Can you all stand another vent.........

[pyrxtc]

well, my DD11 was supposed to be doing a sleepover at the YMCA tonight with her Girl Scout troop. I say "supposed to" cuz she is home with me right now.

The notice says they are leaving at 6:15 sharp and not to be late. I leave at just after 6 and arrive at the meeting point for 6:12. Didn't want to sit around, just drop and go since I don't like/get along with the leaders. But, my DD really likes GS's. Anyways, I get there and nobody is there???

I race back home and call the cell contact number for the night/trip and no answer. My DD is in tears now since they aren't there or answering so apparently she is not going. This is not the first time that my DD cried cuz of GS related things (having to do with leader issues) but it will be the last. I left a message on the cell telling them to call and I wanted to talk to them or I want my registration money back and my DD was done with GS's. They leave a few minutes earlier than planned and bring my DD to tears. If they wanted exact times then they should have called and told us to sinc up our clocks so I know that theirs is faster than mine and to be early.

I am so mad right now!! How could they do this to her??!!! She did have Conjuctivitis earlier this week but it is not contagious and she was given full go by the DR to go on this trip, swimming and all. If they thought she was not coming cuz of that then they could have called but they didn't and I certainly didn't tell them she wasn't going. We planned our whole night around it. I am missing a hockey game wiht the rest of my family so she could do this.

I would drive her myself but it is not close and don't know that she would be able to get in if I did. Plus I drive horribly in the dark and prefer not to. i ahve very bad night vision.

Ugh!! I think if I don't hear back from them tonight or before Monday afternoon, I am calling the head of the council to talk!

 

[famofsix]

I am sorry to hear that happened. Maybe you and DD could go out and do something special together.

 

[pepperw23]

Awwwww, poor DD. I would change GS troops. Sounds like a lose/lose situation. So for tonight...hmmmm....what would make her feel better? Do you live close to a mall, or movies that are in your night driving comfort zone? Or maybe tell her she can call a couple of friends to have movie night and sleepover at home?

Good luck and tell DD I said Heck with em'!!!! It is much cooler to spend quality time with Mom anyway.

 

[famofsix]

I love the sleep over at home idea!

 

[phorsenuf]

If they were leaving at 6:15 sharp and you arrived there at 6:12 that's cutting it a little close. If a clock is off by even 5 minutes, well now you might be late. Sorry it happened. Maybe you and your daughter can have a nice mother/daughter day. Is this the same leader you had problems with before when they were going to six flags, or staying at some hotel or something and you didn't get the form in on time and so they excluded her? Or am I confusing you with someone else?

 

[luv2nascar]

maybe your watch was off. I would never show up 3 minutes before they are leaving. Cutting it too close obviously. I hate being late.

 

[cristit14]

I feel sorry for your DD. That was cutting it close though timewise. As a leader however, I tell people a certain time and no later, then I still usually end up waiting an extra ten minutes just in case.

 

[pyrxtc]

Must be confusing me, but maybe you read something else about my DD missing a trip but we were having more fun in Disney anyways.

I didn't want to be early and sit around waiting. All she had to do was get out of my car and get into theirs. I planned to be about 10 minutes early but had to pee so we left a few mintues later. I had other problems wiht the last leader who took us on a trip to NY city with no foreplanning or price checking or anything. It was very crazy and hectic and I vowed to never chaperone again and to ask for an itinerary for each trip. That leader quit and her 2nd in charge is now the leader. Plus a mom that I can't stand! her DD is veyr annoying and never does anything wrong, even when she refused to leave the museum in NY and mom yelled at me cuz I went back and told her she had to come now. Mom was not doing anything. Mom has a lot of problems wiht our school system and pulled all of her children for problems wiht the teachers, not her kids.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

So sorry for your dd.

 

[MareQ]

maybe your watch was off. I would never show up 3 minutes before they are leaving. Cutting it too close obviously. I hate being late.

I agree. You cut it way too close.....

 

[darrose]

How far away is the YMCA? Could you perhaps drive her there to meet up with
the rest of the girl scouts?

 

[caseylouandtyler2]

My DD cried every week last year because her friends were going to GS and she couldn't. GS didn't allow her to join because of her heart condition, none of the leaders wanted to take on the responsibility. I was told there wasn't enough girls to start another troop, I offered.

