney brides have it the worst. The best thing to do is be up front with your friend, and make him tell you who he wants to bring, if he can't do that then just give him a flat out NO. I always tell my brides that guest will talk no matter what you do. There is no way to make everyone happy so just do what makes you happy. It's your day and you can't let anyone bring you down.
I keep telling myself that all the guest that have been complaining about my wedding plans (and there are a lot) are just jealous that they couldn't have a Disney wedding or their sons/daughters couldn't have a Disney wedding. It will all work out, try not to worry to much
I really like your thank you cards and menu cards, they look fun.
Happy planning.

 

[HolyCowImADisneyBrde]

Hi Caryn! I know exactly how you feel about the guest drama. DF and I had planned TWO other weddings prior to this one and each time, everyone elses opinions have totally gotten to me because I'm being a huge perfectionist on this whole wedding thing as well and there just becomes a point when everyone else's added stress and bickering about what you decide becomes too much so I've just said &*^% it, I can't deal with this. I know it's kind of childish but it got to the point where DF and I were paying for EVERYTHING for EVERYBODY on stuff that we didn't want/didn't like! I finally told his mom, if that's the way she wants it, she can pay for it. So anyway, we got engaged at Disneyland and that was our original plan, but at the time we got engaged and started planning, it just wasn't in our budget. So now when we decided WDW it is and that it would be so perfect for us, DF's dad went off on us saying it's such a huge "burden" and "hardship" we're putting on everyone, and we just told everybody "this is what we're doing, if you want to come, come" (it really bugged us because DF's parents spent 30K going to Africa last year, but couldn't spend $1500 to go to our wedding.. ) Anyway, like a week later he called and asked us where we normally order our tickets for WDW or DL because they wanted to go for their anniversary this November! So DF had a long talk with him.. Anyway, sorry for the long reply and venting myself, but I just wanted to say that I totally feel your pain with the guest drama! Hopefully it'll get better soon! Atleast we have the wonderful DIS brides to keep us together

 

[twiu]

Hey girlie. Don't stress. Honestly, we're all stressed out. It's all going to be wonderful! It's your day and it is hard to plan, but you're already ahead of the game. You have had so much done and you've been very frugal and creative.

As for you friend inviting extra people, I agree with everyone else. Let him bring them to Disney but not your wedding. Most people understand that weddings are super expensive - and if he doesn't, send him my way and I'll kick him in the butt

Anyway, good job, good luck, and it's all going to be okay.

 

[calanniebu]

Hey there ... I just "found" your PJ! I love your invites. I also made my invites. Another site (that I think is a bit cheaper that Paper-Source) is www.paperandmore.com. I did a google search for Stardream Paper and after comparing a bunch of prices they were the best!

Paper Source is local for me so I do often shop there but they don't have the FULL stardream line of colors!

 

[DisneySweetie]

i feel like the place cards look like post it notes, so i ordered more, in chocolate brown and curry from paper source. i think i'm going to use an oval punch with vellum and the printed name on it and then put a gold # for the table # in the lower right hand corner. I'm going to use one of those flowers at the top left hand corner (there are 2 types of flower, ones that are made of paper and another one with a brad, like a little daisy) and I'm going to add a teeny-tiny crystal hidden mickey near the #...I need to make a mock up and post it...

You ordered the "Butter" placecards didn't you? That's what it looks like. That's the color I ordered too. I completely understand what you are saying about them looking like post-it notes. I kind of felt that way too. But I did my mock up and I'm really happy with them. Especially when I picture them next to the slate blue tablecloth. You have a blue tablecloth with a white overlay. What color of blue is the tablecloth? Is the overlay see-through? I will take a photo of mine and post it to my PJ later today. My flower is much bigger than yours and I added green behind it to simulate leaves. I just have to decide on the right marker color. I think it could make a huge difference in the look.

I never commented about your slip color - it looks great. I normally don't like brown, but I think your truffle wedding is pushing me over. It's all going to be so pretty.

Your invitations turned out beautiful. Those envelopes did make all the difference. You deserve a pat on the back for making them work. They really do look like they were tailored exactly for your wedding. Have you gotten your stamps so you can send them out? Getting the RSVPs back is so exciting and makes it all a little more real.

