There's no more Disney theming at the BCV/BWV/AKV then at OKW/SSR. Or is the concenses that because you can see DHS, MK or Epcot from the resort it's got more Disney theming.
Personally, and yes I may get flamed for this, I think sometimes we and yes I've fallen victim to this once or twice myself in the beginning, get way obsessed over what room, what view, what floor, what resort and make ourselves crazy in trying to create that "perfect" vacation. Relax! even when I got SSR's Carousel parking lot view (2), it wasn't the end of the world!
My vacation focus is on family and friends and the good times and memories we make together, no matter what resort we end up in!
For me, it's not about the view at all. I have never stayed in the room long enough to care about what's out the window, really. We ARE in Savannah View in November, and I'm looking forward to sitting on our balcony with a glass of wine, watching the animals

... but I don't need to see the parks to feel like the resort has a good theme.
When I talk about SSR seeming to be lacking in theme, I mean that when I'm at Disney, I want to feel like I'm totally somewhere else. It's no wonder my favorites are the Poly, Caribbean Beach, and AKL. I think SSR is very pretty (the pics here
http://www.dldigitalimages.com/image...9/DVC2009.html are great, thanks!), but I don't think it will give me that 'transported to another place' feeling. I could be wrong, but that's just the impression that I get.
Waaaaay back on my first trip as an adult, I stayed at ASMu, but moved off-site for the last 2 or 3 days, due to expenses. It was sooooooo disappointing. I was wishing we'd sucked it up and paid the extra money, or just ended the vacation early. It was just a different feeling, not as magical (pardon the cliche). I guess that's what I'm afraid of -- leaving AKL for SSR for the last 2 nights and having that same feeling.
All that said, I do absolutely agree with you 100% that the vacation itself is the most important thing. The resort couldn't possibly ruin the trip, but that doesn't stop me from totally over-thinking it
My BF knows nothing about Disney, and since I want him to be surprised by as much of it as possible, I haven't shown him a million pics and videos of the resorts .... so I don't know whether to get his input on this part of it or not.
Ugh, I do so much better when I make last-minute plans. The more time I have to think, the crazier I make myself

I mean, this is a GOOD crazy, but still...