So the GS aren't on my favorite list. But I understand its a volunteer organization and not everyone is willing to accomodate.

I'm sorry your DD is having a rough time.

 

[OceanAnnie]

The Girls Scouts is supposed to be about relationships, isn't it? I know, "sharp" was added to have everyone on time, but was she even late? Or late by a few minutes? If they were late by 3-5 minutes, why would that be ok to leave her? I don't think that is acceptable. I think leaving her behind under these circumstances was extreme.

to your DD, Pyrxtc. And yours too, Caseylouandtyler2 that's awful.

 

[phorsenuf]

Sorry OP if I confused you with someone else.

I wonder who that was then. They were going somewhere and somehow the daughter got excluded and the mom called the GS offices or something and they called back and talked with the daughter and apologized and then the second in charge leader mom called too saying that everyone was afraid to stand up to the leader. Does this ring a bell to anyone? Who was that?

 

[BettyCv]

As a leader however, I tell people a certain time and no later, then I still usually end up waiting an extra ten minutes just in case.

Isn't that incredibly rude to the people who DID show up on time?

To the OP, why are you sending your daughter off with people who you don't like/get along with?

 

[pepperw23]

My DD cried every week last year because her friends were going to GS and she couldn't. GS didn't allow her to join because of her heart condition, none of the leaders wanted to take on the responsibility. I was told there wasn't enough girls to start another troop, I offered.

So the GS aren't on my favorite list. But I understand its a volunteer organization and not everyone is willing to accommodate.

I'm sorry your DD is having a rough time.

That is very sad. It makes me mad really. My DS was never in to GS (THANK GOODNESS!!!) but if I were a troop leader I would have welcomed your DD. (I may have had you give me some very very detailed instructions, but otherwise every child would be welcome).

 

[mickeyfan2]

If they were leaving at 6:15 sharp and you arrived there at 6:12 that's cutting it a little close. If a clock is off by even 5 minutes, well now you might be late. Sorry it happened. Maybe you and your daughter can have a nice mother/daughter day. Is this the same leader you had problems with before when they were going to six flags, or staying at some hotel or something and you didn't get the form in on time and so they excluded her? Or am I confusing you with someone else?

maybe your watch was off. I would never show up 3 minutes before they are leaving. Cutting it too close obviously. I hate being late.

I always arrive 15 - 30 minutes early to an event just in case there is a problem.

You bear some of the blame for her missing out on the event.

 

[pyrxtc]

I let her go cuz i know the new leader is much better than the old one and they are locked in the place all night, lifeguards and all. Plus there are lots of other girl scouts who are going and some of the moms of the younger ones will be there and I know they are watching for me.

A few minutes before leave time should be fine, it's not late. The YMCA is almost an hour away and too far to go and drive home safely in the dark. Plus there is no guarantee they would have let her in and they didn't answer the "emergency contact" cell number either to ask. They still haven't called me back either.

there is nothing close enough to visit tonight with just my DD, but now she can come with me to my soon-to-be SIL's bridal shower tomorrow and see the family with me. We'll hit Dunkin' for breakfast and visit the Yankee Candle factory on the way home.

 

[caseylouandtyler2]

That is very sad. It makes me mad really. My DS was never in to GS (THANK GOODNESS!!!) but if I were a troop leader I would have welcomed your DD. (I may have had you give me some very very detailed instructions, but otherwise every child would be welcome).

You're very nice.

I really do understand that not everyone is comfortable with it though. I'm sad for my DD but we move on and look for other things to do.

 

[rwrocksme]

My DD cried every week last year because her friends were going to GS and she couldn't. GS didn't allow her to join because of her heart condition, none of the leaders wanted to take on the responsibility. I was told there wasn't enough girls to start another troop, I offered.

So the GS aren't on my favorite list. But I understand its a volunteer organization and not everyone is willing to accomodate.

I'm sorry your DD is having a rough time.

Same thing here. Actually, I was allowed to join GS, but the troop leader would not let me do anything! ANYTHING! Plus, all of the other girls went to the same church (this was not a church-run troop) and ignored me the whole time. I don't know if that was a clique thing, or if it was because I was . All I know was that I didn't get to have any fun because the whole troop was mean to me.