I can't wait to hear about the cookies. We might not be getting as many guests as I expected, so I am back to toying with the idea of making martha's cookie mini wedding cakes. I am taking the week before the wedding off of work. If this was somehow the only major thing I had to do, I think I could get it done. Plus, my mom would be in town to help me. Where did you buy your cookie cutters? Good luck and keep us posted.

 

[caryndisneydiva]

Hi! I've been lurking around your PJ for awhile and I just wanted to say I think it's great. I really have enjoyed reading it.
I love the earings! They are going to look great with your dress.
The guest list is one of the hardest things in any wedding, and I think Disney brides have it the worst. The best thing to do is be up front with your friend, and make him tell you who he wants to bring, if he can't do that then just give him a flat out NO. I always tell my brides that guest will talk no matter what you do. There is no way to make everyone happy so just do what makes you happy. It's your day and you can't let anyone bring you down.
I keep telling myself that all the guest that have been complaining about my wedding plans (and there are a lot) are just jealous that they couldn't have a Disney wedding or their sons/daughters couldn't have a Disney wedding. It will all work out, try not to worry to much
I really like your thank you cards and menu cards, they look fun.
Happy planning.

i agree with the jealousy thing. why can't people just be happy for us? one of my friends told me to continue to wear my sunglasses, he says they're "hater blockers." he's hilarious...

Hi Caryn! I know exactly how you feel about the guest drama. DF and I had planned TWO other weddings prior to this one and each time, everyone elses opinions have totally gotten to me because I'm being a huge perfectionist on this whole wedding thing as well and there just becomes a point when everyone else's added stress and bickering about what you decide becomes too much so I've just said &*^% it, I can't deal with this. I know it's kind of childish but it got to the point where DF and I were paying for EVERYTHING for EVERYBODY on stuff that we didn't want/didn't like! I finally told his mom, if that's the way she wants it, she can pay for it. So anyway, we got engaged at Disneyland and that was our original plan, but at the time we got engaged and started planning, it just wasn't in our budget. So now when we decided WDW it is and that it would be so perfect for us, DF's dad went off on us saying it's such a huge "burden" and "hardship" we're putting on everyone, and we just told everybody "this is what we're doing, if you want to come, come" (it really bugged us because DF's parents spent 30K going to Africa last year, but couldn't spend $1500 to go to our wedding.. ) Anyway, like a week later he called and asked us where we normally order our tickets for WDW or DL because they wanted to go for their anniversary this November! So DF had a long talk with him.. Anyway, sorry for the long reply and venting myself, but I just wanted to say that I totally feel your pain with the guest drama! Hopefully it'll get better soon! Atleast we have the wonderful DIS brides to keep us together

i say it over and over again, weddings do funny things to people. i hope you work it out with your fil's! i'm trying not to let everyone get to me, it just makes me so mad when people complain about my wedding! HELLO! you already had a wedding!!!!

Hey girlie. Don't stress. Honestly, we're all stressed out. It's all going to be wonderful! It's your day and it is hard to plan, but you're already ahead of the game. You have had so much done and you've been very frugal and creative.

As for you friend inviting extra people, I agree with everyone else. Let him bring them to Disney but not your wedding. Most people understand that weddings are super expensive - and if he doesn't, send him my way and I'll kick him in the butt

Anyway, good job, good luck, and it's all going to be okay.

i think that some people are just generally clueless...that's the only thing i can come up with.

Hey there ... I just "found" your PJ! I love your invites. I also made my invites. Another site (that I think is a bit cheaper that Paper-Source) is www.paperandmore.com. I did a google search for Stardream Paper and after comparing a bunch of prices they were the best!

Paper Source is local for me so I do often shop there but they don't have the FULL stardream line of colors!

i can't find the stardream on that site! they have the cheapest vellum though, which is great because i use it for everything! thanks for the link, it's great!

