Canceling A Wedding

[luvmarypoppins]

2 weeks from today my ds was suppose to be a groomsman in a wedding

Yesterday the groom called ds and told him the wedding was canceled.

I know the groom was really upset because I heard my ds talking to him for quite a while.

Dont know what happened etc.

Anyone know or been invited to a wedding where this happened?

They seemed like such a good couple together.

 

[WDWJDS]

Have a good friend who was told by her fiancé that he didn't want to go trough with the wedding. My friend talked to her maid of honor, who talked with the fiancé and got him to change his mind and go through with it.

They had a fabulous, elaborate wedding at an expensive country club with hundreds of guests.

He asked for a divorce after one year.

I think that she knew things weren't quite right, but didn't think they were "wrong" enough to call things off. Later she admitted that all she really wanted was "A big ring, a big wedding and a big house"!

Ugh!

 

[smkohn]

My cousin was supposed to get married like a month ago, but 2-3 months before the wedding he left "without any kind of warning."
Now, my cousin is a bit of a crazy, and they had a pretty on-again, off-again relationship for a while before they got engaged. They broke up and got back together like 6 times in 8 months. We had actually talked about not being sure the marriage would last, and I was the one to say that I was 100% positive they wouldn't even make it to the wedding day. Not that I wanted my cousin to have to have that happen, I just saw it coming. We never did get any more of a story, just that everything was sunshine and rainbows right before hand and when she got in the shower he packed some of his stuff, took her ring, left and told her to cancel the wedding.
The one I felt most bad for in this situation though was her now 3 year old daughter. My cousin had the little girl calling this guy "daddy" from the time they had only been dating like 2 months. So now he's gone, and my cousin has told her that "daddy is on an airplane" or "at nanna's house." Poor kid still asks about him and probably doesn't really fully understand.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

Many years ago, I was supposed to be a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding. She had just had some cosmetic surgery done to enhance her body 3 months before the big day. She ended up having some "fun" with 2 other people 2 months before the wedding. Her fiancee called it off. She is still single, and her fiancee married someone else and has 3 children now.

So bizarre that I can't believe it actually happened!

 

[ilovemk76]

2 weeks from today my ds was suppose to be a groomsman in a wedding

Yesterday the groom called ds and told him the wedding was canceled.

I know the groom was really upset because I heard my ds talking to him for quite a while.

Dont know what happened etc.

Anyone know or been invited to a wedding where this happened?

They seemed like such a good couple together.

I have had it happen, but I was not in the wedding. I figure it is better to cancel then get married and then divorced.

 

[java]

My BIL's fiancé called off the wedding the day of! It was going to be small. Rumor was that she was already married.

The best part of that story is my MIL marching over to her apartment and demanding the ring back. And then she wore it!

 

[Desnik]

My mother's best friend (and our next door neighbor from my chldhood) had this happen to one of her daughter's. I wrote about it on here when it happened because it was such a shock. The groom cancelled 2 weeks before the wedding!
Here's a link to that thread if you're interested.
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2717264

 

[Disney Doll]

A friend's DD cancelled 2 weeks before the wedding. She said she kind of knew as time went on through the engagement but tried to ignore it because all plans were made etc. But as it got closer she knew it wasn't right.

I always tell people to think of the day when you are standing and waiting to walk toward your groom. If he's who you want to go to it'll be fine. If not....don't do it.

 

[ashley23]

Been there, done that. Not sure what you are asking for, but it happens a lot. Sometimes it should happen and never does.

 

[Belle0101]

My cousin and her then fiancee were going to get married in Pigeon Forge, TN, have their honeymoon there and then a huge reception at her parent's the weekend after they returned. My cousin said that one day, about a month before, he said to her, "I don't see this working out." He packed his things and moved out.

 

[christineann]

I'm sure cancelling a wedding is difficult, but going through a divorce is worse. Go with your gut feeling and cancel or postpone if you're not sure!

 

[Arielle22]

My sister worked with a woman who was engaged to her long time boyfriend She worked a second job to pay for the wedding. He called it off a couple of weeks before the wedding and she was devastated.

A year later they got back together and got married in a small ceremony.

 

[LJC1861]

A very wise priest once told me......."Any problem before you get married is a headache. After you get married it becomes a brain tumor. It takes more surgery to get rid of a brain tumor than a headache."

As hard as it is to cancel a wedding when all the plans have been made, sometimes it is for the best.

Linda

 

[mamacatnv]

My brother called his wedding off 2 hours prior. Best thing he ever did. 6 years later he married a wonderful woman.

My BFF got married when we were 18, she knew before she walked down that aisle that she was making a mistake but none of us had the age/maturity to figure out how to get out of it. They filed for divorce 6 months later.

My assistants son just got married and I know Mom hoped and prayed right up to when he said "I Do" that he would call it off. She feels he felt pressured and is very worried about the future of the marriage.

 

[low-key]

for dramatic purpose if your going to call it off the week of, you should go to the alter and say "I cant do it" when the Minster ask if "you do"

 

[wdwmom0f3]

My BIL's fiancé called off the wedding the day of! It was going to be small. Rumor was that she was already married.

The best part of that story is my MIL marching over to her apartment and demanding the ring back. And then she wore it!

OH MY WORD!!

for dramatic purpose if your going to call it off the week of, you should go to the alter and say "I cant do it" when the Minster ask if "you do"

That would be awful!!

I do know a girl who was engaged to her HS sweetheart, who cheated on her several times over the years and again just before the wedding. He called it off a week before. They actually went on the honeymoon anyway and then fought again, it's been off for the most part, but her latest Facebook posts are showing that she still cares. Some women are just down right stupid.

 

[disneylovin24]

Just saying, it doesn't necessarily have to be due to the couple breaking up.

I know a couple who had to call their wedding off after the bride's mother died about a month before the wedding. She just thought it'd be too quickly after considering everything so they put it off for a while.

 

[beaucoup]

I cancelled my wedding 1.5 mths before it was to happen. We had been engaged for 3 yrs while in college. He was married to someone else within 18 months. I felt really bad for a very long time about having to call it off & what friends had put out for money on dresses & what not.

I was married about 2 yrs later. DH & I have been married for 25 yrs.

Calling it off is a very difficult thing to do. People think you are chickening out. think its cold feet. They want you to go thru with it. You feel you are letting people down who have spent money or worked so hard. Etc. I can totally understand some people going thru with it & just filing for divorce later. LOL I almost went that route. Glad I came up with the courage to call it off because it didn't feel right any longer.

 

[Dopey Sharon]

My DD called off her wedding about eight months before it was to happen. They had dated for over eight years! I knew she wasn't happy and hadn't been for a while, but admitting that to yourself is hard. She finally "saw the light" and broke off the engagement. It's a very hard thing to do and I give her a lot of credit! Between the two of us, we lost about $10,000 in unrefundable deposits, but that's a lot cheaper than going through with it and ending up divorced! That was over five years ago. She is now happily married and expecting our first grandchild in a few months!

 

[carrie1626]

2 weeks from today my ds was suppose to be a groomsman in a wedding

Yesterday the groom called ds and told him the wedding was canceled.

I know the groom was really upset because I heard my ds talking to him for quite a while.

Dont know what happened etc.

Anyone know or been invited to a wedding where this happened?

They seemed like such a good couple together.

Yes, I do. The bride called it off less than one month before and after invites sent. WHY? She met our friend on a night out.. Well, she did what she needed to do because she and friend have been married themselves 25 yrs this year