cant some ppl just shut up (allBetter now)

[JadeDarkstar]

ITS MY MONEY LET ME SPEND IT AT DISNEY IF I WANT TO.

I really hate when ppl start talking stuff behind ppls backs and complaning.. well they shouldnt be going to Disney bla bla bla..hahaha what the hell they gona do when we get AP's

Im in such a bad mood now after getting off the phone an hearing from a friend how some one (wont say who) was complaing to her about us. Bla backa

IM still goijgn in oct and if this new job works out im going in dec and saying [edited] who think they can make me fill like crap for spending my extra money on this trip backa leave me alone stop putting me down stop makign us fill worthless

I just needed to rant ty dis friends

 

[AmericanItGirl]

They just don't realize how great Disneyland is. Some people have stamp collections, others have pictures of themselves at Disneyland.

 

[bumbershoot]

Just don't tell people.

Or if you want to tell people, then you canNOT (if your'e doing this) talk about money in any other way, shape, or form. If I go to Disneyland 2 months after complaining about not having enough money for something else, then I'm going to hear about it. So I don't talk about money AT ALL to friends or relatives (and I'm trying to get hubby on board, but he has this lifelong need to talk about money, which I think comes from his mom's culture), and that way I can talk about Disneyland trips if I want to, and they don't have a point of reference to tell me if I should be using my money in that way.

I just talk here about my trips and rarely talk to friends about it.

 

[Grumpy'sWife4Ever]

They just don't understand!

They are not "believers"......poor lost souls!!

Come here and tell us all about your plans, I love to hear them and I am sure everyone else here does too! We all have our priorities straight -

 

[JadeDarkstar]

hehe they want me to save for the futre what ever. lol like ive said to every one
this money is from my dad I use it like my dad would of. Hed want me to go have fun with my son hed want me to make memories.

And actuely we have though about saving my big money before and were going to next year. this year we are seeing if we can do oct (get aps) do dec Hoping to see fantasmic and the sleeping butey castle and special stuff about it. And maybe maybe once more next year feb maybe) or sep. then being done for a few years then not going to dl till 2012 or something like that (when the updates are all done)

I do understand what these ppl say but i hate when one ive talked to so and so about this same stuff before and been told oh no its ok thats not gona happene.

Then im told by some one else the othere so and so was talking to her trying to get her to talk to us and bla bla bla
Its just annoying and makes me so down

 

[CrazyDuck]

Don't let em get you down.... They jealous!!!

 

[pixiewings71]

When we upgraded to AP's all our friends couldn't understand, neither could our family. So, we stopped talking about it. Now, all our co-workers come to us for advice and so do our friends/family. We did like Molly suggested, we just stopped talking about money, it's not their business anyway so why talk to them about it? Just tell us about it, we will all support your Disney Habit! LOL

 

[missxjess]

I completely understand and agree with what your saying! It seems everyone has an opinion on something which really is none of their concern.

I'm 20, still living at home while I save for school and this will be my second time at DL this year. Coming all the way from Canada, it IS costly but I wouldn't have it any other way. Some people go to Mexico or Cuba or wherever every other month, whereas I prefer to be in California at the happiest place on earth.

I say whatevs to all those people giving the negative opinions...WE DON'T WANT NONE!

 

[DL4my2kids]

They just don't feel and see the love like we do.

 

[Wavy Blue]

I understand how you're feeling, but please don't curse. It's just uncalled for. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. Just cause they say something doesn't mean you have to listen. That's my philosophy in life anyway, hehe.

My older siblings discouraged me from spending my money on a Disney trip, because I'm starting my first year of college and expenses are high. But you know what? I just ignored them and did it anyway. Even if I have to end up applying for student loans or something, it will SO be worth it!

Disney memories are priceless!

 

[luvsmickey1968]

The question I have for you, is why do you care if someone talks about the fact that you are going to Disneyland again?
Let them talk because this is more about them than it is about you and as long as you feel it is the right thing to do, then you should live your life as you see fit and don't pay attention.
When your friends starts telling you what your other "friend" said, just tell her you are not interested in hearing it!
If you really wanted to bug the person talking about your "disney obsession",
be super friendly to them the next time you see them and go on and on about all your past and planned future trips to Disneyland!
As Dr. Joy Brown always says, "Be stupid and cheerful".
It actually works so much better than being defensive!

 

[JadeDarkstar]

if i cursed im sorry i deleated alot of words i must of missed one lol

well we live here with them, we pay our fair share and stuff and jobs havent been easy to get and stuff (tho that looks to be turning around)
im just so steamed that theyed go behind my back and talk to friend about this and tell her to talk to us..tho ive talked to them about the excat thing they are getting at and been told its nothing to worry about.

No one understands when i say i havent felt safe any where since my dad died when i was 14 and loss everything i knew how safe i was how comfy i felt. till i moved here till they helped and now now i find all this stuff out it just is making me crazy.

part of me says cancle our trips the other says heck no im doing them and im not gona be bullyed out of not doing them. but next year i wont..just let me have my good trips and then fine ill save or what ever.

but now capt bane is doing two things
1 looking for other places to live or two adding how much more wed have to pay to take over rent here and make them shut there stupid mouths.

edit it is capt banes parents and i could never be sarcaticaly to them his mom is grate and has told me over and over its nothing to worry about. its his dad who goes over complaning behind our backs and convincing capt banes friend to call us and go over it all

if it were just a friend i wouldnt care id ignore them

 

[DoomBugger]

Are you really going to let that bother you?