You ordered the "Butter" placecards didn't you? That's what it looks like. That's the color I ordered too. I completely understand what you are saying about them looking like post-it notes. I kind of felt that way too. But I did my mock up and I'm really happy with them. Especially when I picture them next to the slate blue tablecloth. You have a blue tablecloth with a white overlay. What color of blue is the tablecloth? Is the overlay see-through? I will take a photo of mine and post it to my PJ later today. My flower is much bigger than yours and I added green behind it to simulate leaves. I just have to decide on the right marker color. I think it could make a huge difference in the look.

I never commented about your slip color - it looks great. I normally don't like brown, but I think your truffle wedding is pushing me over. It's all going to be so pretty.

Your invitations turned out beautiful. Those envelopes did make all the difference. You deserve a pat on the back for making them work. They really do look like they were tailored exactly for your wedding. Have you gotten your stamps so you can send them out? Getting the RSVPs back is so exciting and makes it all a little more real.

I can't wait to hear about the cookies. We might not be getting as many guests as I expected, so I am back to toying with the idea of making martha's cookie mini wedding cakes. I am taking the week before the wedding off of work. If this was somehow the only major thing I had to do, I think I could get it done. Plus, my mom would be in town to help me. Where did you buy your cookie cutters? Good luck and keep us posted.

i got the cookie cutters at michaels, they are actually fondant cutters. i got them in circles and squares. i'm waiting for my next paper source delivery to arrive, then i'll do tests of all the place card samples and colors, i can't wait to see yur pics, i might need a bigger flower, i just panicked and couldn't find one that i like, so i got the small ones! the original place cards are butter, i think i might use all three colors. our tables have a blue tablecloth with a white overlay, so i'm hoping to coordinate, though, i'm not sure how well brown is going to go...we'll see...we're having a table of 10 for our head table, i might just use brown for those people! i did order from zazzle stamps, waiting for that to arrive as well...

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

i agree with the jealousy thing. why can't people just be happy for us? one of my friends told me to continue to wear my sunglasses, he says they're "hater blockers." he's hilarious...



i say it over and over again, weddings do funny things to people. i hope you work it out with your fil's! i'm trying not to let everyone get to me, it just makes me so mad when people complain about my wedding! HELLO! you already had a wedding!!!!



i think that some people are just generally clueless...that's the only thing i can come up with.

I agree with everything you're saying here. I'm going through some major fmil drama (beyond the red top) and I'm just soooo over it. She had her wedding. This is not her wedding. It's not even her daughter's wedding. It's her son's. I can't understand why she's trying to ruin things for me. I don't know why she can't just be happy and celebrate. She's now decided not to come to my shower and she doesn't have a guest list for the shower... grrrrr. Now I'm going to wear my sunglasses all the time and refer to them as my "hater blockers" lololololololol

 

[calanniebu]

i can't find the stardream on that site! they have the cheapest vellum though, which is great because i use it for everything! thanks for the link, it's great!

They don't call it Stardream ... they call it their Pearlescent Metallic Cardstock: http://www.paperandmore.com/cat-metallic-cardstock.html

 

[caryndisneydiva]

I agree with everything you're saying here. I'm going through some major fmil drama (beyond the red top) and I'm just soooo over it. She had her wedding. This is not her wedding. It's not even her daughter's wedding. It's her son's. I can't understand why she's trying to ruin things for me. I don't know why she can't just be happy and celebrate. She's now decided not to come to my shower and she doesn't have a guest list for the shower... grrrrr. Now I'm going to wear my sunglasses all the time and refer to them as my "hater blockers" lololololololol

hater blockers are great, you have yet another excuse to buy accesories!

They don't call it Stardream ... they call it their Pearlescent Metallic Cardstock: http://www.paperandmore.com/cat-metallic-cardstock.html

i got it! thanks!

 

[DisneySweetie]

Have you seen the gold mickey garland on disneyshopping.com?

http://disneyshopping.go.com/webapp...&productId=1217239&langId=-1&categoryId=14398

I don't know where you could use it, but when I saw it I thought of you and your beautiful truffle and gold color scheme. Maybe it could be on the guest book table or buffet tables or something. It is plastic so I'm not sure how good it is, obviously it wouldn't work if it was cheap looking. But it's gold and it's mickey so it might be worth checking out.