While I agree that every child should have great birthdays, glad BCV isn't my home resort where members fees would be used for such a trip to BB. I know I wouldn't want my kids to make use of DVC money or means like that. I just can't agree with that hypothetical solution, IMHO.
Not flaming you babbar, I think you are right wanting the kids to have a great party. I just wonder how much responsibilty should Disney take in regards to poor planning on the party's mom efforts,
IF THAT is the case.
It's really not the OP's responsibilty either IMO to tell the party mom either.
AGain, as you and other suggested I hope that no children experience any thing unmagical at the happiest place on earth, but sometimes adults can make messes our children pay for unfortunately.
~DW