 

[bumbershoot]

missxjess, OK, I'm jealous of your friends....I wanna go to Cuba!!!!! Dang that restriction on US citizens. Argh.

As Dr. Joy Brown always says, "Be stupid and cheerful".

Love that. Am going to have to look that up, to find out more about her.

well we live here with them, we pay our fair share and stuff and jobs havent been easy to get and stuff (tho that looks to be turning around)
....

part of me says cancle our trips the other says heck no im doing them and im not gona be bullyed out of not doing them. but next year i wont..just let me have my good trips and then fine ill save or what ever.

....

edit it is capt banes parents and i could never be sarcaticaly to them his mom is grate and has told me over and over its nothing to worry about. its his dad who goes over complaning behind our backs and convincing capt banes friend to call us and go over it all

if it were just a friend i wouldnt care id ignore them

Ohhhh. That makes a little more sense, since you live with them and maybe they would like more money to go to the household. That makes a bit more sense.

But as long as you are paying them everything they ask for and they aren't GIVING you any money, they still don't really have the right to complain about where you spend it. Though if they actually want you out, and you're delaying that by going to DLR, then I can see where they would have a problem with it, but talking behind peoples' backs isn't the best way to communicate.

Maybe you should sit down and really find out what issues they have (since it seems they DO have issues), and find out if they'd like you to go out on your own. That way everything would be out in the open.

 

[JadeDarkstar]

well ok there is alot of DREAMS his dad has and so he goes to the friend and says I want to do this but i cant with them there bla bla bla. tho I have sat down and talked to his mom and shes told me that cant happen for 3-5years and to stop worrying over everything he says and all this stuff.

But then i get told by this friend well last time he was here he said this and that and this.. and its just like oh god..

We pay excatly what were asked right down to the internet cable umm elc gas. we pay what we agreed to. and when capt bane brangs home his first check from this job we will start paying more we already have that budgeted.

even when im late or behind (for other un forseen reasons) his moms awsome and fine with it. No they give us no money we pay for everything our self.

Some times they buy pepsi couse its on sell at sams club lol
but no nothing bad, and Im not gona let this bother me. heck the way capt banes thinking now we may just offer to take over the full rent or what ever but idk im just still steamed and just shaking my head and trying not to be upset becosue i know i get upset to easy i know to settle down.

I mean this friend also went in to cap banes past before me and i was like i really dont want to go there. it was just a crazy call almost wish i wouldnt have answerd the phone

 

[BELLEDOZER]

Jade, I learned a long time ago not to care what people think of me, and have felt alot better because it. No matter how hard you try to please everyone, there's always going to be someone that's not going to approve of what you are doing. I'll pass on some wisdom I've learned over the years. Everyone is intitled to their opinion. I respect everyone's opinion, wether I agree with it or not, because it's their opinion and they have a right to their opinions. However it's not ok to talk to people behind their backs, as it always comes back to bite you in the end. I know it can be frustrating, but keep your head up, and so long as you are doing something that you want to do, and are comfortable with it, that's the main thing. And don't listen to others that don't approve of what you are doing. They have the right to their opinions, but you also have the right to do what you want to do, and are old enough to be making responsible decisions for yourself and your family. Good luck with your upcoming trip, and I hope that you have a better day!!

Trish

 

[JadeDarkstar]

ty so much alot of you really do just make me fill so much better just reading your words oppions and wisdom ty

 

[pycees312]

Just don't tell people.

Or if you want to tell people, then you canNOT (if your'e doing this) talk about money in any other way, shape, or form. If I go to Disneyland 2 months after complaining about not having enough money for something else, then I'm going to hear about it. So I don't talk about money AT ALL to friends or relatives (and I'm trying to get hubby on board, but he has this lifelong need to talk about money, which I think comes from his mom's culture), and that way I can talk about Disneyland trips if I want to, and they don't have a point of reference to tell me if I should be using my money in that way.

I just talk here about my trips and rarely talk to friends about it.

first of all your one of my favortie posters bumber..
secondly very good advice...
I have family members who do the same to me becuase i'd rather spend my last dime on a disneyland trip verses something with my whole extended family anyday. My family just went on a camping trip and i did not go due to funds however it was mentioned if this were disneyland i'd find the funds and guess what they are probably right. different strokes for different folks.
and keeping it to yourself is the best solution. lol

 

[bumbershoot]

Jade, so Bane's father's friend took it upon himself to talk to you about this? That's just WEIRD. Not that guy's business. I actually wouldn't even know any of my dad's friends to talk to, and if they started talking to me about how I spend my money I would find it beyond strange.


pycees, thanks.

 

[JadeDarkstar]

lol yes well i know ppl look at me crazy couse i dont want to go to partys or clubs but ill say oh in oct or dec and dec hopefully im going to disneyland..guess what ive even givin up my theater movies and decied not to squezze that. like i use to every other week.

we dont eat out we dont buy name brand stuff disneyshopping is cheaper then walmart and thats why im shopping there next month for cloth for my son. other wise ited be walmart. and i have no shame in being a walmart mom. if it means i can spend one or two weeks a year with my son doing something fun that yes i do enjoy more then Mexico or othere hot spots.

Well he just talked to his mom and she said his dad was just venting and not to worry about it all.