Can we set up a separate board for...

[beansmom]

complaining about 'budget busters'? Frankly, I am tired of hearing everyone fuss about life's 'little troubles'. We all have financial issues and events but is the Disboard the place to come vent about them?

Do you CARE that we have to take a $250k mortgage to pay off his ex-wife? Or that we have to help DS buy a car or what medical bills we may have, etc?

I don't mean to sound heartless but I don't think this is the forum for whining about our personal woes. I thought it was to share budgeting tips and ways to get to Disneyworld for less money.

JMTCW--which, with inflation--is worth about 1.25 cents now!

 

[eliza61]

Actually I'd like to think I do care. I look at it this way, some times life is rough and when your trying to do the right thing and it seems like it's raining lemons on you, all you need is a friendly voice to hold on.

I don't have a problem with people using me as a friendly voice. There is strength in numbers.

Next, you never know when some one who is in the exact same posititon as you are will read your post and then have a solution that you never thought of. Information is power.

Lastly, these things usually go in cycles, some times we get a lot of them and some times it's more about what deals are out there. There are days I have to tune out the dis and that's cool. Just take a break or cruise another forum.

 

[lovin diz]

somebody woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning

 

[Debbie]

If the threads are bothersome, you don't have to click on them. I usually only read a few each time I come to the board. Just like..since I'm not headed to Disney in the near future, I skip the fridge swap threads.

 

[tinkarooni]

somebody woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning

This is exactly what I was thinking.....sorry you're having a tough day OP. If those posts irritate you just ignore them.....sometimes I post sometimes I don't....but I know some days a person is just overwhelmed and needs somebody to talk to, it seems you're having that kind of day today. Hope it gets better. We all have them.

 

[powellrj]

If you don't like them, just pass them over without clicking on them. Sometimes you can really glean some useful information from those threads.

I agree that it goes in cycles. A few years ago it was all about investing, then there were dozens about Dave Ramsey. I think its a hard time for people and sometimes we are the only people they can vent to.

 

[MineMail]

Next, you never know when some one who is in the exact same posititon as you are will read your post and then have a solution that you never thought of. Information is power.

Exactly! There are many approaches to solving a problem and discussing them online is a valuable way to brainstorm. Even the thread drifts are useful and often money-savings.

Big expenses are a part of life and dealing with them is part of budgeting. I think those threads are fine right here on the Budget Board.

Just mho.

 

[msmayor]

Actually, I think a lot of what folks complain about shouldn't be considered "budget busters".

Things break. Things need replacing. Its why we have emergency funds set aside.

You take from that fund...it doesn't "bust your budget". Its money you set aside for just this reason.

 

[cats mom]

Honestly I don't mind those kinds of threads at all. Sometimes just putting a situation/problem into words helps diffuse pressure and clear the way for the person doing the venting to get a better handle on things, even if no one here is able to do anything other than sympathize. And like eliza61 said, if someone comes along who can help open the posters eyes to possibilities that weren't obvious to them, all the better.

Those kiinds of threads are pretty easy to avoid on days when you're feeling a little cranky and have nothing to give.

Nope, personally I don't see the need for a separate board.

 

[Lisa_M]

I like when people post about their personal situations, although I do feel bad when people have trouble. It helps me to understand things I otherwise would not know or think about. Like what could happen as a result of a divorce decree or the benefits or pitfalls of being a SAHM or how if I have a kid 4 years or more apart from the first, they won't be in college at the same time. When my husband got laid off, I learned how he wasn't alone and others were feeling the same way I was.

From the disboards, I've learned a lot over the years about differing viewpoints, religion, politics, budgeting, deals for disney, deals for other things.

My suggestion to the OP is if you don't like a thread don't open it. If you hover over the link, you can read the first few lines before opening it.

 

[bored]

complaining about 'budget busters'? Frankly, I am tired of hearing everyone fuss about life's 'little troubles'. We all have financial issues and events but is the Disboard the place to come vent about them?

Do you CARE that we have to take a $250k mortgage to pay off his ex-wife? Or that we have to help DS buy a car or what medical bills we may have, etc?

I don't mean to sound heartless but I don't think this is the forum for whining about our personal woes. I thought it was to share budgeting tips and ways to get to Disneyworld for less money.

JMTCW--which, with inflation--is worth about 1.25 cents now!

I agree completely!

 

[Kellydelly]

The board would be totally boring without the posts that annoy you.

 

[Virgderon]

I've learned a lot from these boards. I participate in "0 spend month". I found out about sites like www.southernsavers.com here, and I am saving around $200 a month on groceries by using it.

I have put 2 kids through college, I have had DH lose a job and had to move across the country and I had to negotiate with all my credit cards and start a CCS. I look for bargains on everything and I almost an expert at using Priceline for travel.

SO- I spent a lot of time researching the best ways to deal with those problems, and I feel like the least I can do is share what I have learned, since I gained so much from being here. If I don't have knowledge of how to deal with a financial problem, I won't try to help but it only takes a minute to write a supportive post. We can alll use a little empathy once in awhile.

So, no those threads don't bother me. The only thing that bothers me is being flamed when I am sincerely trying to help someone.

 

[Pastamom]

As PP's have said I find it helpful to hear solutions to some of the problems people are having. In fact, even though I may not have posted on the post, I have used some of the advice given here.

Also sometimes people just need a place to express their frustration or joy to people who aren't directly involved in the situation...

If I'm no interested in a post - I just don't read it...

 

[punkin]

The board would be totally boring without the posts that annoy you.

This.

I like to read about other people's lives and their problems and how they solved them. Maybe it'll give me some good ideas. I had a couple of budget buster threads up and many people answered with good advise. I guess they were interested too.

 

[DebMcDonald]

As someone that has belonged to this board for about 5 years I consider alot of people my long distance friends and when you need help with something, there is always someone that can answer that question that you have, lend emotional support for something they have experienced that you are now going through etc. I agree with the above posters, you don't have to read the posts that have no interest to you and then they won't bother you

 

[starnightstarsky2000]

Sending OP a and some sounds like you need it...I enjoy reading about the problems people are having in their lives as like others I like to be able to toss out hugs or suggestions or sometime just by being a listen ear you can really help people. As sometimes we get so overwhelmed with what is going wrong that we can't even think or see straight and by posting it out here we not only get it off our chest but we get comforted by others who have been there are there or are afraid they are going to be in the same boat. Then we all become live savers to others and can help them not to feel so alone or overwhelmed. Through this we are supported for our desire to get back to the World or Land without being told that we are being "unreasonable" or that there is no way we can do it.

 

[mrsklamc]

I think those threads are totally applicable, because many times people can get advice that will make their solution more economical. I am frustrated when as a PP suggested the complaint is like "Budget buster- have to feed my kids!" or even worse when the alleged 'budget buster' is not a budget buster at all, but a decision by the poster, such as "budget buster- we bought a new widget!" when a widget is not in fact a necessary item at all.

I do feel for you though OP. Some days I look at the board and with all the posts that start with "OT-blah blah blah" I want to start a thread that says "Hint- If it starts with OT you may be posting it on the wrong board!" (Oddly I've seen several threads that are completely financially related over the years that started with "OT") But, I always figure it would do no good and simply make people irritable, so I just don't read what doesn't interest me.

 

[momtosam]

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

If you aren't interested skip it. Kind of like the stroller threads on the family board, lol. They aren't hurting you, and no one said you have to read them.